If you’re reading this blog, odds are, you’re nervous about asking someone out on a date. It can be a daunting task to face. Will they reject your advances? Have fun if they accept? Asking somebody out is one of the most nerve-wracking situations a person can be in, especially if it’s the first time.
I can remember a time when I was afraid to ask somebody on a date. I had been terrified that I had misread their intentions, that I’d be rejected and would be left humiliated and alone. It is completely normal to feel this way, but holding back will get you nowhere in the long run. It’s better to be rejected than to have never tried at all.
Hopefully, these tips will provide you with ways to ask that certain special someone out without seeming too nerve-wracking. Since texting removes some of the pressure of having to face and speak to the person, it should be a little easier to not hesitate and just go for it.
5 Ways To Ask For A Date Over Text
Be Precise And To The Point
While it may seem obvious, simply asking if somebody would like to go out with you on a specific day is oftentimes the most effective strategy.
Example: “Hey, would you like to go out with me Friday night? I was thinking we could catch a movie and grab some dinner.”
When you approach the individual of your affections with a straightforward proposal, it will send a clear message about what you want and your plans. If you ramble on too long with pleasantries and meaningless drabble, your intentions will lose their significance and you may not get that date at all. Don’t be afraid to just ask!
Suggest A New Activity To Do Together:
It can be fun to try new things, and inviting a special someone along for the ride is really no different than asking a friend along. So, might as well make it a date!
Example: “I’m thinking about trying that new escape room downtown on Saturday. Want to join me?“
The proposition of a new activity will intrigue the person, and there is a higher probability that they will agree to come along with you. It’s a bit of a sugar-coated way to ask somebody on a date, but straightforward or not, you still get to spend time with that person and get to understand them better. And just maybe, asking them out on a second date won’t seem so nerve-wracking.
Everyone enjoys a little flattery that makes them feel special. Utilize that to your advantage.
Example: “I really enjoyed talking with you the other day. I was wondering if you’d like to continue the conversation over dinner this Friday?”
It’s a bit of an old-school technique, admittedly. Still, sprinkling in a few compliments into your proposal should butter them up and make them far more willing to go on a date with you. A bit of flattery never hurts.
Use Your Humor
Be a bit playful and make your invitation lighthearted. It can make the idea seem a bit more intriguing.
Example: “I’m having a terrible case of ‘restaurant choice paralysis,’ and I’m afraid I need a companion to help me decide where to eat. Want to be that companion and join me tomorrow?“
People usually enjoy a good joke or two, and using a few is sure to get them to laugh. Use that to your advantage, and odds are, you’ll have that dinner companion.
Plan something With Your Friend Group
Making it a group outing can take a lot of the pressure off of your shoulders. It makes it more casual, like hanging out with anyone else.
Example: “A few of us are planning on checking out that new brewery on Saturday. Want to come along?“
Keep in mind that while this is a far easier tactic to employ to hang out with that special someone, it isn’t really a date. It can, however, provide the opportunity to set up one. Maybe you can hang back from the group for a bit, ask them if they would like to do this activity alone sometime.
The Bottom Line
Asking somebody on a date over text is far easier than in person. Thank the modern age for that small blessing. So, get a little creative in how you ask. At the end of the day, giving it a shot is all you can do, so make it worthwhile for the other person. Make it lively, funny, and make sure to express your intentions clearly. And, most importantly, have fun and good luck.