So you are in a long-distance relationship with some guy you met on the internet and want to take it to the next level? Let’s suppose that you are meeting someone online who is just fabulous, and that person seems to be the match of your life but is living far away from you. Is it worth spending your time in a long-distance relationship with this person? What if this person is really your soul mate?
Like all things, you have to work on a relationship if you want it to get better and grow into something more. If you know and apply some simple rules, your relationship can be one of the most successful and happy relationships ever.
Distance, combined with phone calls and writing, electronically or through regular mail, can foster an enviable intimacy that results from learning about someone else’s qualities, values and ways of thinking, sensitivities, dreams, and aspirations. This type of intimacy can make you coming together much more special. And, as if relationships weren’t complicated enough, having them across a long distance is extremely challenging. Just read the following rules and try to keep them in mind and apply them:
1. The quality of a relationship is more likely to increase if both people develop the ability to share feelings openly with each other. Do not be afraid to tell your partner what you really need and want from him (or her). He deserves to know the truth and judge whether they can give it to you.
2. Make the relationship a high priority. If you want something to work, you need to make it matter in your life, so try and avoid canceling dates, even if the date is an online date, or putting off a phone call.
3. Keep in touch daily. If large phone bills are a concern, send e-mail, letters, cards, and even faxes. And when you do make contact, don’t just stick to love talk, but keep each other informed on the day-to-day aspects of your lives. This way, each of you is aware of how the other is thinking, feeling, and developing. Late-night talks and thoughtful letters can convey a lot of what is most important in the long-term: your goals, values, and dreams.
4. Be prepared to be flexible. Tell your partner how much you think about and love him or her, and you will score some important points. Make them miss you more, and you’ll fill them with the constant urge to see you. But don’t be possessive. Being paranoid and accusing will only grow doubts, insecurity, and tension between you, and none of those will help the relationship develop successfully.
If your partner truly wants to be with you, then they would not want to wait forever to have you next to her or him. As long as you both trust each other, inform one another of your personal lives, and keep in touch, your relationship can turn out into a happy, normal relationship.
Ultimately, a fabulous relationship is your goal – right?