Infidelity is one of the worst curses a relationship can face, being one of the most nightmarish scenarios a person can be involved in. Cheaters lack dignity because they are not loyal to the person they claim to love, instead going behind their backs with lies upon lies. As a woman, I’m always watching my back in relationships to ensure nothing my partner does blindsides me.
Facing the news of your partner being a cheater is indescribable. It’s distressing and depressing, but it is not the time to grieve, but to stand up for yourself. Many women find themselves lost in potential decisions when they are forced to face their partner’s infidelity. It’s a confusing time, and many women often find themself choosing to stick with their partner, costing them their life with a man who does not love them enough to remain faithful.
I stick by the belief that if somebody cheats once, they’ll cheat again, and nothing in the world will cause a change of their hearts. While some individuals can admit their mistakes and stay loyal afterward, it is such a rare occurrence that you cannot consider yourself as a part of that hopeful scenario.
The best decision you can make is to walk away after facing your partner’s infidelity. You deserve someone far better than a man who would go behind your back and get with other women. You deserve somebody who genuinely cares for you. Here, I will help you understand why walking away after your partner cheats is an essential step.
Why Must You Walk Away?
I’ve received many questions about why I always recommend walking away from an unfaithful relationship. The answer is simple: you cannot change the nature of a cheater. He’ll cheat recklessly until he gets caught, and cheat again the moment you let your guard down. So, I don’t believe cheaters should be given a second chance. You have to walk away in order to be able to find a loyal man who will love you and won’t go behind your back like a cheater would.
7 Reasons Why You Should Walk Away
Here are the seven reasons you should walk away from your unfaithful partner.
- You Cannot Trust A Cheater
- The Trauma Of The Affair
- He Won’t Take Accountability For What He Did
- No Effort From Your Partner To Work On The Relationship
- The Lack Of Comfort & Safety
- The Relationship Is No Longer Your Best Interest
- He Can Remain In Touch With His Affair Partner
1. You Cannot Trust A Cheater
The number one reason for you to walk away from infidelity is that you cannot trust a cheater. He’s already broken your trust with an affair, and you cannot trust that he will be loyal and never cheat again like he’s sure to promise to. If you do forgive him, there will always be the underlying fear that he will cheat again, and it will wear down on your mental health. That is why walking away to find someone you deserve is the best choice in this scenario.
At the end of the day, it is your call to make on whether or not you want to trust the person who betrayed your trust, or walk away to find someone that will remain loyal like you deserve.
2. The Trauma Of The Affair
Another reason you must walk away is because of the underlying trauma and damage your partner’s affair will cause. The feeling of your significant other committing himself to other people after you committed yourself to him will cause severe emotional damage. It takes time to pick yourself up again after something like that. Whenever you see them, you will be forced to relive what he did to you, and you can never return to what you two once thought you had.
Personally, I wouldn’t be seeing his face again after he betrayed my trust because I’d be walking away. You should, too.
3. He Won’t Take Accountability For What He Did
Yet another reason you have to walk away from an unfaithful partner is that he will always try to deny and lessen the severity of what he did. If he is unwilling to accept that what he did was terrible, how could you ever be comfortable with that person again? If he does accept that he made a mistake, you have to ask yourself if he truly understands the severity of the damage he’s done to you with his affair. More often than not, the answer is no.
4. No Effort From Your Partner To Work On The Relationship
If you are loyal to somebody and love them with all of your heart, it is a given that you will put forth effort into maintaining a loyal and healthy relationship. Now, put your cheating partner in your place and ask yourself if this person truly loves you and wants to be with you. If he did, he would have put forth the effort and ensured that he did not do something to damage you or your relationship. But he cheated on you, betraying your trust and love. Somebody who wanted this relationship more than anything because they love you wouldn’t do that.
5. The Lack Of Comfort & Safety
After your partner betrays you, you will lack the sense of comfort and safety that you once felt with them and that should be present in every healthy relationship. After all, how could you be comfortable or safe around the person who just went behind your back and cheated on you? No matter what you tell yourself, you will no longer feel secure in the relationship, and it’s your call to make on if you want to stay in a relationship that cannot offer you those comforts, or to pursue one that can.
6. The Relationship Is No Longer Your Best Interest
This unfaithful relationship is no longer in your best interest to maintain. Once his affair is discovered, there will be no faith, no trust, and no real love. It’s a challenge to regain that kind of lost trust, and with no concrete reassurance that he’ll remain loyal afterward, the foundations of your relationship can never truly be rebuilt. Staying in that kind of toxicity is not in your best interest and will only remain as a waste of your time and effort. You have to ask yourself if that is the kind of relationship that you want to pursue, or if you want to walk away. Seeking help from close family, friends, or any expert to help you make the decision is advisable.
7. He Can Remain In Touch With His Affair Partner
There is a sizable probability that your partner will remain in contact with the person that he cheated on you with. This possibility will remain a nagging fear if you continue your relationship after his betrayal. Living in fear that your relationship is constantly in jeopardy is no way to go on. That kind of broken trust cannot be rebuilt.
A new beginning is always the best course of action to take in this scenario.
You Deserve Better
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Once your partner’s loyalty has been proven to be a sham, there is no rebuilding that trust, and no second or even third chances will change that.
Walk away. Allow yourself a fresh start. You deserve better for yourself than somebody who cared so little for you that they could not remain faithful.