We all have that jerk of an ex-boyfriend we want to report, and luckily you now have a place to do just that. This is your very own bad boyfriend database, or as we like to call it, the ex-boyfriend list!
The Ex-Boyfriend List, or the bad boyfriend database, the place where you can report your ex-boyfriend for cheating on you or just being a jerk. The truth of the matter is, we’ve all had a bad breakup – okay, maybe a few of them in our lives, but that isn’t what this is about.
Wondering what we are, all you need to know about us is that we are out here for girls who have gone through the worst at the hands of a man who didn’t appreciate them enough. Since our website is all about supporting strong women who have had lousy ex’s, we have a small surprise for all you women out there. A little snippet: It’s all about girls supporting girls.
What is the Ex-Boyfriend List?
The Ex-Boyfriend List is also popularly known as a database designed for an evil Ex. This place is for all you women out there who were happily in love with a guy who didn’t put enough and exploited you in ways you didn’t realize you could ever be used for.
From ditching you to making you feel terrible about a small task, cheating and making you feel as if you’re not enough, and even going as far as verbally and physically abusing you. You should know you are all strong individuals for having gone through all that you did. This site and its purpose don’t lie in the fact that we all have had a few bad breakups or seen someone in our lives have them. It’s beyond that.
Now that you’re finally out of the horrible mess and out of the relationship with your ex, you probably see him walk down the streets with another girl on his arm, and that doesn’t stop you from wondering if he treats that new girl the same way he treated you? Is he being overly sweet but hiding something behind his facade? Is he showing her the same patterns he showed you?
This database is for you because through this process that we have built, you can reveal the truth about him and save lives, and since we spoke about how we are all about supporting women, this is an excellent start to this initiative—wondering how it works? Well, read further to find out more regarding this exciting initiative.
Purpose of the Ex-Boyfriend List:
This initiative is solely out there to help all those girlfriends who you have personally seen suffering, or for girls, you do not wish to suffer at the hands of someone you know is capable enough, so revenge or making worthy and good men feel bad isn’t why we have taken this initiative. We’re all about a respectful man treating his women how they deserve to be treated, but this list is out there serving those who are not doing what they are supposed to.
So, if you are someone who’s planning to post about a guy with whom they had a bad experience? Here’s you do it? But remember to follow up the given rules below:
Rules regarding posting about an Ex:
- No personal information is allowed! Personal information may include anything and everything related to the guy’s private phone number, address and work details, and even family details.
- No false information is allowed unless you want your account removed. Talk about what your ex-boyfriend did to you but don’t make up lies. Come on, you are better than that.
- Tell your story and give out respectful and limited details, keeping in mind that you give enough to raise red flags for the person reading it.
- I repeat: DO NOT POST HIS PHONE NUMBER, EMAIL, OR HOME ADDRESS. Give his name, city, and state where he lives, and nothing more.
The Ex-Boyfriends list and its reach:
Are you someone who’s out and talking to a new guy and feel a bit doubtful? This Ex-Boyfriend List is the answer to your worries, questions, and queries. Worried that the guy you’re talking to at work ticks all the right boxes and wants to find out the real secrets.
You’re at the right place because through our database, you can search him up, and find out about him, and if there’s nothing, then you’re one of the lucky ones! But if you do end up finding anything related to him, you know your doubts were correct. Help is served, and this is how we do it, anonymously yet ideally.
Share Your Story With Us!
Let us help you relieve the mountain load of stress you have been feeling, and what better way than to help someone who’s probably with the same guy that is a reason for your trauma.
Feel better today and fill up that database; let’s help each other and empower and let these men know we aren’t going to be letting them railroad us. Get posting!
We’ve not gotten hundreds of entries on our ex-boyfriend list, so to help you keep up with all the names, I’ve made the list searchable. Just click the search button above, and you can search for an ex-boyfriend by name. If you want to add your ex-boyfriend to our list, just comment below and tell us all about him.
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Raj Sardessai from Houston, TX
He is an alcoholic with a third DUI (this one a felony) charge pending, and he is currently suing a strip club for damages after he was in bar fight. Bar fights are common occurrences in his life. He has a previous felony in TN for manufacturing narcotics. He is a pathological liar and will gaslight anyone that begins to understand the depths of his depravity so that he can continue to defend his need to drink.
Ronald Jay Greynolds from Boynton Beach Florida
Originally from Boynton Beach, but residing in Asheville NC with his wife. He claims that she is his ex-wife but they are still legally married and after wasting 7 years of my life waiting for him to file for divorce, I pressed the issue, and he informed me that he had no intention of getting divorced. He mislead his intentions to have a relationship with me for 7 years, and manipulated me by never following through on his promises to finalize his divorce. I moved 900 miles away to see what he did, and as expected he returned to live with her, still claiming that there’s no relationship between the two of them, but they are now living together again. Just as I suspected, keeping her as a backup plan.
Ladies beware, he’s a blue eyed libra devil, funny and fun to be with, but his intentions are not honorable. He’s not honest about his situation and will gaslight you the entire time. I trust actions, not words, there’s no accountability, or remorse for his actions. He is not what he portrayed from the onset of this story. I endured mental anguish over the 7 years, and I’m finally free. I’m here to expose him for what he really is, before he finds another woman to torture with his toxic behavior.
Frank Stankevicius from Massachusetts
Gave sad story about how all his ex’s were crazy and his ex-fiancé cheated on him and he lost his house, etc. Cheated with his ex-girlfriend (she confirms knowing him since she was 16!). Cheated when she was 20 and he was 53- gross. Has no consistent social media presence because he has no solid job history- goes from job to job and home to home (sometimes friend’s couches). He lies and cheats and will scam you that he’s a ‘nice guy down on his luck’ at the moment. Nope.
Jacob Thompson from Palm Beach, FL
Narcissist and eager to circle. Only values his own time and does not care about you or anything about you. Inconsiderate, rude, and manipulative. Stay away!
James Milstead from United States
James grew up in a disfunctional and abusive family which has affected him severely. He has narcissistic tendencies, but more importantly, the complex trauma he experienced affects all his relationships, both romantic and family. He doesn’t want to explore his trauma or heal and he will divert all problems as being your fault. His favorite phrase is, “You get what you give” which gives him permission to treat you poorly if you have any hint of attitude, frustration, disappointment, or anger in your voice. His anxiety, BPD, lack of motivation and inability to maintain a regular job are all red flags, so beware. I dated him for 3.5 years, and was older than he…so this is not a revenge warning. This is a woman to woman warning because you will suffer for loving him. His other favorite saying is, “I don’t give a f-k” and that will include you at some point. He is not fixable, and will not compromise…and wants to be mothered, which is why he likes older women.
Antoine William Rohlehr-Batts from Resides in Oakland CA, from Miami Florida
Antoine W. Rohlehr is a corporate salesman narcissist and will be whatever you need to earn your trust. He is not attractive …he’s short and awkward ( I thought he was safe, I was very wrong) but he’s a brown noser, plays off your weaknesses. Predator. I gave him a chance cuz I thought he was a nice guy! Worst decision ever! He buys his way in and uses hard times to his advantage like when my dad died and my wrist broke. He made me feel guilty for needing help. He wants to earn your trust so he can use you for social status/climbing to make himself look better. ( I helped him get a promotion etc) Why? Because he is deeply flawed and he knows it. He is totally addicted to p0rn of very young Japanese women and girls ( non-consensual rape p*** on a train…. apparently that’s a thing in Japan) and that’s all he cares about. I turned him in to Oakland PD but they haven’t picked him up yet. He will put you down, bread crumb you, gaslighting you in your darkest times like when my father passed away. I gained weight he blamed everything on me. Meanwhile he ran up my electric bill with his p0rn addiction, cost me $7,000 ruining the plumbing in my bathroom due to his negligence, told me he was going to help me with lots of stuff never did any of it. I was grieving and confused after my dad’s death, and when I started to feel better I realized how badly he screwed me over and his truth came out!!! He’s not a good guy, he’s a disgusting demon. Just because he’s unattractive and seems nice does not mean he’s better than a hot guy. Just go for a hot guy! I think these guys who are nerds in high school have anger issues with women.
Paul Bisio from Easton, PA
This physician & LtColonel Air Force veteran has been scamming women for years. He always has several simultaneous girlfriends who are promised a monogamous relationship. He is a predator who deliberately defrauds women from the very beginning of his relationships. Most never saw any red flags because he’s been perfecting his con for 30+ years. He prays on single, divorced women (and their children) and has no conscience about the damage he causes. His family is complicit and they assist in further deceiving unsuspecting women. Disgusting that he is a doctor and a high-ranking military officer. He uses those positions to create a false sense of trust.
Ian B. Mahoney from Chicago, IL
He’s a liar and serial cheater. He cheated the entire time he was married, during both of his marriages, and he cheated while his wife stood by him during his bout with cancer. He’s disrespectful, he always checks out other women and will make comments if he thinks they hot, then he’ll say stuff like, “you should dress like that”. He’s cheap, expects perfection, nails always have to be done, waxed, etc, but never offers to pay. He was cheating on his wife and his girlfriend, and left for a rich, young, unattractive hump- backed housewife. He puts out that he’s such a nice guy, but he’s a snake. He’s a selfish, self absorbed narcissist, who never thinks of anyone but himself. And now you can add gold digger to the list of unappealing traits.
Gabriel Angel Salcedo Olivo from Santa Ana, CA, USA
Is a blackmailer and abuser
(Jack) Anthony Holland from Idaho, Utah, Colorado
Have been stalked and harassed by this ex for YEARS. At first I thought his delusions were harmless and I blocked him after rebuffing his advances. But he recently found me again and sent me a s3xually explicit and violent message. He moves a lot and changes phone numbers often so it will be difficult to know where he is coming from.
Beware ladies!
Caleb Leonhardt from Lincolnton, NC
On the first date he loaded his whole life story on me and dropped that he was suicidal before me. Keep in mind that we had only met for one day. By the second date he said he was falling in love with me. He had literally only seen me two times. It only took a few months and he was already talking about marriage. ( I ignored the red flags because I was desperate and lonely) But we had to call off the marriage due to his manipulation, critical spirit, lack of motivation, lack of ambition, and just plain cluelessness. He was very wet behind the ears meaning he was pretty immature. He didn’t know how much things cost. He is very cheap and lives in a trailer. He expects his future wife to live super cheap and be a stay at home mom. However, he only wants one kid because he doesn’t want to have to move. By the way, he collects hundreds of little action figures, toys, stuffed animals and dolls. Keep in mind that he is in his late twenties. He spends all his money off of these things and porn. But he will criticize you over buying “too much food” , keep in mind I only spend about $150 on groceries for the whole month. He will criticize you over breathing too hard for real. God forbid I forget something at his house. Everything was a problem for him. My dad called him a narcissist because he acts like he can do no wrong and the other person is always the problem. He used a lot of gas lighting when we fought. He claimed he had trouble finding a girl in the past because they would block him “for no reason” after the first date haha. Honey, there was a reason, you are creepy.
Keenan Jonathan Harris or Ramirez or Mello from Long Beach, CA and Las Vegas, NV
This guy played me for a fool spent all my gambling and I gave him a home, car, money for his kids and he’s tried to ghost me, he left me said his mom was sick but went to Belgium to beg her to take him when he used me all up. He ghosted telling me he was gonna break up with her. He cheated at work met her there and they went to extended stay. He told me some stupid lie about we his coworkers called him a hoe. He mastered playing the part like he loves you
He’ll play on ur situation and you’ll think he’s ur soul mate but he is just weasels his way to ur funds and depletes it not giving no f*cks about what’s gonna happen to u with no more money. After 3+yes and 100,000 later I figure him out and called him on it and he said sorry and resumed normal program like nothing at all. Still expects me to take and pick him up from work. It’s unbelievable how he can have set with someone he doesn’t like. I feel sorry for a weak-minded girl and he likes them Young says I’m the first older woman he’s been with.
Neilbert Jardeleza from Lexington Kentucky US
We met at work. We work in Healthcare about four years ago. I thought he was absolutely amazing. I could’ve swore he was The. I had just literally met the best man ever and I knew he had just split up with his child’s mother and he was a really ugly break up he he acted like it was amicable, but I could see and I was reading text messages that he you know didn’t know that between those two and he was really kind of nasty with her but I didn’t know if maybe she enticed it.
As time goes on nothing things seem to be going very nicely. He’s very sweet, very attentive. Seems like he cared a lot. It seems like he was very into me well after so many months, I think about six months we moved in together, and we were working together same Hospital And things just started getting weird like females like just being overly friendly with females, and it just seemed very off to me, but I didn’t want to be accusatory or ruining my relationship that seemed like it was the best one ever right, right . I end up getting some emails like to my Facebook messages and it was from girls that he had worked with prior and then currently and they were informing me that he was going to work telling them that he did not have a living girlfriend that he was single and I was just a roommate so that was the first one and then of course I brought this up it was I was devastated he denied it. He said they were liars and they wanted to be with him and they were you know just trying to start stuff all fast-forward a year after that and I start seeing these weird phone numbers on our phone bill and I looked it up and it comes back to a girls name that I knew that Also had worked with us a while back at the hospital and comes find out he was having a fling with her. He says they never were intimate. They were just buddy they were just friends yada yada yada he was lonely I was ignoring him you know that kind of stuff so of course I forgave him because I loved him and he was amazing and I wanted to believe him because you know he was amazing, right so fast forward years later by now we have had so many issues with cheating lying gaslighting so many things and it just becomes very hard and it’s very complicated and I am not the type of person to you know be nasty towards anyone especially in a break up I try to make it as you know, clean and amicable as possible Well this guy literally has been spending thousands of dollars online paying camgirl to masturbate to . He’s been starting to come home but he gets off at 7 o’clock in the morning very late. He should be home at like nine. He’s been coming home at one or two every day for months and I don’t like questioning people or being in peoples business, so I try to not but becomes the point where it starts to hurt your feelings because you know somethings not right because I also work in the same field and I know when we get off of work you know so then he starts tying his phone to him like he has that phone everywhere he goes and then when he does leave it out, he’ll leave it out purposely and leave the phone open like thinking I’m gonna go through it, but he has these little codes he sticks in his phone that I learned a long time ago, and it like reroutes. All of his information is iPhone, so long story short he is a habitual cheater. I mean it so it makes my stomach hurt right now just thinking about it I’m not even just a camgirl like girls he works with and he doesn’t speak any specific type. He likes white girls, Asian girls, African-American girls, I mean, thin thick I mean he does not discriminate And these girls always lie for him. I don’t know what he says about the girl he seen, but he has got these girls. They will not write on him at all. Some of them have gotten belligerently crazy with me when I’ve asked them questions like calling me names and putting me down I’m guessing those names and stuff came from him. He is really good at manipulating and coming off has been very , very mellow mellow he seems very mellow and nonconfrontational and tell you really get to know him. He can be very nasty with his words with his actions and just comes to the point where I don’t even know if he ever really even cared about me at all because he’s so I just know the better word for it evil no cares that you know about my feelings or anything he makes when I bring up things that are you know going on that are not you know respectful with you you know his actions with our relationship. He gets very condescending towards me. He makes fun of me he he know he banters, and he belittles me about the issues like the things and then he and then he turns around and he projects to me. He rejects onto me what he has been doing And I get to the point where I feel like I have to defend myself so then instead of it becoming a whole issue of trying to get to the bottom of why are you doing this? It becomes a why I’m defending myself at that point so he’ll reroute the whole, you know scenario in general so then the most recent are you we got into, and I just like I found out about the thousands of thousands of dollars worth of camgirl that he’s been paying for to masturbate to for whatever reason which is crazy me whatever anyway but he told me that I need to learn to get some self-confidence , and not worry about why he’s lying to me and treating me like shit I was just floored I mean I literally just was I was just like wow what the f-k sorry for my language and that’s when I decided that it’s too much. I’m a beautiful girl. I’m a good girl. I’m a nice girl. I have a nasty attitude at times but it’s not on the daily. It’s only when provoked really is. He wasn’t an amazing guy on paper. He seems like the most intelligent awesome sweet caring, good looking very charismatic man and he is a he’s the devil Thing is his kids mother tried to tell me in the beginning and I didn’t listen his ex-girlfriend before his kids mother even tried to contact me and let me know that he was not a very nice person when it gets you into the relationship and I didn’t wanna believe it. I thought they were all lying and being jealous, and they were not. They were being truthful, and I felt for it and I got , I got you know I kinda got what I I kinda got what I signed for suppose I would just put this out there that you know although those two females were nice enough to try to inform me and you know look out it just I had that time thought that they were maybe just trying to scare me away because they wanted him back. He still amazing that was not the case. Literally they were just trying to be decent females and let me know and I’m really wish I would’ve headed their warning. so I am putting this out there in hopes that it will be right across-the-board by somebody because I’m sure there is somebody out there for this man that maybe will be a good I don’t know whatever but then again I’m mean I hope there is, but I don’t know because he seems like he’s very he has very grand thoughts of himself. He’s manipulative The I mean very good at manipulating. I really didn’t think I could handle it. I really didn’t think that I was going to come out of this unscathed and or maybe we were gonna deliver a happily ever after, and I can assure you I have been through many hard relationships, but this he got me good I’m I feel like a complete fool. He has been lying to me this whole time and it sucks but the end of the day I can’t change it I am just trying to help somebody else out in the future tread carefully girls please.
James Anthony Yates aka Jay from Jessup Pa
He ruined my life. He emotionally and physically abused me for 9 years. I finally woke up was manipulated into thinking that it was out of love. Currently have a restraining order in New York on him. I’ve had 3 protection from abuse orders on him in Pa. There’s video of him being a pervert around a minor. He has new girlfriend, Teresa Balak, who I already informed her about his abuse. From her profile she seems to be MR, if so he’s using her. He cheated and was abusing my one dog he had been smoking meth with. He says he changed I don’t see any. Prayers for the new girlfriend.
Chris Wright from Gastonia, NC
Chris and I started dating a few months ago. It was a very strong connection right away. He was always very sweet and attentive. There were times in the relationship that I thought he maybe not telling me the truth about his career, financial means and living situation but he always had an excuse about something that came up or why something happened. A few months into the relationship we planned to spend a weekend in Asheville. He sent me all the information including the confirmation. We were traveling separate due to coming from different places. We talked that morning, he sent good morning text. Everything seemed good. I got to the hotel and he had not checked in yet. I called him and he said he overselpt amd would call me in a minute. I got a horrible feeling in my stomach. I got on the hotel website and put in the confirmation number and our reservation had been canceled. I sent it to him and asked what happened. He didnt reply. I sent another text and my message turned green. He had blocked me. I was devastated and angry. I looked up his ex wife and called her. We talked for about an hour and she confirmed that almost everything he told me was a lie. He was not an attorney, he lived with his parents and even how their marriage had ended. She was very kind. Of course I didnt want to believe it so I reached out to his mother. She read my text and did not respond. I really don’t think this is the first time he had done this. I know it was fast but we told each other we loved each other, talked about moving in together and meeting my kids. I am still so hurt by this bc I thought it was real. He blocked me in everything and although I never want to speak to him part of me wants closure but not from him. What he did was beyond cruel
Derra from Oregon LC
Derra wears diapers cause he has fetish/lifestyle of abdl adult baby diaper lover and he wets and messes his diapers just like a real baby and honestly the little baby deserves to be in diapers and single forever with that uncircumcised 3inch nub he has it belongs in diapers. Just want to let other women know so they don’t fall for this baby sized peepee and dirty diaper wearing baby. He also loves I mean loves to hump his dirty diapers to make himself orgasm inside of his dirty diaper. I broke up with Him cause I found a real man instead of having to change diapers and watch my bf I can now be a grown woman with my grown man husband I met while with Derra and Derra tasted my man several times too cause o cheated on that diaper boy lol
Frederick Henry Paulette from Medway, Massachusetts
Fred Paulette is a diagnosed borderline personality disorder, schizophrenic. He is a pathological liar who can morph himself into several different personalities. He exhibits whichever persona will benefit him the most in whichever company he finds himself. He is a cheater and has multiple women, none of who know about the other. He has never been faithful to anyone in his life. He has exhibited signs of violence towards animals and a destructive personality when he thinks no one is watching. He has multiple cameras inside and outside of his house as well as speakers recording every move when he is not there. He will go for days of not speaking as a punishment or scream and yell, pretending to hit you but just stopping at your face. He will humiliate you in public or get up and leave you to go pick up another woman or drugs. He will bad mouth you to his friends and family leaving you wondering why no one likes you. He will use your money and your time. After some time, even years, wasted of your life, he will convince you that nobody else will care for you, that you’re fat and ugly and stupid and that you are guilty of everything he has done. If I can prevent this from happening to someone else this will be worth it. If you are in a relationship with a psychopath, narcissist, borderline personality such as this, grab your stuff and run. No contact and never look back. Cheers.
Adam C Riley from Bryan, Texas
He is a smooth talker and targets single moms or anyone for that matter, but a ton of single moms. I was with him for 3 years and found out he has several other GF’s and a wife. All of us girls found out about each other, so he will be looking for fresh meat.
He is on dating sites and also uses Instagram, Snapchat and Facebook to connect with any women that will accept him.
Then he starts messaging you and is really aggressive about meeting up. Calls everyone baby or babe and will say he loves you the first week you talk.
He was actually living partly with me, his wife and another girlfriend on top of seeing and sleeping with whoever else he can.
He was driving my car for months, his wife’s as well and gets money and stuff from us all.
He hardly makes any money, is sn alcoholic (loves tequila) and has a dui he got in May if 2023. You can google his name and you will see his arrest picture. He got the dui in my car while going to see and have s3x with another girl.
He’s a user, master manipulator and very good at making you feel like you are the most beautiful woman on earth.
he never uses protection and for the first time in my life, i had to go get tested for std’s.
He has been sleeping with me, his wife and 3 other women at the same time. Possibly more.
On top of all
this, he tells the women he is with kids that he loves them
and wants to adopt them.
So he is hurting kids too.
He has felonies and always has women covering his bills.
he has 3 kids he doesnt hardly see ever. will drink and driver with kids in the car.
he uses other names, christopher riley, and adam jameson.
hes 6 ft 3, brown eyes and hair. loves the dallas stars and the UT longhorns.
he complete garbage and feel sorry for his next victims.
also, hes been married, 3 times.
hes lived in bryan, houston, waco and fort worth
Steve Soetekouw from Tasmania
He is a leech and a flake.
He has had kids, but doesn’t want to pay for them, either groceries or utilities or anything.
He says that he is too sick to work but he can stay up till 2am on his computer.
He says that he might “die” so needs to be near his kids, but wanted me to wash, cook, wake him up for appointments, and on that, he gets up at between 9-10am.
He is just a flake. He talks BIG but does nothing.
Luke
2023
I have had many relationships. Each one has destroyed me so far. But this one has torn apart my healing phase.
His name is Luke, although some of his social media pages have a different name. We are not really a couple, what exists between us is more of a “situationship”. I messaged him and kept our conversations going as he said “he wasn’t the type to think of many questions”. I accepted that, we exchanged our numbers and continued writing.
He was on vacation for a while. During this time and the two days after his return, the world was perfect. We wrote a lot, exchanged pictures with each other and stayed up all night.
But then, from one day to the next, everything changed. He stayed out until 2,3,4 o’clock. He got drunk, met with girlfriends because he supposedly didn’t get along with men that well, and ignored me for 15 hours!
His excuse was “he wouldn’t touch his cell phone when he was doing something with friends because it was disrespectful”. Rarely did I get any information where he was. In the beginning he still sent me pictures, but that also stopped.
He promised to be there for me in my hardest times because I have a mental problem. But as soon as I asked him for help, he didn’t know what to say.
He told me about the women who approached him and about all the influencers he found pretty.
In between, he kept giving me hope. He complimented me and built me up, but days later it was all forgotten and I have a feeling we won’t last much longer.
He gave my psyche another hard blow and destroyed my heart another piece with it.
Thomas Stark from Nassau Bay Texas
This man is a cheater a liar and worst of all a thief. He will sweet talk his way into your heart and then your house and steal anything he can to get money. He will try to convince you that you misplaced things or accuse you of having another man around that steals. Very bad man with drug and temper problems. Stay away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thomas is a thief. He will sweet talk his way into your heart and house with big green eyes and steal everything in sight. He will help you look for things that are missing. He will make up scenarios to explain away missing valuables. And then act upset and rejected when you don’t let him distract you with affection. Charges are pending now that I’ve found my thing in multiple local pawn shops under his name. STAY AWAY!!!
he is stealing from me too. he must work fast bc he’s only been out for 2 months.
WHO ARE YOU? When did you meet him?
David A. Ramirez from CA and/or NV
He uses aliases like at work where he sorts lots of packages, he goes by “D” and he uses different phone numbers/texting apps as well. He’s on the registered s3x offender list as David Ramirez from Manteca and is in his mid 30’s. He has 2 kids and his daughter won’t see or talk to him. Likes independent, older women so he can be taken care of financially. He doesn’t even own his own car. He’s a serial cheater and liar. While he was with me he planned a party in So. Lake Tahoe with his co-workers making sure the ratio of women to men was 3 to 1. I’ll upload a pic of the paper I found in his car. He’s also what we call a Monkey because he doesn’t let go of one branch (woman) until he has a grip on the next. He’s a BIG narcissist who garners sympathy by playing the victim when he’s not playing the hero. None of it’s real. All the places he takes you are places he’s taken all his previous gf’s. He talks real big about future plans, but is unreliable when it matters. He has a gambling problem. He will not clean up after himself or help clean anything even after I had surgery. He’s an exhibitionist. He will record you without your permission. He’s a creeper who follows girls and women around stores and secretly records them. He has a Secure File in his phone. It’s alleged that he then uploads those vids to p0rn sites. I’ll call the police on him if I ever see him again and his baby mama won’t allow him to even live in the same state (NV). Contact me for details and if you’re an ex, let’s talk.
Greg Perovich from Lansing , IL
He also uses the Alia’s “ John” This man is a master manipulator- pathological liar- he has had multiple marriages & dates while married telling sob stories of how he has been a victim to his “wife” although he has had 3! And is still married to 1 of them. Asks woman to marry him while he is still married. Abuses women in every aspect of the definition- then tries to twist, deflect, gaslight & destroy you when he gets bored, tired or doesn’t get his way. 2 small examples of his abusive cruelties is that I had just got home from having cancer surgery- I had drains & was weak , couldn’t bathe myself. He was in the spare bedroom when I literally hobbled over to him & asked if he could help me bathe. He looked me dead in the face & said “ I’m busy cleaning the closet “ – I almost tore my drains out as a slipped trying to clean myself 15 days later the drains days later I got the drains removed & was very sick- I asked him to please go get a covid test- he said “ NO- I’m not taken 14 days off of work for you” I had covid for 30 days! I was too afraid to go to the hospital I thought I’d be intubated & die. I decided it’d be better to die in my own bed & was treated at home.!It was the most painful flu I ever had & am truly blessed to be alive!! The list of abuse & cruelties goes on is long and verifiable!
Run from this man or any man that doesn’t make you, your health, your wants, needs , or desires as important as his own! Men like him do not respect women!
I learned the hard way! I’m not a dumb or normally gullible! This man has over 30 years of manipulative behavior & is extremely good at it. All he wants is a scapegoat, whipping board, surrogate mother & security blanket. There is no passion, emotion bonding or empathy- you will simply be a nameless faceless toy in his collection- and he will try to drain you of everything-including your dignity!
Albert Klas from Utah
He’ll say he’s not married but he is. Not legally but he’s been in a serious committed relationship for 8 years. He’ll never leave her for you, you’ll only get crumbs. He’ll pursue you and sweet talk you but he won’t take you anywhere, won’t join you for a meal but if he does he won’t eat like a normal guy, won’t plan ahead, won’t commit to any future plans. He’ll disappear with no explanation and will get irritated if you question him. He controls everything – when you see him and what you do which is a lot of walks. When he decides he’s in the mood he turns on the charm and is very sweet but it doesn’t last. If he decides he wants intimacy it will have an expiration time, he won’t stay the night. It has to be spontaneous, not planned ahead of time. He’ll change his mind about you over and over again, backing off with no explanation or discussion. He hates real conversation and will avoid it at all costs. Everything has to stay at a surface level, anything more will scare him off. Trying to have a real relationship with him is a constant stress, always feeling off center, not knowing what to expect. Hot and cold, he loves you one day, the next he says you have to take a break. Save yourself the heartache, don’t even try with this guy.
Jack Burrows from Suffolk Uk
A lying cheating scum pretty much. Super manipulative to the point you believe anything he says when it’s all crap. He started seeing someone else behind my back so called it quits with me then continued to turn up at my door every three weeks to say he regretted his choice he loved and missed me wanted a family with me ect ect … eventually contacted this other girl about it and he had some nasty stuff to say about the both of us… he made out I lied about our miscarried he called me a fat slag and only wanted a shag cos I’d easily open my legs for him. And the story goes on. He truly is a piece of work!
Michael V from Killeen Texas
He’s a smooth talker who can easily manipulate you into a relationship and then he’ll be hot and cold making you feel insecure about his friends and coworkers at first but then say that he only wants you. He’ll do this until he has you feeling like you have confidence and let him have whatever he wants. He’ll say everything he does is for his son but never takes any steps to provide for his son and will say he’s working late when he’s out for drinks with his coworkers, one of which he’s likely sleeping with. As of the day this is written 9/9/23, he does not have his own car nor his own apartment.
Barrett James West Duffy from Lebanon, Oregon
I knew this man for several years before moving from Oregon. He was friendly back then. But over the past 7 years, Barret has contacted me every once in while, we chat for three days, and then he ignores me after that. I have no idea why he keeps doing this but I’m not letting him do it to me again. I kept hoping he might just be a regular friend but friends don’t gaslight like that. He’s not a good person anymore.
Chris McGuire from Little Rock, Arkansas
Chris McGuire- This was a sad and wild ride. I met Chris in spring of 2017. He was incredibly sweet in the beginning, but I was in in a vulnerable position (shouldn’t have even been in a relationship to begin with) and I allowed him to rush us. Within a week of meeting he asked me to move in with him, and within a few months we were engaged. By that time things had become a little traditional and I took care of things at our apartment while he worked. As it happens with some narcissists, after several months things began to turn abusive. Chris had severe anger fits which he claimed later he couldn’t remember.. If we argued even about little things, it would turn violent on his end. When I tried to leave him, he would tell me that nobody else would ever want me so I should just stay, He also threatened many times to lie and have me arrested for the fight. After two years of this, I finally found the strength to leave for good. Chris was NEVER this way to his friends and I doubt they would even believe he is like this behind closed doors. Please be careful with Chris. I have other experiences with him I am not listing here because it’s too painful. After the very final painful event, our loss, he never checked on me after to see if I was ok. He’s not a good person. He also bad-mouthed his ex-wife on a regular basis.
Kevin Johnson from Drain, Oregon and Williams, Arizona
Kevin Johnson- We lived in two different states through some (but not all) of our relationship. We were together about two years. I was in my home state trying to save up to move to be with him in Oregon, when he suddenly upped and moved to Arizona without discussing it with me. Once he moved there, an ex-girlfriend of his visited and they began to see each other behind my back. When I found out and confronted Kevin, he gave the usual BS excuse and said it was nothing. But he continued to see her and started gaslighting me. I figured once we moved in together things would settle down, though while I was working to move Kevin did absolutely nothing to help us as a couple, such as looking at places for us to live. I finally drove the 1200 miles to be with him in AZ. We had a ridiculous argument right after I arrived, he left me at a motel and never took my calls again no matter how much I tried to apologize. I had no choice but to travel those 1200 miles back to my home state with a broken heart. I do believe Kevin is this way at least in part because of how he was raised. Women do not have a voice and their feelings are disregarded. I believed him and blamed myself for the breakup for years. I’m glad I know now I was very wrong and really dodged his bullet. You might consider avoiding this guy if you ever run into him.
Keith Stephen Grace from Grandville, MI
I am simply going to paste the letter I sent him as it details the assault so I don’t have to be triggered writing it all out again:
I want you to know the damage you caused. How bad the depression gets on the days when I relive the things you did to me through intrusive thoughts. How devastated I am that I was abused and r*ped in my first s3xual relationship by someone I trusted. That if I think about being involved in s3x now I become nauseous and frightened. That I have even thrown up from thinking about it. That I now have a deep fear of men and their motivations. That I now look at heterosexual couples sometimes and wonder how any woman could subject herself to being with a man.
I want you to know how I want love and a relationship but am so terrified of being abused physically and s3xually again that any time someone shows interest (male or female) I retreat. That having sex again for the first time (if I ever do) is going to be a frightening and painful experience for me. That I now view it with dread. That it has become something I have to overcome before it can ever be something I enjoy.
I want you to know how I struggle everyday with my s3xual identity as a result of your actions. How I go back and forth between wondering if I’m gay, asexual, or bisexual.
I want you to understand that you are responsible for your actions. That it was your job to control yourself and respect my boundaries and not my job to constantly fight against you for a sense of respect and safety.
I want you to realize that pushing the boundaries of someone who is suffering from trauma to see how much you can get away with is abusive and predatory. That fetishizing my childhood r*pe (which makes you a ped0phile) and trying to sneak r*pe play into us having s3x after finding out about the s3xual assault is one of the sickest things you could have done.
I want you to understand that continuing to touch my breasts when I told you to stop and physically removed your hands is a s3xual assault (so is grabbing my rear in the parking lot of Taco Bell).
I want you to understand that trying to coerce me into giving you nude pics by becoming angry and yelling at me while I repeatedly told you no is abusive.
I want you to understand that slapping me in the middle of s3x without discussion or permission is assault, and that continuing to have s3x with me after I told you no in response to you asking me if I liked being slapped with my voice breaking and choking back tears in distress is r*pe. I want you to know how I literally felt something inside me give out when you forced that kiss on me and kept going. How I disassociated during the assault. I want you to know how I kept repeating ‘you’re okay, you survived it’ to myself in my head after it was over but could not put words to what had happened or how I truly felt about it because I couldn’t fully process the attack due to shock.
I want you to understand that becoming aggressive and yelling at me to get me to submit, yelling again to get me in the bedroom, and again to get me out of my clothes is s3xual coercion and r*pe. I want you to understand that the fact you did not ask permission to penetrate me when you were told you had to specifically ask permission for it puts your actions even more firmly in the category of r*pe.
I want you to know how helpless, frightened, and violated I felt both of the times you r*ped me.
I want you to understand that not being able to process an attack after it happens is the most common reaction to being attacked by a loved one. That shock and denial can keep you silent with confusion. That being heavily medicated with two emotional processing disorders (PTSD and autism- both officially diagnosed by this point) on top of that makes it near impossible to figure out what is happening emotionally or what to call it. And that none of that makes what you did to me my fault because nothing you did to me was under my control. You chose to do these things to me. You chose to put me in these harmful, damaging, and triggering situations without discussing these things beforehand. You chose to not follow the rules of consent. You chose to push boundaries. You chose to fetishize my childhood trauma. You chose to slap me. You chose to hurt me. You chose to coerce me. You chose to r*pe me.
This is on you. Your actions are your responsibility. And honestly I’m not sure how you live with yourself. You knew how vulnerable I was and how much I was already suffering. I will never understand why you made the choice to treat me this way. I never wanted to be treated this way and I certainly never stated that I wanted to be treated this way. I did not ask for it, I did not agree to it, and I did not deserve it.
I wonder sometimes if you have other victims. I wonder if those women you said think you’re a creep, those women you deemed “crazy girlfriends” are other victims of yours. If they should be calling you an abuser or r*pist rather than a creep. I’m sure I’m not the only one you’ve harmed. There are probably other women out there but for various reasons they never spoke up or reported.
I’m sure you’ll go through your life continuing to lie about what happened. You’ll keep telling people I was just looking for attention or that I’m crazy or that it was BDSM (something I once again never agreed to or asked for) or some other made up story to preserve this façade of innocence you’re projecting to the world. But your lies can’t change the truth of what happened. You abused me and you r*ped me. You are an abuser and a r*pist and there is nothing you can ever do to change that fact.
Andrew R from Stevens point
Serial manipulator, serial cheater and teen Predator..please becareful he is a Covert narcissist and puts on a really good show of a nice kind guy who’s very charismatic but he is the predication of evil.
Jerame Joseph Jolley AKA TRIPLE J from Henderson Nevada
My ex-boyfriend Mr Jeremy should win the award for scumbag , loser, sneakiest piece of s*** of the year. Or the century. I’m not even going to call him a man he’s a boy he’s a child he’s 43 years old still lives with his 91-year-old grandmother who supports him and is 42-year-old brother and daughter. If you ask about him many people will tell you that he’s a nice guy everybody knows him. He sleeps around and always has. With just about anybody and everybody matter of fact he had s3x with his now deceased ex girlfriends mother and stepfather. He has cameras all around his grandmother’s house including one in the bedroom which is constantly recording every move I make or anyone makes for that matter. Everyday he play this little game if he was in the mood or if he had talked to a girl prior to coming home he would run straight to the bedroom rewind the tape see if I did anything that makes him feel like I was being suspicious or sneaky and then he would then cause a fight and take off to whichever whomever whatever girl or w**** he would go and hang out with it I stuck around for 5 years. He cheated on me numerous times numerous times I even went to so far as to let him have a side chick as long as he come home to me what do you think he did he didn’t come home to me he come home when the girl wouldn’t please him so he come straight to me ask me for a b****** asked me to f*** and then I was a piece of s*** after that. There were times he had to go to work and he’d end up going to whichever girl for the moment’s house and call me he had the audacity to call me at 4:00 in the morning to pick him up from whatever side piece he was with that night and then start a fight with me choke me out strangle me hit me in the head because he did wrong he would take that out on me this guy is 100% loser no matter what comes out of his mouth it’s a lie maybe not to other people but if you’re his girlfriend forget about it you’re scum to him beware you have been warned
Michael Jones from Fort Wayne Indiana
Rarely worked, lived off my income and under my roof. Exaggerates “construction talent” and blamed all errors in business on his brother Adam. Lies about being separated from his wife Andrea and wanting to divorce her. Treats Andrea so poorly and talks badly about her. Lost jobs shortly after getting hired, because he would frequently call in “sick” and employers saw overstated experience & knowledge and VERY poor work ethic. Never paid rent, for food, dates, or anything and had a fit when I told him to sell his broken down Jeep for $5k to pay me for a fraction of what he owed me and what I spent on him. Frequently depressed and emotionally manipulative, often trying to get you depressed and encourage you to commit suicide. Always on phone (seriously major addiction to it) and secretive about what he was doing & extraordinarily possessive of phone. Irrationally jealous and breaks your phones and resorts to physical violence, often restraining and choking you then taking or breaking your possessions. Held me hostage in several vehicles, not stopping and making me urinate in car, purposely driving erratically to hurt me. Stole my car and had to involve police to get it back. VERY insecure, cried, took off with my car and threw fit when his “manliness” was threatened by other men. Total Beta not an ounce of Alpha in his blood. Best years of his life are still high school. My memory of him still makes me physically ill.
Carlos Salazar from Seattle
TEXTBOOK NARCISSIST!!! Run for your life!!! He will lovebomb you then discard you in the cruelest way! Malignant narcissist!!!
Kenny (Kenneth) Lynch from Ringwood NJ
This man has very serious mental problems which he hides behind his charm. He is a liar and a cheat. He is extremely cheap. He has Obsessive Compulsive Personality disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
He has a long term girlfriend named Karen who lives in Suffern NY that he claims he isn’t having s3x with. He will gladly have s3x with you while seeing her behind your back. Kenny is too much of a coward to tell Karen the he is having s3xual and romantic relationships with other women.
Do yourself a favor and stay away from this creep. He is a mean, nasty, and disgusting human being.
Chris McGuire, Little Rock, Arkansas- This was a sad and wild ride. I met Chris in spring of 2017. He was incredibly sweet in the beginning, but I was in in a vulnerable position (shouldn’t have even been in a relationship to begin with) and I allowed him to rush us. Within a week of meeting he asked me to move in with him, and within a few months we were engaged. By that time things had become a little traditional and I took care of things at our apartment while he worked. As it happens with some narcissists, after several months things began to turn abusive. Chris had severe anger fits which he claimed later he couldn’t remember.. If we argued even about little things, it would turn violent on his end. He was mentally, physically, and emotionally abusive. When I tried to leave he would tell me that nobody else would ever want me so I give up on leaving. After two years of this, I finally found the courage to leave for good. Chris was NEVER this way to his friends and I doubt they would even believe he is like this behind closed doors. Please be careful with Chris. I have other experiences with him I am not listing here because it’s too painful. After the very final painful event, our loss, he never checked on me after to see if I am ok. He’s not a good person.
