Dear Tracy, I’ve been dating a wonderful girl that I’m madly in love with for the past 8 months. But things aren’t going well. Every day when I wake up I feel like I should grab a flower and pick the petals playing the “she loves me, she loves me not” game to know how my day is going to go. On some days our relationship is great. The seemingly without warning or for any random reason, things aren’t so great. She suddenly isn’t sure about us or herself or whatnot. I know this site is typically for females seeking advice on men, but I figured if you knew so much about helping women in a relationship, maybe you are the perfect person to help me too. I love her so much. I just don’t understand why she has to treat me this way. Some days we are great and then the next she just pushes me away.
The entire month of March was great. We didn’t have so much as one fight. Then around the first week of April, she started up again. She tells me she loves me but I know her ex-boyfriend’s parents are really pressuring her for us to break up. They’ve been coming between us since day 1. I’m sure she doesn’t love her ex-boyfriend anymore because if she did she would be with him and not me but she still talks to his parents. She texts his mother daily. They seem to be very close. What am I going to do?
What is wrong with you? Are you really that blind? They say love in blind but apparently it’s stupid too. Do you really think she isn’t still madly in love with her ex-boyfriend? Of course she is! And every time she pushes you away it has nothing to do with her ex-boyfriends parents, but her own secret feelings for him.
She stays with you because you are clearly a nice guy but then eventually her own feelings of guilt about being with someone she doesn’t really feel about him like he feels about her. While I’m no psychic, it would surely explain it major mood swings about your relationship.
I know you care deeply for her and want to make things work but you can’t make someone feel what they just don’t feel. It’s time for you to man up and move on and find someone who feels about you the same way you feel about them. Don’t you deserve to be in THAT kind of relationship?