Can you make someone fall in love with you? Well, according to science, you can.
Experts tell us that proximity is highly inducive to romantic entanglement.
The proximity principle accounts for the tendency for individuals to form interpersonal relations with those who are close by. It’s simple science … the more time you spend with someone, the more likely you are to form deep feelings for them.
But there is far more to it. Just being near someone isn’t enough. Okay, sure it helps but if you really want to ensure that a person falls in love with you then you need to look at the two more important personality traits that have a real effect on how someone feels about you.
High self-confidence and low defensiveness as the two personality traits that make you the most attractive.
You’ll need to be a person with enough self-confidence to go after what you want, and aren’t too defensive to low their guard and let someone in, allowing them to connect with a potential partner on a deeper, more intimate level.
So if you want to get someone to fall in love with you then you have to work on those two parts of your personality. You need to be self-confident and lower your defenses.
So what can you do to be more self-confident? That’s easier said than done but it’s worth putting in the effort.
First, you need to visualize yourself as you want to be. Visualization is the technique of seeing an image of yourself that you are proud of, in your own mind. When we struggle with low self-confidence, we have a poor perception of ourselves that is often inaccurate. Practice visualizing a fantastic version of yourself, achieving your goals.
Next, you need to affirm yourself. We tend to behave in accordance with our own self-image. The trick to making lasting change is to change how you view yourself.
Affirmations are positive and uplifting statements that we say to ourselves. These are normally more effective if said out loud so that you can hear yourself say it. We tend to believe whatever we tell ourselves constantly. For example, if you hate your own physical appearance, practice saying something that you appreciate or like about yourself when you next look in the mirror.
To get your brain to accept your positive statements more quickly, phrase your affirmations as questions such as, “Why am I so good at making deals?” instead of “I am so good at making deals.” Our brains are biologically wired to seek answers to questions, without analyzing whether the question is valid or not.
You also need to shift to an equality mentality. This more than anything will help you be a better you. People with low self-confidence see others as better or more deserving than themselves. Instead of carrying this perception, see yourself as being equal to everyone. They are no better or more deserving than you. Make a mental shift to an equality mentality and you will automatically see an improvement in your self-confidence.
Marilyn Monroe once said, “Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.”
And she’s right. She couldn’t be more correct. This is something that you really need to work on if you want to improve not only your self-confidence but your whole outlook on life.
Don’t compare other people’s strengths to your weaknesses.
Unfortunately, what we don’t realize is that no matter who we are around, we are constantly trying to identify where we are lacking. Over time, this process literally trains your brain to disregard your strengths, and it puts you into a reactive mental state which in the end causes stress and wreaks havoc on your performance.
It’s imperative to start appreciating other people’s strengths. Instead of seeing them as competition, consider it an opportunity to learn how you can develop your own skills. This new perspective will change your demeanor, relax your mind, and help regulate your emotions. Your brain learns from repetition, so begin doing this immediately and over time it will become second nature.
Always remember the saying: “If you’re the smartest person in the room, then you’re in the wrong room.”
If you can boost your self-confidence and learn to lower your defenses, you’ll find people will be instantly attracted to you. It’s a proven, scientific fact.