Kevin Johnson- Drain, Oregon and Williams, Arizona
– We lived in two different states through some (but not all) of our relationship. We were together about two years. I was in my home state trying to save up to move to be with him in Oregon, when he suddenly upped and moved to Arizona without discussing it with me. Once he moved there, an ex-girlfriend of his visited and they began to see each other behind my back. When I found out and confronted Kevin, he gave the usual BS excuse and said it was nothing. But he continued to see her and started gaslighting me. I figured once we moved in together things would settle down, though while I was working to move Kevin did absolutely nothing to help us as a couple, such as looking at places for us to live. I finally drove the 1200 miles to be with him in AZ. We had a ridiculous argument right after I arrived, he left me at a motel and never took my calls again no matter how much I tried to apologize. I had no choice but to travel those 1200 miles back to my home state with a broken heart. I do believe Kevin is this way at least in part because of how he was raised. Women do not have a voice and their feelings are disregarded. I believed him and blamed myself for the breakup for years. I’m glad I know now I was very wrong and really dodged his bullet. You might consider avoiding this guy if you ever run into him.
Richard Miguel Guerra from Miami Fl
He will turn into a chameleon just so he can be your ideal partner. Then his true self comes out. He’s a cheater a narcissist he will make u believe you’re crazy! When he gets on his drinking benders he will abandon you if you’re out on a date or out of state. He is the master at ghosting you for days and blame u for not reaching out. He will destroy your self-esteem and sanity.
David Jonathan Michael from Fort Lauderdale, FL. (Born in Louisiana. Grew up in Washington)
David is a charming narcissist who has the ability to wear different masks and be whatever his victim wants him to be. I sadly wasted 8 months with this A-hole. He initiated everything, from the start cute little dates, to asking me to be his girlfriend, to ask me to move in with him, and asking me to eventually marry him. He left out the big details: how he is a pathological liar, master manipulator, gaslighter, CHEATER, and emotionally abusive. He jumps from girl to girl: because he’s addicted to the honeymoon phase in the beginning of the relationship. As soon as problems come up- mainly because he’s getting caught doing shady and hurtful stuff- he is already looking for another girl to date and f-k, because he lacks the ability to be faithful and loyal. He is addicted to meth too, so ontop of his s3x addiction and p0rn addiction: he gets horrible paranoia and grand delusions that he believes are real. Anytime I left the house or his side, I had to make sure I had evidence of everything I was doing because he would come up with crazy stuff and push and accuse you of doing wrong when he is really just telling on himself but he claims he doesn’t do anything wrong and the world is against him
He will take a strong independent woman and strip her of everything. And once that girl is dependent on him, he will kick the girl out of his life and leave her broken, confused, and contemplating EVERYTHING.
If you meet this man, run away. Don’t fall for his charm and tricks again, he is just out to hurt you, and continuously feed his ego.
Because I wasn’t here
Erik Nordland from Portland, OR
This guy would treat me great then flip flop and treat me horrible. I tried to break up with him, but he would not let me with great excuses and apologies. Then he would be mad at me and cues me of trying to break up with him all the time, making it out to be a bad thing about me. He vilified me to his friends after gaslighting me and getting me to a place where I was embarrassingly reactive. He made me sound like a horrible person to his friends to the point where they wanted nothing to do with me and he made sure that I knew it. Tried to ignore it and he told me there was nothing he could do about the situation. He would lie about little things for no reason and insult me out of nowhere, and then say that he felt like he was walking on eggshells around me when I would try to tell him that the way he spoke to me on a regular basis was not OK. Then eventually, he broke up with me and made it all out to be my fault. I know this was abuse because I am still left feeling very confused. I know what gaslighting is exactly what happened. I also feel very used like he used me to prop up his own fragile ego and I’m still processing all of this abuse and trying to make sense of it. It’s strange because he seems like a good guy on one hand but then downright hateful, insidious, and callus mean-spirited on the other very Jackle and Hyde. It felt very much like he needed to complete control of me and the relationship in the situation for it to be good. He really vilified me and threw me under the bus demonize mean vilified mean it made me out to be the bad guy the crazy ex girlfriend, right?
Marcus Pickering from Illinois
He’s a gigantic man child. We initially dated, I thought he was the best thing I’ve ever had. What I realized was I settled for some reason.
I would work at 6am and he’d keep the lights on loud noise and be yelling until sometimes 3/4/5am whatever him and his thug friends wanted to do since they didn’t have real jobs anyway. He would just sleep until he got up for work. Leaves trash everywhere and doesn’t pick up for weeks on end. When you try to clean it he yells at you, when you try to help he will complain at you. He will want you to take care of his every need. Hes ‘not’ going to get a license and drive. He’s ‘not’ going to grow up and be responsible financially to pay bills just blow it all on his whatever he wants first.
He will not do any basic hygiene, (bathing, teeth brushing etc) for weeks on end. He ll lie to anyone anytime to play sides to get whatever he wants.
He ll take advantage of anything you have, take/keep anything of yours he believes he can keep or is owed. He took advantage of my care of him and had me help him with bills, food, taking him to help him get medicine, taking advantage of anything I have/own, and know.
He ll shower you with all the love and affection and care that drowns you in it at the beginning and then just start to cut you out and tell you you’re all he wants and needs. How much he loves you, then block you from everything after isolating you, once he gets you isolated away from your friends and family.
He made a new social media, messaged me long after cutting me off under the guise of apologizing for what he did, wanting to know how I am, messaging hinting at him wanting either my attention or to get back together, “doing great I’m on my own(but pics you sent are you and your hood friend in his van) but not doing great( sounds homeless, got a dog but i gotta give away) but doing great cause….,” and lashed out at me when I told him how what he did was wrong.
I hope no one else has to deal with his mental breakdowns, lying, manipulations, excuses and just horrible attitude/hygine.
Kevin Vance from North Carolina
Started off seeing him, he definitely escalated feelings. ‘Knowing the entire time he was moving’-supposedly as well.
Promised dates, going out, trips. Talked to me about going out and treating me. Led me on about his intentions talking to me how much he talks about me to family, friends, etc. How important I am to him and how much he cares. But really cause? He ignores you for other women, on his phone constantly, talks about them in your presence, has girls come to visit him, talks about all the things he cares about you for but only wants to try to get you into bed with him. Even breaking up with him all he could do was keep trying to grab into my body and asking if he can stay. ‘Crying’ about how he’s going to miss you too, but has already moved on.
Tried to say he was good to me.
Like girls stay away from this one he’s definitely toxic and will do what he wants in his “self journey-finding himself” to do whatever he wants and give you poor excuses.
Joshua Johnson from North Carolina
He was controlling, verbally/mentally manipulative, if something doesn’t go his way it’s never his fault always something/someone else.
He would accuse me of cheating on him, being a wh-re.
The worst experience was him screaming this at me while trying to simultaneously pull on my steering wheel while driving.
He’s made different social media accounts to stalk me or try to talk to me after blocking him.
He’s a gigantic man child and good luck to anyone who encounters him.
Cole Minter from Jacksonville State, Alabama
Cole Minter is just a stupid loser. He is lazy and prefers to lay around all day rather than go out with me when I want. Furthermore, after months of dating and leading me on, he told me that he was a “sissy” and that he actually liked to dress as a woman and be with a man! He will lie to you and break your heart. He is clumsy, has no sense of direction, has a small penis, and dresses like a girl for other men!
Chris Julian Medina from Sunland park/El Paso
Emotionally, mentally and physically abusive. Stalks, harasses, physically damaged my property on multiple occasions when he was upset. He restrained me by my pregnant belly multiple times when I was carrying his child. He has now kicked my door down twice trying to get to his daughter because he lost all custody of her because of all the stuff he’s done. He thinks there’s nothing wrong with his actions. He told me at the beginning of our relationship that I would never get rid of him, he wasn’t joking! Please don’t get involved with him or he will do the same to you, the last five years of my life have been hell!!! It’s been draining to say the least, I’ve lost hair, weight and my sense of self. No one should ever have to go through this much sh-t from the person that claims to love them!!! I have no choice but to move from my home in order to get peace, I will have my address sealed so he cannot find us again. Please don’t let this happen to you you deserve better!!!
Stefan from Maryland
He was by far the worst boy I’ve ever met in my life. I want to warn other girls who may encounter him. He emotionally abused me for 6 months. That is domestic abuse. He lied to me everyday. He took advantage of me. He discarded me when he got what he wanted. He is a sick person. I pray for the safety of the girls he interacts with. I pray for the female friends he has who don’t know what’s coming. I pray for his family. I have done so much healing and I’m so proud of myself for overcoming the trauma and manipulation he put me through.
Stephen David Horton Jr. from Scurry, TX
He is a narcissistic @$$ to the EXTREME He lies to all females, goes to bed with any female, has sex w/ one and while she’s still in his bed, goes and gets his ex and brings her home WITH OUT A WORD OF WARNING & hadnt even said a word about wanting the one in his bed to leave. He doesn’t care if any female has any satisfaction or enjoys any s3xual activity as long as he does. and if he doesnt get what he wants when and how. there is hell to blame and it’s all your fault. He is so obsessed with his lower anatomy’s size it’s absurd. Has no couth or consideration to the hurt and heartbreak he causes women to go thru. has been known to f-k more than 1 girl in less than 2 hours with no shower in between and no protection either. needs ego strokes constantly. and is a male chauvanistic pig unlike no other. all women are b-tches. and I hope that the b-tch he’s with right now enjoys how I taste on his d-ck because he didn’t shower today after we f-ed this morning, prior to picking his ex gf up. YES IT’S CRUDELY GROSS AND YES I SURE DID TAKE IT TO THAT LEVEL.
A LEVEL I SHOULDVE TAKEN IT TOO LONG BEFORE NOW.
#SORRY,NOTSORRY
#MEANWHATISAYSAYWHATIMEAN
#EVERYSINGLEWORD #UNAPOLOGETIC#UDESERVEWORSE
#REVENGEISADISHBESTSERVEDCOLD”
#URNOT”BROKEN”UR T-O-X-I-C A-F!!!!
Rant Over for now
THANKS YOU SOOOOO MUCH FOR LETTING ME UNLOAD ALL THIS HERE. IT’S APPRECIATED & I’M SO GRATEFUL! WILL BE SPREADING THE WORD
#NOREGRETS,NOTAKEBACKS,NOREMORSE
#IGOT99PROBLEMSBUTAD-CKAINT1
#NOTINTIMIDATEDBYUREXGF
Adam Max Trefonides from MA US
Cheater, stealther, non payer of debt. Not a trustworthy person. If I had known what this person was like I would not have dated this person at all. I regret that. Waste of my life, my time and caused damages from mental & emotional stress and harm, health, financial and trust in people and men in general. Self absorbed egotistical high opinion of self and not bothered in the slightest if the problems from his decisions end up in another persons life. Never apologized or tried to make up for it in any way.
Christopher G. Fogel from Placer County, Eldorado County, Sacramento County. California
He’s a grandiose narcissist, alcoholic, lying, cheating, hobosexual. We met it was a one night stand, we ran into each other again and eventually ended up dating. He constantly talks about how great a worker he is, yet he doesn’t have a job. He talks about chivalry and how he’s showing women its not dead. However, he physically attacked me, cheated, lied, and didn’t listen when I took back consent. He is a text book narcissist. He tells half truths about his past, his jobs, everything. He will lie straight to your face while you’re holding the evidence. He is a very bad person that will mirror you. I fell in love. I didn’t know about narcissist and the trauma bond. I’m in therapy because of him. I’ve met 2 of his exes, he did the same behavior to them as well.
So many red flags I didn’t see. He says he doesn’t have social media, he’s lying. Hes on dating sites too. It’s getting close to the cold season so he’s probably on the prowl looking for his next victim to live with. He will cheat, over and over. He sleeps with anyone. He doesn’t shower or brush regularly, I had to make a rule. He’s got a suspended license and a current dui charge. He choked me one night at a dinner party then drove drunk after. Getting the dui. When he tells you anything ask many questions. You’ll notice he will get vague and put his head down, stop talking. Every story makes him the hero, or victim. He’s never the problem. He talks about his exs nicely until drunk because he knows it’s a red flag. He has no friends longer then 6mths. He’s been 86d from most bars in my area. I’m the craziest ex because I exposed his lies. Now he’s playing the victim, he’s actually an abusive drunk, he destroys women then moves on to the next.
I’m completely changed after dating him. Therapy is helping but it’s taking so long. The withdrawal is no joke, I’m going through hell. I don’t want anyone to ever have to feel this way, or go through what I did. The more I learn about narcissist the more I see I have a type. Save yourself from paying for a therapist, don’t date Christopher fogel in the placer county, Eldorado County, Sacramento area. He will lie, he will cheat, he will hurt you. You won’t find any info on him on the intro because he makes sure to erase anything and everything. He cheated on his ex wife and some other stuff, the divorce is sealed. He’s has horrible spending habits, works for weird older men but never can keep the job. He’s very aggressive when drunk, gets mean when he’s discarding you. When I spoke about reporting the s3xual coherence he called me 9 times calling me a cop calling rat. I have text of him admitting what he did. He pretended to turn himself in to the cops about it. He literally made a whole scenario up about fight cops and getting kicked out of the police station. I got pregnant and had to have an abortion. He used my abortion to try and get sympathy s3x from his ex. When she told me I lost it. I couldn’t believe someone would do that. He will do anything to get women. Protect yourself and your heart. Christopher Fogel is a very mean and abusive man. Beware of Christopher fogel in california.
I’m sorry he hurt you. Chris fogel is rehab now, playing a victim. He blames the last ex for his abusive behavior. Like a narcissist he’s trying to get sympathy for his problems and actions. Anyone that believes it is not very intelligent. He’s made victims in Northern California for the 7 yrs. Now that one ex publicly exposed Chris Fogel he’s covering his tracks. Don’t be fooled, rehab doesn’t change the violent attacks, the sexual assault or the evil, horrible trauma he’s inflicted. Narcissist do not change. They just get better at hiding. Chris Fogel’s got flying monkeys and enablers in Foresthill,CA. As long as they’re covering for him and paying to help him hide, he will be hurting other women.
Daaunte Embry from Indianapolis, Indiana
He has lied,cheated on me out here sleeping wit me raw and out here sleeping wit females he’s cheating with raw too! He has abused me almost breaking fingers on right hand and has abused other females he’s been with plus he busted my bedroom door and sliced a 500 dollar purse with a knife .As well steals and this stuff this was our second time together he don’t the same thing the first time we was together 3 yrs cheated on me wit over 35 females never using protection on none the females just doin them all raw and even then he was abusive to me punching me in face while driving and done other stuff to me as well other females to being abusive
Eddie lang from Stanwood wa.
This man is a s3x addict alcoholic and lies so badly He is not to be trusted for any reason and he is homosexual in the closet with his work buddy willy
Paul Pontii from Kingston, Ontario, Canada
Paul Pontii is a classic psych0path. He will answer your ad off of social media platforms, appearing to give you what you ask for. He comes across as charismatic, reliable, calm and easygoing at first. He is a manipulator that uses mind control to get you to submit to his will. He claims to be a Dom in the Domination and Submission world. He does not respect women, is verbally abusive, and loves to humiliate you with his words, and tear down women. He does not respect women.
It is almost impossible to get him to carry out a decent coversation with you, although he is very intelligent. He is emotionally unavailable, and I have reason to believe he has had childhood trauma.
He has admitted to dating at least three women at a time when he was younger.
He is a s3x addict, who wants you to indulge and be present every night while he masturbat3s online or on the phone, and gets angry if you are not available until the middle of the morning. He has had s3x with many people in different scenarios.
He is evasive, and I have reason to believe that he is working with others. Beware! For women that want to find a good Dom in the Domination and Submission K1nk world, beware of him. He is a Master Manipulator, and dangerous! He asked me questions about who I socialize with, and I got the impression he was trying to isolate me. He is very jealous, and egomaniacal. Please protect your emotions, and even better, don’t get involved with him.
Tang Zhe Chong (Kevin) from Born in Zhe Jiang, China. Canadian citizen from Toronto but lives around the world
Travels around the world and sleeps with girls, pretending he’s looking for a serious relationship, then cheats on you. Takes nudes of them and stores it in his phone as souvenirs. Don’t believe a word he says!
Goes by Zhe, his lifelong dream is to be a business school professor. No moral compass. Has undergone multiple cosmetic procedures including limb lengthening surgery and hair transplantation. Tattoos on left arm of a bear in the forest and right arm with Koi fish and flowers. Anchor tattoo on chest. Currently working in Singapore as a research assistant.
Robert Jarrett aka Trevon Moore from Savannah, Georgia
Met him on Moco Space in 2015, during that time he was living in Atlanta, GA; told me he was divorced because I do not date or talk to men that are married or separated. He lied to me after the 3-year breakup in 2018. Years later, I wanted to rekindle and reached out to him in 2021, this time I was with him for 2 years (still called him Trevon or Trey because that’s the name I knew him by, but his legal name is Robert Hearns Jarrett Jr. named after his father) Mother’s obituary is public record (Angela Woods Jarrett). I had caught him in the same lie again about being married because I video-called his phone and his wife answered my phone; he had told his wife that he didn’t have a fiancée and that he didn’t know what I was talking about. I want to warn any woman who comes across this man; he is sick and well-goes to dialysis for Polycystic kidney disease (PKD) and just transferred back to Jacksonville, Florida for work. If anyone comes across this man on any social media, he claims to be in the lifestyle of a dominant (Humble King). He will tell you that his name is Trevon Moore, but it is not his birth name; he’s using a false name and pretense to get over on women and used them while all the while still married to his wife-his real legal and birth name is Robert Jarrett, he would get to know every single thing about you, make proclamations of love to you, and propose to you. But knowingly he can’t marry you because he’s already married (he doesn’t deny this, nor does he show you proof that he’s divorced after asking) If you ask questions about his family, he will tell you he doesn’t get along with any of them. This is true because I tried and failed to really find out who I had been involved with for the past 2 years, ladies please be aware of this person-he is living a terrible lie under a false name.
Khalid Williams from Newmarket, Ontario, Canada
The absolute worst partner I have ever had. 4 years of toxicity, physical and emotional abuse, manipulation, gaslighting, and violence. He will die thinking he did nothing wrong. Run. Fast.
Donny L. Pugh, Jr. from Port Orchard, WA
This guy comes on way too strong from the very beginning and he won’t leave you alone. He has deep seated mommy problems that he talks about constantly. He is a True Malevolent Narcissist. He held me hostage in my car with my dog and raged at me about how I was flirting with a 21 year old kid. I am 55 years old and would never go after somebody young enough to be my grandkid. He was texting my son’s 21 year old girlfriend negative things about me that aren’t true and threatened to get me fired. He is currently threatening and stalking me. Stay away from this guy. He is crazy and his skills in bedroom are lacking. Yikes!!
Kai H. from Indiana
My ex had a very destructive bipolar like attitude. If something didn’t go his way it was always your fault. He would name call you and attempt to control your every move. He believed that women were all weak, stupid and basically s1utty.
He would make accusations that I was a premadonna, stupid, s1utty and more. He never once showed any compassion regarding my life and told me that my career was worthless (even though I’m more educated than he is). He will never remember your birthday nor buy you anything. He’s a big whiny man-child who honestly acts like a 5 year old who just got sent to the corner. He pursued me for months and then threw a hissy fit when I got a new man.
Willie cox from Danville Illinois
My ex is a player. He likes to be on dozens of dating sites under different names including our sons name. So sometimes it’s Devante, Isaiah, Treyvon and I’m sure there is more but basically this lack of a man will move in with you , use you for any money you have so basically a freeloader who doesn’t buy clothes or diapers for his kids and busy out on streets in a car he has no license to drive. Lady’s beware you will go from a stable household to debt where all you do is work while he is out seeing other women and gambling.
Stephen Goldberg from Richmond, Virginia/Washington, DC
Stephen Goldberg from Richmond, Virginia, but now working in the Arlington and Washington, DC area, is a domestic abuser and a cheater. He works in IT/tech support and comes off as a nice enough guy, but he is a prolific lair, cheater, and violent abuser.
He sent at least one ex to the hospital. Stephen Goldberg deserves to be in jail. Stay far away from him or you could end up unconscious on your apartment floor.
Christopher Luna from Austin, TX
He’s actually my ex-husband. He was controlling throughout our 7-year marriage. After I gave birth to our son (on my ex’s birthday), he insisted that I work at just 7 weeks after the birth. I had an emergency C-section and was still in pain and limping. He didn’t care. When I was sleep-deprived and asked for a babysitter, he said no. Then he insulted me. Then he made a deal with me that I would work for 2 more years, and then I could stay home with our son. When I completed the 2 years, he said we couldn’t afford it. The last straw was Christmas, when I wanted to invite a few friends over for a holiday party, and he said no. What kind of partner says no to a party with friends at Christmas? I was upset, and I told him I wanted a divorce. But I didn’t file. I reached out to my therapist. After the holidays, he filed for divorce, and he lied about my mental health to get custody. He kept my son away from me for 5 months. My son wants to live with me, but my ex insisted on 50/50 custody. And his biggest priority was getting more money from the sale of our house, plus the tax break. My lawyer told me to settle because court was risky and unpredictable. So he gets to lie and manipulate things, and my son and I pay the price. He blamed me for him filing for divorce. I apologized for hurting him, but it’s been 7 months, and he still blames me for everything.
Jordan Ackerman from Carlsbad, CA
He abandoned me pregnant and said to have an abortion 9yrs ago. Since then he avoids following through on his agreed visitation, rarely seeing our child. Him and his family are wealthy but he pays bare minimum child support and his ex business partner revealed to me that he hides money in shell accounts and LLcs and uses his sisters name to help do that to avoid proper child support amount. Our child needed back to school clothes and ge bought her 5 items from the MEND section, all hideous and large and when I asked him to help more then that he proceeded to call her overweight and blame me for the way he thinks she looks to him and told me to take her to a THRIFT store and buy her a wardrobe with $50 all while ge drives expensive cars and lives my the ocean and in Palm Springs. He talked this way about a 9yr old little girl amd I have the texts to prove it. He’s by my definition a deadbeat dad and her grandparents could care less.
Steven Hernandez from St. Albans, Vt
He is a narcissist.
Be destroys women by making them believe he’s a wonderful guy.
He wears a particular uniform once a month…
He is physically abusive.
He uses what little power he believes he has to literally smear your name, create drama, literally screws every single woman he can find.
He’ll say that his exes are crazy, want him, are obsessed with him — none of that is true.
He’s cruel and has extreme anger issues.
He will destroy your life.
toni from Las Vegas
He cheated on me with a group of guys! He became a sissy and met with men and sold his body behind my back! He dresses like a girl and always wore my clothes for these meetings! He deserves this!
Brent Bennett from Central New York State
This sick man in his late 40s is extremely abusive. He is a narcissistic sociopath that has no boundaries. He will do the utmost on your head, and leave you in the dust. Any age range from 18 to 60. He moved in the sub house and s3x s1av3 he found for us, thinking I’d be all for it, and I destroyed his AND HER fantasy. They’re actively hunting for another woman and the NEPA is also being hunted… My old hometown area. He uses methamphetamines to drug you, and increase your s3x drive to get you to do what he wants. I have screenshots of when he was manipulating me to make a profile to hunt down a woman so we could “r*pe her and throw her in the snow”. These two tried a plan to convince me to go to his house, unknowing she was already moved in, so we could finally meet. I tried warning her of what he was trying to do behind my back, and she never answered. Because… She was in on it. It was also done to other women who have contacted me about it. This man is also studying psychology to open a business where he can “help” WOMEN ONLY. It’s so he can have his harem he as always wanted… I am putting word out everywhere to warn women of these predators. He is extremely skilled at lying, and manipulating. BE CAREFUL LADIES!!! ALL AGES AND SIZES!!!
Richard Diliberto from Satellite Beach Florida
He completely took advantage of me and my family for 6 years we have a child together that is 3 years old. He has another child that is 16. He never took care of or was there for in her life even when I stepped in I took care of her. He caused me and his daughters and my daughter that he’s been around since she was born so much distress from constantly deserting her more than one occasion he destroyed our family my father my children he depleted us emotionally physically and financially. I’ve given him everything he has a buisness he claims he built but me and my father purchased everything for him to just maintain a buisness. Please Beware of this man and his evil intentions he is physically and mentally abusive and will never change. He tried to hit my 74 year old father with a chair. He has done everything to try to separate the sisters that lived together their whole lives and is trying to harm their mother by trying to put her in jail he is the worst man I’ve ever met in my life and I’m not supposed to have hate or anger towards anyone I truly try to be humble but God and karma will come his way. He is a user and abuser and cannot take care of himself his mother bought him new equipment he can’t do anything for himself he’s out for himself and will selfishly take advantage of the next woman he comes across because he loves no one he is a addict and has used drugs while the mother supported the kids. He is one to completely look the other way. I wish I did but I can’t say that because I love my daughter so much but boy I wish I never met this man.please God
Victor Li from San Francisco/Houston/New York
I met Victor on Hinge in SF. When we met, he was a perfect gentleman, extremely charismatic. We went on a couple dates and then he had a family emergency and he never messaged me again. I recently saw a TikTok exposing him as a serial cheater that had girls in several different states. After contact some girls, it was revealed that he is a serial cheater and a pathological liar.
Seb Meier from Venezuela
This guy is a total narcissist CRAZY dont date him he is abusive and siko!!
Josiah Cone from Altoona PA
This guy is a total f-boy. He texted me for two days all day all night and then basically came on so strong almost to the point where he was really aggressive. He asked me to the movies and then said he couldnt afford it, only to go to the bar that night to probably pick up more girls. BEWARE LADIES
Josh Salas from New York, Brooklyn
This guy, who’s name Josh Salas is a Latin American guy. When we first met at 2017 he was really kind, gentle, romantic. He was cheated on 2 times before and I would never think he will do smth same to me, because he knows the pain of it. Long time about 2 years I couldn’t understand why his exes cheated on him if he is so amazing? But then O started notice, that several times when we already came back home he started to tel me about girls who were flirting with him. And instead of show attention to me to let them know we are together, he, I’m pretty sure just flirted with them back. I understand it only rn. I already gave a birth for our baby when I was only 23 and he was 30. First year he was good to us even tho we already the whole year lived in different countries, because he was making docs for me to come back in USA to be as official marriage couple. We planned future together. While I’m in my country he used to get for me a lot of gifts and for our baby and they are still there in NYC. Then, in 2 years after we started date, one thing happened, that always changed my mi f about him. While I was alone taking are about our baby in my country, I saw in his live Instagram how he talks in a camera to several girls who showed them naked butts. After that I didn’t wanna be with him, but only because we have a baby I decided to give him a chance just for a baby. When he found out that I saw this live he was telling sorry bunch of times and he was supposly really sorry. At least it looked like that. Then in a half of the year, 1 of January he telling me that we are actually not together already 2!!!! years!!!! When just yesterday he was telling me how much he loves me!!! In 3 months he blocked me in all social medias. The in 3 more months he blocked me in what’s app and FaceTime. Our the only place where he and baby used to talk. He dissapear for 2 weeks while I stayed alone with baby on my hands don’t know what to do next. Then he called me only in 3 weeks after disappearing from a fake phone l. That’s how we are talking still already the whole year. I do t want talk to him, but I try make everything that baby got at least some connection with him. The other days I found out, that he started have a new gf exactly same period, when he dissapear for 3 weeks and started talk to us from a fake phone. I just saw on her Instagram pics, that he started give away all those new gifts that he got for me while I’m in my country and didn’t have a cnahce to get them in person. He also made for her exactly same necklace just with her name. Looks like he is trying to make her a copy of me. But to be honest she is not even a half version of me. Not good at all.
He is those type of guy that can also talk to other girls same time when he is in relationships. Don’t trust him. He lies very good. You will never believe his puppy eyes. Trust me. He also makes music (that is really horrible) and Troy g to be on social medias those person who is not really him. He is very very broke boy. Not a man at all. He never keeps his words. Joshuaflyboy is the worst ever person I met in my life. That’s his name everywhere if you are interested.
BANE MOSLEY from JACKSONVILLE/MIDDLEBURG Fl
This man is a total parasite. He’s an institutionalized narcissistic egomaniac, sociopath, and psychopath been in prison more than he’s been out and that’s where he should be Society is not safe with this form of a human body walking around but it’s actually the devil running around..his whole life getting by on his looks fortunately Karma kicked in is last bid took a major hit on his looks. I knew he was a devil when when I first met him I rode a four-year bid with him treated him like a king got whatever he wanted spent $10,000 only to find out so I took care of his other drug addicted girlfriend which mind you I’m not a junkie took care of her 2 year stay in county ,and took care of one of his other little girlfriend’s probation ..and I have no idea who else I helped take care of ..He got to work release got the $300 phone he insisted he had to have and got his $2,000 worth of clothing when he got to work release and had no problem at all just brushing me off .. but him not being in my life is definitely a blessing I’m too much of a grown woman for a f-boy .he wants women that he can run game on All he knows how to do is sell meth and he’s not even good at that because he can’t stay out of prison long enough to sell it. He is the most vile person that I’ve ever come across. I cannot imagine spending 4 years of my life every single day with someone talking to them multiple multiple multiple times a day catering to them and then just so easily like I was never anything to him at all whatsoever, and without one conscious thought set my soul on I’m fire let me dead in the eyes as I’m burning and dying and laughing at the same time that’s him what he does he gets off on that. They are called cons for a reason. He’s also known to throw hands .. luckily I dodge that bullet too but I don’t think that either one of us would have survived the first fight ..tell me one time it was his way or my way .He prefers unattractive drug addicted women who will put up with him because they need his dope but that was not me I was his first non-junkie girlfriend. Now the thought of being called his anything just literally makes my stomach turn. This man does not have one good redeeming quality about his self at all everything about him is scam see what I can get out of you . He likes to see how big of a clown I can make out of you and then toss you aside.. he’s also currently in the middle of an investigation of the worst kind if you can only imagine. Crossing my fingers that he has to pay for what he did to many women.Told I wasn’t going to be happy until he was that where he belongs which is behind bars or no longer breathing my air which means that he passed away from natural causes… beware ladies if you run across the scumbag run
Nick Sweeney from Baton Rouge, Louisiana USA
This is an abridged story of an ex from a few years ago. I’ve been wanting a way to warn other women to stay away from this boy. I’ve finally found somewhere where I can do so. Please be advised, if you are triggered by DA/DV and name calling, don’t read on.
I met Nick sweeney during a very dark time in my life. He’s from baton rouge, Louisiana.
My heart was broken due to believing that I was unwanted and amounted to nothing. I was convinced i was no longer good at my job and was just utterly broken. In rolls Nick who eased the pain I felt in my heart.
That is until I did something he didn’t like. It didn’t matter what it was. It didn’t matter what I said. I was always wrong and always a “stupid b1tch” or a “c*nt”. It started out because I was worried about him staying over for WEEKS at a time (my roommates didn’t like him). If I told him no, he would verbally abuse me until I gave him what he wanted. My roommates would leave the entire time he was there and wouldn’t come back until he was gone.
He would throw things at me, snatch things out of my hand and break them, throw entire pots of food on the floor, scream at me, verbally and mentally abused me, and even demonstrate how he’d like to bash my head in with a wooden cooking utensil.
I stayed because he made me feel something other than the pain I was feeling. Eventually, one pain was traded for another. I began to wake up every single day with a painful knot in my stomach. As soon as I opened my eyes, I dreaded the day. I was losing myself in this vicious and abusive relationship. I was anxious and on edge all the time.
The final straw was when he put his hands on me for the first time. He went from 0-100. The argument was over him forcing me to go to sleep for the night. It was 9pm and I wanted time by myself. He wasn’t having it. He flipped out. Pushed me to the ground, kept me from leaving my house, ripped my shirt off of me, stole my wallet and keys. When I tried to make a mad dash for the back door, he grabbed my dogs leash, hooked it around my neck, yanked me back, and tried to choke me out. I was eventually able to escape with my dog, But not before he punched me in the face as I got into my car. He was a hair too slow afterwards. I was able to lock my doors and keep him from dragging me out of my car. I have a strong feeling if I wouldn’t have gotten away, he would have used his gun on me that night. Later that night when we were safely at my friend’s house, we found that he had hit my dog on the head with something so hard that she had a wound on it.
He stayed at my apartment for over a week. In that time, he took a knife to my walls and sliced all the way down the hall, punched huge holes in the walls, wrote a long nasty letter on the wall in front of the door so everyone could see “what a horrible girlfriend I was”. There was trash everywhere and he stole many dumb things just to spite me. (like a cast iron pan that I bought) he squeezed and entire bottle of lube on the carpet because “if lube is needed, the woman is failing. She should never need lube”
If you’re friends with him, stay away. He will use you and throw you away. Countless friends of his put him up in their homes only for him to literally destroy things, such as a bathroom sink, in their house and refuse to fix what he broke.
He is abusive towards all women. Even knows he doesn’t know. If a woman slights him in any way, she’s a “f-ing b1tch” and he will threaten to kill her. He threatened to throw rocks at the rental managers car, beat her up, and kill her for towing his car that was illegally parked.
Please, stay away from him. You cannot fix him. Don’t fall into his trap of making you feel worthless. You deserve better than that.
P.s. if you have animals, he will abuse them. He had a dog he picked up from some friends and that same day he punched the dog repeatedly to “show her where her place was”. We had given them bones from the butcher once and failed to realize that too much bone would give the dogs explosive diarrhea. They couldn’t control it. He stomped on his dog multiple times and she was screaming. It was horrible. Nick Sweeney is a horrible, awful sorry excuse for a human being. When you see him, run away. Don’t walk. And don’t look back.
Sabbir Rahman from United Kingdom
Verbally abusive and once threw a plastic bottle in my direction.
He also was communicating with other girls when in a relationship with me.
We broke up 2014.
Sean Gilbert Langley from Warrenton, VA
He has been charged with domestic violence against his pregnant girlfriend. He is an alcoholic. He is addicted to meth. He is a cheater, a liar. He is a narcissist. He hides all of this very well. He keeps the mask on. But if you are around him long enough, it will fall off and you’ll see. He says he only abuses the ones he really loves. He will have s3x with anyone male or female. He rarely uses a condom unless he is forced by the other person. He has STDs. Does not disclose that. He has four children that he currently only supports 2 of them. And he was forced by the court to support the two. Pretty sure he’s on his next victim to get her pregnant so he has somewhere to live. He will trap you by getting you pregnant. He will use you and take everything from you financially. He’s very good at this he’s been doing it fir over 20yrs. He is 44 years old. He likes to either go for a really young women in their 20s that are naïve and don’t know. Or he goes for single mom’s. Just trying to see if someone from the heartache. And not to get an STD from him. He is very abusive. Most of It is public record so you can Google him. He blames it on his exes. He says they’re crazy. But it’s all lies. He is a bartender, so he picks up a lot of people there. In the beginning, he will love bomb you. Future fake. Tell you everything that you want to hear. Make promises. But it’s all lies. Please be careful if you encounter him.
David Zingaro from Richmond Virginia
David Zingaro is an abuser and a rapist. In our (too-long) relationship, he raped me repeatedly and convinced me and himself it was okay through a barrage of emotional abuse, gaslighting, and manipulation. He was emotionally and physically abusive throughout our entire relationship. He repeatedly raped me throughout our relationship and gaslit me when I tried to bring up the brutality of the encounters after the fact. He would claim to “not remember” the assaults. Avoid at all costs–he is severely troubled and extremely abusive. Afterwards, I attempted to confront him and he claimed I was “crazy” and lumped me in with other so called “crazy” ex girlfriends. Avoid at all costs. He is a rapist, an abuser, and a narcissist.
Taylor Waidhofer from Houston, TX
Taylor Waidhofer was verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive. He does drugs a lot, I think, because I didn’t find out until later in our relationship. I still think that he’s a good guy, but be careful if you start dating him.
Dean Delserro from Wharton NJ
This man is the worst type of malignant narcissist.
He appears to be the “perfect” guy. (Professional job, nice car, divorced and spends time as a dad with his kids.) He will treat you like a true gentleman for months maybe even years. But then slowly it comes out he’s been with multiple other women (usually on business trips he refuses to allow you to join him on); starts to devalue you; major attempts to control you and if you push back he used gaslighting, manipulation and lies to try and shut your voice down. He is the ultimate wolf in sheep’s clothing. He studies gun laws like they’re the Bible, owns several of them and has been known to round aboutly threaten women with them. He will steal money from you, video tape you without your knowledge or consent while having s3x with him (there are cameras all over his home including I discovered the bedroom) then use that footage as leverage against you if you reveal him. He’s cool, calm and collected in demeanor to a point he could be equated with a sociopath. He can lie straight faced to anyone about anything. He’s always looking for the angle to deceive a person. Do not be fooled by his showcase of flowers, attention to heartfelt details or his lavish weekends away. He does the same routine w every woman and as soon as he no longer has power or control in the relationship he discards you without another thought or word he’s just done w you and moves on to the next woman. He’s been through two wives and has no conscience.
Michael James Pierce from Tustin, CA.
Mike Pierce is a dog. He is great at being fake because he has 2 faces. It’s called multiple personality disorder. He is a narcissist and he said it himself that his goal was to get me so upset that I’d be pulling my own hair out. That’s what he did to his baby’s mom & ex wife. He beat me up several times. I always had bruises when we were together.
He compares all women to each other so I was basically no different than her in his eyes. Even though I never did any of the messed up things she did or what any of his exes did, but I still had to pay for all their mistakes. He doesn’t have the brain capacity to differentiate his past girlfriends from his all new girlfriend who never did any thing to hurt him. He did his best to break me. He started fights on purpose to get me mad so I would say something mean to him and he used that as a reason to disappear for 2 days and not answer his phone and call me a psycho for showing up to look for him since he was no where to be found. That’s if he would even open the door. He was the worst person I’ve ever dealt with in my life. I’ve been in so much trouble and nearly landed a few cases over him pretending to be a victim. I am the victim in reality but I don’t like people looking at me like that so I wouldn’t say anything. I just dealt with it on my own in silence. I was so embarrassed to tell anyone the things he would do to me. I felt stupid for letting him get away with it. I just loved him so much. I didn’t understand exactly all the games he was playing because of all the manipulation and games and blaming me for stuff I never did. He used that as a tactic to break me down and steal my confidence gas lighting me to the point of confusion.. I was unaware of what a true narcissist really was. He is a monster! After him takes recovery time and getting help to be pulled out of the mind f-ing. He would tell me im the worst things on the planet but it was always him. I honestly feel sorry for anyone who tries to love him. He went back to his ex because her handicapped husband mysteriously died out of no where. That was her second husband who died. When my ex was married to her, she tried to kill him with rat poison in his food more then once. She fed their baby the same lasagna with the rat poison in it. She cheated on him the day they got married and stayed cheating with that same man throughout their entire marriage. She cheated on her last husband who just died too. He was fresh in the morgue, with no date set to be buried and they were already f-ing in her dead husbands bed. No respect no shame. I actually helped her clean her house for his funeral because she was ACTING LIKE SHE WAS SO UPSET! They are both dirty scandalous liars! God sees everything. He knows what’s in our hearts & he can read our souls. I loved that man and he did me so wrong and to add to it he continues to talk crap on me calling me fat, degrading me, saying evil stuff about my body. He is a horrible person. Mike Pierce has a long disgusting criminal background with almost half of his life being in prison. He wanted me to have nothing by the time he left me. He tried to ruin my family relationships and he messed up both of my cars. Now I have no car and he’s happy about that. I hope and pray that anyone who is interested in him in any way does a background report on him. Especially if you have children please run the other way. He will suck your soul dry. He also has one deceased wife. Her name was Karen. He has a child with her that he never raised. He has a tattoo on his arm that’s says REST IN PISS KAREN. God help me – I’m sorry for writing that but it’s true. It has a picture of a man pissing on a grave. His ex wife was sober the entire time they were apart. She is no longer sober and she was a drug counselor. Over him she is on drugs, drinking and she lost her career. She is being robbed of her life as well. I wonder which one will suck the other ones soul dry first… At least if they stay together he can’t do this to any other unsuspecting innocent women. Oh wait … He is a cheater so yes he will just do it under the radar like he did to me. Any women who f-s another women’s man is stupid if she thinks he won’t be f-ing other women when he is with her. A cheater is a cheater. You either cheat or you don’t. There is no in between. It is ingrained in us from childhood. Some were raised right and some were raised to be trash raised by trash. People don’t change . It’s rare if they change but they usually don’t. He was the cheapest loser I have ever been with and he is clueless about how to treat a women. Don’t be fooled this guy’s can’t be trusted.
Alan bush from Ocean beach California
I was seeing him for a while, asked him several times if he was seeing anyone. He invited me over to his his one night. He said his roommate wasn’t home. As I left in the morning I found a bra in his room. I guess the roommate shares his bed. Later to find out on line that he had a wife and a child. I asked him about it and it was lie after lie.
