I haven’t been on a date in years. After my divorce, I took some much-needed ME TIME. But now that I’m getting back out there, I’m kind of freaking out about going on my first date in decades. Any tips?
Getting back out there is never easy after a divorce first; let me say congrats! You’ve taken the first step in the right direction. Regarding advice, I guess the first thing that comes to mind is your first impression. First impressions are important. As they say … you don’t get a 2nd chance to make a great first impression. So with that in mind, spend some time preparing for your date. Take a long hot bath, iron your clothes, put on some makeup, and fix your hair extra special. This date might not work out, but you never know; it could. So you want your first impression to be memorable.
When it comes to the actual date, remember to relax. A lot of times, when people are nervous, they ramble on. Try not to do all the talking. Ask him questions, and give him a chance to answer them. It’s important to actually listen to what he’s saying, not just think about what you are going to say next. Think about what he’s saying and ask him follow-up questions about something he has told you.
Keep the conversation light and fun when it is your turn to talk. Avoid talking about anything negative, and above all, never discuss your ex or his.
If you follow these few tips, I think you’ll have a fabulous first date.
Just remember that a first date is not an audition for marriage. It’s just a tryout for a second date. No one ever fell in love while analyzing every detail of their momentous first meeting. So relax and enjoy yourself! Dating can be fun.
And do write back in and let us know how it goes!
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