I love little Cartman from South Park when he goes into his whole “Respect my authoritah” bit. It always makes me giggle. So when I started writing my latest story about men with authority issues, it makes me laugh to think of Cartman.
As we get older we learn a lot of things about ourselves and one of the best things about getting older is that we hopefully by now learn from our mistakes and that is why relationships as adults are typically more successful than when we are younger because we know what we do and don’t like in a man.
Last night I learned something new about myself, or more specifically what I do and don’t like in a man. I guess I’ve always known but it was last night that I really wrapped my mind around it.
A show came on called Who Do You Think You Are where famous people do family history research. On last night’s show was Charlie Sheen’s dad, Martin Sheen. They had mentioned a few times how he was a political activist in his younger days but when they mentioned it I didn’t give it a second thought. It’s funny just how often we learn things about something that can be so important but we don’t give them a second thought.
I mention this because it’s a lesson for all of us. When we are dating we need to really listen to what someone reveals about themselves. Now back to Martin Sheen ….
He gets sidetracked researching his direct family line to look into the history of an uncle, a few times removed. In short, the uncle was also a political activist who he respected for fighting against authority. That for some reason caught my attention and I started watching closer.
Eventually, they got back on track and traced his great-great-great-great-grandfather who was a well-respected judge in Spain. They found a clipping of a story about the Judge and a case he was prosecuting. It was a woman who had had an unmarried affair with a member of the clergy and later even got pregnant by the member of the clergy. You think it would be this well-respected member of society he would be proud of but a few minutes later it was revealed that a few generations later, a child of the judge and a child of the woman would marry and become his grandparents.
It would be a crazy coincidence and that was interesting but all he kept going on about is how much respect he had for this woman who fought authority to do what she wanted and would fight her way back to be able to marry and have children and go on with her life.
As I rolled my eyes I realized how much I don’t like men who have no respect for authority, who are so caught up in fighting the system, they can lose sight of even reality.
So why am I going on about all of this?
To be honest, it’s in hopes that you will start to pay closer attention to all the things that you do or don’t like in your search for true love. The more you are aware of your own likes and dislikes the happier you’ll be in life.
When you are getting to know someone, pay attention to not only what they say but how they react to others, their friends, their family, and even the TV shows they watch. This will give you subtle clues about their personality.