Made sense to why when he would spend the night with me to why he always had an excuse to why he has to leave ealry in the morning 5-6 am .
I threatened to tell his partner but never did.
He’s a complete narcissist he’ll never take blame for his constant lies.
John C from Orange County, CA
Every single word that comes out of his mouth is a lie. Every action that he does is a lie. The true him won’t come out until the very end. And everything he says from the moment he meets you is going to be a lie. He’s a narcissistic mean person who is cruel evil and enjoys hurting his girl. He honestly gets pleasure out of using his words to rip you to shreds you will leave the relationship feeling worthless empty and alone.
Johno from United Kingdom
Seemed a nice guy at the beginning but unfortunately very toxic, rude and spoiled a-hole.
Cheat and the biggest backstabber. He started to see someone else while I was abroad looking after my mum who passed from cancer.
He claimed that we were on the “same level ” without even asking me what my feelings were and he claimed that we were only friends. He kept repeating that I should start someone else just after my mum passed.
I stuck with him despite he treated me like a doormat. I looked after him when he had his back surgery and he couldn’t walk his German shepherd dog for months. I cooked every single day and cleaned his house. I stayed with him on good and bad days. And he left me when my world was falling apart.
Other red flags:
– always belittled me – my thoughts and my boundaries
– embarrassed me in front of his parents and friends
– never were happy with how I looked or what I wore
– diminishing my opinion, my work, my hobbies, and my contribution to the household.
I understand he is not good for me, and I have to thank the universe I am not with him but the betrayal will hurt me for a long time.
Brandyn Simmons from Chicago, IL
This man is a serial cheater, compulsive liar and hates to be challenged when caught in a lie. He uses charm and his good looks to manipulate and smooth talk those around him so that he gets what he wants. He has a steady supply of girlfriends and with that comes gaslighting, manipulation, lies, hot/cold emotions and someone who is always busy and wont have serious conversations unless it is to his benefit. You will be swept off your feet and will feel like he is “the one”. He uses his position to gain the trust of others as you would never believe that someone in his career would do the things that he does. He has several girlfriends scattered around all who make sure his ego is fed and he is entertained. He is highly emotionally manipulative and you will often feel crazy or made to feel irrational. Your emotions will be a problem for him. The truth is that you never really know where he is, who he is with or what he is doing because he has a good story to go with it. You won’t even realize it. He will talk about vulnerability and boundaries but that is for his benefit to feed you what you need to hear. He is a narcissist and will use anyone to get what he wants. You will be the love of his life if he thinks or knows you have money or connections that he can get to by being with you. This is a man who is a scammer and can manipulate most which is why it’s so hard to believe. It is shocking that he has not been caught is a scam. I think he has but there is a “victim” story to go with it. He will tell you his ex’s are crazy and for that reason you need to block people on social media. The truth is that he doesn’t want to get caught in a lie and for this reason has several accounts. He uses social media to his benefit. He is not the person he wants everyone to believe he is and will only be around as long as you are entertaining him and feeding his ego. Ladies – this is not a man anyone should be in a relationship with or having s3x unless you are ok with being one of many. I wish I had written this earlier but was motivated after seeing him in a picture with another women who is not his girlfriend. The reason I know is that his current girlfriend and I have mutual friends.
Stefan from Baltimore MD
I dated him for half a year. He loved bombed me for the first month or so. I really liked him and he acted so sweet to me. But it was just a manipulation tactic. He emotionally abused me for the entire 6 months. He lied to me, used me, neglected me. Those 6 months were torture. He treated me like shit under the guise that he had undiagnosed depression and mental illness. While he probably does have severe mental issues, that’s not an excuse to manipulate me. Please be careful if you meet this boy. He is a threat. His entire family apologized to me for what he had done. I have taken steps since leaving that relationship to protect myself from this person.
Timothy Grant Gray from Timothy Grant Gray
He is a deadbeat dad. Our daughter is 15 and he only recently asked to be in her life after going and having three more kids with different women. I let him into her life and after a few months he stopped paying child support and ghosted not just me but our innocent daughter. He ran off to North Carolina with his grandma smh he turned 36 today but ran away from his first born to be with his grandma lol. He is a horrible man who uses women and obviously doesn’t have a heart if he can destroy his own child.
Julio Jaramillo Cortes from Belton ,Texas Bell Co.
He hides His drug addiction and alcohol usages , he loves to lie about being single because of his ex’s but He still talks to them all takes them out has s3x with them ..when I first met him he sounded like he was abused by his ex’s and he spoke badly about them until one day I was at work and one of Those ex’s text me to see who I was on Facebook then I called him then he told me she was nobody but then minutes later that very same woman screen shot his messages to her saying I was a crazy woman a nobody that she didn’t have to question anything because he loved her .but then when I get off work he texts and calls me mad and tells me that woman was a nobody and I didn’t need to be jealous of her because she was crazy … And he wanted me to go straight home to be with him and not worry about her .but days later when we were together on our day off that same woman calls him around the time I used his phone and I answer in front of him and put her on speaker then she’s saying out loud papi where are u why haven’t u called me are you going to meet up with me are you going to send me money , I was like what the heck , hell no .. the girl heard me I talk to her then she says she’s been with him for yrs and I was like he is my boyfriend for 2 yrs . Then he looks at me and says to me and her while she is on phone and says both of y’all are crazy I get mad about to leave when I grab his phone then I just look into it more I see more women half naked conversation on Facebook messenger and money being involved I was like this pervert lying so I slap him on check for lying and punch him another time for cheating on me and them like that he gets up from floor and says laughing wow I deserve that and laughs at me calling me crazy constantly as I cry and walk off his phone was in my hands more woman appear popping up on his messanger to meet up to make love and have s3x with him I got grossed out it left me super hurt heart broken for months yrs past and often he tries looking for me saying I love you I want is you only but He still the same messing with more woman and even more Ex’s one called me months ago and says she’s been with him 20 yrs I’m like oh my and nobody wants to put a stop to him ..now this ex boyfriend is from Guanajuato Mexico He lies he is not one to trust , the drugs he does is just uncalled for too before these women popped up I was wondering why he would grabbing me hard and cursing at me it’s because out of his pocket earlier that same day out came out a small plastic with white powder in it I’m told it could of been cocaine not sure because I don’t do drugs never have never will ….so I hope this can save another girl looking for saving because I really didn’t think there are men like this still in the world stay safe sad to say I am out of this relationship but still broken by the whole bad experience of it
Lyle Benson from Littleton
Lyle Benson was great in the bedroom. Wild fun, dominate, and oh so skilled with his mouth but he was a terrible boyfriend. Refused to settle down and was always going off to Japan where I know he had a bunch of little fan girls just waiting for him to come back.
Jim Data from Nevada city California
I dated this man for almost 2 years.
When his rage and accusations started I left him, only to take him back, many times.
He will love bomb you, and after a few months the rage and accusations will start.
It is scary.
He abuses his dog, so I’m sure he will do the same to a woman.
Don’t be fooled by his charm at first. That is just to get you where he wants you.
He will abuse you mentally, as he did me.
Luckily I escaped before the physical abuse started. His ex girlfriend was abused also.
John Milne from Norwell, MA
John was an actual insane person.
He was the king of gaslighting. He knew how to lie about everything. I was not allowed at his house because his “family is weird”. I was not allowed to go to his hockey games because “you don’t want to come”. Turns out he was cheating on me the whole time (with his ex) and his ex lived with him and his family had no clue who I was.
John also did not know boundaries when it came to what was being done intimately. I had to basically scream at him to stop at what he was doing and he just found it funny and when I broke up he said “I didn’t realize it bothered you.” Even when I had expressed that it was awful and uncomfortable.
John also is nowhere near a gentleman. He expected me to pay A LOT of the time. I can understand 50/50, but it was not that.
Before you think I am crazy and that I was the other woman, I had contacted the ex and talked with her at extent and she told me a lot of this info as well.
Derrick Martel from West Paris, Maine
Derrick and I matched on several dating apps, met locally and started a relationship. About 4 months in I found out he was s3xting my “best friend” and roughly four other girls (that I saw myself), he also had one of his female friends over about 2 months into our relationship and cheated on me with her. That same night he came to my house- STILL STINKING!!! I dismissed it as he must have just had a fish sandwich from McDonald’s on to way over, no joke.. I saw the message where she had thanked him when I found the other s3xt messages! He also lied to me on the first date about his drinking habits, relationship status, and other illegal substance use. Ladies, it only got worse from there. He is controlling and hot headed, changing women like underwear.
Kenyatta Mack from San Antonio, Texas
He is a covert narcissist, who is great at using his childhood trauma to manipulate women. He targets successful, easing going and empathetic women. He starts with love bombing that eventually turned into a pattern of criticism, blaming and belittling me followed by telling me how much he cared for me. Used terms like “we” but when I started to pay close attention they only thing he did was for his benefit, anything else he did for me was very superficial. I was the only one in he relationship making sacrifices for the relationship. Made lots of promises about marriage, settling down and buying/building a home with no real action other than words….lots of gaslighting when bringing up concerns. He has toxic relationships all within his family and frequently has had investigations at different work locations due to the environment he created. He always talked about how loyal he was, how he wasn’t going anywhere and didn’t club, hangout, etc. But I Did not know for years but eventually found out he had a “narcissistic harem” which is having several women to feed his narcissistic supply. To avoid years of emotional abuse from being criticized, devalued, manipulated and lied to stay far away from him. Narcissists DO NOT change because they never see themselves as the problem, have no accountability because they lack empathy.
Dave Ankenbauer from Colorado
Dave Ankenbauer uses everyone in his life. First of all he cheated on me. I should have known he could not be trusted, he has 2 ex-wives after all. So here are all of his red flags that I figured out after we broke up:
1. Love bomber (he was so intensely into me up until he cheated, he would do this thing in which he would interrupt whatever I was doing, stand as closely as possible to me, and demand that I look him in the eyes while he said, “It’s so important to me that you know that I am ALL IN.”).
2. No real friends (all of his relationships are transactional, outside of his mother (and me), everyone he has a relationship with has been a former client of his. These people are in his life so he can get something from them like money, a cheap place to live, validation, and in my case s3x and companionship.
3. He is very judgmental of others yet seems to have no capacity for self-reflection
4. He drinks way too much
5. He is totally enmeshed with his mother
6. He is very co-dependent
7. His entire identity is wrapped up in being a “good man” who likes to be helpful. However, he cheated, he lied, he was manipulative, he used me to help him get out of a depression, to build up his ego, to help him get over his erectile disfunction and p0rn addiction.
There is are so many more red flags, but these are the most important ones.
Sam Edmunds from North Carolina
Thought I had the guy off my dreams only to come home and find him completely dressed as a s1utty girl. Everything from makeup to wig and high heels, he looked like a woman completely, to top it off he was watching sissy hypno p0rn on the computer . What a jerk!
Richard Travis Hartman from USA
He is on the run for some reason. Just packed up his stuff, took a lot of her stuff too; and left his kid behind. Assumption is he’s in CO or OK, but he could be anywhere in the US by now.
He’s an abuser. He’s a narcissist. He has been accused multiple times of m0lesting his wife’s niece when she was younger, which I now believe he did.
I don’t know what lies he’s telling everyone now, but he is not to be trusted. Hopefully, this will save a female or many from his abuse.
5’6″/50s/hazel eyes/salt n pepper hair (black)
Jonathan Melioli from Defiance Ohio
What i thought was my happy ever after, was actually my doom to certain mentality death. I fell in love fast as a young girl who has been through too much too explain, and abandonment issues like no other i was immediately wrapped around his finger, which he knew. He wanted me to get rid of all of my guy friends because “his mom had been such a cheater” he was paranoid about anyone else, i couldn’t have possible been more naïve and did exactly that. it declined from there, i couldn’t have female friends either, he didn’t like my family, let alone his own. even though they were more than good to him, and he got everything he ever wanted, other than a vacation. he talked crap about me with his friends, i misscarried his baby and the whole time i was losing it he was at home playing his game saying there was nothing he could do to help. told me he didn’t want to deal with the emotional or physical pain i was in from losing the baby because it was his birthday. there was more trauma unfolding at the time on top and i got sent to a mental hospital to save my life, when i came home he was immediately telling me how depressed he was so i of course, dropped my mental health once again to save his. i also struggle with severe ptsd which comes with anxiety and depression and when he would bully me into panic attacks he would mock me, tell me he didn’t even understand why i was crying, or that my crying was embarrassing and unnecessary, he also would turn the music up in the car so he didn’t have to hear me cry. he would pick until i couldn’t take it anymore and i’d lose it so he could play the victim. he put his hands on me, and i told him i would never be back. he accused me of cheating everywhere i went come to find out the whole two years he was cheating on me with his ex, they got together right after we broke up. worst 2 years of my life. 8 months free and still healing myself, most inconsiderate, selfish, and incredible liar i’ve ever met. i was also the only one who would get a job, ladies. never settle for a man who can’t even pay his own phone bill. xoxo
Aaron Conrad from Harrison AR
Rap1st. Disgusting human. Doesn’t know how to keep his hands off of a female. Dangerous. Threatened me with a knife.
Matthew Eversole from Vallejo, California
This man will seem like the man of your DREAMS when you first meet him. He is very charming and charismatic. Everything seems to click and he is very romantic. I definitely fell for the confidence that I thought he had and how he seemed to be absolutely smitten. I didn’t know about love bombing before him but I definitely do now. After a few months he will start to have random moments where he lashes out at you aggressively but he blames it on whatever stressors he has going on in his life at the time. He will start to question your relationships with friends, coworkers and family to the point that you start to rethink the importance of them over your relationship with him.
I eventually was isolated from everyone I loved and financially dependent on him and then the physical abuse started. He was also sober when we met but he relapsed several times during our relationship. Being under the influence is never an excuse for this behavior. Even when I would leave or call the cops, the abusers definitely have a way to romanticize everything to win you back. The cycle of abuse is insane.
This went on for 5 years and I had three more kids with him as well. By the time I was able to leave I was a broken version of myself and it took me forever to rebuild myself. I know that so many people may think “I would never be fooled into this” and that is fine but no one, and I mean NO ONE thought I would fall victim to domestic violence. I was a strong woman both emotionally and physically but that’s what they go for. They don’t want someone who is weak and pliable they want to break down the strong ones because it gives them a sense of power. I wanted to add him to this list because no one would even think that he was like this when they meet him. I didn’t know that I was the 11th woman on record that he has abused. I knew he had some legal issues in the past but I didn’t know he went to prison for beating his ex girlfriend.
I don’t want anyone else to fall for what I did and end up where I ended up. I am now 4 years out of the relationship and it’s taken a ton of therapy as well as time but I’m a lot better. I’m engaged and happy, even though I now have to co-parent with Matthew. He is sober again and is a good father however the abuse he dishes out to women is not likely to stop. I hope that whoever meets him comes to find this list and reads this before they get too involved with him. If you are, RUN and cut off all contact. Good luck
Samuel Morris from Louisville, KY
samuel morris abused me physically, emotionally, and verbally throughout our two and a half year long relationship. he spent the first few months love bombing me, buying expensive clothes for me, spending hundreds of dollars to visit me in college, etc. however, about a month or so in, i got a concussion that caused me some memory issues. he proceeded to use these memory issues against me, gaslighting me into believing that i was saying things i never would’ve said, that the friends i had were mistreating me, that i needed to drop out of school since i couldn’t remember anything anymore. i told him about how i had been assaulted by one of my coworkers friends and he used that information to assault her and convince me that she was lying when she filed a police report. when i was assaulted while we were together he told me i was a cheater and a wh0re, all while he was telling everyone we had a “don’t-ask-don’t-tell open relationship” so he could cheat on me with high schoolers. i finally realized i needed to get out once he beat me after he had a night out and got into a physical fight with our neighbors. once i was out, he continued to harass me at my work or by having packages delivered to the old apartment. my neighbors also noticed that he was checking out the old apartment to see if i lived there still over a year after the split. stay safe and stay away from him!
Michael Gray from Arkansas
He was extremely emotionally and financially abusive. He rap3d and s3xually assaulted me multiple times because he “couldn’t help it” then threatened to off himself when I broke up with him. We were in a relationship for 11 months and when i tried to break up with him the first time at 9 months, he manipulated me into staying.
James Phelps IV from Martinsburg WV
Doesnt wipe his butt because “theres too much hair also it is gay”. Once he screamed at his gf in a parking lot for 2 hours because she asked to eat that day. Sent his ex a 1400 word essay three years after they broke up on new years, threatening her and sent it to all her friends that he found attractive. Dates minors while being 30.
Kevin Martinez from Flushing, NY
This man is 24 years old as of 2023 and he predates on girls as young as 16. If you frequent popular anime related conventions and recreational arcades please be careful for this man, he is a s3xual predator.
Matthew Zink from Cumberland, MD
Matthew Zink is a narcissistic controlling asshole and he’s also a rap1st. He’s currently in jail in Allegany County, MD for numerous charges. When I tried to have him charged for rap1ng me nothing was done. He’s rap3d two other ex girlfriends, one of whom he had falsely charged with child abuse. The only time he was honest about rap1ng me was when my fiancé called him out on it. He’s a monster and doesn’t deserve anything good. The day I left him it took five cops, two of which detained him, so I could get out safely. He does not deserve anything good.
Michael Impallaria from Denver Colorado
Huge emotional flood at the beginning of the relationship and then he will become verbally furious at anything deemed wrong. He is litigious, and verbally cruel. He made me cry hundreds of times and tore my confidence to shreds. I’m ADHD and anytime Id forget something or get lost he’d get furious and tell me how I’m an inconvenience and shouldn’t be allowed to do anything unsupervised. This was all while I was employed and supporting him not working. He would kick me out of his place at 2am at any kind of disagreement as a means of control through fear. Will bring up having a dead mom as an excuse everytime. 3 years together is my experience.
Timothy Dustin Reeves from Corona/Eastvale, California
Timothy Dustin Reeves (goes by Dustin or Atomsky online) is 34 years old, he likes to lie about his age (says he’s about 24 years old) because he does seek after girls who are barely 18, and has even talked to minors. I know because I was one of them, I have reported to the police but they didn’t do anything with the case. He’s in every single way abusive while having mommy and daddy pay for everything. Understandable why he beats women because he’ll never be a man. He is known to go to bars in the Corona/Eastvale/Riverside area and has drugged people’s drinks before. Again all of this had been reported yet nothing has been done, he is currently with someone who’s 14 years younger than him, as she just graduated from high school about less than 2 ago. I just want to warn people about this behavior because I dealt with it for 2 years, and will never do it again. Please be safe out there.
Joshua Cobos from SOUTHERN CALIFORNIA
A tale as old as time. First came the love bombing, then came the abuse. Abused me s3xually, physically, emotionally. Physically assaulted me in public, bashing my head against a car window then threatened su1c1de if I left. Isolated me from friends and family. Cheated on me with multiple people then proceeded to s3xually assault me without protection. Rap3d me (“I love when you say no”) several times. Respected no boundaries. Physical abuse/su1c1de were constant threats.
He has spent time in Southern CA, Massachusetts, San Francisco, Austin. A photographer.
Giancarlo Rendon from Born in Colombia, Currently resides in Philadelphia PA
He is a narcissist psychopath who I was seeing since 2019. We broke up summer 2022 and he spent the last year trying to get back together… all while having a girlfriend. He is a serial cheater and has cheated on all of his exes who he now deems “crazy” and “insane”. He also stole my cat. Avoid this man he is a very jealous and sad individual. He will blame you for everything he feels is wrong with your life and drive you to insanity. He is emotionally abusive and manipulative.
Chase Jeffrey “CJ” White from Tustin, CA
Google him and find he rap3d someone in a public park in 2013! You wouldn’t suspect it since the guy is like 100 lbs soaking wet. The coward had someone else hold his victim while he committed his crime. He appears very charming and sweet, don’t be fooled.
Ian “Jack” Kenney from Richmond Virginia / Maryland
He’s a narcissistic abuser. It started with affection and tending to my former wounds, and slowly became about controlling me, reforming me into his ideal partner. He eased into it by making “jokes” that were intended to put me down, but it got far worse. It was largely verbal abuse, and he made it seem like I was the problem. If I did anything out of turn, or hung out with my friends, he would punish me. Then came s3xual and physical violence. He later told me, actually, that he was trying to brainwash me, to break me down and rebuild me to his perfection. Absolute sociopath. If I hadn’t already been a survivor, who knows if I would’ve gotten out. Little does he know I cheated on him before I left. A-hole.
He’s a narcissistic abuser. He’s manipulative, hateful, fat-shaming, and will tear you down. He’s the kind that wants to take a strong woman with vulnerabilities and break her down so he can rebuild her in his image. He’s such a sociopath he literally told me his plan for me, like it’s totally normal to brainwash your partner. He’s gone unchecked and has hurt people after me who reached out to me since I was the first experiment. He will treat you special, buy you expensive things, act supportive, and slowly the digs and the “jokes” are cutting, made to screw with your self esteem. He will use anything to control you. Hand out punishments if you’re out of line. By the time you realize what’s happened, you’re in deep and think it’s still love and think “well maybe if I change myself, it can go back to the way it used to be” SPOILER that was all an act and you need to RUN from this man or anyone who acts like f-ing Jonah Hill
Will Heron from Newmarket Ontario
He lied constantly about family members dying and about people hurting him in order to coerce women to sleep with him. He takes advantage of emotional vulnerability and will abuse you emotionally and s3xually. That’s what he did to me. Save yourself the trouble, please!!!!
Joshua Herrington from Wichita, Kansas
He molested me and then tried to gaslight me that he didn’t and played victim when I left.
Triston Fairchild from Omaha, NE (Papillon)
Avoid this man at all costs. He has some serious physical and emotional abuse problems. If you’re interested in him, cut it off or you’ll waste your time with a manipulative, selfish, lying, disrespectful, and violent scum bag. He will hurt you in more ways than 1 and gaslight you into thinking it’s your fault.
Jeffrey Edens from Tigard Oregon USA
He will tell you he needs a particular favor in order for him to be s3xually active and that if you do this thing he’ll give you all he can. What he doesn’t tell you is he lies. He’ll give a million reasons for not doing anything you ask of him and if for any reason you can’t do his thing or it’s not how he wants it, he’ll treat you badly and like you’re worthless. It’s a real head trip. He starts off as a prince and ends as the prince of darkness.
Ryan Farnsworth from Enfield, NH
He is a F boy through and through. You will be in a situationship and not the only woman despite what he says. Enter at your own risk!
Adith Uttam from Rishikesh, UK, India – Singapore
This person is a narcissistic psychopath, has a criminal background.
All this person talked about was getting his d!ck s*cked and has no education or any means of personal growth. Selling drugs in India and going from broken relationship to broken relationship. Shaming, lying, scheming, plotting, blaming and has huge trust issues. Reported history of conflictive brake-ups, demeaning psychological and psychical abuse towards women.
Kevin Rahill from Northern California
It’s always the ones who tell you how honest they are that are lying. This one comes on all sugar and sweetness to reel you in. He moves fast. He practically moves you in as soon as you are seeing each other. You may misinterpret this as him being so in love with you that he wants you around all the time. What is actually happening is that he wants to cut you off from everyone outside the home and control you completely. You won’t have one private phone call and you aren’t allowed to correspond even with the friends you have in common. He will make it difficult for you to work while telling you he doesn’t care if you don’t work at all. Pretty soon you will give up because he makes it too hard. He will verbally, emotionally and financially abuse you relentlessly. One day a week he will be affectionate and loving and be the boyfriend you thought you had, and when you wake up the next day you will find that it was all a lie. He’s hateful again. He will make it look like true love on social media but he doesn’t care. He cares far more about what strangers care about than what his partner cares about. His image is EVERYTHING. As confirmed by a therapist he is a paranoid covert narcissist. This means he will never break up with you. He will torture you until you leave. He can never be the bad guy. He will tell you that every woman before you cheated on him and treated him poorly. You will feel sorry for him and work hard to prove that you are different. You are not different. All the girlfriends before you were good women too. They were victimized also. He tries hard to drive you out of your mind with lies and aggression and gaslighting. He wants you to doubt your reality and feel like whatever you do, you are not good enough. I stayed around for over 2 years. The damage has been extensive. I do not recommend. Don’t ignore the red flags over those blue eyes. There is nothing behind them but hate and evil.
Herbert Edward Lester from Vallejo, CA
Beware of this one. Aside from being the standard liar and cheat, once you are done with him and break up he will go full assault mode on all social media to smear your name with lies. Doesn’t matter what kind of person you are, he will try to destroy your relationships, your career, alienate clients, terrify your children, etc. He is pure evil. Please don’t get tangled up in that mess. He’s not worth it. He can’t keep a job either, so double not worth it.
Brian Strong from Rochester, NY
Well known cheater despite being married. Was told they are more like roommates , he trashes his wife but found out he has two kids with her. Then, because we live in small city, I discover he has multiple women on the side. He will lie to anyone. Ladies be warned!
Alex Garrick from Trussville, AL
Serial cheater and pathological liar. He not only cheated on me, but at least 2 other women. One of them being his ex-wife. My experience with him introduced me to the concept of “Fake Love”. I didn’t realize this was the case during our relationship but when things became clear, I quickly found out that this was exactly what we had. This is a very long read, but if you are entertaining this man, please learn from my mistakes and save yourself the trauma. I don’t want anyone to have to go through what I went through with him.
I should have paid attention to the red flags. The first day we met in person, he said he loved me. It was weird. I assumed it was because he was lonely and hadn’t had any female companionship since his divorce earlier in the year. Then there was the constant, non-stop bashing of his ex-wife. He made this poor woman sound like the spawn of Satan. He obsessed over her. He talked about her so much it felt like she was a part of our relationship and didn’t know it. I ended up looking her up online and what I found was not a crazy ex, but another victim of his lies and cheating.
His story about what caused his divorce would always change. It went from the wife completely changing after they were married to him “only” sending dirty texts to another girl. He tried to make the ex-wife sound unreasonable for blowing up over it. Later on when our relationship was practically over, he was drinking and lost track of his lies. He slipped up and told me he had s3x with this other girl a few days after he was married and his wife saw the messages on his phone and that’s when she became upset. Knowing what he had done, he still had no problem making it seem like he had no hand in destroying their marriage.
Alex was very belligerent towards me. We are both into nerd culture and would play card games together. I was super brand new to one game in particular and he offered to teach me. Instead of being patient he would get frustrated with me and become condescending when I didn’t make a play fast enough. It was so hurtful I wanted to quit learning the game altogether.
After reflection, I can see that he never truly cared for me. I had surgery and needed someone to take me to the hospital and stay there with me. During that time, I had a friend offer to take me, but he insisted on doing it. After the procedure, I was in the room and coming out of the anesthesia. He asked if it was ok if he left to go hang out with his friends. It was like he couldn’t get out of there fast enough. The next day he drove me home. Per the doctor, I was supposed to have someone help me out because I wasn’t able to move around on my own that good. What did he do? He brought me home, waited until my meds kicked in and left me to fend for myself. His “I will be there to take care of you” quickly turned into “can’t you order your food and stuff online?”. Boyfriend of the year.
A few months later I became pregnant with his child. I was happy because I thought for many years that I was infertile. Well, it ended in a miscarriage early on. I was devastated but also in a lot of physical pain while the miscarriage was taking place because the surgery site was not fully healed. Where was he? At home sending text messages to me about how scared he was that he might be sick. Zero consideration for what I was going through.
Fast forward two more months. D-Day. I wake up in the middle of the night and see 20+ missed calls on my phone and 6 or 7 voicemails. Naturally I’m thinking the worst, so I call him right back. He was drunk and stumbled over his words but finally admitted to making out with someone at his friends’ party that night. I was crushed and tried to get off the phone immediately. He must’ve realized what he said because he started crying and having a panic attack and saying how he didn’t want to lose me. He swore up and down that nothing else happened. Well, that was a lie.
His story kept changing. The one constant was that he blamed the girl at the party for starting everything. I decided to do some digging. I created a fake profile on a website he was using to “meet friends” and had that account reach out to him. He took the bait. I would text him from my phone and then have the fake profile text him from a different phone at the same time to throw him off. He lied to the fake profile about being a writer (he never had a job the entire time we dated) and even brought up how awful his ex-wife was to him during the divorce.
To catch him at his own game I pretended that this fake profile was having an affair and was confiding in him. It took a few days, but he opened up and admitted that there was a girl at a party that he ended up cheating with. I had the fake profile press him a bit and he did say that yes, they had s3x. All the while he was still telling me they had only kissed. I ended up finding the girl he cheated on me with and she came clean. She told me that they were drunk, and mutually flirting back and forth. He told her everything would be ok if they had s3x and that he would tell me and I’d be cool with it. He lied to get in her pants and then tried to throw her under the bus. I was grateful for her telling me the truth but she’s not innocent. She knew we were together, yet she still agreed to sleep with him and used being drunk as an excuse. When I confronted him, he suddenly became the victim and had the audacity to tell me that it was hard to tell me he cheated and that we could reconcile later that year but I’d have to learn to trust him again. No accountability whatsoever.
Avoid this man at all costs. He will lie to you, treat you poorly, put everything else above you and waste years of your life. Then turn around and tell the next victim that you are to blame. He is not worth it.
Jason creighbaum from Indiana
Jason was my pen pal while he was in prison after he got out he moved to my area we had 2 kids when I was 7 months pregnant with our youngest my house was raided and I found out he had warrants after he missed our child’s birth and I supported him thru 17 months in prison things were OK except he always needed money after about 4 months from him getting out I recieved a text that said sorry I got my boss pregnant and we r moving he never sent another text or came home to get his stuff it’s been 7 years he doesn’t pay child support or have any contact with our children
James Woo from Rockville, MD
Do not believe a word this person says! He lied about dating/being engaged/married!!!! I feel bad for his poor wife and kids…. NOT TO BE TRUSTED!!
Jason Chad Graham from Los Lunas New Mexico
Jason is a serial abuser , cheater , liar , alcoholic and Narcissist! Beware all!!! He’s been married and divorced 3x. He will love bomb you and tell you what he thinks you want to hear , take anything he can from you and once he has you where he wants you the true personality will appear! He is angry! And a truly hates women I believe. After a very physically, emotionally and mentally abusive marriage we divorced. He broke my femur 3 years after our divorce! Unfortunately we have a 7 year old son together so going no contact is not possible at this time. Again please beware!!! And steer clear of him!!!
Jim Data from Nevada city California
I dated Jim for 2 years.
He has terrible rage and accuses you of horrible things. He has signs of narcissistic traits.
He has made up stories, and tries to get me to admit it.
He shows violent tendencies.
Francisco Josue Alvarado Araujo from Fort Worth, Texas
I really had on my rose-colored glasses with this walking red flag. At first, I thought he was really sweet. But that was just love bombing and I didn’t pick up on it. I was in lala land but, in reality, he’s very unstable.
I discovered this man-child cheated on me throughout our entire 3 year relationship using dating and hook up apps. When confronted with receipts, he started gaslighting and stonewalling.
He was never able to have difficult conversations. He was avoidant and never had anything to say. It was like he wouldn’t allow himself to be vulnerable or he didn’t know how.
His close friends, including his roommate are also cheaters. I suppose this is another experience that they can bond over, as they have a mutual understanding and a similar view on cheating, which enables them to openly discuss it without judgment.
It was all very toxic all around.
Alex Peter from Arlington, VA
This guy plays so many mind games! I think he’s undiagnosed bipolar. He tried to kick me out of our apartment on a weekly basis! He would threaten to call the cops! He ended things and then sued me for my engagement ring back! *He promised me I could keep the ring if anything happened, because he knows I have no money! I’m on disability and had zero money for a lawyer! I had to legally tell him to leave me alone and block him from all contact! Do not play his games!
Chris Johnson from Leesburg, VA
This guy will hide the fact you’re dating. He will not publicly recognize you in any social media network that you’re together. In fact, he will block you from all his social media accounts! Chris is the biggest scammer I ever met! He currently owes me $15k and has not made any effort to pay me back and it’s been years! Do not date nor give any money to this piece of scum!! I’m on disability and need every cent I can get! He has depleted all my savings! A truly horrible person! He should be in jail!
Niall Dunseith from Leesburg, VA
I dated this guy for about 3.5 years. We lived together, talked about marriage and kids. We even talked about engagement rings. What does this guy do? Cheats on me with our next door neighbor!! You should also be warned that he has addiction issues with drugs, alcohol, gambling, video games, p0rn, etc!
Michael Evangelis from Morris Plains/ Hopatcong, New Jersey
Michael is an abusive and manipulative person. He cheated on me for the 9 years we were together, and when I called him out on his cheating and toxic behavior he abused me. He chases women who he thinks are lesser than him, and he can control easily. He tends to go after women younger than him (he is 34) and will make them feel like he is some Prince Charming. This worked the first year or so, and then I started to notice he has addictions to gambling, drugs, and s3x. He gr00med me into playing out his f3tishes and when I stopped giving in he became very verbally abusive and toxic. He would say I am a woman and need to know my place next to a man, and that I can have control in the bedroom but he is the leader otherwise. He picks up women calling them angels and princesses, but all to conceal who he really is. A controlling, manipulative, addicted person that has no friends. If you have friends he will keep criticizing them, and find ways to push them away. He would say horrible things about all my family and friends because he didn’t want them encouraging me to leave him. I really hope every women finds this before dating him so they can see the red flags that I missed for so long. When women don’t give him what he wants he threatens them, which he did to me, and countless other women whom I learned all about when I found out he was cheating on me the whole time. He travels for work and that is when he cheats. He will say he is busy with a coworker but is really with a new woman every time. Please be careful around this man.
Eric Gonzalez from Tucson AZ
Stalker and harasses women. Has had multiple women file for protective orders. Comes off sweet, quiet. Liar, covert narcissist. Run!
Francisco Josue Alvarado Araujo from Westworth Village, Texas
Red flags
– Emotionally Immature
-Emotionally Unavailable
-Lovebombs
-Gaslights
-Stonewalls
-Cheater
-Jealousy
-FOMO (fear of missing out)
I really had on my rose colored glasses with this walking red flag. At first I thought he was really sweet. A cute and cuddly fuzzy little mouse. In reality he’s just unstable.
I discovered this man child cheated on me throughout our entire 3 year relationship using dating and hook up apps.
Anthony Quarless (Stickz Greenz) from Atlanta, GA
Stickz Greenz (Anthony Quarless) is a self-admitted sociopath who lies and manipulates to get what he wants. I was dealing with him for a year and a half and, multiple times he did incredibly hurtful things and, when I called him on it, he would make excuses and justify his behavior. He will not take responsibility for his actions unless you convince him to do so.
Over a year into dealing with him, he gave me herpes, took 11 days to come talk to me, and when he did he looked me dead in my eyes and said “at first I was upset cuz I really thought I gave u this but then I realized u had it this whole time and tried to make me think I gave it to u. But it’s ok, I forgive u, there’s no animosity, no love lost, everyone makes mistakes….” I was livid. I then spent the next day sending him screenshots of conversations with a doctor and parts of articles to convince him he did, in fact, give this to me.
After things ended between us he proceeded to gaslight me, claiming that various things he did and said over the previous year and a half never happened. He’s so good at gaslighting and manipulating that I times I found myself actually questioning my own reality.
He wears colorful suits everyday, his hair is always dyed a different color, and he has a grill in his mouth. If you see him walking around Atlanta he may seem like someone you’d want to get to know but my advice is to stay verrrry far away!
ps- He’s in the music industry so he has access to a lot of younger and impressionable women who fall for his charm only to be used and discarded when he no longer has a use for people.
Spencer M. Bowles from Denver, CO
I would like to start off by saying anyone can change and I truly believe that, but personally there was a limit to what I could put up with in a partner. Spencer is a sales guy, so naturally he was a smooth talker and knew how to have a good time. However, when the going got tough he would shutdown, ignore problems, and had an extremely narcissistic attitude. The first red flag was when I found out he had gotten a previous girlfriend pregnant and essentially guilt-tripped her into getting an abortion then dumped her stuff off at her friend’s and cut off all communication blaming everything on her, I mean it takes two to tango… As far as my story goes, towards the end of our relationship I was involved in an accident requiring a couple surgeries, but he was unable to care for me as a partner might with checking in, potentially helping out with doctor visits, or with the cooking and cleaning. The second flag was that he had difficulties caring for himself and his responsibilities too. From the beginning, whether that be from his ADHD or was his normal state of living he struggled with addiction, work, adult living, and finances until I entered the picture. He is a second born privileged child and it shows through with his self-absorbed and self-centered ways. Although he seemed to have a close relationship with family and friends, he would lie easily to them and put forward an idealistic image of himself and his life. He has a sweet natured husky malamute dog that he spoils and shows affection to in front of others. However, if he had a bad day there was the tendency to take it out on the dog physically, unable to control his anger. While with him, although he didn’t try to get physical with me, I was worried for my physical safety on several accounts. When the mental abuse/assault/threats became too much to the point of entering into a difficult depression, on top of my physical healing journey, I had to call it quits to focus on my own healing away from him. He didn’t know how to communicate, work through disagreements, or be in a long-term relationship (our relationship of one year being the longest relationship he had been in) and although he was ready to propose with his grandmother’s diamond custom ring specially made and had asked for my father’s permission, I was not to the point of where I could see myself agreeing to marriage with him before calling it quits. I would like to warn other women of Spencer in that he is a shmoozer and will say many things that you may want to believe will come true, but to remember that actions speak louder than words and to not trust a narcissist. I understand that there are two sides to a story and I’m not perfect, as I have had my faults too when I had disassociated after my traumatic accident, but wanted to share my truth and to inform other women who may have hesitancies about Spencer.
Dalton Linkus from Nashville, TN or Dacono, CO
Narcissistic personality disorder, abusive, manipulative, now verging on stalker.
I wanted to just forget about Dalton and move on with my life but, despite being very clear with him that I wanted no contact (multiple times, on multiple platforms) he still will not leave me alone. This is beyond his extending an olive branch after leaving the relationship, it is outright manipulative behavior bordering on stalking. Other women should be warned about this, it’s gone too far.
A few years back, Dalton and I had an unofficial relationship. He wanted more, I didn’t, but he kept pursuing. At first, he put me on a high pedestal. He made me feel amazing. But as I started to go out in the world, grow in my own achievements, and come into myself, he felt threatened. He started tearing me down. He started trying to isolate me from my friends, saying they didn’t get me, that I was only friends with them because they shared one thing in common with me (where we lived, how we were raised, their religion, etc.) He said they were bad influences and that they were “weird” because they were different than him. He then went after my family – saying it was kinda pathetic and abnormal that they napped (yes, he really said that) and then he would talk up how amazing his parents must be because they “… didn’t need naps like toddlers.”
Pretty soon, he was coming after my body. When I would go hiking, running, etc. without him, he would act amazed that I had completed the hike because “[I wasn’t] in good shape” or that my hiking partners weren’t. But when I was with him, he would act amazed that I could keep up with his workouts and would compliment my dedication.
At one point, when I mentioned I wanted to do a race with some girlfriends to qualify for a prominent race where I live, he said, and I quote, “if you were ever going to be a good runner, you would know by now” (His implication was that because I had been casually running for two years that, if I had some natural excellence, that I would know by that point.) Examples of this go on and on and on and stem from him being unable to compete professionally in motocross. He washed out, would say that riding his bicycle was way better anyway, but continued to revolve his personality, user names, posts, etc. off his old life in motocross.
At several points along the way, I would get fed up with his negative, hostile comments about me, my family, and my friends, and I would lash out at him. At those moments, he would start to cry, type out looooong text messages about sorry he was and how he just wasn’t raised like I was, and was still learning. He would beg for another chance. And I would give it to him.
Throughout our relationship, he continued to have an extremely high, unearned opinion of himself. How amazing he was at motocross (his parents literally own a dirt bike track and had a big one built in their backyard for him), how amazing he was at school (he didn’t really have to work, mom and dad paid for most of his undergrad and he had their credit card to buy whatever he wanted). Just ask him, his sister used their parents credit card to buy skis, backpacking gear, etc. and he would do the same). How amazing he was for getting hired at his job when so many others gave up (He got to live with his very well-off parents and had easy work connections so no responsibilities and plenty of cash, while many others don’t have those privileges). He would often post his rides on Strava, saying things like, “Not my best time, spent the whole night hanging over a toilet.” But… he would never mention being sick to me despite sharing most every other detail of his life.
He would also endlessly fish for compliments, saying, “One of my ex girlfriends said she wasn’t with me because I was good looking, just because I was so nice. She said I was actually ugly and it’s really messed with me since then.”
Then, every time he would be in front of the camera, he would show off, smile, then look at the picture and beam about how great-looking he thought he was. It was really unhealthy and alarming.
