Dear Tracy, I’m a very reserved person. I don’t really know how to be this outgoing, flirtatious person that my friends seem to think I can be. Help! Do you have any tips for me that can help me get through the night? I have a date coming up this weekend and I’m terrified. I don’t know what to do or say.
Men can be a little slow so sometimes you have to be subtle, while other times you need to be far more aggressive. So let’s start with the obvious stuff. Touching a person that you like is an important sign that you like him. Simply put, if you like him don’t be afraid to touch him!
1: Be Available
Make yourself available. If you are with your girlfriends he isn’t as likely to open up to you than if you were alone with him. If you want to make any headway with a guy, get away from your group of friends.
2: Manners Matter
Remember that good manners go a long way and that is both from you and from him. If he is overly aggressive or rude make it know you aren’t interested in that kind of behavior. It’s about self-respect girls. If you allow a man to disrespect you right from the start, that relationship isn’t going anywhere fast.
3: Shut up and Listen!
Talk less about yourself and instead ask more questions about him. What is his name? What is his favorite movie? What kind of sports does he like? If he asks a specific question you can answer but quickly turn that back to a question about him. Oh, I love pink, what did you think about those new Pink NFL jerseys for women? Above all avoid talking about your past relationships.
4: Confidence is Key!
Have confidence. Nothing is sexier than confidence. Seriously. Look in the mirror every day leading up to the big night and say 10 times before going to bed “I AM FABULOUS!“. Say it 10 times -every night-. The more you say it, the more you start to believe it and the better your chances are for success not only at this night but at many things in your life.