So you found the perfect guy and need some help to get him to obsess over you? No problem, we’re here to help, girl! We have just what you need.
Who doesn’t want a guy who makes her feel special? I totally get it. When you find the right guy, you want to make sure that you put your best foot forward to try and make things work. So, we’ve come up with a list of 12 ways to get a guy to obsess over you!
- Make him wait a little bit before you reply to his text messages.
- Make sure that you’re smart enough to make yourself memorable.
- Be a darling to his closest friends.
- Exude self-love and confidence.
- Choose your battles wisely.
- Put as much effort into the relationship as he does.
- Don’t try being anyone you’re not.
- Be honest and upfront about what you feel and think.
- Encourage him to be his own person.
- Be flirty but also classy.
- Show up for him whenever he needs you.
- Be genuinely kind to him.
1. Make him wait a little bit before you reply to his text messages.
You don’t want him to think that you’ve been waiting by your phone, just waiting for him to text you. It would seem too overeager. But you also don’t want him to think that you’re playing games with him by deliberately making him wait for so long before you reply. Moderation is key. Just give him a bit of delay in your replies to make him wait, which will give you time to think of the perfect response.
2. Make sure that you’re smart enough to make yourself memorable.
Put brains before beauty. Looks aren’t the only thing that will make a man obsess over you. It’s more about your personality, your aura, and your overall vibe when you are around him. Let your personality shine through. Your looks may be the first thing a guy notices, but if you want him to remember you, then you need to show him that you’re more than just a pretty face.
3. Be a darling to his closest friends.
Show him that you’re not just nice to him but that you’re nice to everyone you meet. And let him know that integrating yourself into his social life won’t be a problem. Guys are very conscious about how girls act when around other people. I know it’s hard not to be shy when you meet new people, but if you want to win his friends over, you’re really going to have to make the effort. Winning his friends over is all on you. So be sure and put extra effort into making sure his friends love you.
4. Exude self-love and confidence.
If you love yourself, you’ll give him another reason to love you too. There is nothing sexier than self-confidence. I know it’s not always easy to be strong and positive all of the time, but it’s worth the effort, I promise. A trick I like to use is to remind myself every morning just how absolutely fabulous I really am. I mean, I actually look at myself in the mirror and say to myself, you are fabulous. You are the best. People love you. You are amazing. I do this every single day. I think it’s important to start your day on a positive note, and it helps your inner confidence shine through.
5. Choose your battles wisely.
You don’t have to fight him on every little thing. Yes, you can have disagreements. But some fights are just not worth having. Yes, you will get annoyed with each other, that’s perfectly normal, but that doesn’t mean you have to have a major battle over every little thing. Mistakes happen. People forget things. Is it really worth having a major fight over it every single time? Save yourself the stress and hassle, and just let some things go. Save that anger and passion for something that truly matters.
6. Put as much effort into the relationship as he does.
Some call this matching his energy. You don’t want him to be doing all of the work. A relationship should be equal, give and take. If he gives 27, you give 27. If you put in all the effort, you’ll eventually feel resentful towards him about it. Then what future will your relationship have?
7. Don’t try being anyone you’re not.
I know that people say to put your best foot forward when you start a relationship, but that means be the best you that you can be. It doesn’t mean pretending to be someone else. You want him to obsess over you, not the you that you are pretending to be. I know this is going to be hard for some of you, because you are so used to trying to impress a guy, but that isn’t the right thing to do. You have to be yourself and that I promise is worth all his love and devotion. You are a good person. So don’t try and pretend to be anyone else.
8. Be honest and upfront about what you feel and think.
As my grandmother used to say, honesty is the best policy. Being honest and upfront isn’t always easy to do, but it’s always best that you try. No guy wants to be lied to. I’m sure you don’t want to be lied to, either. So this is an important step in building a strong relationship. Always be honest and upfront about things.
9. Encourage him to be his own person.
Encourage him to be his own person. This is a big one. Sometimes, one of the best ways to get a man to obsess over you is to encourage him to live a life without you. You have to give him room to breathe and be his own man. If you give in to his (or your) obsessive desire to always be around one another, you might end up suffocating each other. And you don’t want that, not if you want a happy, healthy relationship.
A little space and individuality is always healthy. Both men and women need their independence, so giving him his space will certainly encourage him to want to be around you even more. You want to give him the space to appreciate the time you do have together.
10. Be flirty but also classy.
You want to be flirty with him, but don’t go too far. Set boundaries and keep to them. Compliment him, so how that you admire him but draw that line in the sand and don’t cross it. If you want him to obsess over you, then this is a rule you have to keep to. You want to show him that you’re more than just a girl to have fun with, but you’re the kind of girl he can take home to mom.
11. Show up for him whenever he needs you.
Show up for him when he needs you. Be his rock. Show him you’re reliable, and he’ll start to turn to you more often. When he finds you standing by his side during the hard times, this will stick with him. He’ll start to see you differently than he did before. He may not always need you but when he does, be the person that he can turn to.
12. Be genuinely kind to him.
At the end of the day, there is nothing that is going to be more attractive to another person than kindness. And if you are kind to him, he will become more and more attached to you, and will want to be with you long-term. A fun girl is only fun for so long. But that nice girl that’s always there for him when he needs her and gets along with his friends is a keeper. That’s the kind of girl that a guy just doesn’t want to let go of.