He would also manipulate me into constantly affirming him in other ways. He would nag me to take his picture, take a video of him doing some banal “trick”, and when I would say I didn’t feel like having my phone out all the time, he would make guilt-trip me into it, saying things like, “I just think it’s a really awesome, nice thing for people to do. People like to know they’re loved and appreciated, and taking their picture lets them know that.” And if I didn’t send him the pictures fast enough, didn’t post the pictures he took of me, and so on, you would think it was like I clubbed a baby seal by his tantrum.
Dalton is also extremely critical of people he looks down on. He has extremely low opinions of stay-at-home moms, for example. I told him that my mom was a SAHM and he cuttingly asked, “does she even have any friends? I would never let my wife not work.” He also had grossly low opinions of Christians, people who were home schooled (never mind that statistically, home schooled people have better mental health and grades than their peers) and people who don’t devote their lives to working out. Any time I would say I was too busy to run/hit the gym because I was working, needed to work on my car, had a doctor appt, etc., he would say, “You make time for what’s important to you. I guess working out just isn’t.”
He would steeply criticize me for having a glass of wine or beer with dinner, saying, “I just don’t really like to drink. I like just water, it’s healthiest.” Then he would go out with his buddies on the weekend and get very drunk.
Be aware that he also is incredibly conceited about his decisions in life and attempts to minimize the good decisions others make by any means possible.
Once, I got a great review on a work project and he asked if I waned to go celebrate and fill him in on all the details of the feedback. All throughout drinks, he would ask about my review, then quickly change the subject to the new bike he was buying. He implied my review was not as big a deal as his bike. I laughed it off, thinking he was just trying to be funny. Then he did the exact same thing after I bought a new-to-me car: he shaved his beard. When he came out to see my car, he “surprised” me with the shave and shrugged at my car, saying, “Sorry I one-upped you with my mustache.” I was very proud of the car and excited to get it and he literally did not care. I told him my friends were all excited, that it was a great deal, and my mom was glad I was in something safer than my last car and he said, “My car was the best deal though. Here you are, driving around in this shiny new thing, and I’m just over here in my Saturn, zooming around, not caring what anyone things of my car.” I wrote his words down in my phone because I realized this relationship wasn’t going to go on and I wanted to remember why the next time he cried about it.
About his car though, his dad bought him a newer pickup of his choosing… for getting good grades. So, yes, maybe his car was cheaper than mine, but he also had a shiny newer pickup all bought and paid for by his parents.
I could give endless examples of his narcissism, verbal and emotional abuse, but I want to close by discussing his stalker-like behavior.
Multiple times, I tried to close the doors on the relationship civilly. Each time, he would flip out, cry, and say “no, I’m not done with you yet.” In retrospect, that’s horrifying. Eventually, I just stopped responding and would hide FB, Insta, and Strava updates from him and wouldn’t text him much.
After I made it clear I didn’t want to continue into any serious relationship and that I wanted my space, he ended it. He told me under no uncertain terms that I was not to contact him unless it was an emergency. I agreed!
Pretty soon though, he was sending me random Snapchats, then he would text me sad breakup songs, then long messages about how I had broke his heart. I repeatedly told him to stop contacting me. I blocked him on Snapchat after telling him I was done and wanted nothing to do with him (weird, a little space and being back around GOOD people made me realize how horrible he was), so he blocked me on Facebook and Instagram. I blocked him on everything else I possibly could except phone number, since he had mostly left me alone there, I figured he wouldn’t send something I could show a judge.
Then he would find other ways to text me or contact me, like from his email. I went on another round of blocking and thought I got it through to him. Then, on my birthday this year, he text me. I blocked him there, too. Then, recently, his name popped up in my suggested friends list on Facebook. He had unblocked me and was no doubt stalking my Facebook page.
I truly do not know, but earlier this year, someone put a rose in a box with my name on it and left it in my parent’s mailbox (he knows where my parents live). I am very concerned it was him. He doesn’t know where I live now and I won’t ever let him.
If you read this this far, you have been warned. He is narcissistic, conceited, selfish, manipulative, and arrogant. Now, he is borderline frighteningly bordering on being a stalker.
Trust me, just don’t go anywhere near him.
John Stone Duluth, Minnesota
I met John Stone in Sept 2021 at a job we both worked at. With his long dreadlocks and bright blue eyes, he stuck out. He had a very observant, cutting sense of humor. He was smart and interesting. By October we’d started going on dates.
I soon learned from him of his past – he’d had a long marriage which ended poorly. The ex-wife had kicked him out of the Renn Faire where they’d worked as a couple for twenty years. She claimed he was abusive and that she was afraid of him. Security had to escort him out. He said it was just her being dramatic and trying to get people to hate him. I should have paid more attention, but I didn’t.
Another point of note: he’d spent the last three years of their marriage cheating on his wife with his female “best friend”. He blamed the affair on his ex-wife because they were no longer in love with each other. He was clearly still in love with the affair partner, he referred to her as a “girlfriend” and took no accountability for his part in destroying his marriage. It was all the ex-wife’s fault.
He also boasted of a married Japanese woman he’d dated (back in his twenties) without the husband’s knowledge. He had a bad habit of bragging about his exes in front of me, it was pretty sick. And then he’d laugh when I got jealous and say I was just being hormonal and crazy. I feel like when you’re forty-seven, the s3xual exploits you engaged in back in your twenties are not really interesting to anyone except maybe you. But it spoke of a lack of integrity. Nothing of those girls was private.
And apparently he dated a fourteen-year-old child when he was twenty-two (yuck!) but it wasn’t his fault because she’d lied about her age, and she’d threatened bodily harm to anyone who threatened to reveal her age to him. There was also a rumor that he’d gotten 86’ed from a bar because he’d pushed one of his ex-girlfriends off the bar’s balcony while they were dating. But that was just a rumor, he said, another vindictive ex spreading lies, what can you do about it. Nothing was ever his fault.
He had done c0caine in his youth, enough that he had such a high tolerance in his late forties. Every time a big music festival came around I worried and worried that he would try c0caine again and overdose (there is a lot more Fentanyl now than there was when he was in his 20s, so hard drugs are a risk in this city). He never did, but I always felt small and boring compared to the women of his past, all beautiful Renn Faire types who did c0caine and were firedancers and were accomplished artists. He told me so much about his exes. It was hard to trust him.
He had trouble hanging onto employment. He lost one job because he called the supervisor the c-word. He lost another after repeatedly sneaking beer home from work (not his fault, though, it was his coworker’s fault for ratting him out). He lost yet another job (his third in less than two years) after crashing the company vehicle.
Because he lost most of his friends in the divorce, he had to find new friends, people who didn’t know about his past. Of course the most logical thing was for him to befriend homeless m3thheads and alcoholics. Two of them began storing their belongings in his yard. This was about the time when he lost his second job. Imagine staying at your boyfriend’s house and his m3th-using friends show up on his doorstep looking for something they’d left in his yard or house. We had no privacy.
He kept Narcan in his house and drug needles for his friends, saying it was his way of making sure they could use safely. Which I can understand, but at the same time, who wants to stay at a man’s house knowing there might be drug needles on the floor, or in the couch. His house was very messy. Towards the end I became worried – suppose I dumped him and he became depressed and turned to m3th or her0in – so that guilt compelled me to stay longer than I should have.
I think the worst part was when something he did made me jealous. I approached him with it (not the best thing to do, I realize in retrospect) and he made me do something s3xual that at the time I very much did not want to do. Because he was angry with me. He was over a foot taller than I was, and had experience with martial arts, had beaten people up in his past, had spoken to me in the past (while drunk, but still) that he wanted to beat me. It was evident that he wanted me to feel scared and ashamed as punishment for being jealous, and I had to do the s3xual thing, so I did.
His bitterness over his ex-wife and their divorce was a continued problem. I remember him speaking about how he’d like to tie a rope around her and drag her through a swamp with his car. I thought it was just him blowing off steam, but at some point those sorts of thoughts are no longer okay. He should have been seeking professional help.
There was another time when he said, if he had a gun and there was no way that he’d get caught, there were “several people” who he’d love to shoot and kill. I felt like, for a long time I was safe from his rage, but now that it’s over I might not be safe anymore.
I honestly don’t know if I will ever be able to date another person again. I feel afraid.
Geordan Broeckx from Canada
At first he’s very loving , outgoing, friendly ect, really is controlling, unsupportive, selfish , lazy unless it benefits himself. Judgemental and has a setting mindset of how a gf should act/dress.. but gets obsessed with online girls, usually someone he has known like this str1pper he used to go to school with he’s been stalking for 2 years . He has no boundaries or respect dosnt take accountability. He has looked at photos from most of my family members see if the have nudes gets secretive and knows more about network computering then he leads on to hide his life. If it gets to the point of him getting away with disrespecting you he’ll test the waters . He’s called me names , makes me feel stupid and walking on eggshells.. led to SA and rumors spread. Words never match behavior, very confusing.
German Cardelle from United States
Burton Cardelle Aka GERMAN Cardelle is illegitimately married for artist visa reasons, among also has a fake ID and Social by Alex Alonso to work under the table picking up plates: has been unhinged multiple occasions to where his ex had to get a restraining order against him. He further more calls her up to tell her how many people he’s f-ed in a week. She paid for his p3nis enlargement, helped him get on his feet and help him get a car. He claims to be gods gift to woman now and belittling them while giving his band high fives about it. This guy is GRODIE!!!! She has to get a restraining order on him, he broke into her house and terrorized her for over 20 hours.
Ross Corristan from Jacksonville, Florida, USA
BEWARE!!!!! This person is DANGEROUS. There is something very, VERY wrong with him, in all likelihood some sort of personality disorder.
He is charming and disarming at the start. Very charismatic. And he gives up his own red flags early on… DON’T BE FOOLED. There is an intense rage boiling there, under the surface, and a deep seated hatred of women.
His three most recent girlfriends all feared for their own safety for months (and years) after their relationships with him began to disintegrate.
He is EXTREMELY controlling and unstable. He is prone to stalking the object of his obsession and skilled at manipulating her close friends and family members into siding with him (or at least attempting to).
He has (and will) used threats of suicide to attempt to control women close to him. He owns guns, and keeps one loaded in his truck.
Ahmed Gadalla from Miami
Dealing with him for almost 3 years. Experienced everything from mental to physical abuse, he was arrested in Miami, for domestic violence, bc he has money, he hide this info from Google, he is still married for the green card and has a kid in Virginia. Lies about everything starting from what he does for work to his name. Very manipulative, pure narcissist. Never knows what he wants , scared of any responsibility, we were together for more than two years and still he was telling me I’m not his gf bc he likes to talk to multiple girls at the same time, has weird preferences in s3x. Won’t go to details in here. Moral of the story he will
Suck all of you energy and will leave like you never existed and will keep coming back when he is bored or dump by other girls, pretends to be the sweetest guy alive but don’t get fooled. Hates animals also! Very selfish and only cares how he feels and what he needs. Every story he says is how he doesn’t want problems but they just find him and he is just an angel, as I said lies everywhere. So disgusting that he even used his sons name on dating web site! Has a lot of money but will count every cent he spends on you. On the top of everything is sick all over, every day there is something new coming out, doctors non stop and will expect you to nurse him 24/7 but won’t do nothing in return. If you are looking for one night stand even that won’t work bc his P won’t even get hard but he will still try. If you are looking for pathetic lier and cheater you know his name! Most important when you look at him the most angelic face ever! Don’t get fooled he is a devil! Used to have a great body, still uses old pics to get girls attention. Reality is very different!
Alvin Niere from Harlem, New York
Alvin is in his mid-30s and lives with his sister and sister-in-law in Harlem, NY. What a great start, right ladies? LOL! Anyways, he is an absolute scumbag….. I have never witnessed such a pathetic loser in all my days of dating and interacting with men. Alvin is a certified p0rn addict and the brain damage he’s suffered as a result of his addiction becomes very apparent upon socializing with him in any capacity. He’s subbed to many OF accounts and follows a plethora of SWers on all social media, as his addiction cannot be contained and he even goes as far as to joke about it (since when did being a single, middle-aged man who can’t keep a woman happy nor have fulfilling long term relationships and uses p0rn0graphy to cope with that hard truth something to be proud of?!) The new-age male-feminist act only goes as far as supporting women feeling good about sleeping around with random people ’cause… shocker… he’s hoping to be one of those random people! I know that isn’t revolutionary or unique. He isn’t the first and he wont be the last guy to lie and try to convince women he actually respects them. But just to reiterate: he does NOT care about you and he only cares about getting his d1ck wet (no matter WHAT he says). Stay far farrrr away from this one, girls. Anyone, and I mean ANYONE, can do better than this.
Karl Nicholson from Dixon CA
Liar and cheater. Great in bed but nothing but trouble.
Phil Femoyer Jr from Bayonne, NJ
Phil Femoyer from Bayonne, NJ pretends like he’s a nice guy but he is actually a pathological liar and a serial cheater. He is super manipulative and will gaslight you when you start questioning any inconsistencies in his many stories. He speaks to a therapist once a week to supposedly work on himself, but that is just a coverup because he uses that time to complain about other things in his life, not to better himself. Phil is extremely selfish and will never change because he doesn’t think he has any issues. He uses any therapy lingo he’s picked up as a way to fool you into thinking he is emotionally intelligent, but he has severe avoidant issues that he refuses to address. He’s also a hypocrite because he would constantly criticize his friend for not treating his gf well yet he was repeatedly cheating on me behind my back. He also would criticize his father (who shares the same name) for being a lying scumbag, but turns out he’s exactly like his dad. He was emotionally cheating on me for 3 months with his ex girlfriend (she had no idea I existed) and then physically cheated with her 4 days after my cat died while I was grieving…what a wonderful guy, right?! His ex girlfriend lives in another state so he didn’t physically cheat sooner with her, but I’m almost positive he cheated on me with other women throughout our almost 9 month relationship. If you encounter Phil, you should do yourself a favor and not believe his “nice guy” act because it’s super fake just like he is.
Sean King from Huntington, NY
OMG! RUN! Where do I begin… Selfish, condescending, treats all woman like trash. Oh, and did I mention he is a silent stalker! Has been watching me for a while now. Actually re-matched on Tinder w/ me and I think just to see where I am. He texted me to say he wanted to come over for s3x! WTF! I sent back a laugh emoji and that pissed him off (don’t worry, I’m sure he moved on to the next victim). Very secretive regarding family etc. Like he is a child afraid to present his girlfriend to his parents. Oh, and when I say selfish – only interested in his own pleasure. If you haven’t had intimate relations yet, let me save you the trouble. All of his extremities are a bit on the small side (nose, ears, hands, and well you know. He’s Irish if you get my drift.
Erick AcostaHuber from North Augusta, South Carolina
Please be careful of this individual. I met this man back in August of 2022. We began dating exclusively in September of 2022. I found out in November of 2022 that he was seeing other women. In December of 2022 I found out that he was married. He lied to me during this time, telling me that he was a single father. He had me convinced that he was never married and that the mother of his child was overly dramatic, borderline crazy and would not leave him alone. He also told me and my family that he was serious about our relationship and wanted to marry me. He has continued to contact me even after I broke up with him. He is still married and is still dating other women in the area although he has a wife and child in his home country. He will try to avoid protection during intimacy and tell you anything he thinks will make you trust him. I only found out this information because he was unaware that I had friends who work at the same company that he does. Without my friends I may have never known the truth about this man. He portrays himself as shy, kind, caring and concerned. He uses his foreigner status as a way to hide behind lies and his family here in the states will not be honest with you regarding his relationship status. They are willing to lie on his behalf.
Kyle Humphreys from Indianapolis, IN
This is on behalf of a friend of mine, so I have no specific details. Kyle Humphreys of Indianapolis maliciously dated one of my best friends, married her quickly, and then moved her away from her support group (from PA to Indianapolis where he lives now). As soon as they moved away the verbal abuse started to the point my friend wanted to end her life and he did not care. He is single now and trying to find another victim to charm into being his mom. Doesn’t do a damn thing around the house. My friend is not the fun person she was before him and I’m angry because I had no idea he was like this. Avoid at all cost, he seems genuinely nice on the outside, but will try to rope you into marriage and children to trap you.
Paul Schmidt from Florida, Wisconsin, California, Oregon
Clinically a pathological liar, narcissist, and alcoholic.
History of physical, financial, and emotional abuse (restraining order and prior arrests).
Anger issues. Big time.
Very savvy and convincing, but will catfish you. He has no money and gets fired from all of his jobs because of his alcoholism.
RUN.
Thomas Dame from Oklahoma
We was in a relationship for 6 years until he met the little girl that lived across the street (she was like 2 years younger than us but I still refer to her as “little girl”) he became distant and then started accusing me of cheating and didn’t like the fact that I was working all the time. I went to go see him at his house and when I went in found him and her together. He’s a straight cheater and a dog. He also likes to pop up in others dm’s even though he’s married now.
Alex Harris from Redditch, UK
Compulsive Liar; relationships, finances, education, experiences, activities.
He continues to lie that he’s won competitive competitions, that he is an expert in martial arts, that he has done a physics, mathematics, and electronics degree (final education is 16 years at school), tells people he is rich (I get his bank statements and he’s in debt), and blames every ex he has had for the break ups with weird excuses or long made up stories.
Got fired 2 weeks into relationship as no showed work, gaslight was my fault as I’d caused lack of sleep so told me I owed him. Faked bank account shots of 5k savings and 140k of due monies for inheritance, so allowed to move in with me thinking would get new job. Said my nagging to get a job caused him depression and this is why he refused to do housework and spent all our money on food.
Lied about university degree, job history and qualifications and had me make a fake CV to apply for roles. Was jobless for 18 months. Pretended to go job centre.
He stopped seeing his family, and would only meet them behind my back when I was at work. He told them I didn’t let him see them anymore (to make me seem abusive) when I kept trying to ask him to make effort and arrange days out with them.
When he got a job, lied he got paid monthly instead of weekly and lied he earnt £12.50 more per hour than he did. When he couldn’t pay rent, faked phone calls for bank fraud and this is when I found out he had lied the 18 months of the relationship about EVERYTHING. No savings, no house sale, no education, earnt minimum wage, pretended to try get work.
It took me from October to March to get him to agree we were over as he kept pretending we werent and forcing us to continue. After he refused to move out my home and I couldn’t legally kick out. Continued to be naked, touched me without consent. Told me my family members were dying and berated me (i had to begin recording him as evidence of threats of violence).
He would go to friends houses claiming I was hitting him, leaving house for ‘safety’ when I wasn’t even in the area and was visiting my own friends, to try create narrative I emotionally and physically abused him.
8 months after break up, he still refused to leave. He posted my nudes to Fab Swingers, advertising us as available for s3x and tried to offer me out with my personal information. He showed my nudes round his workplace and actively encouraged the men to try have s3x with me. It took my new boyfriend staying over, an eviction notice, contacting his family and threat of legal action for revenge p0rn for him to leave.
1 year + after break up he still tells people we are together and says we moved into a 3 bed house with a child. but says we are in an open relationship and that’s why I’m seen with my new boyfriend.
He still attends my public workplace (gym) and has lied to other girls about his nationality, achievements and education to try convince them to sleep with him. Hasn’t learnt his lesson. Which is why I am making this post.
Joe Foley from Alexandria, VA
Joe Foley, Joseph P Foley, Joseph Paul Foley, from Old Forge New York currently in Alexandria, Virginia.
Joe is a serial cheater and pathological liar. He carries on multiple relationships with women who each believe they are in an exclusive relationship with him while he simultaneously has casual hook ups. Joe does not use protection and has given several women STDs.
Joe uses his military service and seemingly strong and stable character to lull his victims into a false sense of security.
Run from this so called man.
Elliam Hedges from Tasmania, Australia
Elliam met his then girlfriend in January 2021. They were wildly in love and he seemed perfect. Bringing gifts, surprise dates, flying across the country every week to visit her in Queensland. She reciprocated and flew down regularly with her two daughters until he was able to relocate to QLD in July 2021. He suggested that they have a baby together and she was so in love that she believed it felt right. 4 miscarriages later they fell pregnant with Franklin. As soon as the pregnancy hit 12 weeks however, Elliam stopped showing any interest in affection, kindness, family time etc. This then led to him commencing (well, returning to) a second life filled with pr0stitutes, massage parlours, ex dates, and regular affairs. Even when confronted, the only thing that would come out of these discussions was complete denial (even with photographs, messages, and contact from these women). Even a level of acceptance from his partner wasn’t good enough because it was always about the SECRECY and deceit.
The next year was full of domestic violence, gaslighting, manipulation, constant affairs, and telling his partner (and everyone around him) that she was “crazy”, so that they wouldn’t believe her if she ever told anyone. He manipulated her into thinking that if she had the police ordered DVO removed then they could work on their relationship. She worked hard for 12 months to have this removed, only to have his hatred and number of affairs skyrocket the moment that she was successful in having it removed.
Elliam would deny his partner s3x for many months while getting himself ‘serviced’ by girls who looked barely 18. As a doctor he would fly internationally and look for young s3x workers available locally (in the Phillipines especially). Despite being a doctor, he put his partner in a position where she could not take maternity leave. She was left supporting him physically and financially, as well as their 3 children while he studied for his FACEM exam, built his nest egg and paid for pr0stitutes.
He started his last affair with “Laura” on Snapchat days before his girlfriend’s birthday. He then started a fight and disappeared – To her. This fight was of course then blamed on his girlfriend (it always was). He has now taken a complete ‘victim’ stance where he has told everyone he knows that he is the victim in this situation. That being caught out caused him great suffering and he was living in constant fear. Fear of being found out.
He was the perfect step dad in the beginning, but as soon as his step daughters saw him for who he really was (swearing at their mum and calling her names while she sobbed in a ball on the floor), he stopped trying. He dragged them to their rooms by their arms, threw them into their rooms, and said that his time being their stepdad was OVER after one of the girls told him that he couldn’t speak to her mother that way (he was yelling and calling her names at the time). He would start a fight and storm out/ disappear for days/weeks/months at a time (using this time for dates and brothels). The kids would be terrified. He made a special effort to make sure they felt completely unseen and unwanted once they had seen the other side of him. They are both still in therapy trying to rebuild their sense of self worth.
To this day Elliam continues to see multiple women at once, insist that he doesn’t want an open relationship (because that takes the fun out of the deceit), refuse to financially contribute to his son’s upbringing, and push a false story about the entire situation to anybody who will listen.
This relationship almost killed his partner. The level of constant abuse was insurmountable. His partner forgave and forgave, hoping that he would change one day. Hoping that one day he would be kind again. That he would learn to be honest, open, and compassionate. He never did.
Many, many people can attest to these facts based on what they saw in person (family, tenants, cleaners). Messages, phone calls, photographs and recordings also do not lie.
He now lives on the Gold Coast, looking for his next victim.
Michael Robert Snider from Lakeland Florida
Mike is a great actor and lier. He claims to be a Cattle Rancher, a Traveling Superintendent, a Construction Contractor, a great dog trainer and a former Marine special forces officer who served in Iran. Mike is actually a multiple felon who has served time in several states.
He displays narcissistic behavior and is often controlling and abusive. He has stolen money, jewelry and other items from multiple women. He uses women then proceeds to walk away on to his next victim.
He has left many victims broke, in debt and in some cases homeless.
He will cheat on the woman he’s currently using with one to two other women at the same time.
He claims to have a daughter who died, when in fact he abandoned her as a baby and never supported her.
Nothing, absolutely nothing that comes out of his mouth is true.
He is 6’3 300 pounds, bald with a goatee and multiple tattoos, excluding 2 foreign words on his neck, wicked evil multiple heads on his back, fallen angel and forgive yourself on each biceps, a clock with a woman’s eye and broken chains on his forearm and others on his thigh and calf.
He wears glasses while he’s driving.
He recently married a woman and proceeded to break her down and then abandoned her leaving her homeless. It has since been revealed that he has married multiple women and then disappears.
Jimmy Peluso from Jacksonville, Fl
Jimmy is a womanizer, narcissist, admitted he thinks he’s a sociopath, and overal scumbag. He told me he slept with two married women! He drove drunk to my house 3 times in the first week we were dating. We didn’t date for long but his charm made me swoon. But when we went on dates he’d constantly be checking out other women and commenting on how “hot” they were (on TV or elsewhere). He is honestly incapable of romantic love, in my opinion. He can’t connect to anyone and he treats them like garbage, actually, he looks at women like prey. Just waiting for the next one to sleep with. His top two when he looks for someone is “it has to be a challenge” and “great s3x”. So literally nothing about personality or who the woman is. Don’t date him. He will belittle and ridicule you. It’s the Jimmy show. If Jimmy doesn’t want to do it, it won’t happen. Be prepared for broken promises, being forgotten, and Jimmy always being more important than anything else. I believe he gets off on and boosts his ego by picking up attractive women and then carelessly discarding them. I will say, as a general human and friend he’s good, he just treats women like absolute trash.
Michael peter from Deutschland
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Brennan Towe from Virginia Beach
Brennan is a habitual liar and suffers from narcissistic personality disorder. He is infamous for dating multiple women at the same time everywhere in the US. He will love bomb you and make you think you are the only women he is dating. Please date with cautious. He is also still intimate with his former Morehouse College roommate.
Eli dionne from Nelson canada
Eli is violent. he attacked me on a date. later I found out he has done it to other girls and even went to court for it. watch out.
Thomas R. Butler from Lancaster Virginia
Lies about the number of children he has. If says 3 he really means 9 that’s right 9. From ages 25 to 7 or younger maybe He’ll love Bomb for years, which can easily be confused for consistency. Run as far and as fast as possible from this man. He’s the devil. You’ll think you’ve found Mr, right You’ll think now this is how xyz should have treated me all along it is his mask. The moment he leaves your side he takes it off flips it over, and is on to the next nest thing. Don’t let the fancy cars, and house fool you. This man is as unstable as they come. Ladies never second guess yourself, you know when something is off but you just can put your finger on it. He’ll break you and your heart and leave you there, causing me to have a nervous breakdown so badly I didn’t know the date or time. I d blank out looking toward the sun too long, literally, shocking the sh*t out of me. I’d birth his child, just days before catching him with another woman. He answered the door and pretend he didn’t know me. Jesus himself may have tried to warn me and I would have told him he was a liar. You’ve been warned, save yourself the hurt and pain. He doesn’t care about anything or anyone but himself, he’s a serial cheater. /// Lies more lie and lies some more. This man has 9 children with 9 different women. He lies and tells you he has just 3. These children range from ages 25 to 3 years. Don’t be fooled by the multiple cars and the lavish house he’s unstable as they come. He’ll love bombs for years which can be easily confused for consistency. He moves from woman to woman telling the sob story of how he’s tired of being tricked. Is a single father etc. He caused me a mental breakdown, where I was unable to recall the date or time. He literally shocked the life out of me. Believing all his lies, planning a wedding, and just days after I birth his 10 lbs son. Caught him with another woman, and he pretended to not know who I was. You’ll slowly feel yourself becoming insecure desperate not to become, what he told you was initially so off-putting about his exes. He’ll do everything in his power to lower your esteem eventually you are only happy when he is into you and sad when he isn’t. You’ve been warned, don’t be naive thinking your different, he doesn’t care about anything of anyone except himself. It doesn’t matter what you look like, what u own or don’t own your career or address, he’s just looking to feel grandiose momentarily.
Thierry ¨Marc¨ Mazenc from France/Mexico/China
Be careful, he travels to find his new victims. He trapped me into a fake love story to then abuse me emotionally and physically. He was extremely violent, kicked me, punched me, hit me several times ¨by mistake¨.
He also had s3x with other woman when we were in a relationship, he broke my heart when I found out.
He lies about his age to find much younger women on dating apps, latinas or asian, don’t fall into his trap.
Michael robert Gonzalez from River edge, NJ
Stay away!!!!!! Liar, cheater, alcoholic, drug addict. Evil in every way you could imagine!!! He’s not worth anything. Loser. Dead beat dad of 4. Probation forever. Always arrested. And he never leaves.
Derek Sanders from Salem, Ohio / St Pete, FL
He cheated on me but claimed it wasn’t “cheating” because it was only once…and then he had the audacity to ask me to still watch his dog for him before I never speak to him again because he has zero other friends in his life and I was helping him out even though we had already broken up. He also owed me money and when I asked him to pay me he wanted to deduct the cost of the flight cancelation fee because he had to cancel his flight home because he didn’t have a dog sitter…as if I am supposed to lose money out of my pocket because he f-ed me over and he is a loser with no friends?
Stephen Allen from Lewistown, pa
This man is the worst. He always has multiple relationships going on at the same time. I’ve been on to him for years but keep getting dragged into his life by new women. Just last night yet another girl called me crying because she found out about 2 other ongoing relationships he’s in. Everything out of his mouth is a lie. I am posting this so that hopefully it will save some new girls from going down the same road. My advice… do not even start because he is a smooth talker. He will have you convinced that you are the love of his life. He will tell you how he can’t stand men who cheat, while he’s already dating at least 2 others. You’ve been warned!
Gavin Nicholau from Morgan Hill, CA
Serial cheater and liar. Physically scarred me for life by engaging in cutt1ng during s3x without prior consent. Stalked me after we broke up, spread insane lies about me (like telling people my family were high up in an outlaw biker gang and had put a hit out on him), and told people he’d like to have me k1lled. Mirrors your values and beliefs to disguise himself as a good person all while intentionally deceiving and misleading you. Lies about who he is, where he’s from, and what experiences he has. Poor little rich boy.
Danny Iniguez from Champaign, IL
Warning: he is sexually unsafe and cannot control his anger. Be careful if you join his gym, he will try to entice you into what sounds like an appealing open/poly relationship, but only he is allowed to have multiple partners.
• He did not ask for my consent to be gagged or choked during s3x.
• He did not notify me or others that he gave us chlamydia.
• He verbally abuses his gym staff, humiliates them, and has high employee attrition.
• Admitted that a girl who used to attend his gym accused him of s3xual harassment.
• Refuses to believe that you’re telling the truth and constantly questions your loyalty.
His life story is sad, but he uses it as a lure. Please be careful.
Austin Kirby from Spokane, WA
Really sweet introvert turned super controlling narcissist. Accused me of cheating on him every day. Beware this guy, he’s paranoid and has a sharp, mean tongue when he’s angry. Lives with his parents, not worth the trouble.
Reece Pickering from Annan, Dumfries and Galloway, Scotland UK
Reece has too many unresolved anger issues as well as a history of violence and domestic disputes against even his own parents. He speaks horribly of every woman in his life as well and treats them like trash, please don’t add urself to that list, u probably think u can fix him but u can’t. Not to mention that he has a very severe addiction to p0rn, and has no drive for anything in life. Trust me, just leave as soon as u can, don’t let him weaponize suislide or his mental health, he’ll be fine, he’ll start talking to a new girl in no time.
i also forgot to mention he’s incredibly non self-aware AT ALL and has a plethora of undiagnosed mental health issues, and a tendency to lovebomb. he can be very controlling and hypocritical as well, he’ll expect devout loyalty and kindness from you, but won’t reciprocate. If I were to armchair diagnose him, I’d say he shows signs of BPD and autism as he has extreme attachment and anger issues, paranoia, and lacks insight into other people’s needs which results in a one-sided relationship of always catering to him but him blowing up when you expect anything from him.
Kevin Guzman from Toms River/Jackson New Jersey
Kevin was fired from his job for stealing, he sold his prescription med, falsified his drug tests by collecting and presented ma friend’s urine and cheated Then he abandoned his girlfriend and she was pregnant. He left her. He never acknowledged the baby and left her with all of the medical expenses
Jonathan (Jon) Oakley from Halstead Essex, Bedford Bedfordshire
This man is probably the biggest liar ever, He is a fantasist who is leading a very cruel double life, getting himself as much s3x as possible from woman.
He is predatory and appears in your life from nowhere.
He approached me and i had never met him before and within moments he began his well rehearsed routine of love bombing, He sweep me off me feet with flattery and claimed to be a professional racing driver for a well known global racing team, he then claimed to be a motorsport design engineer with a successful business, the lies went on…. International super car rental company, the Stig from the BBC show Top Gear. He even wrote stories to back all this up on the internet. The speed at which he operated gave me no time to stop and think about anything, as the next amazing brag and the overwhelming promises and the next huge show of affection quickly followed. Of course this was all just a wicked plan to get me into bed as soon as possible because once you have time to analyse the ridiculous achievements, things start to add up. only they didn’t because a quick google revealed that there are stories which make it seem plausible, this is the extent of the intent he goes to in the plan to get s3x from you. When i googled him (which obviously i did as he comes across as one in a million and you are excited to see this) I discovered that he was married with 4 children! When I confronted him, surprise surprise he denied it and i never heard from him again. When I met my current partner, we were chatting and this vile predator came up in conversation and straight away he spotted that these boasts could not be possible and a quick investigation found that all the stories to back his bullsh*t up have been written by him and only appear on forums and low level websites where content can easily be uploaded. He has gotten away with this for so long because he only appears in someone’s life long enough to get his quick s3x and then you find out he is married, he makes a clean break and you dont look into the fact that you have been targeted by a s3xual con man, if it wasnt for my boyfriend i never would have found this out, so i am posting this to warn as many woman as i can to stay well clear of this scum bag. I am also hoping that any previous victim may read this too (and there of loads of us) because he doesn’t deserve for them to think they met a great guy who just happened to be a married cheat, they met a s3xual predator who targeted them, lied them into bed and abused their trust. He is a bankrupt nobody who has achieved nothing in life for himself.
Josh from Wroclaw
He is a jerk who will cheat on you.
Joseph “Joey” Taylor from Waycross, GA
Has a rap sheet a mile long that he lies about, has fathered at last count 5 children with 4 women the last 2 are 4 months apart. He is a grifter and only interested in what he can scam from women. He stole almost 2K from me.
He uses burner phones and prepaid cards that is clue number one. He is trash plain and simple. Will consume any drug he can get his hands on and cannot even hold a minimum wage job.
Raymond Thatcher from Ticondiroga NY
He is a compulsive masturbat0r addicted to p0rn0graphy. Google Swampdonkey09. He lovebombs women starves them/ gaslights and projects his behavior onto his victims. Textbook narcissist. He spends hours “edging” online to young women in jeans and because of this obsession has had multiple bankruptcies. He takes no accountability for his emotional abusive tendencies and he hides behind a position of power in his community. He admitted he has taken life insurance out on prior girlfriends and they don’t know. He is literally obsessed with his pen15 and needs constant reassurance of its size being its average maybe. He doesn’t care about pleasing but expects it always.
Michael Vincett from Mount Holly Springs, PA
Michael is the epitome of a narcissist. He has multiple substance abuse issues. He’s a psych0path. Look it up. He fits it to a T. He is selfish. He is not loyal whatsoever. He cheats. He likes to use Snapchat and his long list of phone contacts to start that up. He has so many Sara’s in his contacts that he had to start saving them attached to the state or bar he met them at. He gaslights. He breadcrumbs. He lies and manipulates and tells complete stories. He’s good at what he does. He had me hooked for a year and a half before I finally got enough solid proof to finally be done with his f boy ahh. If you meet him, I would run in the other direction if I were you. Save yourself.
Reece Thomas from Savannah, GA
Dated this guy from few years. Works as a DJ at the str1p club and he cheated on my with multiple of the dancers who knew we were together, knew of him cheating on me, and some of them had no clue i existed. He’s not financially stable and would prefer to spend money on video games and DJ equipment to make music that isn’t very up to par. He’d play video games and restart it if he messed up or got “killed”, tells you a lot about how he is in life. Likes to cover issues up by buying you things and stays far away from hard conversations that create growth within a relationship. Doesn’t have much ambition expect for smoking and making music he never finishes. Had issues with control and lies a lot to make himself look good. Needs to go to the dentist as he has periodontal disease, active gingivitis, chronic bad breath, and severely bleeding gums. He doesn’t get along with his mother and talks bad about her, in which shows he has no respect for woman and a superior complex. Just steer clear, he’s 30+ and doesn’t brush his teeth and doesn’t have a solid future for any sort of commitment. Manipulative and rude.
Kevin T Scott from Phoenix
I dated this man for 7years, he was living a double life on me..
We lived together and his wife/3rd party once she reached me told me that had been together for 16th,
He’s a womanizer later she told me and I confirmed he bamboozles older women into s3x & eventually their money, he’s fluid in his sexuality as well, I’m embarrassed to say it but I thought other women should know & be careful of this predator . His an alcoholic, addictions like gambling & unfortunately s3xual too (any gender) I’ve been in counseling for 1yr as the shock really damages my life, my children’s. He needs to be exposed..
Ex NFL player, narcissistic individual. Ladies please do the homework. God bless
Jason Collins from Daytona Beach, Florida
My ex was a good guy, at least I thought. We had been together for 5 years, And everything was great, he was attentive, caring, loving, protective, and the s3x was great. Well one night, I got home late from work and he was in bed asleep. As normal I crawled into bed and snuggled up to him and felt something very odd, press into me. I reach down and felt metal encasing his bits. I shot up and turned a light on and saw what looked like a metal cage, padlocked onto his bits. I woke him and up and was freaking out. Turns out he visited a D0minatrix that locked it on him, and she had the keys to it. There was no way it was coming off without the keys. I left, and never looked back. A few months back we ran into each other and I had to ask, and he was still locked up 2 years later. I don’t understand why he felt the need to go to a D0minatrix when he had k1nky fun at home, but whatever the reason is, I couldn’t continue with him. He emailed me asking if the D0minatrix could send me the keys, and him and I talk, but I refused. He told me that she won’t give him the keys back because he lied to her about being single, but then told her about me after I left him. Regardless there is 1 ex boyfriend running around Daytona locked in a chastity cage, and cannot get out of it.
Jeremy Hansen from Antioch, IL
He’s a pathological liar and cannot be trusted. He lies about everything, OFs, cheating, money and past relationships. He has literally slept with his entire town and friend group. Absolutely has 0 morals and is complete hillbilly trash. He will sleep with anything that walks and is the scum of the earth.
Benjamin Dugas from New England area, U.S.
Met him in a group of friends and we hung out a couple of times on what I guess were like “dates”. Beware- he turned out to be a huge creep. I stopped being interested when my friends and I noticed he was messaging us separately asking to hang all the time and saying very weird things on Facebook— he was pushy and got way too close/doesn’t respect body space when talking to women. He seeks out multiple women at once but will lie when asked about it though (thinks we don’t talk to each other!). There is something very disturbing about this guy – while out with him he was staring at other women’s bodies and seems perverse. He latches on and won’t take cues to stop messaging. He gives off stalker/p3rv3rt vibes. He also had poor hygiene and bad breath. Run.
Curtis Pevehouse from Ardmore, Oklahoma.
Curtis abused me physically and emotionally for about a year. He is a choker, which makes him the most dangerous type of domestic violence perpetrators. I no longer care one way or the other about him, but I always wished someone would have warned me and now that I came across this site, perhaps I can protect another. Watch out for love bombing- he’s the perfect boyfriend for the first few months, but that Curtis will leave as soon as you’re emeshed and you will not see him again. Serial dater, cheater, and married multiple times. I’ve spoken with one of his exes that came after me and he appears to use the same M.O. for each woman. If you MUST date him, take it really slow and don’t agree to everything he suggests. Be careful. This isn’t just a bad boyfriend, this is one who almost killed me. DV choking is no joke.
Cody champion from Weatherford, tx.
He is a liar, extremely manipulative and emotionally abusive. Cheats like it’s second nature to him, and doesn’t care at all about how his behaviors harm other people. Untrustworthy, deceitful, selfish, uncaring, buffoon!
Skyler Briggs from Winnipeg Canada.
He is manipulative. He pretended to care about me the whole time we were together and then dumped me right after I fell in love with him and he had also gotten me pregnant (and it was SA) he is now messaging me 4-5 times a week on random accounts on every platform I have saying I know you love me and you need me, trying to gaslight me into doing it with him. He is unloyal a liar and he is a sociopath, and I don’t mean that to be dramatic that is what he is. He has no emotion at all. He lusts and finds it entertaining to hurt women. He also threatened to hit me many many times when we were together and caused me to flinch many times because I was terrified. All throughout this his roomate and roomates girlfriend sat there and watched the whole thing never trying to help me once.
Kevin Thomas Guzman from Toms River and/or Jackson, NJ
abandoned a woman when she was pregnant and left her with all of the costs associated with it. He is 50 years old and was fired last year for stealing from his job. He was selling his prescription meds and cheats on every girlfriend he has ever had. He will charm you and research you and figure out the person you want. He will become that person and use you and then cheat on you the whole time.
Noah J Barton from Acushnet/fairhaven MA.
Manipulative and compulsive liar. he takes advantage of intoxicated and underage women and has a pattern of s3xua1 deviance. aka total psycho r****t
Stefan from Baltimore MD.
