Dear Tracy, I have the absolute worst luck with men. I know that a lot of people probably say that, but trust me, I really mean it. First let me tell you about the date I had last month. I met what I thought was a great guy on Match.com. After a few brief chats back and forth we finally agreed to meet up for dinner one Friday night. That Friday morning before our date, he texts me to tell me that he was in the hospital but doesn’t want to cancel our date. He really wants to meet me and asks if I could come visit him in the hospital.
I don’t know why I didn’t ask why he was in the hospital, I guess I just assumed he was in a car accident or something. I went ahead and took off work early, rushed home, fixed myself up a bit and then headed to the hospital. When I arrived I found out that the reason he was there was because his wife found out he had been meeting women online and said she was going to divorce him so he tried to kill himself.
I was like WTF? I couldn’t believe it. The whole thing was so awkward. I wanted to leave and was wracking my brain trying to come up with anything to get out of there when his parents arrived. He introduced me as his girlfriend and acted like we had been together forever, not that I had only just met him in person that very day! I used their arrival to get the heck out of there. He texted me and called me every day for the next two and a half weeks until finally he got the hint and stop calling me.
This kind of thing happens to me all the time. I have the worst luck with men. It’s like I’m cursed. What can I do? Please help!
I can honestly say when I read your story, I was absolutely speechless. That’s just horrible! I couldn’t imagine what I would have done in the same situation. Actually, that’s not true. I know exactly what I would have done, I would have told his parents the truth the second they arrived, and he told them I was his girlfriend.
While I don’t know what you could do to prevent this from happening again in the future, sometimes bad and crazy things just happen. But what I can suggest you do is don’t back down. Stand up for yourself and speak your mind. That guy’s family deserved to know what he did to you. You deserve better than jerks like that but the only way you are ever going to get it, is to start knowing your own true value.
If you find out some guy you met online lied to you, contact him about it, get up and then leave. Then go back home and report his profile to the online dating service. Be proactive. Don’t just sit back and take it.
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