Normally I answer these kinds of questions that are sent to us via email, but today I’m answering the question, “How can I make my ex-boyfriend miss me?” because someone I know in real life asked me this very thing. We actually get a variation of this question quite a bit, so I thought instead of just answering one specific email, I would be more in general about my advice.
The answer to this question really has less to do with your ex-boyfriend and more to do with you. You must transform yourself into being a better person. You need to work at being the best you that you can be if you want your ex boyfriend to miss you. But before we get into that, let’s start with the three important steps you must do.
#1 Pull Away
Give yourself time to heal and evolve and give your ex-boyfriend time to miss you. Don’t talk to him. Don’t talk about him. The only way an ex is going to miss you is to actually give him a chance to do so. And the only way he can do that is if you pull away, and give him and yourself some space.
#2 Avoid Drama
Once you do re-establish contact, it’s important you keep things light. Avoid any drama or fighting. Make him laugh, and show him that you’re okay being without him. Smile. Post those smiling selfies on social media.
#3 Don’t use sex as a weapon
The go-to for many girls is to try and seduce their ex, thinking that for some reason that if he caves, the two of you will be back together again, and everything will be ok. This is a huge mistake. It oftentimes makes things worse. If you really want to get your ex back, then slow down and don’t try and use your body to get his attention. The key to success is to change his mind – and show him you are in a better place and a better person than before.
Now that you know some of the things you can do to make your ex-boyfriend miss you, I want you to take a moment to really think about why you broke up. I want you to think about yourself as a person and how things really were in your relationship. While you are single, now is the time to be a better you. The one guaranteed way to make a man fall in love with you (or, in this case, fall back in love) is to be the best you that you can be. Be independent. If you don’t NEED a man, this will, in fact, attract a man.
If you are busy having fun, living your best left, and being the best you, you’ll start to see how easy it is to attract any man you want — your ex-boyfriend or maybe even someone new.
While you are single, spend the time you would have spent with your boyfriend on improving your life — Take a cooking class, learn a foreign language, or start a travel blog. It doesn’t really matter what you do, just that you do something that makes you better as a person. And that, my friend, is the real secret to how to make your ex-boyfriend miss you and want you back.
Ask Tracy’s advice column is for entertainment purposes only. Tracy is not a love advice specialist or medical professional of any kind. The advice given here is intended to be taken with a grain of salt and is based on personal life experiences, not professional training. The reader is advised to use his or her common sense when it comes to adhering to this or any sort of romantic advice. If you are having serious relationship problems, you are advised to seek real help from a doctor, not someone you meet on the internet.