Stefan is a narcissist and nihilist. He is actually insane. He pretends to be a nice misunderstood guy but once you get to know him, run. He is manipulative and depressive. He drags the people around him down. He neglects those around him and disrespects them. Save yourself the trouble and don’t go on a date with this fool. He insults himself to make you feel bad for him. It’s all a play.
Tom Stirk from Melbourne, Australia.
Tom Stirk lead me on for almost a year. He took advantage of me and took me on dates and kept mentioning he wanted commitment and a relationship only for him to abruptly end things because he wasn’t ready for anything serious and didn’t have time to date anyone and wanted to be alone and even owned up to playing me along. He did this to me 3 times and whenever we weren’t together, I found him on tinder saying that he was after a relationship. The guy is extremely narcissistic and will always talk about his problems and traumatic past but won’t even give you the time of day to talk about your life. He is a grown ass man and still a mummas boy. He is a heavy drug user and is mentally unstable and doesn’t know what he wants. To any girls out there that unfortunately cross paths with him, my advice would be to RUN!!! Don’t waste your time on this f-boy! He will only waste your time and make you feel like you’re not good enough! The guy also has HPV and denied giving it to me and lied about getting tested for it and has potentially infected so many women with this disease! AVOID!
Alex Merwin from Ontario, Canada.
I know this from years ago, but Alex cheated on me, or well on his actual girlfriend and now wife. He slept with at least two other women as well.
Jaime Villanueva from Lynn, MA.
We reconnected on OKCupid a few years after college. This dude is UNWELL. He has serious issues with boundaries, as in you need to say, “NO!” at least three times for him to get it.
He has issues with self control, he is a raging alcoholic, and he is delusional. On our second date, he randomly burst into tears in the middle of a bar, screaming, “My mom is a millionaire!” (she’s not lol). He then proceeded to tell me he was in love with me (bro, relax) and told me I couldn’t see other people…on the second date.
Needless to say, I hightailed it out of that situation and urge anyone who knows him to do the same.
Alex Burmeister from Redding, CT.
Lying, cheating, manipulative narcissist. He has anger issues, substance abuse issues, and is a compulsive liar. He will steal from you (he stole from me) and he is incapable of being faithful (he cheated multiple times with multiple partners, putting me at risk). STEAR CLEAR!!!
Marcus Brown from Maricopa, AZ. This man is detrimental to any female’s mental health. He fed me lies…so many lies, manipulated me, depleted me of everything emotionally, and in the end gaslighted me and then blamed me for the break up. He was very mean, cold, emotionless. In the entirety of our relationship he was emotionally chaotic, berated me on several things from my communication style, how I dressed, and repeatedly falsified his intentions of what he actually wanted from me. Ladies, save yourself and run away!
Drew moore from Jonesboro, Arkansas.
Drew is a loser. Who is a junkie and uses women. He has nothing but d1ck to offer and he has herpes so watch out!!! He got me pregnant than blocked me!!!! He’s a loser ladies
Jeffrey Steven Knowles from San Clemente, CA.
1. Lies about his past… said his wife cheated on hiim then I found out he cheated on her for 2 years before they got a divorce. He would cheat on hiis lunches and have s3x in his car with a married woman named Kristi.
2. Keeps his phone very private, aalways accused me of cheating. now that we are not together I see all of his instagram comments on exes and other women of wanting to “motorboat them”
3. Everytime we had a fight he would immediately get on a dating app. one time we had a therapy appointmnet at 6pm, at 5 when I told him I would meet him there and he respoinded I love you, he also send me a voice memo of him flirting with anither women he met on a dating app on accident.
4. I always had to beg him for s3x he was never in the mood, howver he was constantly telling me how he used to have regular hook ups when he was single.
Scott Hardina from Scottsdale & Prescott, Arizona.
Scott Hardina is a 47 yr old trust fund baby, he was in an accident in his 20s and got a settlement. He has a hobby job to keep his mommy off his back. All the nice things, car, house, he didnt work for a day in his life. Which would be fine if he were humble and not a lazy piece of shit. He’s a spoiled brat. Mom pays all his bills, dad does his yardwork and he can’t make a decision without having hours of conversations with mommy first. He did so many drugs in his teenagers that it fried his brain. He uses that as an excuse for being forgetful. He dates women half his age. When he was 20 he dated a 14-year-old for 10 years. The one after that was 15 years younger than him. He finds the young ones so he can be in control and feel smart. Smart women are intimidating to him so he finds ways to make you feel small and stupid.
I’m only two years younger than him. We went to high school together, he Facebook messaged me and I foolishly replied. We dated for five years. Multiple break ups throughout the years. He pretended to be somebody he’s not. But he found me shortly after my divorce and my daughter going away to college so I was vulnerable and naïve.
He’s Secretive, shady and untrustworthy. Anytime he’s confronted about these things he’d gaslight me,makes you feel like you’re crazy. Just to find out your gut instinct was right. He had our relationship from all social media sites. When asked he lied and said I’m being crazy. He was having secret conversations with young girls on all platforms.
He uses women to clean, take care of the dogs and the house. He’s only interested in the relationship when it’s convenient for him Then if he feels like you’re getting too close he pushes you away and then yo-yo’s you back. He’s emotionally abusive and manipulative. Five years of my life wasted on a manchild but I bent over backwards for him because I saw the good in him sometimes I made excuses for him
and now all I have to show for it is cervical cancer. He gave me 2 strains of high risk HPV that progressed in pre-cancerous within a year and cancer in 4 yrs. Annual Pap before we started dating was clear, 1 yr later, fresh new case HPV. So either cheated on me or had it right before we started dating.
He got the dogs I got the medical bills.
Anybody find his name on here RUN! don’t let the first 3-6 months of charm fool you. Everything he pretends to like and do is a lie. because he finds out what you’re into and pretends those are his interests also. Within six months he will tell you he does not like any of these things, he will never socialize with your family or friends, he will never go on vacation unless it’s with his parents. Yep all our vacations his mom was there and she planned them. Mommy is the only woman he loves and respects, she controls him. He’s already married to her. Their relationship is beyond unhealthy, boundaries crossed.
And I’m pretty sure he and his buddy may still be selling drugs, like in their high school days. the amount of cash stashed is suspicious, and I think he drugged me one New Year’s Eve.
Stay away ladies!! Especially the young 20 year olds that he likes.
Nicholas Mis from Encinitas, CA.
Manipulative, narcissistic, mentally and physically abusive.
Met on hinge. Dated for 6 months but it was pure hell. I worked my butt off to be with him but he kept manipulating and gaslighting me. Told me I have issues, I’m nuts, crazy, a c*nt among other things. I’d bring up how I feel and he got mad at me and made it my problem. I needed to go to the hospital one day and he said “I’m at the gym then I’m going to the store then I’ll come and take you.” His mental abuse turned to physical abuse.
He used to pick up woman at the beach and at gyms so beware. I’m sure he’ll be back to doing that again now that I broke up with him.
Hes not worth it ladies.
Rahman “Ray” Adedoyin from Chicago/Algonquin IL.
Only his needs are important and nothing is his fault. Always broke, he refuses to work because he doesn’t want to pay child support to his son’s mother. Perpetually “down on his luck” but this is due to laziness. Uses people so he will borrow your things and destroy them, will not offer to replace. Abusive to people, children and animals. Every personal problem is a social media post, so if you’re dating him your business will be made known to all his friends.
Micah Joseph Barwick from Austin, TX USA.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Ten years ago he cheated on his wife and left her for me (Karma is paying me a visit). Five years ago, he dumped me and then came crawling back begging me to marry him – stupid me, I did.
Well, here we are, same pattern, he is cheating again but this time tried to blame the relationship’s failure all on me. In these past weeks, he used me several times for s3x, told me he loved me while saying lies about me to his friends and family. I filed for divorce and told him to leave. He’s a broken boy with mommy abandonment issues that I thought I could fix. Save yourself the trouble and heartbreak – run!!!!
Shaun Edward Wallace from NC, MO, GA.
Cheating husband with a hidden side for transgender men.
Jeremy Cutbirth from Spring, Texas.
Beware of JEREMY CUTBIRTH from SPRING, TEXAS. I am writing this to spare other women the hurt that he caused me and continues to cause women. When you meet him, you will wonder where he’s been all your life. He says he wants to travel the world with you, he wants to grow old with you, and he will buy you whatever you need. Your phone cracks? He will make an appointment with at&t and go pick up your new iPhone. He seems too good to be true, because he is. I woke up one morning and he was having s3x with me ana11y. He was just finishing when I woke up. I felt so gross and like a rag doll and was scared. I confronted him about it about 30 minutes later and he was shocked and duped that I knew. His response was, “Next time I’ll just jack off to p0rn.” That’s the last time I saw jeremy. Bottom line is he seems like such a nice guy and he’s really not. There’s so many other things I could mention, but this person truly does not know what love is.
M from Indiana.
Dated X for over a year.
he would say I am not beautiful because of how I look and controls how I dressed, the make up I ware, sets rules I needed to follow on how I need to act as a person, he said a physiologics says everything is my fault for what happens and goes wrong in the relationship and he refused for us to see physiologics together. He used to tell me when I should cook and clean, I was not allowed to listen to my own music and my own shows, he says I wrong about everything and he says he has fur more knowledge than me about everything in the world.
He says he is against feminist.
When I was assertive towards him or when I changed my mind he would blocked my phone number.
Threatened to block me if I call him or message him to many times.
He blames me for everything, says he did not ask me to be empathic and to help him, says its not my problem.
When I told him, he makes me upset when I was emotional and emtionaly stress he would say I am too sensitive and told me not to be too dramatic.
Starts agurments out of the blue, conutines agurment for days. He leaves the house and call a girlfriend he has been trying to get with.
He says he is looking for girl who can give finicical status and full time residency.
Justin Juho Yun from San Antonio or Houston Texas.
Justin has a 3 year old who he doesn’t want anything to do with. He is also narcissistic and will love bomb you in the beginning before he gets super abusive and controlling. He doesn’t care about the girl he’s with, only his gaming business. He had a protective order for being abusive to his kid and baby momma. He also has genital herpes and has purposely given it to girls, also chlmadyia. Stay safe ladies in Texas
Fraser Stead from Southwest of England.
Been with this man for 10 years 2 kids, I saw some red flags in the beginning but didn’t think anything of it, how quickly we dated, love bombing, after a week asked me out, then the belittling me in front of friends etc cutting me off from male friends the lies, list went on I found out pieces that he was cheating nudes, emails etc I’d raise it with him and he would react in abuse physically aswell as emotionally he’d say they mean nothing but be cold and distant making out I’m the reason he’s unhappy and never apologise for what I’ve found out. The second one I found out and threw him out because I couldn’t take it anymore didn’t know what he was truly up to ignored me for months but still controlled me due to finances of the house I met someone and he came back pleading he was trying to find himself he realised I’m his soul mate, love bombed me, made me feel bad because he never slept or done anything with these women it was only me for 9 years, when I said no raised what he’s done to me and how he’s treated me he done the normal threatening to end his life superficial cuts and this man knows the body, he wants to become a dr knows too many facts and has an answer for everything. I took him back because I thought he needed help even though I should have learned he has done this in the past to reel not only me back in but others to feel sorry for him think he needs help he will carry this on for weeks/ months until he can say he’s a changed man and he’s ‘sorry’. I’ve found out the last 5/6 years he’s been in full blown relationships with other women promising them after a week they will be his wife, have a family together, grow etc only because he was messaging me saying why is my mum saying I’ve tried kissing you and he was next to her, I’d outline we literally slept together today and he responded with when, prove it. I know the audacity I sent screenshots picture of him half naked because I knew deep down he was with another woman, he had been sleeping with me staying at the house promising we was going to make this work and little did I know he was forcing this girl to be with him, staying at hers ignoring me making up lies not only to me to this other woman also, we contacted eachother, shared the details we was both speechless to say the least, he then started the disappearing act texts that makes no sense for us to worry and ignore everything he’s done we didn’t give in I shared with his friends, mother and work, to prove I wasn’t going crazy I wasn’t a psych0 this man had literally ruined me for his own gain along with other women. She sent me a recording of him going there to declare his love it was sickening because it was the same lines same tactics but she knew the truth, he then was making me feel sorry for him to the point I said do not come to the flat I have a friend over he came in wielding a knife assuming it was male and the information I got out of him was just shocking, he made a post it note video to the other woman saying let me protect you can you be my wife I meant every word etc just so she would talk to him! Saying he will travel with her and FaceTime is there for a reason in disrespect to our young children. Last November I found dating apps, s3x worker sites fake only fan accounts, telegram, messages from pr0stitut3s while he was claiming to go gym, I asked him how many other women how many pr0stitiut3s he said he’s never touched one but said he wanted to see their menus and catfished one. The police officer listening to this recording stopped it looked at me and said please get tested he was meeting up with these women still paying for their services and then catfishing them. I felt sick! He would then come home love bomb me sleep with me and spout lies. He’s put trackers in my car, he joked about cameras in the house but it got me to the point I was going through every room to find something because I couldn’t trust him, he took my phone December after manipulating me all of it was research purposes because he wanted us to do only fans I am not confident and don’t feel comfortable doing it and he would spout something to make me feel even worse for not doing it. I gave him my phone because he didn’t trust I wasn’t being loyal to him little did I know he was going through my phone and deleting all evidence I found of him cheating on me, the tracker the lot. Gave me a pre engagement ring christmas saying he’s devoted to me I’m his and I didn’t know he was pursuing this other woman. Police are involved and it’s sickening because he’s been messaging her saying how can we fix us and so on and messaging me at the same time the same thing. I don’t want another woman falling for this and getting sucked in to abuse it’s frightening and sick at what he’s been doing so please don’t fall for him ignore him because he’s clever until he gets caught and then uses the ending his life to get out of owning up to it. Stay safe
George Joseph McQuade from Los Angeles / formerly Indiana.
He’s just lonely because -although he’s working (military) and earns a lot more than he should, he is homeless since all his “crazy exGFs” throw him out after he lives off them, and chooses to live in his car until he finds another woman to move in on. L.A. girls don’t want a homeless guy. He partakes in a LOT of toxic behaviors that I WON’T have in my life i.e., loves stripp3rs, has a p0rn addiction, is the creepy old guy on IG and FB (hes 46 in 2023) following a LOT of naked girls his sons age, “ALL my ex-girlfriends have BPD”; is extremely superficial, loves women with lots of plastic surgery (although he himself is not attractive, skinny everywhere but fat belly), he’s got what appears to be Aspergers syndrome/BPD/avoidant attachment disorder/again -p0rn addiction/dirty old man/possibly somewhere on the NPD spectrum too because although he is too cheap to lovebomb or buy gifts, he WILL mirror you (pretend to be everything you want), text all day and eat up as much of your time as possible and when his mask starts slipping, he will just ghost. He’s extremely unhealthy mentally, he has women friends but he is a major misogynist. This guy hates women. He fanboys any toxic content creators that take an anti-women stance. He’s an extremely pervy dirty old man incel, dreaming of being a fkboy. It’s really depressing.
Fernando Velasquez arenas from Terryvile CT.
Cold and selfish
Adam Meyers from Melbourne, Australia.
Adam is a manipulative narcissist. I have learned that throughout our entire relationship, he remained on dating apps, and was seeing other women, despite us being ‘exclusive’. He lied, he gaslit, and he manipulated me endlessly. I am completely broken. He always called his exes ‘crazy’ and ‘psycho’ which I should have noticed as the first warning, but he knows how to charm. My fellow Melbourne girls, please avoid this man for your own wellbeing. He is taekwondo obsessed, if that helps.
Michael Evangelis from Hopatcong and Bayonne, New Jersey.
Michael Evangelis, also goes by Alexander and Nick to trap women. We were together for years, and were having relationship issues because he didn’t seem to think that communicating and figuring out things together was necessary. We even went to therapy multiple times. Each time he would make a promise infant of the therapist, and then break it the next day saying he is a man and will do what he wants. Then I found out that while he was traveling for work (which was during most of our relationship) he was picking up multiple women on apps and the gym. He was also doing this when he would come back home to New Jersey. He would tell me that he is busy with work or managing his property. But instead he was going on dates and having s3x with other women. He would lie to them that he is single, lie about his name (saying it’s Nick or Alexander), his intentions, and then get them to sleep with him in investment property. When our relationship was really struggling he would argue about s3x, and be abusive emotionally and physically. But the truth is he was mad that he was sleeping with other women, yet I was saying no. He is a manipulative psychopathic man who has gone to an abusers support group without any success. When I stopped seeing him, he put a tracker on my car and left me cryptic voicemails about he knows where I am and that I better not be with any other man. He believed that I belonged to him, while he continued to cheat and be abusive. He has done therapy and his therapist had told him to get help, go to s3x addict group. But he continues to deny he has any issue. Michael Evangelis does not respect women. He only wants to use them to make himself feel good about his own self. He will say his name is Alexander or Nick, and that he is from Denville, Parisppany, or Bayonne (various towns in NJ). He only knows how to lie. I found folders of videos and pictures he took of all these women like he is proud of his actions.
Adam McClanahan from Maryville, TN.
He was the most selfish person I ever met. He only cared about his wants and needs. I would tell him that I didn’t want to be intimate with him sometimes and he would kind of force me to and try to shame me into doing it. No woman should ever have to deal with him. Plus I genuinely always thought he was gay. I caught him checking out multiple men all the time, so I think he was just in the closet and that’s why he treated me and other women he has dated so bad. Protect yourself ladies. Stay away from this man.
Leonard Harvey Schreck from Red Lion, PA.
This man spent 6 years verbally abusing me and calling me names and accusing me of things that were not real. Calling me a cheater and every name under the sun. He broke into my home and threatened to murd3r me and blame it on his friend. He attacked my 10 year old child that was only trying to protect his mom.
I took polygraph tests proving everything Leonard accused me of was just lies. Leonard took a test proving everything he told me about other women he was seeing behind my back was lies and that he was the one cheating and not me.
He spent until Feb. Of 2023 in a form of s3xual relationship with me while running around at bars ignoring me and pretending that there was no other women when really there was.
He slandered my name all the way from Nebraska to Baltimore.
His pick up line is ( my ex cheated on me ) it’s all lies, no one ever cheated on him.
He spent years going behind my back slandering my name to other women as a form of getting attention from them.
He failed his polygraph and refused to be honest about it after spending years lying about me for attention.
When ever I confronted him about lying or when he got caught lying year after year about where he is, who he’s with and run around disappearing for hours, days, instead of being an honest man, he chose to call me names and make excuses about why he’s the only one that doesn’t have to answer for what he’s done after verbally abusing women and slandering their names for years just to get attention from other women.
He loves calling women wh0r3s when he’s the only one that ran around acting like one.
Rick Little from Minneapolis/ Fargo.
Player history: This guy is married and is a constant cheater- she has no idea either! He pretends he single and they are going thru a few issues. ALL LIES! He is nice when you meet him/ chat with but when he’s done he’s gone and he really is just using you! He will pay for videos and chats. You can find him at any strip club, massage parlor, and expects a happy ending. He is a frequent “STG” and “escort affairs” user so he pays for *women*! He’s got a dirty d**K! Beware of the DRD!
Bennett Locke from Braintree, MA.
Ben is not what he appears. He is physically, emotionally, and psychologically abusive. The two assault arrests he has pertaining to his abuse on me are just the tip of the iceberg. He threatened to p0is0n my friend’s dog several times, threatened to k1ll me (sent me pics of him holding a hand gun) and threatened to hire someone to k1ll me based on the contacts he met in jail. He psychologically abused me by saying the most ugly things about my body, send me nudes of the girls he was cheating with and told me to k1ll myself already (I have BPD and suffer from these kinds of thoughts) Ben is scary. He puts on a great act and love bombs at the start. Do not fall for it. He’s a pathological liar and cheater. He has no conscience or remorse. He will ruin your life then walk away, gaslighting you and he will not give a single F about the damage he has caused. He is a dangerous predator. RUN!!!
Todd Spangler from Gloucester, VA.
Over the course of 6 years together after consoling him through a rough divorce where she cheated on him, yet, he cheated on her. Swore he could never betray me. In our last month together he met someone new and continued the relationship with me. Through calculated manipulation he withdrew emotionally leaving me no choice but to walk away. Fast forward one month and he updated his Facebook profile of a photo of him and her. I waited 5 years to post a photo of us on social media once his divorce finalized. He knows her for merely two months and is displaying her for the world to see. I walked away assuming we drifted too far apart when all the while he sabotaged the relationship so that I would walk away and he would appear the good guy. The pain is indescribable seeing the photo of them and then hearing they met in January when I ended things in February tore my already broken heart even further. Obviously he’s a coward who is afraid to be alone so he must find someone new before leaving his current relationship respectively. I truly believed he was a genuine person and now he doesn’t even acknowledge me to allow proper closure in order for me to heal and move on.
Kunal Mehta from Sydney, Parramatta, Australia.
He is a polygamist. Smooth player. Alcoholic.
He connects with women on dating and matrimonial sites under the pretext of wanting to marry.
He never uses tinder because as per him he doesn’t want women who have casual relationships with other men.
He will introduce women to his friends over video calls to show-off to them.
He’ll use words like “I’ll keep you like a queen” “i want to love you”
I have spoken to two other women he was with along with me and that’s when I ended it.
Kenneth aka Rome aka Kenoe Robinson from Omaha Nebraska.
I have never meet a devil in real life until this boy. Once he has you thinking he is “different than other guys” he tells you this horrible sad stories about family struggles, even used his daughters mental health to get money from women. All the while he is bragging to his friends that this is his “game” to women so he doesn’t have to work. He keeps multiple girls around for s3x and money. Literally walking red flag, no job, no place to stay, busted car but because he is quiet and pretends to be sweet he gets away with it. He is a horrible person.
Paul Thomas Taylor from San Jose, CA.
I write this hoping to save some poor fool from falling for this con man.
Paul and I dated for 5 years, 4 of which he was abusive emotionally, physically and financially.
This “man”, presents an image of extreme success but he only gets anything by taking it from others. He used my information to take a loan out on a vehicle (through online service Carvana) that he then damaged extensively and accrued an amount over $2,000 of fines/penalties, parking and toll violations on.
Paul also racked up $10,000 in credit card charges on my account. He also skipped out on $8,000 he agreed to pay when I purchased furniture for our apartment on my credit card.
This man will gaslight you, lie to you, cheat on you. He will spin you a story of how much he has been victimized, from a history of vicious ex girlfriends, to lies about abuses he suffered as a child (both physically and s3xua11y), to lies about where he grew up, the nature of his adoption and relationship (or lack there of) with his family.
The only real thing I ever knew about him was his veteran status. He did serve and was wounded while on deployment.
He will excuse his mistreatment of you because he “is in pain”.
He will excuse his alcoholism and substance abuse because these substances, (he is particularly fond of c0caine, but will use whatever he can get) is the only thing that works for his chronic pain.
Please protect yourself from this person. If he’s at all in your life, remove him. Cut him off and burn that access shut.
Jonathan H. Morgan from Savannah GA.
We were together for 5 years, and 6 years ago that I wasn’t the only girl he was with. I was meant to be the at home girlfriend that gave him his children and took care of the houses because he has many. I spent the 1st 2 years of our relationship busting my butt and creating a really cool Inn in the Sterling district of Savannah Georgia. The part of that history I did not know was the inn supplied him with cool people that he can make jokes too and hot girls that he can F. I won’t tell you the name of the Inn but it’s in starland arch district please note that Jonathan has genital herpes and does not tell. He told me after 6 months of being together. He was seeing lots of guests behind my back and then eventually he started dating his Chinese manager and left me for her and then she left him because she wanted a baby. Note when he left me I was pregnant and then I had a miscarriage. It all started because of he said that he would not be in a relationship if the s3x ever stopped more then a few weeks. He knew I had trauma before we met and he was insisted that he helped me with that, pretty much all he really did was make me relive on my trauma and tell me to get over it. But I was also working hard to try to get the Inn open Because he didn’t know how to hire employees and the people helping really didn’t care if we open On the open day of March 2020. Yes yes he has a lot of money he has a lot of cars and a lot of houses but that’s not why I loved him so much I loved his crazy goofy personality how we worked on things together and how we just enjoyed each other. But it seems the only reason he was attracted to me was because of the s3x. He was having s3x with guests while I was in the house cleaning. You never told me that after 2 years we were gonna be in a somewhat polite relationship. Where he gets to go and screw all the girls he wants but I can’t screw anyone but him. His absence has avoided his just disrespected not caring about who I was or supporting me and any of my decisions or life. He would tell everyone that I didn’t love myself but I did I was just being emotionally abused ocean lamb views to where I could figure out anything because he had confused me so much telling me he loves me but yet just respecting me. He said he couldn’t trust me and he resented me but I never rejected him from s3x he thought I did and that stuck with him when I was just talking about my trauma and how I don’t like to be forced. He got mad because I didn’t pursue him for s3x but I never did in the beginning so why are you expecting me to do something I didn’t do. He would get mad at me just talking about work such as Hey what color do you want this door with turn into a huge argument. I told him I didn’t want to keep cleaning rooms for a living because I barely made poverty level in the state of Georgia. He told me I shouldn’t try to get more money because he pays for the houses he pays for my living and everything else though he honestly didn’t. The business paid for the houses we lived in and it paid for all the utilitperiod am I food in the things I liked I bought myself because I didn’t see it ethically right to have a business purchase something for me personally especially when it’s a business account. So I paid for all my stuff with my amazingly little paychecks can you tell me I shouldn’t worry because I’m dating a millionaire. He is a millionaire and assets only he got it because of his parents they’re not rich but they have great credit and can’ cosign. He is a very good smooth talker and he will say anything he has to say to a female to get them to have s3x with him. You will not be his only you will only be his toy. As in the letter he wrote me he has 18 years left to screw everything he wants, and he doesn’t want to miss out. My therapist and some of his friends call him in narcissist, but I was the only one that would ever stay into his face. But if you do meet him flirt with him boost his ego you might get a nice trip to the island house that I used to live at where you can see dolphins absolutely beautiful swimming in the pool, Take a dip in the hot tub that I rebuilt and enjoy the beautiful wildlife he held he might even make you dinner. He’ll talk dirty to you maybe put on some p0rn or show that’s very suggestive don’t do it, Just use him like he uses every other girl. He flatters and boosters he goes to get what he wants but I’m letting you know what he wants and how you can take advantage for yourself. Maybe if everybody starts treating him the way he does to others maybe he’ll see what kind of a crappy person he really is.
And it’s interesting because he told me about his exes I wonder if I’m used to demand s3x from him and how he hated it so I tried not to do that to him because that’s not my personality. The Times I did want to have s3x he kept telling me he wasn’t having outbreak to actually have s3x with him, because he never talked to me and that was the fault of everything and hes not communicating with me and he said it was really hard to even talk to me because I have Asperger And that my I autism prevents me from understanding any In the portable at communicating, I’m sorry but I’m straightforward honest and Blunt. He liked it before and then all of a sudden he didn’t like it I don’t know who hes talking to or where he gets these ideas from but hes not the man that I fell in love with so many years ago.
I don’t think I could ever trust him again because he is just as worse as the one before named Jeff Dickey who was not a marine who was never in the military and used his kids to get what he wants and get sympathy and free food cigarettes and all that other BS. That guy will take your money and use your car and use you up until you have nothing and I’ll try to trap you by having a kid with you. That’s what you tried to do and then I had surgery in which had to stop my periods as then that’s when the physical views happened. Jonathan knew of my trauma with this guy and promise you would never do the same things but yet he ended Up doing the exact same things minus breaking my arm.
I ultimately had to leave the state to get away from him and to heal.
Brett Burns from Missouri.
Brett is psychologically abusive. I would not be posting about him if he weren’t. His behavior screams narcissistic personality disorder. He doesn’t take accountability for his actions, has a long, colorful history with the law, and every story he tells me always ends up being someone else’s fault. He dismissed my feelings and my needs, accused me of cheating nonstop with basically everyone I spoke to even though I offered him my phone to show I had nothing to hide, he blew up over the smallest things (groceries, housework, etc.), belittled me and everyone around him, would call and text multiple times throughout the day to ask where I was and who I was with, he lied constantly, violated my boundaries and told me they were ridiculous, shamed me for not shaving as often as he thought I should, shamed me for having ambitions and goals that didn’t revolve around him, and was generally an angry, unreasonable person. When we first met he was super sweet, took me on shopping sprees, gassed me up, told me I was the woman of his dreams, his “Angel”, and that he wanted to provide for me and take care of me, aka, he lovebombed me. I didn’t recognize this for what it was because no man had made me feel so special before. That all changed when I got pregnant with his child. He became disrespectful, constantly told me I didn’t care about him or the child because I was continuing to work. He has caused issues for me at work with others as a result. He told me if we can’t be together he’s moving to a different state. He has also told me he has no intention of supporting me financially throughout the pregnancy. When I told him I wanted to look for a different, less stressful job he got angry with me because he wants me to be his personal assistant and said he wants me to do what he wants and work for the “family business” which really just means work for him with zero autonomy or freedom. He didn’t respect the fact that parenthood would be completely changing my life while he didn’t plan on sacrificing or changing anything once the child arrives. He got angry when I went to see my friends and family out of state even though he was invited and chose not to come. He also got angry when I did anything social without him even though he was almost always invited. He has said that he isn’t even sure the baby is his several times. He didn’t understand why I feel so exhausted from the pregnancy all the time and questioned why I go to bed so early when I finally moved my stuff out of his place. He would get angry when I didn’t want to stay up late with him; he got angry when I wasn’t in the mood to have s3x with him. He offered no emotional support and never intended to be involved with child rearing beyond financially and that support exists ONLY if we would have stayed together and do things the way he wants them to be done. At first he told me he would help me get health insurance. I am a 1099 contractor and am pretty healthy, so I didn’t need it until I got pregnant. Now he says he will only help me if we are a couple. He makes plenty of money so there’s no reason for him not to support his child. I have never posted anything on this site and honestly didn’t know it existed until today. Hopefully this is the only review I will ever feel compelled to write on an ex. Avoid this man at all costs. You will regret it if you don’t. He did the same thing to his last girlfriend and doesn’t see a problem with his behavior. I am now trying to figure out how to make ends meet and move back home to Oklahoma closer to my family and close friends as I have no support system in this state and am facing the reality of being a single mom and giving birth alone to my very first child. For more information on this man, please reach out via email at egtenny@gmail.com or Facebook messenger via the link in my profile. Be careful out there.
Chad Spencer from Ohio.
I met him off meetme. It was OK in the beginning. He moved in quickly. I met his mom quickly. We got a place together rather fast and that’s when the DV started. He dumped me off his $5 couch. Took my phone to refrain from calling for help. Blocked the only exit door. Dragged me off the bed. Destroyed my dresser. He shoved me so hard I ended up collapsing to the floor. I fell pregnant during that time. (I moved out) He has been inconsistent in her life, always getting in DV relationships. He has called me horrible names in public in front of our daughter including preventing me from taking her out of the situation so shes not a witness. He likes to have another person on the phone while arguing/video record arguements. He SA’d me last year. I also watched him physically abuse his son last year. He uses, abuses, lies and cheats. Which is what all of our arguments were mainly over. This is over the course of several years.
He has also held me down to the floor before during an argument leaving bruises on my wrists. Me having to spit in his face for him to release me.
Muhammad Saif Islam from Hollywood, Florida.
Saif is originally from Bangladesh and he now lives in Hollywood, Florida. He is a brown man obsessed with white women. He is self-hating and uses any opportunity to separate himself from his heritage – claiming to be another ethnicity and wearing colored contacts to appear mixed race. Saif made it abundantly clear he wanted white-passing children during a discussion we had about marriage and kids. Saif stated he would want to adopt little white “goddesses” of his own to achieve this desire. I don’t think I need to go any further… It was over and done that very moment. Disgusting.
Gregory Eng from Miami, Florida.
Greg Eng is originally from New York but is currently living in Miami, Florida. He is an alcoholic and makes for a rather embarrassing and pushy companion while going out. Greg will take photos and videos of you without your permission (and refuse to delete them). He is an unhappy, self-conscious man who will take out his insecurities on you in various ways. Greg argues over semantics/pragmatics in order to make himself feel intellectually superior than you but lacks the ability to hold himself to the same standards. He will future fake with you early on in an attempt to persuade you to accept his faults with promises of taking care of you, paying your rent, moving you in, going on an international trip together, etc. Do not fall for it.
Jeff Choi from Torrance, California.
Jeff is from South Korea and lived in NYC before moving. He resides in Torrance, California. Jeff plays the role of a tortured, misunderstood victim with a troubled past and an unlucky streak with women in order for you to let your guard down and pity him. Pay close attention to the things he says and how he responds to certain topics. He will parrot your needs and desires as his own as a way to manipulate you and create a false sense of connection/mutual understanding.
Jeff will strategically say and do what someone you’d think genuinely cares about you would say and do just to turn around and treat you poorly after he’s successfully lead you to believe him and his lies. Jeff virtual signals, acts morally superior, and acknowledges all the ways in which people take advantage of others/hurt one another as if he would never think to perform such monstrosities himself… as he proceeds to prey upon, be disingenuous to, and consciously harm others.
Please note, he will use metal illness as an excuse for any and all wrongdoings. Be aware this is a fully grown adult man, very much capable of self control, discipline, and the ability to be a decent human being. He knew what he was going to do before he did it and he will keep his true intentions from you until he is finished. Jeff has absolutely zero integrity.
Just incase this particular Jeff is somehow confused or mistaken for another with a similar name, I wanted to provide some additional information to set him apart – this Jeff Choi prides himself in having traveled through various parts of Europe (especially his stay in southern Germany). He will also mention his trip to Japan if he has the chance to. I am sure he won’t forget to include that he performed various forms of labor during his travels in exchange for a place to stay in an effort to appear humble/relatable; however, if you are unfortunate enough to get swept up in this man’s mess, you’ll come to find out this is just yet another way he will try to support the convoluted façade he’s desperately trying to make you believe. Stay safe ladies.
Myong Choi from LA/Torrance, California.
Myong lives in the LA/Torrance area in California. He expects s3x but he doesn’t shower properly or take care of himself/think of his appearance. His P has a medical issue that he refuses to seek help for. Myong is also not skilled in anything having to do with intimacy (that involves a partner, as I’m sure he has consumed and pleasured himself enough while watching decades worth of p0rn that he has *self pleasure* mastered). Our interactions were some of the worst s3xua1 experiences of my life.
David Tan from Irvine, California, USA.
David Tan is originally from Texas and is currently living in Irvine, California. He will act as though he holds the same values and views as you do on all things pertaining to life and human interaction/relationships (platonic and romantic); meanwhile, he is putting on heirs to take advantage of you. David blames his “conservative upbringing” for his poor social development and inadequacies instead of taking responsibility and working on himself as a middle aged man. He lacks many of the qualities that make for a good partner (and a good person in general) and he will argue and debate you to death on your standards – hoping you will lower them rather than him putting in the effort to meet them. He will twist the truth/blatantly lie when confronted about the contradictions of his words vs actions or when his overall hypocrisy is pointed out, ultimately gaslighting you into oblivion if it means he can still seem decent and you end up looking over dramatic and critical. David falls back on plans and promises regularly, leaving his word to be valued at less than zero, and will rationalize it with mental gymnastics until your ears bleed. When retelling events, he purposefully leaves out the parts that make him look bad in order to sway others opinions on situations and avoid taking accountability. He will infuriate you with his weaponized incompetence and refusal to be thoughtful, consideration, etc. while expecting those things from you on top of an uninterrupted routine of s3x and acceptance of his god awful display of what he considers to be genuine interest and care for you. He is not worth anyone’s time.
Jay Dathaeus Lee from West Palm Beach, Florida, USA.
riginally from South Korea, raised in NYC, Jay Dathaeus Lee is now residing in West Palm Beach, FL. He is a washed up former athlete with major narcissistic traits and a slew of other psychological issues. Jay lied (and continues to lie) about his age, claiming to be 10-15 years his junior, as if anyone would realistically believe that to be true. His house is a hoarders paradise, although he views this somewhat of an accomplishment and claims his disorganization and living in squalor serves as evidence that he is full of ideas and is a genius.
Jay considers himself to a great guy/”renaissance man” yet he was nothing short of a condescending, highly disrespectful lowlife throughout our time together. He has a grandiose sense of self-importance and is caught up in a multitude of hilariously improvable delusions that involve him becoming a world famous billionaire (excuse me… TRILLIONAIRE!) for all to envy and desire. Jay s3xua11y assaulted me repeatedly without remorse and exhibited bizarre sexual behavior that indicates extreme mental illness. Jay is also attracted to minors and uses “you look 10/12/14/16” as a compliment. If you are dating/any female you know is getting “trained” by him, I suggest you cease any and all communication before you end up needing to contact authorities or seek therapy as a result of interacting with him.
Brett Selby from Ontario, Canada.
Brett Selby is a highly troubled individual. He views women as beneath him and uses most of them for “practice” as he lacks the social skills necessary to already have a well-rounded personality with likable traits. He feels as though his way of shaping himself to be a good future boyfriend/husband by wasting women’s time is admirable due to the fact that he isn’t sleeping with them. Meanwhile, in his free time, him and his buddies admit to grooming women online and attempting to harvest nud3 photos and put them into compromising situations for their amusement. If you know of this person, run.
Mohamed (Simo) Bayhammou from DC area/Morocco.
This is a married man who is playing at being in a bad relationship and trying to get out. He acts all charming and sweet then he gets pushy and get the conversation going about how you make him hot. He is a liar and cheater. Do not trust him. Never spoke one true word.
Jerome Avate from Northampton, Pa.
This boy is a true master manipulator. I was warned about him from a psychic but didn’t listen. He is sweet and very good looking, he has almost a dumb cute thing going on that makes you want to help him. That’s all part of the ploy. He made me feel bad about wanting to hang out during the week and claimed he was tired then depressed.. what he was was h0rny and gross. He used the FEELD app and was sleeping with NUMEROUS women at the same time as I. He got me pregnant and had me a get an ab0rti0n. After that he treated me like damaged goods. I was so low and depressed and he was bringing so many girls into our bed that I got two different bacterial infections. I found c0nd0m wrappers two days before my birthday. So I wrote on his wall with sharpie and killed his pot plants he’s growing. Then took him back. I didn’t get anything for Christmas or my birthday because he told me I didn’t deserve anything. I bled for almost 3 months straight from the ab0rti0n because it didn’t work and ended in a horrible m1scarr1age. He made me sit in the ER all day by myself and when I got to his house after, I found 3 used c0nd0ms. He convinced me of his innocence so many times and even threw some tears into the mix. I have a four year old who adored him and his dog and it breaks my heart he chose to come and be around her and I knowing what he did. Worst part is he has a type; brunettes with a kid. I’m not sure why the kid thing is part of it but it is. He is also strung out on drugs and I think some type of painkiller, based on what I found in my room once. Jerome will tell you anything you want to hear. Everything out of his mouth was a lie. In his ceiling I found some of my clothes and tons of other girls clothes. Along with that was a box of used c0nd0ms, wrappers, and the boxes they came in. He lives in his parents basement and has never cleaned once. There are three dirty cages from a bearded dragon he had that didn’t take care of and they are all sitting around filled with poop. It’s so gross! His parents know what’s he’s up to and don’t say anything. His mom gave me $100 for Xmas bc I think she felt bad. I was so low when all this was going on I considered giving up custody of my daughter and *offing myself*. I was recommended to see a psychiatrist and am on a stronger dose of anti anxiety meds. I have so many trust issues I can’t breath and leaving the house is not something I like doing. I’m scared to see him out because I want to impose pain on him but I never will. I spoke to one of his wh0r3s and the poor thing thought she was like his girlfriend. Yet she knew about me so I’m sorry but she is a wh0r3. Please stay away from this man child. He is good at what he does. Like really good. Stay strong ladies and steer clear of Jerome aka Jay Avate.
Dwayne Gordon from Philadelphia, PA/Jamaica.
He’s a chronic mooch and liar. He will constantly be “looking for a job” while making small requests for money to women, older men, etc. He always has a “hardship” or crisis that needs paying for. He’ll spend the money on himself and justify it. He’s a perma f boy and is constantly with his baby momma while dating other women too (he’s been with her off and on for 13 years but tells other women she’s a problem so they don’t find out he’s been with her too).
He doesn’t use c0nd0ms. He’s constantly letting others know how generous he is and that he’s a good person while he’s lying to their face.
Haiwen Dai from Middleton, WI.
Emotionally abusive. Does not respect boundaries. Threatens revenge p0rn to maintain control. Cheater. Liar. Addict. Stay safe and stay away!
Marvin Christiansen from Davenport Iowa.
I had been single for almost 3 years, I did not date or hook up with anyone because I got burned in my last relationship and I was done with men forever. Well here come Marvin into my work, he met someone there to pick up a cup he had purchased. Then he kept coming back. I never had any interest in him at all, I thought to myself..shit I have another fan. I am a bartender. Marvin does not drink or do drugs. I explained to him that I was not looking for anything. Well push come to shove I fell for it..I believed him when he said he be with me through the good and the bad and that I will get tired of him being around. So we never fought we did our thing and I thought we were happy…I finally found the guy for me…in the beginning I kept telling myself and a couple girlfriends of mine…this is to good to be true and they laughed at me because he is such a nice person and he still is something is off. As we approach our 1 year anniversary things change in him. All he does is lay in bed and play on his phone. No good morning no good night no how was work honey when u get home. He layed in bed for days at a time with the phone in his hand. Well one night I came across his Twitter account so I look and see he likes 109 pictures of naked women and when I asked he said he must of got hacked and I asked him to talk with me about it he refused and continued to ignore me, so I did the same. Saturday evening he gets ready to go to a potluck which i was invited also but he didn’t ask if I still wanted to go. Before he leaves he breaks up with me. I shrug it off and he comes back before midnight and went to the spare bedroom and I went and asked him why did he come back to my house since he dumped me and then he gets up and starts packing his stuff…at this point I’m angry and I ask him to please leave until I have cooled off. Because I didn’t want him to leave and he ignored me and I felt as if I would have done something I would have regretted the rest of my life because I’m not hurting the man I’m madly in love with! He left his phone but did leave and he told me to go through it. Well my dumb ass did. I found nothing until I checked the history in his Google Chrome that he forgot to clear. He has looked up p0rn three times before he went on to pick out my valentine’s day flowers to put in a vase that he had blown himself. He came back the next morning and gathered more of his things and I asked him several times to please talk to me and explain why he was moving his stuff out. I wasn’t upset about p0rn or naked pictures hell I even told him..I will watch and look with you but he refused to talk. He came back the next day again while I was at work and got more stuff then left stuff and said he be back later to get. Then he ignored me for 7 days. Maybe one or two text but not to check on me or to apologize. Well today he sent me a message on Facebook telling me he needs to fix himself for the next person..not for us to be together but for the next girl. There are some more things that he had not told me but I’m not throwing that out. I’m telling the story exactly how it happened. My children even told him..mom is not mad and you are blowing this way out of proportion. My heart is broken into millions of pieces and he runs over nothing. He is selfish and only cares about his happiness. He had so much good around him but he was to busy on his phone to even notice!
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Marvin is a retired army vet, he blows glass at a glass shop and makes pieces to donation for good causes. He is the best man I’ve ever been with. He and I met at my work. I am a bartender and he doesn’t drink but came in to meet someone a friend. Well I had spoken with him and I was not interested at all. I thought damn I have another fan because he kept coming back and kept asking about going to lunch or dinner. After so many times asking I agreed, I explained to Marvin that I was almost 3 years out of a bad relationship and that I was not into hooking up or anything of the sort. He kept on me and I caved and we started to date. Then we had s3x then I fell for him hard and he said he did too! I thought this is to good to be true…well I was right! Marvin and I never fought but as time went on he moved in and he doesn’t have a job at this point, he did in the beginning. I knew the situation so I had no problems taking care of him because hell we gonna be together forever. As time went on Marvin would just lay in bed for days at a time, only come out to eat or use restroom and right back to the bedroom to get on his phone. As soon as he woke, he gets his phone and lays in bed all day on his phone…i didn’t care. He eventuality stopped messaging me while I was at work. I’d get home trash is full sink full of dishes and lights all out. He did do dishes once in awhile. He made sure he was fed and he made sure his laundry was done and he made sure to keep himself on that phone. He never communicated with me anymore the s3x went to nothing. Well one night I as looking through Twitter and found a profile of his, so I look and all his likes are naked women. I honestly don’t care but I wanted to ask him what is up with that. Is this the reason why your not making love to me anymore? Well he said go through my phone, my Twitter was hacked, I said no I don’t want to. I just wanna talk to ya about and he said I’m not doing this with you and went back to the bedroom and I stayed on the couch he continued to ignore me all the next day. We were to attend a potluck together but he never asked me if I were going and before he left he told me it was over and he left. Well he came back just before midnight and went to the spare bedroom and I got up and asked him why he came back to my house after he had dumped me and he said because my things are here. I told him nobody gonna take your things. Then he started to pack his clothes and I got very angry and asked him to talk to me that I didn’t understand why is was blowing this out of proportion and he continued to ignore me so i asked him to leave because my blood was boiling at this point and I didn’t want to react and do something stupid so I put a chair in front of the door so he couldn’t come back in. Well he left his phone and he had given me permission to go through it, it was clean but he forgot to clear Google chrome well I found he like to watch p0rn too. I do not care about that either but why keep something like that from me. He still won’t admit about the p0rn or the pictures and I told him heck I’ll look at it with you…I got ignored and he moved more things out and the more he ignored me the more mad I get and again I asked him to leave before I lost it, had to lock him out again. Then he came back next day while I was at work to get some more stuff, and still no communication from him. He has ignored me for 7 days now and I am so heartbroken from this, I just wanted to talk. Well he messaged me and claims he has to fix himself so he can be good for the next one. I said what about me, I knew you didn’t have the funds to help pays bills at my house so I let it slide, I told you I will forever be by your side. Money doesn’t mean shit to me. He mentioned he was unhappy, I thought we were great. He used me and he knows it. I am an open honest person and he told me he’d never hurt me and be there through good and bad and all he did was lay in my bed and play on his phone. But if anyone he knows calls for something he is up out of that bed doing for them. I’m understanding why he has been married three times and has many many many ex girlfriends. I don’t know if he was booking up or talking or paying women online. I will probably never know and I don’t know if I would want to. I opened up to the man and he tore my heart out and he promised not to. He isn’t very s3xua1 he claims he has pain when he *releases*, so If I were lucky I got laid once a month and he made me feel like we were making love. He also has not been paying any of his bills at his home, he is in foreclosure and I had to find this out from someone else. He has many secrets many many secrets and he is selfish. He was not like this in the beginning. He freaking fooled me and I’m angry because I believed him. He is a great father a great friend but a lousy boyfriend. So if ya date this guy be prepared to be treated like a Queen for a few months or til he gets comfortable. Then bam it’s all about that cell phone. And the p0rn he was looking up was stepmom loves stepsons *genitalia*. And when I went to the p0rn page he watches it was a porn with a stepbrother and stepsister playing their fantasies…I about puked because not even a month ago he got back from his moms because his stepdad was sick in hospital and he was spending time with his stepsister and that freaked me the hell out. Not sure what is going on in the man’s head but that’s sick stuff to be fantasizing about. That is some morbid stuff in my eyes. He is a 50 year old player. This man doesn’t want love he wants to be taken care of by someone else. He doesn’t spend money on you he spends your money. I have handed him money several times and he never paid me back. But the one time I borrowed money he wanted it back right away. It’s his way or no way, he will run if there is any chance of an argument and make it your fault. Remember we had two fights the almost a year we were together and he dumped me the 1st fight also and he came back but did the same thing when we didn’t have an argument until he started moving his things out.
I know that his last girlfriend left him because on their weekend to be alone and only them he left while she was sleeping due to an accident a friend was in and by time he got home she was gone. He doesn’t make his girl a priority, he put me on back burner and I assume he did that with the last girlfriend also. He is so happy to have you in the beginning and then he stops giving a crap. I have no proof if he messaged or FaceTimed or paid girls, but he is broke a week after his SSI check comes in. He is also addicted to a game called Kiss Of War. His cellphone is his #1 priority and that is sad. I could go in and on but I think you get the point.
Todd Dogie from Duson, Louisiana.
He is a charmer at first, only to get you where he wants you. Then he is a compulsive liar, narcissist, controlling egotistical cheater. He lies and says he was with less than 10 women in his 54 years of life not mentioning cheating on his wife when they were married and me for sure that I know of. He will cut off all contract with your friends and family and make you most vulnerable then destroy your world. I had my suspicions at first but could never prove anything until one day I received a text message from the other woman saying she wouldn’t have had s3x with him if she knew about me. He of course denied and lied. I believe her and in no way blame her. Women beware Todd Dogie is your worst nightmare. Don’t believe me? Go ahead and find out for yourself. Please share your story afterwards.
Richard Bedell from San Antonio Texas.
Richard is a covert narcissist, & I don’t say this due to a mere opinion. I have a strong background in psychology & do not give diagnoses without overwhelming support. He is in constant need for validation, & seeks it out on video s3x chat sites, social media & hook up sites. Practicing safe s3x is strongly advised since there have been recent incidents. He is extremely hypersensitive and misunderstands everything you do. Telling him how you feel is a perceived attack & he will go into a Narcisstic Rage. He will leave you stranded, with no money- there are no limits to how he will punish. He is unable to love unconditionally – all connections are superficial & you are merely a pawn in his game. The relationship suits his needs only, he will straight up tell you he doesn’t care about your feelings, he’s too proud to apologize & will not & he will always have someone else he can jump ship to if he thinks you’re mad & will treat you as if you are yesterdays garbage. Save yourself the chaos, confusion, & toxicity that is Rich Clinton.
Justin Morey from San Diego, CA.
Oh, where to start? Justin is a liar, a cheater, manipulator, possibly a narcissist (I’m not a mental health professional and not qualified to give him a diagnosis of that, but he displays every quality of one), and will gaslight the heck out of you. He has a repeating pattern of telling a woman he feels a strong connection with them, wants to make it exclusive, etc, but what you don’t realize is that he’s telling this to a handful of other women. He always has a few “female friends” on the side that he’s keeping in his back pocket. You’ll conveniently never meet them and they have no clue you exist but he makes it a point to tell you everything g about them so it feels like they know about you. ie his friend Carmen, who he cheated on me with, supposedly knew about me and then knew that I thought their friendship was inappropriate given that Justin cheated with her. His story never passed the smell test. He will introduce you to his mother, though. If you’re really lucky, he’ll tell you he loves you and that he’s only told 3 other girlfriends that in the past. I spent a year with this monster. He was sent to Australia for work for 6 weeks and immediately got onto Hinge and Bumble “to meet friends.” Meanwhile, he was meeting women and hooking up with them ASAP. He never intended to not cheat while there. When confronted, Justin will always use your words against you, make you feel crazy, and somehow tried to make you be the reason for conflict. For the sake of not getting too lengthy, I’ll briefly mention the inappropriate relationship he had with a 21 y/o. Justin is a 42 year old man. She was equally culpable but the entire time he kept making me out to be crazy. He’s a terrible terrible person.
Stas Edel from California.
Stas, also known as Stanislav, is a malignant narcissist. He is extremely charming, charismatic, and seems like an educated, intelligent, handsome, tall, strong, understanding, empathetic, amazing catch….but it’s all a facade.
He likes to prowl Tinder. That’s where I found him in 2016. He moves from woman to woman once the truth about him is exposed. He is a pathological liar and a cheater.
He stopped having s3x with me at all a year into our relationship, would reject me every time I initiated, promised it wasn’t me and it was him – meanwhile he was cheating on me. He cheated on me at least 5 times that I am personally aware of, starting a mere 3 months into our 6 year relationship. He recorded most of the incidents and kept them on an external hard-drive. When I confronted him about the cheating, he denied it at first, until I told him I had found video evidence of it. Then he finally admitted to ONE incident of cheating. He continued to lie about the rest.
He has deeply disturbing k1nks, including *feces play*, *urine play*, cross-dressing, getting fully naked on solo hiking trips to Mojave and *self pleasuring*. He would put his GoPro in our toilet and record himself defacating. He made music video edits with the videos of himself cheating on me for his own personal enjoyment. He posted videos of himself *self pleasuring* to a porn site with hashtags including but not limited to: “first gay”, “amateur gay”, “gay c0ck”, “best gay”, “gay man”.
He used me financially. I paid for the majority of our rent, his $2,000 mountain bike, and his $10,000 dental work. His host dad reached out a year into our relationship and asked me to start paying for his student loans (!!!!) which were $850 a month. He never paid me back for any of it.
He grabbed my phone out of my hands and threw it when we were sitting in his car together waiting for our take-out food to be ready. He took my 10 bags of chips out of our pantry and threw them on the ground while screaming I owned too many bags of chips. He is extremely controlling and would try to control the food I bought and would keep in our kitchen, despite knowing I had a history of anorexia. He rap3d me, saying that it was ok if it hurt and he was too close to stop.
He left California to go to Ukraine, his home country, for around 2.5 years, promising that we’d still be together when he returned, only to dump me one day after coming back home. He refused to talk about it or give me any closure. He moved out and I never saw him again, except when he returned once to collect his green card which he had mailed to my house. He ghosted me for months, then reappeared only to breadcrumb me for an entire year.
He refused to go to the hospital when one of our cats was dying a month after breaking up with me.
I found out he had confided to a friend of his that he had never really loved me. He proceeded to have a year long “situationship” with this same friend that he had been friends with for 6 years. He told her that she was the first person he had real feelings for in over 7 years. He told her he loved her twice. Then he dumped her without a second thought and blocked her on everything after he found some fresh supply.
I found out he told another friend of his that we were married but had split. We were never married. His lies NEVER END. What I know and described here is just barely scratching the surface.
STAY AWAY. HE WILL DESTROY YOUR LIFE.
Gabriel J Conn from Burns, Or.
Compulsive liar, IV meth addict, thief.
Mateo L from Tampa FL.
By far the most emotionally abusive narcissist I have ever met. I am not a weak minded person by any means, but he played my kindness to his advantage and found ways to manipulate me even after I was free.
He starts off so sweet, romantic, interesting, fun, and deeply caring, but it’s just to get you hooked and doing whatever it takes to be worthy in his eyes of recieving his affection. He’s a master of lovebombing and has owned the habit as if it’s not horribly abusive. His only form of showing “love” is through s3x, is hooked on fulfilling reddit fed fantasies, and has a stable of new s3xua1 partners at his disposal. He even spoke s3xua11y about his friends, usually just if he desired them s3xua11y or not. You ARE immediately replacable to him. He practices very unsafe s3x with many partners (g0ory h0le ads, grindr meets, even Nebraska s3x workers and erotic massage parlors), and lies about being safe or maybe just has no idea how to actually be safe.
If you ever attempt to talk to him about the emotional abuse, lies, secrets, or unhealthy behavior patterns, he will gaslight you, become enraged, and will even go as far as s3lf harm (ex. slamming his head into a wall and punching himself in the face multiple times to the point of causing lacerations, swelling, and 2 black eyes) to make you feel bad or guilty so you drop it. I hid the kitchen kniv3s when he would get in this s3lf harming mode, and locked my dog and I in the bedroom or even evacuated the house the last time.
He needs ALL of your time and attention and it still won’t be enough. Any time spent away from him, he will accuse you of cheating or wanting to speak with others no matter how much you do to prove yourself faithful to him. He will go through your phone any chance he gets, and is a master at hiding things he doesn’t want you to see on his (s3x videos/pictures of other people he’s been with and his stable mostly). He hates your friends and family, and will ISOLATE you from everyone so all you have is him, then leave you once you have no one. I barely spoke to my own family for over a year because he would blow up if I connected with anyone but him. He watches your snapchat score daily, and if it changes but you arent snapping him enough to explain the score change he will lose it and demand to see your snap histories or erase the app. He talked very poorly about me to his friends and family, despite me financially supporting him for months including paying for him to live in airbnbs, giving in to fulfill his s3xua1 fantasies no matter how uncomfortable I was, mommying him constantly, offering to support his family (grandmother and siblings), taking him on multiple vacations, taking accountability for his behaviors that I now understand as abuse, being accepting of his request for an open relationship (only open for him to see others), and showing him compassion, kindness, and forgiveness no matter what he did to me. He said many times how he hated how forgiving I was, and how he wished I would punish him? Once he felt his life was going great (finances improving, new motorcycle, moved in with friends) he’d break up me for a day or two, then get back with me when his life wasn’t the same without me. I know now he was just wanting to sleep with others he didn’t want to tell me about. He broke up with me several times through Facebook or text, always randomly and always blocking me after. He even broke up with me while he was on a date with a co worker that he had lied to me about seeing. He claimed a few times to be going out to dinner with a group of co workers after his shift, but it was really just her. Funny thing about the dates, I always paid for our dates and outings with his family, even when he started making more than me financially.
He has a serious drug problem and thinks he’s some kind of special guru. He needs drugs to be happy in most situations, even during s3x he normalized taking v1agra, thc edibles, alcohol and energy drinks all at once, or GHB. He will try to push you to take drugs you don’t want to take, and will belittle you for not caving. He got me taking drugs I had been hapily sober from for over 8 years (MDMA) and made me try GHB; I hated it. He really got angry with me for being nervous about taking a drug I didn’t even want to try, and physically put the syringe in my mouth. He had a serious issue with k3tam1n3 but doesn’t own it because he doesn’t think he uses it frequently enough to be considered a problem. When injecting himself he didn’t even use sterile technique despite me begging him to as someone with a medical professional background.
He blames his abusive behaviors on you, his parents, something he found on reddit, mental illness, if you’re talking too much or too little during the conversation, whether or not you’ve sent enough nud3s lately, and honestly anything he can think of. He will not take responsibility for anything, especially hurting your feelings because to him you deserved it and he will make it known.
He loves the visible destruction and chaos he creates. He smiles when you cry, and laughs when your obviously breaking right in front of him, and I’m not even being dramatic. I have been vomiting from shock, grief, and crying so hard I can’t breathe, and he acted as though he enjoyed every minute of it. He is a user and will drain you until you have no one and nothing left. He will make you question who you are and what your worth is as an individual. He made me question my sanity, aspirations, beauty, and sense of self throughout the entire relationship and months into recovering since the breakup.
He made me go to the ab0rti0n clinic alone when we got pregnant, even though I wanted to talk about options, and left me home alone during a very emotionally and physically painful induced m1scarr1age. He was supposedly doing drugs and gaming with his friends, but to be honest I have no idea where he was or what he was doing. I didn’t hear from him for days afterward, not until I was done bleeding. A year later he impr3gnated me again, this time after yelling during s3x that he was going to put a baby in me, then randomly broke up with me over Facebook 2 days later and blocked me on everything. Less than a week later he reached out over Discord and told me he had already been with multiple men since leaving me. I assumed he had been with others the moment he was out of my sight at this point, and I really didn’t care. I was done. For some reason it took me being responsible for a newly forming life to see the abuse and erase him from my life. I blocked him, and when he found out he was furious. He called my mom and told her about the pregnancy, in which she made me call him to talk because he put on a show of a concerned potential future father. He yelled at me to get an aborti0n or he would hire a PI and take custody of my child, then some weeks later acted sweet and asked me to move in with him and his grandmother. I declined and told him he would not be in our lives. I’ve since gotten an email wishing me the best, and dismissing himself from my life, our lives, for good, despite me already telling him we were done; he needed one last little grasp for control. I wouldn’t ever want my child looking up to a monster that treats people like used socks.
I know I wasn’t perfect and never will be, but I didn’t deserve ANY of that, nobody does. I feel dumb (and very much like a simp!) for having put up with all of his abuse for as long as I did, all to feel any semblance of love that I felt early on. I feel weak and foolish for giving all of myself to someone that didn’t seem to care about me at all, as well as giving in to the pressure to use drugs for him and fulfill his fantasies both s3xua11y and financially. These feelings seem to be a common when recovering from abusive relationships after reading some recovery material. He made me someone I don’t even know and never want to meet again.
Please save yourself the heart and head ache of dealing with this man. Until he gets serious help, which I truly hope he gets, he is a dangerous person to involve yourself with. I only thought to find somewhere, anywhere, to warn people about him after watching a documentary on Billy Milligan because his behaviors were so shockingly similar, as was the cold, empty stare he had in most of the pictures and videos of him. Mateo may be very charming and even sweet when he wants to be, but his inner self is absolutely terrifying and can very easily be described as having many traits of narcissistic psych0pathy.
If you see this, Mateo, I really hope you get help. I hope you can learn to be happy without trampling all over people.
Cody from NC.
I was with him for nearly three years before he dumped me. He started drifting towards the end, but he always had excuses for being suddenly busy… cut to the next time I see him, and he is in a serious looking relationship with someone he met around the time he started distancing himself.
In addition to this, he pressured and guilt-tripped me into doing things that I didn’t want to do. At the time, I thought this was normal. But considering all of the manipulation, things were not at all consensual. I apologized to him after he violated me because he would feel guilty.
He is a very good liar. I had always witnessed him lying to others but never thought he would lie like that to me. Even now, I still don’t know if any of our time together was real at all. If he thought there was the slightest chance of me leaving him, he would break into hysterics, so I stayed with him because I couldn’t hurt him, especially given his alleged past relationship trauma. He had no such qualms about destroying me emotionally. He can put on a very good act, but he does not care about anyone other than himself.
Francesco Iadevaia from Rome.
He is a narcissistic, entitled, arrogant, somewhat racist, and womanizing man. He dates several women at the same time and cheats on them. Run from him!!!
Francesco Temperini from Rome.
He is a narcissist, manipulator, cheater, womanizer and a liar. We had a relationship for about one year. He would say that “one day we will move in together”, he would say “half my heart is yours and half is my mother’s”, “you are the person I have loved most in the world”, “I thank you every day for having found you”. And, meanwhile, he cheated on me with several other women, abandoned me on important dates and weekends, always gave me lying excuses to go to parties, and didn’t help me in any moment when I needed him. He treated me badly, humiliated me, was rude, crude, constantly badmouthed my Italian, and constantly put me down, clearly treating me as if I were inferior. He would humiliate me in front of his friends, looking at me with a very disgusted face. On one trip with him, I got food poisoning and he had no patience with me, always criticizing me and saying that I was “complaining too much”. He is a crazy narcissist who would look in the mirror and say “gee, if I go out on the street looking beautiful like this I will be chased by everybody”.
When I finally managed to break up, he lied saying he tried to kill himself and sending me several “romantic” emails saying he loved me. I felt sorry for him, believed him, and came back. But then he soon went back to treating me badly and humiliating me. So I asked him “was it true that you tried to k1ll yourself?” and he said that it was an exaggeration on his part. He is completely crazy, a liar and a womanizer. I met him on Tinder and he is certainly still on all these dating apps. Run away from him!!!
Carl Reiter from Sequim, Washington.
Carl Reiter is a delusional monster. He’ll grill you and think you’re dumb enough to believe anything he says after you have seen what he does, who he really is. He pretends to be this caring open loving guy. But he’s just looking for drugs, so he can give it to you or some other unsuspecting soul. He had a butt buddy living with him for awhile. Young enough to be his son, basically the same age as his daughter. The hired man was supposedly for construction jobs, because that’s where Carl usually finds a man willing to take it and give it the way he wants it.
Carl Reiter aka Carl Smith is a cheater and a liar who is the opposite of everything he pretends to be. Just ask around, he has made quite a name for himself in Sequim for being criminal.
Daniel Flisek from Panama City, FL.
Biggest nightmare of my life. Love bombing, gaslighting, manipulation, and emotionally unavailable. We were engaged and I called off the wedding and moved far away to escape. He also had an emotionally inc3stu0us relationship with his mom. He would guilt me into staying with him everytime I tried to break up with him. Made his ex seem like an awful person, but he was actually the problem in all of his relationships. There’s a lot of emotional issues to unpack and it’s never his fault. He doesn’t take responsibility for anything and does the bare minimum. Don’t be fooled by the ‘poor me’ victim mentality. I truly believe he’s a covert narcissist and so is his mother. The therapy he attends is just a charade. He plays the therapist like a fiddle for sympathy. I wish I had listened to my instincts at the beginning and ran. I ended up getting sucked into one of the most traumatic relationships ever.
Joe Rocco from Pittsburgh Pa.
Stay far away from this nutcase Joe Rocco. Has cheated on every single girl he was ever with and also has had *intimate* encounters with other men. He is a pathological liar with severe bipolar that he refuses to treat. He has addictions to gambling and alcohol. He is a freeloader and a big mooch that uses women and gay men to support his sorry self. He is also impotent from mental problems and alcohol. Should you ever encounter this scumbag and world class loser RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!!
Robby Harrison from Modesto, CA.
The short version: Robby has a history of cheating on girls, lying and manipulating to keep girls around, using his mental health to manipulate me into staying involved, and claiming to be in love with someone while actively screwing around with other women. He only cares about himself.
The long version:
Robby seemed like a good guy at first, we connected so well and he said all the right things to make me feel like we had a real future together. But dating him was like constant whiplash, for the first 3 weeks or so things seemed great, until a girl sent me a DM to let me know that she had been involved with Robby for over 6 months and that I was actually the other woman. She had sent me screenshots of him begging for her to stay together with him, telling her he loves her and they belong together and looking back now, it seems he was doing the same thing to her that he would later do to me.
He was able to manipulate me and talk his way out of that one and convinced me to give him another chance because things were over with the other woman and he wanted to get away from their “toxic relationship”.
Things felt great again for a couple months and I realized I was really falling for this guy, we were constantly together and on the phone with each other and I met some of his friends and his mom, things felt like they were headed in the right direction. Then about 4 months in he started to ghost me randomly for days at a time, and then come back and apologize, just to disappear on me again after we saw each other.
I started to distance myself when he would reach out and that’s when he really started fighting to win me back, he told me he loved me and that I was the one for him and he wanted a future and a family with me, I gave him another chance just for him to ghost me again. He then reached out to me a month later on my birthday, begging to take me out, telling me he messed up and he has commitment issues but that I was “the one” and to please give him another chance and I was considering it… So I was shocked and very hurt when I saw he posted videos of him on a date with another girl on his instagram story the very next day. I called him out on that and he had every excuse in the book “I’m not dating her” “she’s my friend’s sister” “it’s not a big deal” “I only want you”. I let it slide again, and we met up a couple weeks later. We went through a very unhealthy cycle for about 4 months after that, me giving him another chance, him ghosting after we meet up and then him coming back profusely apologizing, giving every excuse and telling me we belong together and I’m “the one”.
When I wouldn’t agree right away to come see him after his ghosting periods he would start telling me about his bad mental health and alluding to su*cide by saying things like “everyone would be better off without me” as a manipulation tactic to get me to come over to see him and comfort him. This happened many many times and his mental health was a big reason I kept caving and coming back.
After the last time I saw him, just a little over a week before valentine’s day, he ghosted again. I decided to do some digging this time and found the instagram of the girl he had posted 4 months prior, she had a picture of the two of them together on her story for valentine’s day. He had told me the last time he saw me that he was only with her for like 2 weeks before he broke things off when in reality they were still seeing each other. I was the other woman, yet again. His behavior is a pattern and it’s very concerning, I feel very bad for any girl who becomes his next target because I’m sure his behavior will not change any time soon.
Rich senoski from Meriden, ct.
Rich is an alcoholic, he is mentally and physically abusive. He cheats and lies as a norm. He has herpes and wont tell you
Pete Martinez from Cranford, NJ.
He is an abusive narcissist, and he will be the perfect man until he has you… Then his true colors show.
Beware and run screaming!
Greg Taylor from Clifton Park New York. Absolute psycho, heroin and coke addict. will destroy your life, controlling, monitors mail location and extremely jealous.
Stetson G from Texas. Met him while he was travelling in Australia for work. I had my suspicions but he assured me there was no girl back home. In July of 2022 I came to visit to him for a couple weeks on my annual leave. I felt like I got swept up in a whirlwind, meeting his family, going on a short family getaway, meeting all of his closest friends. After returning back to Australia he told me he wanted to complete the K1 – fiance visa and he had bought a ring. October 2022 he visited Australia and met my family, finalised the visa and was ready to submit. November came around and shortly after he went home, a family friend came to stay. He filmed her and made fun of her, saying he “couldn’t wait for her to leave” and “was sick of entertaining her”.
December 2022 I was ghosted, January I found out that he’s now dating the “family friend” and she’s moving in with him. I reached out to one of his Ex’s, she told me he had unmedicated Bipolar and had cheated on her with the same “family friend”. It turns out I was the other girl for her too, (they had been living with each other for 2years).
Alex De Grood from Atascocita, Texas. Alex. This man cheated and had sex with someone while I was having a miscarriage. He also sold all of my things to the pawn shop, and I was barely alive through a very difficult pregnancy that ended in miscarriage at five months. He also took my child’s toys that he got for Christmas to the pawn shop as well. This is all while I was in the hospital for months WITH HIS CHILD. He never even came to check on me, and couldn’t even afford a slush from sonic during HAPPY HOUR. That’s the day I knew I had to move out because he couldn’t take care of me when there was something terribly wrong with the baby, even at six weeks pregnant. He is honestly a terrible human being.
Paul michael codman from Liphook, Hampshire, uk. Ahh where to start. The man is a self confessed pick up artist. He not only prays on innocent women, but chooses single mothers as they are apparently easier to use….. uses their kids to get close to the woman. “Love bombs” the children with gifts in order to seal his place. He has had a failed vasectomy which he had ended up impregnating at least 2 poor women now (he won’t tell you this until he has impregnated you). He then won’t support with the abortion and will go off fishing…..
This vile creature has online s3x with his ex’s and keeps people on the back burner
He will lie and pretend he wants to marry you. After 4 months he will have a tantrum and then admit he doesn’t want to, never will etc. At aged nearly 50, his longest relationship ship is 4 years…. And he has had a HUGE amount of girlfriends. Embarrassing really. Serial steroid taker, when he can’t get hold of it he withdraws and looks like hell. This man is sexist and racist and even once with my kids in his car pretended to machine gun down people wearing Muslim clothing.
Avoid at ALL costs
Michael Speck from Lutz, FL. Ladies, if you meet Michael Speck, 45, block immediately and run away. I only went out with him a couple of times while separated from my husband, we never did anything intimate. I ended it because after a nice dinner, we both went to our separate places. He texted me that a Ferrari was sitting in his driveway with keys in it, so i figured he was entertained and i went to sleep. Throughout the night, he texted me vile and threatening texts because i did not respond, again i was sleeping. I ended it at that moment and told him that i was not up for a toxic relationship. The man will not leave me alone a year later, even after I’ve asked him repeatedly to do so. He claims he’s got more money than brains, tons of properties and investments, a yacht, a plane, etc. I think he is actually going broke, though. He has a substance abuse problem with mar1juana and alcoh0l. His texts range from bragging, to insulting me, to saying he loves and misses me, he wants to know what happened to us. He also says he has many women that want him, so I’ve told him to go after one of them, because I am not interested. I decided to stop responding/defending myself against his accusations, but he will not stop texting. I’m trying to see if there is a legal way to get him to stop since changing phone numbers is such a hassle. I don’t want any other ladies to be tormented by this toxic man.
Tony Salvaggio from Ilion, NY.
Covert narcissist. Uses women, as most narcs do.
The first month is great, after that the abuse starts. One weird thing is he acts like he doesn’t know how to have s3x yet he will be 62 soon.
Ladies don’t fall for this abusive jerk.
Walter Maultsby from Fort worth Texas. We met via tinder. He’s a electrician with IBEW. Comes off as a gentleman but isn’t. He made lots of promises to pay things off when he used my credit cards to the tune of $31k in less than 2 years. He’s caused financial distress to his 2nd ex wife as well, she doesn’t feel it’s worth warning the next woman assuming they won’t listen but I wish someone had warned me (i was #3)!
Adam Russell from Beaver dam. Servere drunk who put a loaded gun to my head when wasted.
Blake geiger from Oshkosh wi. He is a bad drunk. He is very verbally abusive and if you get knocked up by him he will leave you and talk down on you. He is narcissistic in every way. He barley takes care of his own child. She stated that he tried to *end* her once.
Only 4 months with him and i needed therapy from his abuse. He wants Nothing to do with the son I gave birth to because he was a boy
He also called my current child *r-slur*
His friends do Crack often
Jason Erick Ahlgren from Belmont, CA USA moved to Redding CA USA. He is an abusive meth addict. He plays quiet and cool always listening to things you say you want and then gets them for you. then he turns into a narcissistic women b3at3r. his past girlfriends confirmed. One night after enduring this ongoing isolation, mind control and another b3ating he walked out slammed the door but left his phone. He had a paid subscription to Grindr A GAY DATING SITE. HE ALWAYS WAS A FEMININE AND WHEN I SAID SOMETHING HE HIT ME SO Stay away from this piece of garbage
MajorRick from Minneapolis MN. We had a NSA relationship. It was a lot of sexting and he wanted pics and videos. However, he’s married and she doesn’t know. He had my pics and mailed them back to me and all my neighbors? I feel he was getting possessive. I don’t know why he did this, but I can tell you he has many different names, numbers, social media accounts and loves Snap. He is a low life dog. Stay away from this guy. Hopefully he gets caught and no one else experiences this life changing experience! What a complete jerk!
Guy Sacco from Melbourne, Australia. Went to a private party and exchanged Instagrams with a couple of girls just to find out we’ve been dating the same person for the last 6 months! He even invited one of us to his family for Christmas and got us girls the same gift! We can only imagine how many others there are. He has admitted to using and rotating girls except for his “main girl”. Warning: he’s very manipulative and plays the victim card . Love bombs in the beginning wanting to talk and see you everyday then backs off and creeps in when it suits him. I don’t know where he finds the time for all these girls. Does not give the play boy vibe and seems very quiet and innocent. He also has mental problem that I’m not equipped to diagnose but he’s aware of it . It isn’t bipolar but he overthinks then makes an erratic life changing decision out of no where randomly then changes his mind. It’s exhausting behavior and he’s emotionally immature once things don’t go his way.
Sam/Samuel from Virginia Beach/Chesapeake, Virginia. Lying, cheating manipulator who has used women for everything from money, to assurance as he builds his ‘persian’ empire. He swindles people quick than a used ‘car salesman’ and there are several other women (I have receipts) who have been made victim by him. Run, don’t walk away! The love bombing starts and ends just as fast. He will tell you he loves you and he is ready to be engaged and married with in months (4). He is a verbal/physical abuser and has a court record for exactly this. Don’t let the used luxury fool you because this man is the epitome of a fool!
Julius Tribble from costa mesa CA. he is liar, cheater goes around using and hurting good women. he is narcissist stay away from him or you will get caught in his web of bs. he plays the victim claiming his ex wife cheated on him many years, so he will played cheat on you and lie, he is one big pile of bs and lies stay away.
this is comments from other women on other website he has done this to at least 5 women that i know of but am sure they are plenty more..
June 8, 2019 at 8:24 AM
Julius recently struck again.
A friend dated this man, he became blackout drunk, locked her in her hotel room, and she had to physically fight her way out.
PLEASE AVOID THIS MAN.
Nic Frachon from Phoenix, AZ. Nic Frachon is a master manipulator, cheater, s3x addicted predator and p3rv3rt. He will do all the right things, go above and beyond, plan sweet dates, spoil you with attention to make you feel like you have something real, yet the whole time he’s cheating. He preys on college age teenage girls because he thinks they’re easier to manipulate. He will tell you he’s not capable of these things but I assure you he is. Everything that comes out of his mouth is a lie. Whatever he tells you his values are it is the exact opposite. So listen closely because he tells on himself. He’s not worth the therapy and trauma. Not even contracting an STD will stop this man. He will never be satisfied.
Kevin Joseph from Bensalem Pennsylvania.
I met him on a dating website. He seemed to be a sweet normal guy, very respectful and attentive. I didn’t know what love bombing was until I met this person. At first everything was great. He was always open to communication. He would text and reply often. We dated regularly. I never had to ask for his time or attention. But there were little red flags. I noticed that he had a wondering eye. He and I are of African descent but the towns we are from are predominantly white. I have dated outside of my race so I don’t have any issues with interracial dating. However, his ex for 15 years was white and he seemed to have an obsession with white women. One day while on a date, I caught him staring at our waitress. She was a bit young with blonde hair. It was so noticeable that the waitress seemed a bit uncomfortable. I called him on it but he lied and said he hadn’t even noticed her. That was the first of many red flags. He ended up cheating on me with a white woman named April, from his town. One day when we were coming back from a date, she was at his home waiting outside for him. Like him, she was drama filled and the situation was very embarrassing. She told me that she had been seeing him for about a year. Keep in mind we were over two years in at this point. After I found out about her he became even more cold towards me. He kept begging me not to leave him but would not work on the relationship. Later I found out that he never stopped seeing her. There is Nothing wrong with being attracted to another race, but this man fetishizes over white women and that’s unhealthy. He desires them but mistreats them. On the day that the woman came to his home, she told me that he forced her to pay for her own meals, refused to meet her children, family members, or friends. They had never gone anywhere special, like a vacation or even a weekend getaway. During our time together, we vacationed, he met my family, we did special dates as well as regular dates. There was a real investment in me all while manipulating both of us. She allowed him to use her and he took advantage because he knew he could. He told me that she was “convenient.” In my opinion he thinks he can give white women less and they will stand for it. I think it’s wrong to use women in any way. All women, especially black or white women, need to stay far away from this man. He wasted almost three years of my life with this game. He is a cold hearted narcissist with zero but remorse for what he does to women.
Stuart Hartley from Geneva, Switzerland. 34 years old. Originally I was not interested in Stuart as I had a bad break up earlier in the year and was nervous about trusting someone again, but Stuart spent months showing up consistent, kind and with exceptional communication skills. He seemed wonderfully together and like he was actively doing the work to know himself and make healthy relationship choices. We went on good dates and he was always texting me and going to all efforts to show he was emotionally available. Stuart did all the right things to gain my trust, including introducing me to his friends, talking about future joint trips, engaging in detailed discussions about what we were looking for, informing me he was no longer on dating apps, and discussing relationship expectations at length. There was no obvious red flags, he seemed to very much care about me, and eventually I agreed to exclusively seeing each other.
However, shortly after gaining exclusivity and commitment, all this healthy communication and relationship behavior immediately stopped. He flipped to someone who refused to communicate, instead choosing stonewalling, ghosting, and also checking back in after ghosting just to ghost again (pattern of behavior happened more than once). When I raised the issue he also threw in a good dose of gaslighting, saying we never had discussed where the relationship was headed – despite text message records proving otherwise. Unfortunately it turns out Stuart is actually highly avoidant and just likes the dopamine hit of chasing a new romance. He wants to get laid and have emotional intimacy on his terms, but won’t be honest about his actual intentions and emotional availability. Nothing about the relationship was worth the few weeks of emotional abuse I endured before I blocked his number. He knew exactly what I was looking for and decided he wouldn’t respect my wants, time or boundaries. All I can say is he either has no ability to self-reflect or is being maliciously dishonest. He comes with a sob story about a long term ex-girlfriend. I am glad she and I both GOT OUT. I only got a taste of the emotional abuse and toxic relationship dynamics he is capable of. I can’t imagine what she went through.
Jeremy Ousey from Swansea UK. I went on two dates with this man. He gained my trust as he’s a med student but when he picked me up, his hands were already all over me. I told him to stop and moved his hand but he kept doing it over and over. He grabbed my face and forced me to kiss him. He grabbed my br3a5t5. He is just an overall creep. He admitted to being a narcissist and he said himself he thinks he’s a psych0path. I just think he likes abusing women. Warning ladies, do not meet him especially alone.
Mario Rios Sr from Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio. Please beware of this s3x offender. Not only does he go after married women, he goes after very young girls, ages 17, 18 19..He’s 55. He will seek out married women to offend so when wants to have his way with them they won’t say anything about the attack because “they are married”.
He will date multiple women at once claiming to only be in a relationship with them. He has stalked me, as well as other women. He had s3xua11y attacked me, not once but twice, and when I went to the police I was told, it was his word against yours, and since I use to be in a relationship with him proving it wasn’t consensual would be hard. He is a master at fooling and gaslighting people. He had also s3xua11y abused children and got away with doing so due to technicalities as the children were to young to say. Even though I shared this information with county workers they did not have any “physical” evidence at that time, so they could not move forward. I was an eyewitness who caught him, and for them, that wasn’t enough as he told the county worker that I was just “a jealous ex-girlfriend, and I was lying”. He was even on Dr Phil show for his crazy behaviors. S3x Lies and Audiotapes was the program. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y8Z3jWo6ULc . He even tried to get his very own son’s girlfriend who was only 20 years old to leave his son to be with him as he was “infatuated” with her. He continues to prey on women, and once he obtains bad information about them, he blackmails them into doing s3xua1 things with him or he will share their secrets. I was constantly getting hit on by him despite him being married and he and I had broken up, he even pulled out his p3n15 and began to pleasure himself all in front of me. When I walked away he pursued me and backed me into a room grabbed my phone and made comments saying “I know you want me, this is your last chance to ever be with me”. At that point, I started screaming so he would get away from me.
Chris Friscia from Petaluma, Ca. Chris is a good looking, charismatic man and he is a s3x addict, food addict, alcoholic and serial cheater. I dated him several years ago and he was quick to tell me he loved me and I fell head over heels for him. He lied to me repeatedly, refused to wear a c0nd0m when we slept together and cheated on me with at least 3-4 other women, putting my health at risk. He has a history of doing this and from what I can gather has cheated on women for years and years, and he is incredibly convincing and good at what he does. At one point when I was questioning him he said to me, “I am a man of my word and you just need to trust me”. The last I heard that even though he has a live in girlfriend he is back out on the dating apps. I wish I had seen a site like this prior to getting involved with him. It would be saved me a tremendous amount of stress and heartache.
Brandon Lee Poston from Sumter, SC. Brandon Poston groomed me. He was legally an adult while I was in my mid-teens. His excuse was that he “didn’t know” how old I was and I was “so mature.”
He was severely emotionally abusive; negative comments about my appearance and personality were a daily topic. Very manipulative. He also claimed to actually be gay while he was with me. All of a sudden would go through a religious phase, though.
He threatened to mass-shoot people and himself and had a written kill-list. Authorities didn’t care.
Regularly would “mess around” and squeeze my wrists or legs so hard he would leave bruises. Did not request consent. Wrecked my parent’s car. Cheated multiple times.
A couple weeks after I finally left him, he physically beat another woman.
I can’t state his job, but his location changes every few years. He seems very, very nice and good at first but he is awful.
Ronald Laboy from Brooklyn, New York. Ladies, be aware and stay far away from him. I dated him for almost two years but found out how horribly abusive he was. He would complain about how all his exes and his kids’ mother was crazy. It was him that is crazy. He would go off the deep end and lose his temper every time we had a disagreement. He would curse me out and call me horrible names, then he would ignore me and flirt with married women and other women on his Facebook page.
He and his mother tried getting me to quit college because he didn’t want to watch our child while I was in class. She had the audacity to give me an ultimatum to quit school or I be thrown out and that he is not going to help me take care of our daughter.
I continued to go and they threw me and our child out her house. Meanwhile, he didn’t have his GED, he was unemployed while I was in college. He is a bum, useless, and lazy. He is an entitled old geezer that claims everyone must serve him. He throws violent rages if he doesn’t get his way.
He is an alcoholic and would frequent the bars for three day alcohol and drug binges.
There were times he would come home wasted, vomiting, and had blood on his shirt for fighting in the bar. I always had to nurse him to health.
He would stash 1ll3gal weapons in his mother’s house and he has a felony record. (I don’t know if he does now, because this happened years ago when we were together).
He would make up lies about his ex girlfriends to all his friends and family. His ex girlfriends are not the bad guys, he is. They all dumped him because of his abusive, lying, cheating ways.
One time he wrote horrible things about me on Facebook when I left him and he put all my information on there when I was hiding from him. I put a restraining order on him because he was threatening my life. He even threatened that his homegirls would destroy my face if I didn’t let him know where I was at.
He claimed my older kids were taken away from CPS. My two older kids live with their fathers. He lied because it was me that was taken by CPS when I was a child. I was in the foster care system when I was a toddler but was reunited with my parents that year. This was back in 1985. He knew this because I told him my childhood story.
He would twist my words and story around to make me look terrible while trying to ruin my reputation. His friends and family believed it. I reported that post on Facebook to have it shut down for defamation of character. I sought lawyers about it and eventually Facebook closed his page down for harassment and libel.
He cheated on me with multiple women and tried to persuade me into going to sw1ng3rs clubs with him. I was grossed out at the thought and noticed a pattern of whenever he was h1gh on drugs, he would bring that up.
He even stole money from me and used it on drugs.
He pretends to be a good guy claiming he found God. He is hiding behind a religion so that he can look like a good guy and that he can attract more women.
His mother is a religious fanatic and most likely told him to find God. She controls his every move and he is a momma’s boy. He uses women for a place to stay and works off the books to avoid paying almost $15,000 in child support arrears.
He is a chronic liar, he makes up stories about his exes, he is abusive, a con artist, old, and washed up. He has terrible hygiene and isn’t that smart. His friends and family are just as dumb as he is.
He isn’t even a good friend, because he cannot ever have a healthy relationship with any human. He objectifies women. He is an artist and he has done nude body painting on women, just so he can have access to women’s bodies. He would post images on social media of these women covered in body paint and his old washed up friends would make p3rv3rt3d s3xua1 jokes about their bodies. He doesn’t do it for the love of art. He is a p3rvert. He refers to his women friends as “his hoes”.
He is overly jealous and wanted me to stop being friends with my male friends or exes. Yet I asked him to do the same and he would yell and curse me out. He has never shown me respect or any reciprocity from his requests. It’s only fair that he reciprocate.
He is a huge hypocrite. He can dish it out, but can’t take criticism or reciprocate favors he demands.
Ladies, I urge you to run, not walk, if you ever encounter him. He is trash. I promise you. I am not getting anything out of this post, maybe some closure or relief of getting this off my chest. But I need to be heard and understood so you don’t go through what I went through.
Logan (Maddox) Grey from Puyallup wa. Logan is a liar and cheater.
I had a feeling something was up when he ended his live stream after a girl came in and was like hey babe.
so I waited to see her again online and finally found her. we got to talking and low and behold he had her come from Detroit to visit him for multiple days.
I have the RECEIPTS to prove he did it. yet when I called him out he is still continuing to deny it. then he blocked me thinking it will all go away.
Thomas Martin Jr from Pottsville, PA. He attempted to k1ll me by hitting me over the head with a cell phone, then ran from the police. After his arrest and when there was a protection from abuse order in place, he sent forged letters to my employer pretending to be a parent at the school where I was working, to try and get me fired. He also refused to sign off on the title on my car so I had to junk my car and lost $16,000. Stay away from this man.
Manny from Denver. Emotionally cheated on me with my close trusted friend, and rumored that I was the one who started it first.
Daniel Ash from Kansas city Missouri. He’s dirty. You will always have a part of him the rest of your life. He’s a manipulative coward. He beats women and imo in the closet. If you see a bald white guy with a lightning bolt earring, RUN
Matthew Zorich from Austin, Texas. Originally from Tuson,Az he lived in Washington state, McCord Af base. Living in Austin Tx now. This guy is dangerous. Classic Misogynist, gaslighting, emotional abuse! Will lie to his end to make himself the victim or upstanding guy. Beware, he is a convincing liar. He tried to torcher me, control me. Would try to trick me into watching animal abuse clips off internet. Also, abused my cat, terrified an innocent animal by shouting (top of his lungs)at him for no reason. BTW, he doesn’t shower for weeks. Not sure how he survived being in the military. This guy tricked me into leaving my state to live with him in another. Then once there everything went to hell. Do not trust anything he does or says.
Steven Boren from Logan, Utah. Officer Steven Boren in Logan Utah. Most prolific cheating problem I’ve ever encountered. Demoted from sergeant for stalking. He’s currently looking for a nice LDS wife to cheat on while just trying to manipulate everyone else into s3x and then leaving them right after. I’ve encountered a few of his exes. I caught him cheating. He has at least 3 ex wives he’s abandoned because they got suspicious he was cheating. It’s the amount of women he goes through that makes him so dangerous in my opinion. At least 10 in the past year, and those are just ones I happened to find out about. I assume there’s a lot more. It was a horribly painful experience. He’s amazing at making you feel like the only one in his life. Please pass along.
Benjamin John Paul Horton from Halifax/Huddersfield. He’s an emotionally abusive, manipulative jerk who cheats, lies, and bullies women.
Dan cox from Dexter maine. Caught him messaging other girls while we were dating. Was such a nice guy and never saw it coming. He is a cheater. Received a message from a girl he was trying to hook up with on fb. Glad she warned me about what he was trying. He is a selfish lover. Every time is like his first time if you know what I mean. To find out he was sending pics of that little thing he calls a manhood to other girls while I worked and he sat home makes me so angry!
Timothy Michael Mizell from Bryan, Texas. Classic text book “Good Guy.” Was with him off and on for 6 years, everything was a lie or an embellishment from day one. I ignored every red flag, and still tried to stick it out no matter how cruel or narcissistic he was; for better or for worse, right? He cheated so many times and in so many different ways that I’m still finding out about it all years later. FetLife, Okcupid, Whisper, etc. He frequents them all, whether he is in a “committed relationship” or not. Whether it is digital or in person, his methods of cheating and disrespect know no bounds. He gaslit me so much, and told so many people how crazy I was, that I stopped leaving my house; and was very mentally and emotionally unstable towards the end. Even years later, he is still telling people lies to try and save himself.
Every time I had a feeling that he was cheating again, he would call me crazy and paranoid, and every time I turned out to be right. He would scold me for violating his privacy, would blame his cheating and dishonesty on my “attitude” and would mentally punish me in different ways afterwards to show me who was charge. I cannot tell you how lucky I am to have finally stopped falling for his tricks, and I’m so glad to have gotten away from the poison.
Do not have anything to do with this man unless you want to be lied to, cheated on, gaslit, or end up with an STD. Therapy and long term feminine care can be very very expensive.
Greg Wingham from Scotland, UK. avoid this guy at all costs, he’s a covert narcissist. He is very intense at the beginning, puts on this ‘sweet victim’ act and he will mirror your personality. He is a cheater, liar and extremely psychologically abusive, it took about a year to start seeing the abuse but by that time he already trapped me. When I left him I had to get the police involved because he was so controlling and coercive (we shared a house). He has a child with another ex and I feel really sorry for her. Please be wary of this guy, he has zero empathy, calls all his exes crazy (there’s a lot of them!), just don’t be fooled, he’s honestly one of the most evil people I’ve ever had to deal with, but he puts on a good act. If he’s Scottish, supports Man U and his name is the same as above honestly run!!!
Robert Lawson from Tucson, AZ. When I met him I thought I had hit the jackpot. He was so sweet, almost sickening sweet now that I think about it. Always sending love songs, love bombing. Told me he loved me right away, engaged in three months, bought a new house in four months and at 6 months I walked in to our new home to find him in bed with another woman. I was 100% blindsided as I trusted him so completely. He’s not that attractive and very short, 5’2 but was so sweet .. I spoke to the woman she told me the entire time we were getting engaged , buying house, planning a wedding they were having an affair. I tried to forgive him but found his missing iPad and when I looked found out he was cheating with another woman and he cheated on his ex girlfriend with SIX women. He is sweet to your face but has a very secret devious life on the side with many women. Women were calling all the time and he changed their names to men’s name in his phone. I caught him in multiple lies about everything too.
He’s a manipulative, compulsive liar, serial cheater. In short he is a covert narcissist
So be careful ladies. We are getting divorced now. The heartache and disbelief is too much to bare. I don’t want any other woman to fall for what I foolishly did.
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Robert moved quickly in relationships, s3x, saying I love you etc. He told me how bad his childhood was and how all his exes are psych0s, his ex cheated on him multiple times etc always playing the victim. Asked me to marry him pretty quickly too. I thought he was SO sweet so I believed everything he was saying, especially the I will NEVER cheat on you lie. I was 100% blindsided when I walked in to our new home and found a woman in my bed. I TRUSTED this short, bald, unattractive man. He SWORE nothing happened, just old friends that had too much to drink. Swore they didn’t even touch. For ten days I believed him. Then she contacted me and I had her on speaker. She told me they had been having s3x for 8 months.
The entire time I was planning a wedding and looking at houses he was sneaking around behind my back cheating.
Then I found his iPad. Found MORE lies and way more cheating as well as spent 2000 on p0rn in six months!
Cheating not only on me but EVERY woman he has been with was cheated on as well.
His gf before me, we counted 6 women he cheated on her with me included. Who knows how many more from dating sites. He told me he hadn’t been in a relationship 6months prior to me when I met him on bumble. That was a lie. He and his long term gf were still very much together when he met me! As well as the woman I walked in on him with were together before he and I were. She thought she was in a relationship with him too.
He would never ever let me post anything of us on social media and when we got engaged we got into a huge fight because I wanted to post our engagement. He was so mad but we did. Now I know its because his gf’s were on there. So then they were all asking him who I was and he told one that I was an ex from 2018 that we had just gotten back together and he didn’t have a chance to tell her and the other he told her he wasn’t seeing me in March (LIE) and that I was a rebound from their break up.
The pathological lying and serial cheating is so hard to believe because in public he’s like a tiny little care bear. According to my therapist, he is a textbook covert narcissist. Sneaky serial cheating, pathological lying and secret life. I was so blinded because he can be so sweet yet vicious at the same time. I went through every symptom and can clearly see every single red flag now. He would devalue me a lot in the beginning, he was caught in several lies and when I would confront him he would immediately turn it around on me and blame me for everything. What I read in he iPad was so much cheating, lying and painful texts I saw. I just don’t want any other woman to go through what I have. Its hard to believe with his sweet little woes me demeanor but I have all the proof anyone could possible want to see from texts from all the women to recorded calls between himself & me about the lies and affairs (not illegal in AZ) So if anyone wants to reach out to me please do. Im happy to share and save you a very confused broken heart~
Tex Charles Sims from Ohio. Comes from a good family. Has 5 beautiful children. Looks like Cary Grant (some say George Clooney) and so charming! Tall, dark, handsome (in my humble opinion). 6’4″, Dark golden skin, beautiful honey brown eyes and he’s adorably color blind. Doesn’t workout (besides playing golf…. weekly) but is very clean, organized, and well kempt. Charismatic. Tells you everything he thinks you want to hear. A self proclaimed womanizer. I lied to myself when I thought he told me that to strengthen our relationship. I should have run away then.
We established together that our relationship would be long term. After a month he proposed to me 3 times in one night. He wrapped me in his long arms and said, “We should get married. Don’t you want to get married?” I stayed quiet. I’m afraid to get married ever again. A minute later still laying in the dark he said, “We should get married.” Still I was silent. Another minute later, “Do you want to marry me?” I finally responded, “Tex, you don’t know me well enough to know for certain if you want to marry me.” In reality I was thinking about how well I knew him. I knew we’d have time to get to know each other. I was content with that. He didn’t recall any of this the next morning. He was prone to daily drinking, I didn’t know that at the time so I chalked it up to talking in his sleep. Even though he never talked in his sleep before or since.
We established together that we would talk and work out any issues that came up. He was very good at explaining what his quirks were but had no patience for mine… My quirks come from being abandoned, abused and neglected. By men. Specifically. My whole life. My brothers are good men. He didn’t know that because it was more important for me to hear about him. His opinions, his philosophies, his perspectives. I listened intently though because we had time to talk about me later.
I learned he weighs the value of a person by their education, power, influence, and monetary gain. He respects people who overcome adversity. I’m a single mother who put off her own education to support her previous husband’s educational ambitions. After 10 years of him repeatedly quitting I realized that was a HUGE mistake. Tex didn’t know this about me either because it was more important for me to know about HIS ambitions. He was very good at his job. I don’t know how much he made but he liked bragging about how much he spent on things.
I have a low paying job in the dental industry (not minimum wage but not enough to support a family either) and Tex explained to me how devastated he was for me when he realized how little I make. He seemed content knowing I was studying to get the licensing for a better position but didn’t have the time to keep talking about it. Had we been able to complete that conversation he would know I have been struggling to find the $500 I need to take the national exam. It was clear at that point he didn’t see me as an equal.
I’d go to his girl’s soccer games every week. Took them skating. Took his oldest girl to a theme park. He thanked me and tried paying me back. I refused. I wasn’t babysitting. I love those girls. I’d brush and braid their hair before bedtime. Was looking forward to watching them grow up. He was too busy for my kids, but he’d let them come over for sleepovers and did take us on a lovely trip ONE time. And another time he showed up for a church Halloween party.
The night I told him I have pre-cancerous lesions he had been drinking a lot. I hadn’t seen him in a while and I didn’t know when I would see him again so I told him then. It was big news that I’d been struggling with for a couple of weeks. He told me that he’d be getting busy at work and would have less time for me but that everything was great between us. That texting might be the only way we can communicate for a while but to make sure I include him on all the big stuff. He stopped coming to my place.
I’m training a dog that isn’t used to children. Tex respectfully told me I should get rid of her. At this point in our relationship Tex left me alone more often than not. Especially when I was struggling or needed help. I made the 2 hour roundtrip to see him once a week. I couldn’t afford it but the first month we were together he exclusively came to see me once or twice a week. I wanted to be his companion. Things were hard for him at work, so I made every effort to be there. He made a lot of promises to help me and hadn’t kept ANY of them. So… I kept the dog. I can see how he would see that as disloyalty, but I can also see how breaking promises is disloyal and dishonest. He likes to preach how honesty is so important. He grew very distant in a short period of time. I called him out about it. He said he was just busy with work and this is “how it is.” Tex didn’t have 1 hour to spend with me but he had 5 or more hours every week to play golf and drink with his friends.
Tex always said, “You’re welcome over anytime you want,” but he wasn’t clear on when he wasn’t home. Already unable to afford the trip I wanted to make sure he’d be home. Usually I’d go over on Monday nights because I got off work earlier Mondays. One Monday night I texted to make sure he was home and he said he was out with his girls. I was disappointed I couldn’t see him, but I was glad he was having fun with his girls. I used the situation to mention he could be clearer about when he is not home and he turned me into a villain.
I had to ask to spend Thanksgiving with him. He wouldn’t let me ride with him. From a time and distance standpoint it made sense, but I was there to spend time with him. I knew the only time we’d have together would be on the car ride. I don’t like being the center of attention, but I couldn’t help how awkward it felt that no one there would look at or converse with me. That was the last time I saw him. He walked me out to my car, pecked me on the cheek. I told him I love him. I got a blank stare and, “I love you too, Babe.” That was the last time I saw him.
After that I discovered my 10-year-old took something from his house and I was whole heartedly rejected while trying to return it. Tex said, “Let me think on this one and get back to you.” He was understandably upset, so I didn’t text him after apologizing and telling him how heartbroken I was. That was a Sunday night. Monday. Tuesday. Wednesday. Nothing. I knew he was done with me. I carefully wrapped the item and his belongings left at my house, drove two hours round trip and left it inside his storm door with a note that said, “Tex, these belong to you. Take care.” I texted him to let him know it was there but I thought he blocked my number so I also texted his oldest daughter. I didn’t get a response from her either. My things were still inside but didn’t feel right going in to collect them. So, I left.
For his birthday I drove out of town to forget but was dumb and sent him a 1am text, “Happy Birthday.” It was going to the universe anyway, right? Nope. The next morning he replied, “Thank you.” Then I felt guilty for casting a shadow on his day.
I had my son write apology letters to Tex and his two youngest girls who were grounded for the item that went missing. Shortly after that my things from Tex’s place were on my doorstep. Not all of them but enough to get the point that he wanted nothing else to do with me.
In conclusion, Tex is a really great guy if you’re entertaining and worth his time. A fair weather friend. He’s just as human as the rest of us. In the end it takes more than love to make a relationship work and he doesn’t have that to give. He’s just not honest with himself or potential prospects about it.
Christopher Brantley Mathis from Virginia Beach, VA. I was very controlled and never got access to money even though we were married. He forced me by bullying to leave my dying mothers hospital room, bc he was tired. She died 30 min later. He has a record for choking his ex wife. (The first one) He didn’t tell me about his gay p0rn addiction till after we were engaged. After we got married I got sick and he told his buddy how unattractive I was. Every time he pleased himself and thought about another person he would tell me, well after I asked him not too. He told me I could not live under his roof UNLESS I go to HIS church (where I was smear campaigned) EVERY week (even though I live with a chronic health condition and often cannot be in big spaces like that). And I couldn’t find my own church. And he told me this when I was facing homelessness with my rented home (we were living a part but together). He called me crazy in front of my kids, punched a hole in the wall and loves to gaslight. He would only see counselors HE picked. Which were basically only ones from the church. (Except for one). Never keeps promises about the relationship. Crosses boundaries. Oh! And he said he wanted me on nothing but prescribed 0pi0ids (even though I’m in recovery) than utilizing cannabis (which is not something that’s addictive). That was also a “rule” to live with him. Give up my pain control option to take a cannabis pill that does exist here. He knew that. Also caught him on 18 year old teen boy p0rn site once. And uses honestly as a weapon. Lies without lying.
Kirk Calabrese from Everett, WA. He is a pathological liar that will tell you that he wants a serious relationship with you. He will lovebomb you and make you feel as if you are the most important and most special woman in the world! He will make you feel like a queen and you will begin to ask yourself “wow… is this TOO GOOD to be true?” And YES girl, it is. He will text you back and forth throughout the day for days on end making you feel very special and pursued. He will tell you that he misses you and can’t wait to hold you in his arms… but here is the kicker: he only wants to sleep with you. As soon as he gets that, he will suddenly text you less until he ghosts you altogether… and then reach out again 2-3 weeks later with some story that seems believable and since he’s back to the lovebombing stage again you’ll let down your guard and decide to give him a second chance. He is so convincing! He will look you in the eye and straight up LIE about his intentions. He told me that he couldn’t stop thinking about me, that he missed our connection and chemistry.. that he wanted to go out on a gym date again (to which I agreed to go) but we never went on a follow up gym date because deep down all he wanted was for me to come over to his place for a “movie” night to love on me and caress me in order for me to let down my guard and agree to let him hit it again. I didn’t let him have s3x with me a second time because something told me that he would just ghost me again. We even talked about it! I made him promise that he wouldn’t do that ghosting shit again but he did. The texts went from 200+ per day to 5 or less texts. He avoided responding to my questions asking “When can we do a gym date again?” “When can I see you again?” He told me in person that he wanted to be MY man and for me to be HIS girl. He wanted us to be together and spend all 2023 together… looking back he only said all that in hopes that I’ll give it up again. But I’m glad that I didn’t because dude is a jerk. I called him out in his switching up behavior and he basically told me off (guess that asking him to keep up the consistency and communication was “asking for too much”) and blocked me. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that he is a master manipulator and emotional predator. He KNEW I had a good heart and very loving spirit and he took advantage of that. I don’t want that to happen to anybody else so I’m reporting him on here. Stay safe out there! He is on Tinder and Hinge and goes by the name “Khali” which he said was his middle name but I cannot confirm or deny. He works for Google and has two sons and is apparently divorced but for all I know he could have still been married or with the mother. No way to know. He also bad mouthed the mother of his children on a few occasions. I’m starting to think that she probably left him because of his inconsistent behavior and pathological lies. He will be charming and so sweet but don’t trust him!!! Run!!
Jim from Los Angeles. Get out before it’s too late. He is a devil in a great disguise.
Zane Dockery from Murphy, North Carolina. He attached a remote access trojan to photos he sent me of us after I broke up with him. This meant he was able to remote into my computer, moving the cursor while I was on it, backspacing while I type, getting on websites, opening programs on my computer and eventually damaging the computer to the point it would never turn on again which cost me a $2000 laptop. It didn’t stop there.
Years later after I broke up with him decided he was going to try and hunt me down. At that point I had already deleted all my social media because I was so creeped out by the remote access trojan he used to remote access my computer before and crashed it, but he found my professional website I use for work listed under my name.
He decided to attack my website (years later) and posted derogatory photos, a username with my bank account number, and a phishing link to a fake twitter profile he made to get my passwords. The next morning I woke up to my professional email being hacked and my cell phone booting up in recovery mode.
When I set up extra security for my website, he changed his servers to be hosted on the same platform and attempted to hack it again hundreds of times per day for the following 4 months. Instead of enjoying Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years with my family I had to worry about being hacked again by this person. Now here is where it gets CREEPY:
He would wait until I was either taking a shower, away from my computer, going to the bathroom, or not home to try attacking the website according to my logs. Meaning he was either monitoring my home wifi network or set up hidden cameras in my apartment.
I use a tool called Wireshark and found the ip address connected to one of his servers connecting to my wifi at least once, which is creepy considering we have not spoken in several years (would still be creepy regardless). He continues to attempt to hack my website unsuccessfully to this day, which is not only annoying but should be a red flag to anyone considering getting involved with him.
He will not leave me alone years later and uses the power of wifi, my professional website I use for work, and the internet to torment me daily several years later. Oh, and he is also nearly 40 years old and lives with his mom. Hacking my bank account, professional website, professional email, monitoring my wifi, and still he continues to attack the website — not only childish, but just wrong ESPECIALLY years later after we dated. Do not go out with this guy EVER and more importantly, do not trust him. EVER.
Theodore Teddy mark Taylor from Auckland, New Zealand. Theo aka Teddy chatted with me online initially. He was the perfect gentleman- said everything I wanted to hear seamlessly. He was always throwing his low number of 3 girls prior to me. Thst he only likes to be intimate with someone he’s close to. And he’s looking for the one and doesn’t want to sleep around. His photos are very handsome –
But then we met- and before that I find out he has severe anxieties and dark thoughts – I find out his low number is because he has pre 3jaculat1on problems aka doesn’t last for more than 20 seconds. So he is not pr0miscu0us because he’s insecure – not because he’s a perfect gentleman- he also has an obsession with young girls- he’s a total groomer – he also kept staring at girls while we were together –
He is very superficial. He wants to virtue signal what he thinks is pure and “good” but to his core he is negative, superficial and a poor communicator-
It all went to hell when he was acting suspicious and started making weird comments about bisexuality and wearing women’s garments. I was mean to him when we broke up because after saying ge loved me- he said he never loved me and just cut me out – then he quit his job trying to sue his boss because he wasn’t being favored by him anymore- he always said his boss was secretly gay and wanted him – that was another weird nightmare- I messaged his boss spilling beans
All I gotta say is that he’s a sociopath with major border personality disorders – I believe in sisterhood – after thinking about what I went through – feeling like I can’t trust my own judgement with men. Crying, feeling bad for telling him off etc. I’ve concluded that it’s important for me to share story so the next girl knows she’s not alone and can reach out to me anytime.
Teddy needs major help. He currently uses a rag he sniffs to relax – but he needs to actually get intensive treatment. I’ve never been scammed so intricately in my life – but he’s not very smart – so he can’t really escape his illusions – he’s got severe OCD so he can fixate on things long enough to get stuff done.
He was great at finance because he was at work 12 hour days from a previous heartache where girlfriend told me “he doesn’t respect boundaries”
Anyway- he’s really scrawny in real life and cannot relax. He’s severely codependent and preys on someone else to be his sniffy rag in human form. Unless you’re just looking to settle, I’d run. He isn’t man enough to depend on in tricky situations – his parents are severely anxious too and religiously fanatics that are judgemental
Anyways feel free to contact me anytime. And Theo if you’re reading this – you owe me an apology !
Dustin Dalton from West Monroe, Louisiana. Be careful ladies. This is Dustin Dalton age 35 from West Monroe Louisiana. We works and spends most his time in Midland because of the oil field. So I met this guy on FB dating. He seemed nice. We started talking. He went into victim mode talking about how his wife of ten years cheated on him and left him for his best friend. Talked about an ex gf and how she was talking to her ex behind his back so he broke it off. Then he started disappearing and getting distant. He swore it was depression and because he was so busy with work. We had a date where he talked about all his exes. He really made me think we were talking then he ghosted me twice over what he claimed was depression. I didn’t understand it because of how he kind of started treating me. So I texted his ex gf to see if she experienced the same thing with him. I was worried about him and thought he might be a narcissist. Come to find out, she wasn’t his ex. He was still with her and talking to me. Why he probably disappeared. Now we both know about each other. And why he probably ghosted me.
Sina Jason Taghizadeh from Atlanta, GA. I saw the other girl’s post about this guy name Sina Jason Taghizadeh so I decided to share my story here. I dated this guy for almost 2 years from 12/2020 to 11/2022. He is the most disrespected person that I have ever met. When I was suffered to deal with the car accident that I had on the way back home from his place, he went cheat on me with other girl. The accident was in April 2022. Same month April, he asked me to take him out to a fancy steak house for his birthday. I paid for his dinner. I am a cool girl so I didn’t mind. I treated him the way that I expected to be treated. I also gifted him the nice golf clubs on his last birthday. I gave his mom nice flower bouquet any occasions. However, I was completely mistreated by him. He is very cheap too. Past 2 years, he never bought me a gift. He took me out couple times and he used the coupon to pay for dinner. In October, he got fired from his job. I was there for him. I cared about him and made sure he was not a lone during his tough time. I bought him a LV wallet on my trip to make him feel special. A day after I gave him the LV wallet, I found out out he cheated on me for months. I dumped him. He is very selfish. He loves no one but himself. He is very disrespectful. I found out He used 3 dating apps for hooking up with girls. He lied to me so much. He is also master of manipulation. He brain washed me. Lately, I talked to two other girls who dated him on and off since college. I found out that he strings women along but won’t commit. He only wants them around for s*x and company. Narcissist. Girls are just object. Those 2 girls who dated him on and off since college. They are now around 30 and continues hooking up with him. There would be more but I decided to stop my investigation. He is definitely a very bad person. He is the worse human being. His parents had not raised him well. If you have even seen his name, please run fast.
Thomas (Tom) M. Dougherty from Winston Salem, NC. “Tom” is on the dating site Zoosk, using the same M.O. on the women he meets. He’s a widower, using the widower card to charm and use women for his own pleasure. He’s still harboring anger about his diseased wife and serious issues with his daughter. I learned the hard way that he is NOT who he pretends to be.
Tim is 57, 6’4″, good looking, charming man who uses sarcasm and playful whit to trap you. We dated for just under 3 months. He will wine and dine you, take you out to places where alcohol is served, keep you drinking then seduce you. I fell for all of it and was very attracted to him. He doesn’t like to talk a lot, unless he’s had a few drinks, he will tell you about how his daughter 17 tried to commit suicide when she was 13 after her Mother passed, which is sad. However, he is using that sad story to get your empathy and use the widower card to keep you at arms length and tell you he wants to move slow and really get to know you before he introduces you to his family. I treaded lightly and didn’t push him but it started to become very clear that dates were only every couple of weeks and he always came to me and never allowed me to be at his home or have his address because of the “kids”. We had very fun pretty regular text exchanges and evening chats, fairly short most of the time, but over time, the texts slow down, I would get responses from him for a few days, then he reengages and communicates again like nothing happened. Then, as time goes by, he would say “I’m in a grumpy mood and don’t feel like talking”. I’m was left wondering if I did something, or what? This behavior continued. Would see him again and he would be 100% present, go back home, then the same thing would eventually start again, he was ghosting me again. Then, “I’m in a bad place right now and don’t feel like talking”, again, ghosted me and would not talk, and only a couple basic texts. It was a Rollercoaster to say the least!!
Fast forward… after last date, he wasn’t texting and would not take my calls. I texted him trying to find out if something was wrong or if I did something, and he responded “No, It’s all me”. That ended up being a lie too. Kept ghosting me, I was a wreck and couldn’t understand why he would do this to me just a few days after we were so close; or so I thought. He never contacted me again. He did not break up with me or give me any closure, no feeling, empathy, or anything. It tore me in shreds. In reflection, I was in love with this man; yes in 3 months. My bad!
My take on who this man is:
-Womanizer and will use his charm to seduce you and has the financial means to do this well.
-Uses being a “widower” so he doesn’t have to share too much with you, and I allowed it out of respect for his feelings.
-Closet Alcoholic, uses alcohol to soothe his issues and seduce women. I’m a lightweight and he loved it when I was tipsy.
-He is deeply troubled and has deep set anger about his wife dieing and leaving him to care for his kids and all of life’s issues. Seems his wife was the nurterer, not him. Found out him and his wife were having serious problems before she died.
-He will pay for everything when on a date and flash cash in a nonchalant way, and buys his children’s attention, which is probably why his daughter has many issues.
-He doesn’t take any responsibility for missing calls, ghosting, anything.
-Complains about how difficult his daughter and uses her as an excuse of why you can’t see eachother or talk on the phone.
-He will only tell you only what he wants you to know.
-He will not break up with you. He will make you break up with him so he can tell the new woman that the women he previously dated broke up with him… to again, get your sympathy. Then when you finally do, say “I believe it is best for both if us right now”, and will not elaborate or give you any information of why he feels that way.
-Then you never hear from him again, and there he is, back on the dating site where you met, looking for his next vulnerable woman to use, throw away after a few months, hurt her, and the cycle starts over again.
After talking to people, I found out that me story is very common with older professional men, especially a widower! This behavior is from this man is about to burst because this man really is in a dark place and all of these factors could easily cause him to do something bad to the one woman who tries to push him too hard.
I had to break up with him because a time came that I wasn’t feeling safe with his behavior and knew if I pushed him, he might lose it and do something to hurt me.
Ladies, no man is worth this type of treatment from any man. I gave him love and respect, empathy, support, and he gave me anxiety, depression, massive hurt, and eventually fear. If you start seeing similar behaviors or even minor clues, concerns or asking yourself questions at all about a man… run as fast as you can!
I hope this man gets the help he needs and I feel for the next woman he meets on the dating app. She has no idea what is coming her way.
Robert Alvarez from Jackson, MN. My ex-boyfriend is a serial cheater. I was with him for 6 years. I found out a year ago he had cheated on me with three other women. I decided to forgive him because the pain of leaving was too much to bear and basically the cat was out of the bag, so I imagined he wouldn’t try again. Come Christmas Day 2022, I drive over to his place to pick up my dog, because he was doggy-sitting her overnight. In his driveway is a silver Kia Soul that I don’t recognize. I figured maybe it was his friend Luke’s car since he did say he was going to do Xmas with him, but I’m suspicious. I walk into his house as he’s coming down the stairs, he looks shocked. He grabs my arm and says “don’t start this,” I pull away and run upstairs to his room to find a naked woman in his bed! I’ve spoken to his ex-wife, and she told me he constantly cheated on her as well, as well as giving her an STD. So this man is NEVER to be trusted and every woman should stay their distance.
Jesse Jones from Rosedale, Maryland. Cheated on me with multiple people (without their knowledge). Cheated on every partner he’s had for the past 20 years having unprotected s3x with all of them. He also tried to get married people to cheat on their spouses with him (sometimes successfully). Shared hundreds of private intimate pictures & videos of dozens of women against their consent. Used women for housing & food. Chronic liar. He gets very mean when you try to hold him accountable. Emotionally abusive & manipulative, and blames you for his flaws. So much gaslighting. He has a hair trigger for feeling criticized when trying to resolve conflict and becomes defensive, goes into protective mode and loses all empathy for his partner in the moment, lashes out and says extremely hurtful things.
I was talking to one of the other women Jesse cheated on (yes, we’ve basically formed a club because if nothing else, Jesse has great taste in women!). We were talking about how helpful it had been to be able to connect with the others for support to heal after the trauma caused by Jesse. It reminded me to come back to this post and see if anyone else impacted wants to join “The Club”.
I’m not sure what that says about me, but what Jesse did to me and others was terribly damaging, and I’d like to help prevent others from going through it or help them recover from it.
While I’m here, I may as well add some more context to my first post as it barely touched the tip of the iceberg. The highlights are
1) chronically distributing intimate media without consent.
2) sexual contact without consent (we call that assault)
3) Lies about taking his STD medication
4) owing you money & not paying you back
5) Serial infidelity (without condoms, no less, exposing women to more STDs)
Four of those are punishable by law and the fifth is punishable if in the military. All are objectively considered morally wrong.
1) Illegally distributing intimate media without consent
Several partners have reached back out to him to AGAIN tell him that he doesn’t have their permission to share intimate photos/videos of them. But he keeps doing it. And if you suggest that he deletes them, he becomes indignant. He feels entitled to the photos. If you received any photos of us or any other woman, I can almost guarantee he did NOT have consent.
2) Sexual Assault
This was a one-off. In general, I don’t think his character defects include sexual assault, but it does include pushing boundaries. I think he felt this was a boundary he could push and that I’d “give in”.
I hadn’t had sex with him for a few months at that point, because he had an outbreak of some sort on his penis & refused to get it tested but presumed that it was genital herpes or genital warts. I had repeatedly said for months that in no uncertain terms would I have any sexual contact with him that would put my sexual health at risk until he was tested.
We had recently broken up & he hadn’t moved out yet. I sleep naked and was laying in bed. I was still awake but facing away and it looked like I was sleeping. He then tried to penetrate me, literally behind my back. I blocked his sexual attempt just before his genitalia would have contacted mine, but froze and didn’t bring it up until the next day. He immediately insisted that he never tried to penetrate me. Then when I went into exact detail covering what he did, he switched tactics and said that I “blurred the lines”, so he thought I wanted it. He went from gaslighting to victim-blaming in the blink of an eye.
3) Stealthing
Sexual health is EXTREMELY important to me. I wouldn’t have any sexual contact with him until we’d taken STD tests & exchanged results. He had a viral STD that can be suppressed with daily medication. I said I would ONLY have sexual contact with him if he took the medication. I even waited 10 days until after he started the medication. He often stopped taking the medication for weeks at a time without informing me. My extreme care for sexual health makes it all the more infuriating that he cheated so damn much.
4) Not paying debts
Jesse is really challenged with money management. Even when he made a very, very good salary he was living paycheck to paycheck. I lent him money several times. Once was to cover his child support payment. He set expectations that he would pay it back in a few days. He then lied for about 3 weeks about the status of the money, saying that his boss didn’t have the money to pay him. He kept setting new expectations that his boss promised to pay him in a couple of days. In reality, he never turned in his timesheet for work for 3 weeks. As of right now, he still owes me $900. (and that’s not counting it all)
And he was around 5k behind in his child support when our relationship ended.
5) Serial Cheating
He cheated on me with multiple people. And he has cheated on every single relationship since at least 2017 (including cheating on his ex-wife), which means cheating on probably a dozen or more women in 4 years. The cheating took different forms. When he cheated on me, he told others that I was polyamorous (which I’m not. We had an agreement on monogamy) or just didn’t tell them about me at all.
He had a polyamorous partner whose condition was to inform if/when they got new partners and that he would wear condoms with everyone other than her. Not only did he not wear condoms with ANYONE else, but he also frequently lied & said he wasn’t sleeping with others. Except for the time that he created an entirely fictitious woman that he said he was having amazing sex with, to try to make the polyamorous woman jealous because he was struggling with her being poly.
In one long-term relationship, he was crossing boundaries with a (married) coworker and was frequenting tinder. After the ended their relationship, they transitioned to a FWB status. Her boundary was that once he was intimate with others, their FWB status would immediately end. He was intimate with many others (of course, without condoms) and lied to her to continue having sex with her. He was also lying to the other some of the women he was sleeping with at the same time, about not sleeping with anyone else. She found out many months later and was really upset. Eventually, she agreed to resume a FWB status with him. But her boundary was that he MUST wear condoms with others. He agreed, but never used condoms with others. At that time, he was even sleeping with a woman who he had a “monogamous” agreement relationship with and another that he had a poly agreement with AND trying to get the original poly woman back that he’d tried to make jealous with the tale of fictitious lover. He was also surreptitiously on dating apps when in all of his “monogamous” relationships (except with mine). I’m actually leaving out several people here because it just gets too confusing to explain it all without names. Oh, and he’s targeted several married people and convinced some of them to cheat on their spouses with him.
With me, there was about 6 people he crossed boundaries with.
1. While I was waiting for his STD results & for his suppressive medicine to become effective, he was sleeping with one of his previous partners. He was covering it up by saying he was spending time with his daughter. He was living with me at that point and we had absolutely defined it as monogamous. The other woman didn’t know about me. Actually, the first time we had sex was because he came home from spending time with her and was mad that she hadn’t been in the mood for sex with him that night.
2. He also resumed a relationship with a married woman.
3. He accidentally texted one a tinder contact with the same first name as me in a group chat with his family….the family group chat was about inviting me over to meet his family for the first time during the holidays. Once he realized his mistake, he continued the conversation with her privately and tried to sleep with her, but their kinks didn’t match up so he dropped it.
4. He went to a customer’s house (who he didn’t know) and started sexting with him and exchanging dick pics and escalating the conversation.
5. He went to a former poly’s lover’s house without telling me they were previously involved, and he let her assume I was also poly, but I can’t confirm if anything else inappropriate happened between them.
6. He was exchanging intimate pics and sexually charged conversations with a former FWB. I don’t know if they actually met up or not though. He says they didn’t.
ALL of this cheating happened within a 2 month period. SIX OTHER PEOPLE in a supposedly monogamous relationship IN TWO MONTH’S TIME.
When I found out, he said it was because he felt he couldn’t be in a monogamous relationship with me. When pressed why, he said it was because he wasn’t attracted to my stomach (among other things). That may be the case (I’m fairly fit & regularly work out but I’m sure I’m not everyone’s cup of tea). But even if that was true, then don’t sleep with me at all. Don’t live in my house without paying rent or utilities. Don’t eat my food without ever buying any groceries. And mind you, when we first got together, he told me how lucky he was that I was such an amazing person and the fact that he found me so beautiful on the outside as well was just a bonus. He’d seen me naked at that point. And he was already cheating on me before we’d even had sex for the first time. In short, he was trying to make me feel bad about my body to shift the blame away from him. The sad thing is it worked. He was so good at being manipulating, that I went into a “pick me” state and wanted to improve myself to be good enough for him. Yes, writing that is so cringy and hard to believe I ever let someone do that to me.
USING WOMEN FOR HOUSING
That’s a great segway to how he lives with his mom and HATES living there. So, he looks for women who have houses and love bombs them so effectively, but with the art of leaning in and leaning out, so that the woman is practically begging for him to come over and spend time at her house. He will make you feel so valued and loved and special and beautiful. He will see and celebrate the things deep down that you feel no one else sees and you may think that you finally found a safe person that sees how good of a person you are. He will also say ALL the things you need to feel 100% safe. He will get consent for everything and ensure that all of your boundaries feel respected.
He will absolutely throw every possible green flag with sexual spoiling, doing errands, chores around the house, doing construction projects, etc to make him seem like such an asset to have around. And then he will practically (if not outright) somehow end up living there, even if you didn’t discuss it.
None of this lasts, but will resurface from time to time….sometimes when he needs to get back into good favor and at other times because it may be the good in him that is genuinely showing through.
I’m tired. I’ll come back on another day to resume…..because oh yes, there’s more!
John J Stich from Minneapolis, MN. He is 57 yrs old…never been married. I am truly embarrassed to say that I have went out with this man on & off for the past 30 yrs. He is never faithful to anyone he dates…he always keeps the door open to his ex’s. I was never supposed to question that…even after catching him dating 3 other besides me & he had the nerve to tell I was the alpa. He’s extremely manipulative…the whole world is always against him. You just have to listen carefully when talks & you will realize that when he talks about past relationships…he always blames it on the woman. He loves to try & belittle the women he is a relationship with. He’s an alcoholic that drinks Captain Morgan’s & Diet Coke every day…from the time he gets off(before he quit his job (10/30/22)work until he goes to bed & on the weekend- all day long. He also spends a lot of money buying Adderall.
Last, but not least…he was obsessed with trying to get me to have a threesome with me…constantly searching the web for female escorts. I finally had enough.
Hunter Mahoney from Peabody/Lynn Massachusetts. My ex, 23 y/o Hunter Mahoney of Lynn/Peabody Massachusetts, dated me when I was 17/18 years old. He humiliated me by manipulating me, cheating on me, screaming at me, putting his hands on me… On 12/6/22 Hunter decided to post photos of me when I was 17 years old on a public website. Photos of my body and my full face. People commented my name under the photos and soon people found me on social media. I had to change my name on the internet. I got my LTC. Hunter, I am not afraid of you.
William (Bill) Gleason II from Myrtle Beach South Carolina. Bill was married for over 20 years and he divorced his wife to be with me (I found this out later). He had told me that he was single. She told me that he was an abuser but I thought that she was just bitter. It started out with a harsh word or gaslighting at first and then a push and finally in the year and a half I was with him, he locked me in closets, took me away from my family and friends and made me record stuff to make him look better in court when I was leaving him. He did not allow me to have any money and I was only allowed to move off the couch when he allowed me too. He is crazy and he abused his sons too. He is a controlling narcissist and it took me a year of counseling to be able to shower on my own. He rap3d me repeatedly and is very sadistic. I still cannot breath when I see someone with the same car that he drove and it has been 5 years since I left in the middle of the night with the clothes on my back
Carl Reiter from Sequim, Washington. He’s looking for money. Someone he can p1mp out like his soon to be ex-wife who is a general doctor in town. He talks all about people he gave her to. He tells all of these bad things she did.
So expect him to do the same to you. Also expect him to need to talk about the model and anything that lets him do typical narcissist behaviors, to come up often. He just wants someone to shove large butt p1ugs up his butt again and again.
He’ll say he cares about your needs, but soon it is obvious that he only does that to get the focus right back on himself. And he wants you to have a lot of money and self esteem issues so he can continue his parasitic lifestyle. He did jail time and it shows. That’s probably where his butt p1unging need and the idea of how to milk his ex wife for everything he can, came from. He pretends to be much more than he is. He has a degree and it’s the lowest degree in a different area than he claims. He’s full of absolute sh1t. He cheated on his wife repeatedly and he’ll cheat on you too. Everything he has is because of his wealthy ex wife. He’s a drug pushing g1gal0. Run.
Do your research and Run!
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Carl Reiter, Sequim WA: this man is on dating sites looking for his next victim. He’s not even divorced yet, but his ads say he’s single and divorced. His wife comes from an affluent family and she’s finally sick of his narcissistic abuses and moved out and wants a divorce.
This guy is a major predator.
He uses multiple aliases. He’s looking for someone he can sponge off of. He pimped out wife financially and s3xua11y. Now he’s telling everyone bad shit about her, while he keeps looking for another woman he can do the same thing too. He’s targeting his next mark. He promises things without any plans of actually doing them. He even brags about having this MO.
He will do anything he wants and pretend like it was your idea, he’s a master manipulator! At one point he moved another woman in with them and used them both to plunge his hungry butt hole.
All this man really wants is someone to constantly shove butt p1ugs in and out and up his butt, and pretend like it is a normal thing to demand all the time. He did some jail time and it shows in all of the abusive things he says and does.
He wanted to put a collar on me at the beginning and he played all sorts of mean narcissistic games. He’s God and you are a means to an end. Anything he says or does is excused and he will make up lies about you too. Do your research and RUN!! He doesn’t have any special degree, he’s been a parasite on his wife for their entire marriage. He has spent 20yrs pretending to be an artist, or a physicist or an IT specialist. He had a business that his wife helped him build and when he got her making even more money for him, he quit his company and has played around like the ex-con he is.
He’s your quintessential narcissistic criminal con artist. Using her and everyone he comes in contact with to get what he wants. He then discards you, unless you might come in handy later, then he’ll keep up appearances just in case.
This man goes around collecting a jar of hearts. He has had other lovers close by for years and sees a d0m1natr1x in Seattle regularly.
This guy will say all the right things and gut you when you least expect it. He doesn’t want love or a relationship. He wants someone he can use and discard, depending on how long he thinks he can suck the life out of you and fly under the radar.
He’s a Serial Abuser who should still be in jail. He’s been selling and using drugs for years. People are easier to control and fool that way. He’ll drug you without your consent and then blame you for whatever happens. If you died, he would find a way to blame that on you also!
He will try to get you to say things to people that he is orchestrating to achieve some plot he is hatching.
He always has a plan. He has been preying on you from the beginning and you need to realize he’s a criminal and he has been his whole life and that isn’t going to ever change. He’ll make you suicidal and then convince everyone that you were damaged goods from the beginning (aka not his fault)
If you are one of the many, don’t wait until he destroys you to get what he wants.
RUN Forest RUN!!
Carl Reiter aka Carl Smith is a Sequim Washington predator and criminal. He has a butt buddy that he hired to work for him and live with him and so drugs with him. A young guy his daughter’s age. When you know he did jail time and looks for butt buddies in the construction field, so he can hide that he’s paying for male pr0stitutes, you suddenly look at the crazy waterfall his wife paid for differently. Poor woman. How embarrassed she must be to have married a con artist who uses everyone to get what he wants. She gave him drug prescriptions and he went out and got more, and he gets drugs off the street and at port.
He’s crazy and he’s dangerous. He likes to dress up like a woman. He uses things he learned in prison to be a soul sucker.
And he looks like the pillsbury dough boy. Poppin Fresh! HaHaHa
He’s a loser failure that thinks he’s Mr. wonderful.
Andre Parker from Baltimore, Maryland. Where do I begin with this dude. He’s a sneaky and manipulative jcaka55 who loves stealing overtime on the tax payers dime. He’s laid in bed with me on several occasions while still being in the clock and I live nowhere near Baltimore, so he has no intentions on working…at least not for the people struggling in that city. He uses an app on his phone to clock in and out, so he can freely come and go as he pleases and I’m talking 50-60-70 hour weeks. Ladies he is a married man of 15 years, with two small children. How did I come to find all this out? Well in June of 2020, he reached out to me on a dating app (Match) and asked for a date. Mind you my profile stated I didn’t want anymore kids, and didn’t want to date anyone with small kids…so what did he say on his profile? He’s single with no children! After dating for a few months, I found out in December of that year he was married. He finally admitted to it after being caught but still didn’t mention he had kids. How disgusting right??? I continued to pursue our relationship, stupidly believing this woman was horrible to him, abused him physically and berated and emasculated him as a man. He stated he was leaving, he was no longer in love, got married to young, was only trying to emulate what his father thought was the right thing to do and because he thought that’s what a man does and felt pressured by her. Push forwards to 4 months later and here we are talking about marriage and moving in and he needs to tell me something…he has two kids (10&13) that he was ashamed to tell me about. I was floored!! 1, that a man could hide children but 2, could deny having kids! HIS OWN FLESH AND BLOOD!!! I should have known right then and there this man was mentally unstable!!! I was completely disgusted and his reason as to WHY he did this??? He saw I didn’t want kids and didn’t want to date a man with small kids, so he decided to lie about it!! He also decided to share with me recently the number of women he used while on the Match app pretending to be looking for love and wanting a serious relationship.. 45 WOMEN!!! He manipulated and used 45 women for his sick pleasures because he was unhappy in his marriage. These 45 women didn’t deserve the trauma or hurt he gave! Seems like a huge secret right??? BUT WAIT THERE’S MORE!!! This man is a sadist!! A complete narcissist with no conscious of other peoples feelings! In an attempt to keep me around, he has created fake text messages, pretending to be his wife, where he would tell her/himself he’s leaving, he’s in love with me, he is no longer in love with her, he was moving in with me, and was finally going to do right by me!! Can you imagine texting yourself, SEVERAL TIMES A DAY, FOR MONTHS to pretend to end your marriage??? He planned to trips with me, the first one he broke up with me right before and the second made the reservation and then canceled the deposit right after!! I would leave him, and engage in dating and moving on and he would come ruin all of that with telling me he’s moving in, he’s in love with me, she knows how much he wants to be with just me, and IT WOULD ALL BE A LIE!! He just didn’t want me with anyone else! He did this to me several times over!! So much I can’t even count. Just this past month, he has been sleeping with me unprotected, along with his wife and who knows else!!! We had s*x everyday and according to her so did they! He would sleep here all day and then go to work, once he got off would go sleep with her, spend time with his kids and be to me by 9 am. He had his location shared with me and her indefinitely but would leave his phone at work overnight so it showed his office, while being in bed with her or being in bed with me. Fcuking EVIL!!! He still uses the Match app, but said it’s only to monitor my account. He uses Facebook and IG to stalk me as well, so he says which is likely a lie to! He uses God with his wife, lies about therapy and even his kid caught him on Match, which he denied calling his own son a liar. I’m sick of his sh1t! He’s a wh0r3, hiding behind being a Godly man, his church and his narcissistic ways!!! Ladies please beware of this man!!! He will use you up, manipulate the hell out of you and break your heart!! He’s disgusting and should be treated like the s1ut he is!!!
Leroy Button from Port Republic, MD. Married, = wife #3. A single mom w/son half Hispanic & on Autism spectrum. Ex- had 3 sons from 1st wife. All ended up in jail. Ex: racist, illiterate, emotionally abusive. Wouldn’t let me go to crying son at night. Ex was JEALOUS of my baby. I saw 3 different priests who all said run don’t walk away. 6 months after wedding, I moved out. Weirdest habit of his? He had to watch me while he *used the restroom*. Creepy.
Kevin C. Carrico from Royal Oak, Michigan. This man will LOVE BOMB you- met on a dating site, 2021: mix and « M ____ »; he proceeded to declare his undying love for me, asked for my hand in marriage from my dying grandparent; proclaimed he was financially suited to support a wife, family, kids, etc….Drove down to « visit » me from Detroit, Michigan, and basically squatted at my home for four and a half months, claiming he wanted to marry me, procreate, move in, etc. ALL LIES…. Turns out he is DEAD broke; has accumulated liens, jugements on the pathetic home he owns- although he claimed he would put it on the market asap….yet never did. Then broke up w/me via Text, with an absurd excuse….all bc he could not admit he could not sell his home due to his owing more on it than he had, fiscally- This man broke my heart — caveat emptor – buyer beware….He is circa 58; claims he has a « sleep disorder » and sucked me into a whirlwind of pain and hurt I did not deserve, nor need!!! In my idiocy, I failed to see the multiple red flags when he claimed he had never had a s*x life nor girlfriend for past 30 plus years….(I know! But he is super smart and he made me feel like I was his queen- even invoked specific scriptures to trick me….)
Cowardly- went from « we’re getting married « i can no longer move forward unless you do x ». I said, « HECK NO! ». He never came across as a malevolent person until i started realizing all of the gas lighting and lies he told me. SAD SAD SAD. Thank God, I’ve moved on to a stable, rock solid, worthy man whom fits what i was seeking originally….Be forewarned: this 57-8 year old is a TiMeWaStE!!! He squatted at my home for months; never offered to pay a single bill; and deceived me and my family — for what? Let’s just say it could NOT have been about his wanting s*x….eck! Be wary of men who tell you you are the ONE, then ghost you after their marital proposals come to naught….
I am ashamed of myself for ever allowing this creep into my life.
Claims to be a Director, cinematographer, Creative photo genius, CAD expert, etc…in hindsight- I’m not even sure he ever had any jobs — and his hook was to constantly brag about his famous friend….from a band that was popular circa 2002…and I often wondered if he was in love with this guy, as he talked about him daily!!
BEWARE- bald, bad teeth, overweight, broke, needs pharmacological assistance with intimacy….NO $$$$$$$$$$$$! Zéro integrity! Claims he is all ab God- complete liar……
HUGE LOSER!
Uses name « Kev »
Clint Stanley Collins from Wellington New Zealand. A friend of mine dated this guy for a few years. She had been warned against him by her work colleagues that knew him but she didn’t listen. Unfortunately she learned the hard way. Narcissistic, manipulative, physical, se*ual and mental abuser. Huge Daddy issues from a young age. He is a bully and will not think twice about cheating- usually with pr0st1tut3s (confirmed by work colleagues) He is a bed wetter and suffers PE. He loves to disrespect you and others by taking out his *genitalia* in public, or getting an 3r3ct1on for other women in your company. He is a predator, will come across as charming and how much he cares about his children. (He won’t tell you he has been arrested for abuse twice on previous partners and has been questioned for abuse on his children too, some of his work colleagues knew this too. He is a compulsive liar and will make out he is a victim. He will talk to you for hours and hours to find out your weaknesses and over time will use them against you. He will then chip away to make you feel like you need him or you feel sorry for him and want to help. He gets horribly drunk and becomes abusive, he has a foul mouth and will treat you like dirt but not until he has you hooked. The truth is he is a terrible person. He tells lies about his past which is quite dark. He is racist and misogynistic but that won’t come out at first. This guy is bad news, do not fall for his lies, initial generosity and sob story about what has been done to him. In public he will come across as the life and soul of the party and offer to buy everyone drinks etc. He comes across as a really nice guy and likes to be Centre of attention. He will talk to you like a best female girl friend, you will think wow not many guys care like this- this is all part of his game. Do not let him in. And if you have children , run a mile the damage he can do is irreversible. He has the ability to put up a pretense for several months, he plays the long game to get you to a point he controls you. Walk away if you meet this guy.
Daniel Haren Jr from North Canton, OH. Extremely handsome, funny, charismatic. Has an ex wife he cheated on multiple times, brags about it. Will cheat on you the moment things turn sour, before communicating with you that he is unhappy. He vehemently despises strong women, so the moment you stand up for yourself, he will call you a stupid feminist, and yell over you so that you can’t speak your mind. He treats his mother poorly. He is verbally and emotionally abusive, is threatened by a woman being smarter than him, and is so unhappy in his own skin that it trickles down to anyone who is positive in his life. The s*x is great but he’s not worth the trouble, no matter how good his initial intentions may be.
Lachlan Gonzalez from Brooklyn NY. Lock cheated on me more times than I even know about during our years together. He manipulates women for financial support (housing, gifts, free drugs) and sleeps with everyone, does not use protection, lies about his se*ual health and habits, and while he sleeps with older women a lot he has an attraction to underage girls. he is charming, talented, and good looking and knows how to use it to his advantage. It will take me years to recover from everything he did to me.
Corey Hills from Springdale, AR. Avoid at all costs. He is a charmer and good looking that will promise you the world and say and do things to make it appear he is a good guy. Behind your back he is on every dating site known to man and I have seen with my own eyes him chatting and meeting up with random woman on a daily basis. He has left me financially broke, taken advantage of everything possible mentally, physically. After catching him cheating I gave a second chance. We talked n was going to give it another go and of course had a very intense night out…he did and said everything right and me thinking he was going to change…dropped me off and not even 3 hours later was on POF, and meetup and then I saw he was driving an hour away, weird so I called him… he said he was dashing which I knew he was lying to my face and acting all sweet saying he was going to come over next day and hang out etc.. so I hung up sick to my stomach and I texted him and basically called him out cause I knew the house he was at cause I looked up the address and his response was “you been keeping tabs on me since day one and I’m tired of u accusing me of cheating and I won’t put up with it” he clearly is a user and abuser…serial cheater… doesn’t care who he hurts or the wake he leaves. I hope this helps to stop even one person from his path..it’s pure evil
Adam Buklis from Addison, Illinois. I was with Adam for 7 years. In the those years, I was horribly psychologically abused. I believe he has narcissistic personality disorder. It began with weird disrespect, throwing my towel on the floor, etc. Progressed to yelling, slamming doors, name calling. Then onto breaking things; walls, the kitchen table, ran over my phone, etc. Then physical abuse. Dragging me down the hall, kicking me, choking me, literally telling me he was going to k*ll me. He once held a chef’s knife above his head, saying he was going to stab himself, but it was aimed at me. I grabbed the blade as it came down and screamed. Luckily he stopped, but my palms and fingers were cut. On multiple occasions I found him zooming in on pictures of female children in gymnastic photos, swimming, etc. They were students at his school ( he’s a sped teacher), so he claimed he was just innocently looking. But i saw what i saw. The final straw was the day after I found my 19 y.o. son deceased. I was horrifically traumatized, in unimaginable pain, and he said said ” I know how that feels” referring to the death of his father. If you have children, you know losing a parent vs losing a child are not remotely comparable. So, something in me snapped. I said, levely, no, you do not. Your father died of a heart attack, in his 40s, he was not a child. Adam’s response was to slam me into the pantry door, screaming horrific things, foul spittle landing on my face and glasses. This putrid monster deserves jail time. But alas, the police believed him when he told them I was hysterical because of my son’s passing. I mean, sh-t. It sounds believable, but it wasn’t true. The day I was supposed to leave, in my newly renovated camper, that he broke the door and unknown to me at the time, the axle, 1 week prior, he had his MOTHER whom I hated, call the police to try and get me committed. Something I would later find out she was telling my relatives at MY SON’S FUNERAL. Several people after this attempt to commit me, reported that she kept saying I should be “institutionalized.” They hadn’t wanted to upset me further at the time, so they just politely disagreed. Luckily the doctors saw through this lie, and I was released. For the next several years, he logged into my accounts, including my Netflix, where he watched movies on my SON’S account. He showed up at the cemetery, charged my account for Prime music, etc. Yeah. He’s VERY dangerous. Run.
Simon Stenberg from Darwin NT Australia. Simon (aka Martin) will pretend to be everything you are looking for! He will lie to your face constantly, gaslight you, act like a moron & constantly say:
“I dunno” when you ask him something after you caught him out in another lie. He also tells women he is divorced (he never divorced, even though his ex wife ran off with another man 10 yrs ago) He will tell you he OWNS his home, but the house is still under his wife’s name. He will say he has no bank accounts with the “ex” wife but she still sends sms telling him to pay off her credit card! He always hides his phone or turns it upside down and puts on silent because he is a weak, cowardly, lying piece of trash. Oh & he’s also an alcoholic who drinks 15 beers per day. Perfect guy!
Kyle Bomgardner from Sedona Arizona. He puts on a front and makes you believe he is who he seems. We dated for over a year. Throughout that time I started getting random texts asking to buy my bras, and underwear pics of a little *male genitalia* in underwear and asking for feminization and to share a bbc. It continued for a while infrequently things went south in our relationship and thru tracing the texts and talking to his other exes. it turns out he was the one sending the texts! It turns out the whole time he had been wearing ,taking pics and vids, of him wearing my bras, underwear, lingerie and not only that but riding my *fake male genitalia* and using my *vibrating toy*! WTF!? he was amazing in bed and other intimate ways I never would have guessed! Kyle Bomgardner is a small *male genitalia* *female underwear* wearing sissy! Ugh creep!
Eduardo Huerta from Laguna Niguel, CA. Eduardo goes by Eddie. He is in his 40’s, divorced with children. He is very charming and will make you feel like you have found the man of your dreams. He is successful and fun, which he uses to get his prey since he is not that attractive. He will eventually start to tear you down, make you feel bad and let you know you will never find a man that does the things he does for you. He is very narcissistic in all aspects of his life. He will tell you, you are the only one, talk about your future together while having multiple other women he is saying the same things to. Be careful, he has multiple intimate partners and will and has spread “things” amongst these partners.
My ex, 23 y/o Hunter Mahoney of Lynn/Peabody Massachusetts, dated me when I was 17/18 years old. He humiliated me by manipulating me cheating on me, screaming at me, putting his hands on me… On 12/6/22 Hunter decided to post photos of me when I was 17 years old on a public website. Photos of my body, of my face. People commented my name under the photos and soon people found me on social media. I had to change my name on the internet. I got my LTC. Hunter, I am not afraid of you.
Sayil suleiman from Amman jordan.
He gaslighted me and emotionally manipulative. He constantly degraded me and put me down with what he said to me. He compared me to other women and flirted with them in front of me. He rarely did anything for me. He always accused me of cheating when i think he was actually cheating. He lied most of the time. He love bombed me and invalidated my feelings. He told me he loved me and was into me. He gave me backhanded compliment, ” you sort of look pretty from here”. He was far away and then came back to the table. I would say hey you remember saying this and he would say i never said that and make me think i was crazy. He always threatened me with if you love me you would do this or that and saying if i didnt do something he would threaten to leave me. He told me he beat his wife. A month later he told me he was still married but seperated and that she cheated. I spoke with her and she said the same thing i say about him and what he does. He became distant and wouldnt answer my questions, ignoring my calls and texts and only pick up when its conveniant for him. He has a snapchat. He never introduced me to friends or family. He said he wanted a child with me but not marriage. He is an alcoholic and becomes angry. He is a narcassist and very insecure.
Eric Freda from Byram NJ. Eric Freda, 50, is an abusive human being and a cheater. He is a heavy drinker and likes to hit women. I checked his phone one night only to find out he has been sending unsolicited *genital* photos to many women on the internet. The photos and chats date back for YEARS! Several of the women tried to contact me via FB but Eric had blocked them on my phone without my knowledge. I only found out about this after I noticed an entire page of blocked accounts that I know I never blocked myself. After I unblocked them all I started getting messages and I was in shock. Eric has a four inch *genital* and apparently he gets off on showing it to random women. Most of the messages were of him holding a tape measure next to it asking “Is this big enough to ride”? There were even photos of him sleeping in my panties and stockings asking if the women weren’t into “men who wear women’s clothes”. Needless to say I was shocked and disgusted. The last 2 years we weren’t having *intimacy* because he couldn’t *get it up* and now I know why. It’s because the only thing that apparently gets him off these days is women mocking him. He is a disgusting pig and after I left him I made sure to let his entire family know of his depravities. I hope he dies alone.
Christopher r white mount upton New York age 40 is incredibly abusive in that he calls me names all the time, tells me I am ugly a whore a liar says things about my friends and family and threatens me. He has terrorized me with abusive texts that I am trying to find a place to post them so all women are warned about how horrible he is to be with. He constantly threatens to slash my tires and he smashed my television. He is also a cheater. He started cheating on me on thanksgiving. He is sleeping with some girl in unadilla ny and throwing it in my face. Women need to be warned of his constant narcissistic abuse.
The exact same thing happened to me. My ex was doing the same thing. I saw who he was following on Twitter. It was disgusting.
He could only spank his tiny useless lifeless monkey to skanks he didn’t know and didn’t care or could see he was an abusive loser.
Carl Reiter, Sequim WA: this man is on dating sites looking for his next victim. He’s not even divorced yet, but his ads say he’s single and divorced. His wife comes from an affluent family and she’s finally sick of his narcissistic abuses. He’s looking for someone he can sponge off of. He pimped her out and now he’s telling everyone bad shit about her, while he keeps looking for another woman he can do the same thing too. He even moved another woman in with them and used them both to plunge is hungry butt hole.
All this man wants is someone to constantly shove butt plugs up his butt and pretend like it is as normal thing to demand all the time. He did some jail time and it shows in all of the abusive things he says and does.
He wanted to put a collar on me at the beginning and he played all sorts of mean narcissistic games. He’s God and you are a means to an end. Anything he says or does is excused and he will make up lies about you too. Do your research and RUN!! He doesn’t have any special degree, he’s been a parasite on his wife for their entire marriage. He has spent 20yrs pretending to be an artist, or a physicist or an IT specialist. He had a business that his wife helped him build and when he got her making even more money for him, he quit his company and has played around like the ex-con he is. Using her and everyone he comes in contact with to get what he wants. He then discards you, unless you might come in handy later, then he’ll keep up appearances just in case.
This man goes around collecting a jar of hearts. He has had other lovers close by for years and sees a dominatrix in Seattle regularly.
This guy will say all the right things and gut you when you least expect it. He doesn’t want love or a relationship. He wants someone he can use and discard, depending on how long he thinks he can suck the life out of you and fly under the radar.
This is true. He buys and pushes drugs on everyone he dates. The police in town already know he’s not a good guy. He pretends to be nice and then he gets his god complex going and you find out that is who he really is. He secretly looks down on everyone while pretending he’s more important than he is.
He promises it all and then holds things against you that he has worse problems about and then disappears. Carl is a player. Until he want’s something from you again. Women are just things to be used. He can’t be trusted.
My ex also has a tiny manhood hahah. I showed pics to everyone.
Kashif Geathers from Portland, OR. Also lived in Vegas, originally from a Nashville, I think Clarksville. We dated for 3 months, talked about a future together. He wanted to meet my family, including my kids, he knew how big of a deal that was. Then after meeting my daughter, he did some shady stuff. Saying he is single because we hadn’t “defined” it yet. This man is 37 years old acting like a child. I found a female that was paying extra attention to him on fb and asked him about it. He got incredibly defensive and said he wanted to end our “friendship”. We spent all of our free time together, we expressed our deep feelings towards each other, and he spent the night with me EVERY night my kids were at their dads. That is not what I do with “friends”. So I tried to talk to him, in person or over the phone, and he would dodge my calls. He is such a coward he couldn’t even talk to me, had to do it all through text. The worst part is, he spent our entire time together telling me he is not like other guys, he would never play games, he is always truthful, a man of God. Ladies, he is slick, watch out for this one, he is a total hypocritical, childish, coward and doesn’t deserve anyone’s time.
I am unsure how to personally message you but I was curious what time frame y’all were talking? When was the last time he was at your house and such? Looking forward to hearing from you!
Aaron Beratta from Portland, OR. Aaron and I were actually married- for a whole year. He urinated on me for smoking on our front porch. Turns out he is a chronic cheater despite the fact that he will make you feel like you are the only woman in the world for him. He forgot that he put his email profile on my laptop and then signed up for AshleyMadison- a married person’s dating website. While he was asking for us to see a marriage counselor, he was carrying on an affair with another woman. He was bringing me flowers and showing up with lunch for me unexpectedly at work on a regular basis. All the while he was screwing someone else. We had a very healthy sex life, but when I called him to the table on his other woman- he said “you’re not giving me any pu$$y, so what was I supposed to do?” It had been two weeks since we had sex- and we were supposed to be working on our marriage. When he signed up for AshleyMadison it had only been 4 days since we’d had *intimacy*. He may be a *intimacy* addict- and he is definitely an alcoholic. He likes to pray on women who are interested in modern spiritualism and Reiki, body energy- etc. Stay clear if you love yourself ladies!
Ben Kelley form Boise, Idaho. This man is now in the Phoenix area. I was with him for 6 years, married for 2. He cheated on me throughout our entire relationship, then got a BJ from one of my “friends” while we were married. He has an untreated *intimacy* addiction and does not disclose his herpes status. (I had to learn that the hard way) Stay far away from this man. He is a master manipulator. He is incapable of love.
Henry D’angelo from Victoria. He won’t spend time with you, he’ll never even interact with you
Where do I begin. I have known Alex since before he joined the Air Force which he has since gotten out of. Alex is a 31yo man from MI who is a trainer and coach. I have maintained an on again off again relationship with him since. He is your classic narcissist. He promises you the world, talks about your future just to turn around and have multiple girls on the side. He has joked with me about when he needs to get rid of someone he just ghosts and blocks them and then convinces the new girl that they’re crazy. He will never ever ever ever be faithful to one person. EVER. He can’t do it. He might be ok for a few weeks or months but always slips back into cheating because he needs women to boost his tiny ego. I have been cheated on more times than I can count, but being the person I am always fell for his BS lies when he came crawling back. I have been able to blow up his spot a few times thanks to being observant on his social media, but have officially cut ties with him after finding out he had yet another girlfriend for the last year. Someone who unfortunately chooses to believe all of his lies even after I told her about the girl he was dating when he had just started dating her. The amount of women he recently admitted to sleeping with is disgusting. I have no idea where he finds them but I’m convinced he has to have an STI considering he hates condoms. I’ve considered reaching out to this new girl who he kept hidden from me after telling me how he wasn’t attracted to her, he was using her as an easy lay and officially dating her was the easiest way to do that and because appearance wise she just got worse looking, that that’s why he ended things months ago. He then goes on to tell me that I’m the only one he was talking to and sleeping with. Maybe I will reach out to this poor girl again. hopefully this post finds someone else he’s talking to, maybe her, or someone who knows her (L.L) and warns them before they get stuck in a never ending cycle. STAY AWAY. He has been cheating and getting away with it for almost a decade. 31 years old and still f-ing around like a horny teenager who can’t keep it in his pants. I’m not some crazy jealous ex, which is how he convinces his new targets to believe him, no one has that many crazy ex’s. I’m just someone who believes that girls need to be protected from this guy. If you have been dating him at all in 2022, he has cheated on you with me and I’m sure more women. You can’t change him, you haven’t won a prize by being the “girl he left someone for”, you have just been added to a long list of victims that he has been involved with. Reach out to other victims if you know them, I’m sure they’d have a lot to say.
What is his last name?
Jackson Aydon Nimmo from Palmerston North. This man Is a horrible boyfriend. In the 3 months that I dated him, he was abusive, cheated on me with his own sister AND BROTHER countless times. And every time he would put the blame on me. Not only that, but he also smelt like he just came out of a cow shed filled with fresh cow dung. 1/10, do not recommend dating. Only redeeming factor is, he knows his way around the female body, if you know what I mean ;). Overall, hate him. Stay strong sisters ;P
Darron Speyer from Byron Center, MI. Darron is a psychotically dangerous predator and pathological lying narcissist. He even took a test and agreed he has 9 out of 10 traits for narcissism and an equal qualification for OCPD, Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder.
He tries to keep in touch with or stalk former gfs while sleeping/traveling with his favorite current gf, always has a daily driver when his gf works or is busy, and is always shopping for new supply.
He looks for pretty, intelligent, strong women with good jobs, but are fresh out of a bad relationship and are in a temporary, needy chapter of their life. He plays James Bond and saves them. But the real threat they need to be saved from is HIM.
He love bombs, wisks them around in classic cars, takes them to his Florida condo, and then, in his own words, keeps them hooked by “feeding and f-ing” them.
He builds them up and then starts to criticize, then control what they eat, wear, what they can & can’t touch, and constantly compares them to the cherished one they lost. Then he does a lit of nice things and starts the devaluing cycle again and again. It forms a trauma bond.
Says he was Mr. Nice Guy to his last beloved gf, gave her everything, and she lived with him and left him 6 times for no apparent reasons.
Well, I found his daily dating journal. For the first 6 months he dated me and another woman named Denise, tried to get his ex back during our ENTIRE time together of 4 years. He had multiple dating profiles like mrniceguy and ilovetosmile, lied about his age, and was very hedgy about giving me his last name.
I didn’t see his house for 3 months. Thought maybe he was married. Found out years later it was because it was a filthy hoard. When I first saw it, it was impeccably clean, and he had a myriad of miserly rituals like I couldn’t use hot water to wash my hands, couldn’t untuck the bedding around my feet, he controlled food like cooking eggs in sets of 3’s or 6’s, don’t use too much TP, it was always freezing cold inside during the winter, I had to ask permission for a glass to use for water…the list is long. But not as long as his dozens of to-do lists all over.
We did have fun, *intimacy* was mind blowing, and he spent more personal time with me in the first 3 years than my ex did in 30. But every single good moment was broken by snide remarks, criticism, contempt, and blathering on and on about past girlfriends, cars, condos, griping about gas prices, and then me finding the damning journal.
So I have the the truth in his own handwriting which I made copies of. I also had an hour and a half long chat with his former girlfriend recently who is convinced he drugged her in a hotel when she said she didn’t want *to do it*. Woke up to bloody sheets and him saying she was drunk. Did the same crazy, controlling BS abuse to her and the one before her. I messaged with her.
After going no contact it’s been a mind bender to claw my way out of the brainwashing, gaslighting fog you fall under with guys like this. It is a verifiable addiction and that’s why it’s so hard to disengage from them.
If your gut says something’s not right, LISTEN TO IT. Then buy Lundy Bancfroft’s book, Why Does He Do That?
Carl Reiter Sequim, Washington 53 also does all of this! He is awful. After we broke up I went to the house, well outside the house. I quietly walked up the driveway and watched him and the woman he was with several evenings through the giant glass windows without curtains of course. He had her in one of those sex swings. He exploits women. He is a womanizer. He pretends he is an investor. The only thing he is investing is his wife’s hard earned money and her inheritance. He built a mountain of rubble with her money. He promises pipe dreams but his actions are all self indulgent manipulations by a predatory parasite. He’ll destroy you on purpose if he can get away with it.
Monster Alert!
Russell P Kelly from Moline IL. He cheats on everyone. His whatever she is over in Iowa is unaware he is cheating on her. He also has a married woman named Ashley he is umm screwing. He lied to me for sure since 2019 and he did it to break up me and the guy I was with then name of Clay. Then he tries to put the blame back on me and whomever else he can. I am back with Clay but I want to warn anyone who gets hit on if the guy is named Russell Kelly avoid him. He lies, cheats, cons. Some of the stories he comes up with are well, beyond or out of this world. Can we say narcissist? I was point blank told I am never to speak to anyone who knows him. And his family. I also would like the $700 he took from me and he has a key to my place. Avoid him. I am thinking he was the one I got the STI from.
Hunter / Tombs Woolsey from Bay Area, California. Abusive in every way except hurting you physically. Did not stop cheating on me for even one day, while we were in therapy. Will gaslight you about his cheating (often with the help of his mom) until you think he’s actually just poly, but he’s not. He won’t allow you to have partners and he will lie to both you and the other girls about his relationship status. He sold our house out from under me after ruining me financially, stole/got rid of all my things, rehomed our 3-legged cat without telling me or offering him to me because he “didn’t have time” but then immediately got a NEW CUTER cat, a hairless cat, which is like 3x the care of our cat.
I could go on for a whole book honestly. Every single scenario with this guy was THE worst case scenario. He will give you ptsd, leave you emotionally, s*xually, and financially ruined, and potentially homeless. Don’t make my mistake by telling yourself that someone this horrible couldn’t possibly exist, because he does. Don’t let him gaslight you or manipulate you with his million sob stories. He is a liar and a monster. There are also many, many women who will back this up who I am in contact with.
Michael Lister from Middlesbrough, England. He’s a cowardly bastard who spent the last three and a half years playing me over and over, breaking my heart more times than I care to count. He bilked me out of over £30,000 (about $33,000) which I used to pay off his debts because I wanted a fresh start with him and wanted to take away his fear and anxiety about being able to pay them off. He broke up with me over WhatsApp and didn’t even have the balls to talk to me face to face. He’s a cheat, a liar, a thief, and a gutless s***bag.
Elliot Russell from Belfast. History of emotional abuse. Narcissism and control.
Previously made fun of other girlfriends and boasted how he made fun of one for having a false eye. Was taken to court by this girl for a number of issues.
Will have a job when you first meet him and then later down the line will quit and expect you to pay for his rent, electric and gas…while simultaneously complaining at you for having no money. Please keep a separate account with secret money so you can get out of there should you choose to spend your time in a long term relationship.
Will shout and scream in your face ‘why won’t you do as I tell you?!’ And then text you the next day telling you he would never tell you what to do and everything your experiencing isn’t reality.
Will 100% cheat on you with either a random girl he meets at a party, or on occasion as admitted by himself he cheated on a previous ex with one of her best friends.
He’ll expect you to cook and clean for him while he has no job and will exclaim to you the house isn’t tidy or that he’s decided to become vegan and gluten free while out shopping on a super tight budget.
Throws things around the house like a child if you don’t specifically do something correctly…like set some biscuits down with his tea that he’ll scream he didn’t ask for and throw them out of the room. Will follow up the action with ‘Does that not teach you not to do this again? For giving me things I don’t want?’
Leaves toenail clippings everywhere and then tells you that you’re disgusting for setting a tissue down on the table.
Favourite Phrases Include:
‘Let’s just put a pin in this right now’
‘Why do we have to be equal in everything?’
‘Your words mean f-ing nothing’
‘DONT CARE’
Top Tips:
Probably shouldn’t date him after reading this, but if you’re gonna do it anyway then read the below.
Keep a list time and date stamped on your phone every time he says or does something hurtful, he backs down from arguments when he remembers you’ve been recording things. If you need to review mine for all the extra nonsense, I can also send that over.
Screenshot EVERY abusive message he sends you (if you need further proof I have tons of messages you’re welcome to look at)
Keep money in a separate account and don’t tell him about it so he can’t use it or demand that you use it.
If he begins to make fun of your personal appearance or personal achievements to make you feel like a lesser person, don’t react out of anger and say calmly and repeatedly ‘why are you being
unnecessarily cruel?’, it sends him off the rails if you call out his behaviour so be ready for the backlash.
Peter from Ireland. My Horrible Abusive Ex boyfriend is called Peter
But let me start at the very beginning
Fiance is called Alexander and we met years ago in Israel when I was volunteering and backpacking around the sights.
I was in my early 20’s and single and loving adventure and travelling. I had no intention of falling in love. I thought I was the living my best life.
That was way before I knew that the best things in life our your loved ones.
I was volunteering at a kibbutz and at work in the canteen then this beautiful man walked in he was wearing work clothes. He looked so hansom and my head was, in that moment absolutely turned. I knew I had to meet him but I was shy. I asked around to find out who he was. His name was Alex and he was an engineer. The company he worked for was hired by the manager of the kibbutz to do work around the kibbutz and as part of their fee they could get their lunch for free in our canteen. He came in every day for a week and I made it my business to be at the counter to serve him. I just smiled at him. I was desperate to speak to him but I was so shy.
Thankfully at the end of the week he came up to the counter with his tray and I said no you don’t have to bring it up its part of my job to clear the tables. He smiled and said I have to bring it to you – how else would I get chatting to you. I felt my stomach to a wee flip. I couldn’t stop smiling. He asked me could he give me something and I said yea sure. He gave me a napkin with his name and number on it. (I still have the napkin). He then asked me to phone him later after work. Wow I couldn’t believe it. I was so happy. For the next two months Alex and I was inseparable. We were falling in love. It was like a dream but always in the background was the thoughts of going home. My flight home to Ireland was just before Christmas that year. I pushed it all to the back of my mind. I just wanted to enjoy my time with alex.
The day came that I was leaving I was sad about leaving but I also really missed home. Alex was older than me and he talked about settling down. I wasn’t sure if I was ready and I started to listen to my head rather than my heart. I thought about all our differences – our cultures, languages, countries and religion. I thought deep down it wasn’t going to work. Alex and I decided to leave it at that. We said our goodbyes and I came home.
I moved back in with mummy and daddy and had a beautiful Christmas then I thought about getting a job and saving up again to go travelling. I felt I was moving on. A year and a half had passed and I had been on a few small trips but I was planning on a bigger adventure. I wasn’t sure where or what but I felt restless. I was watching all my friends settling down meeting their partners and talking about marriage and babies. I thought I wasn’t ready for all that. I was around all that talk so much. My family would ask me didn’t I want to meet a nice boy and settle down. They didn’t mean to pressure they just wanted to see me settled and I guess they wanted me to be close to home. They felt I had done enough travelling and should stay home.
I guess with all that going on I started to think maybe I should be thinking of being sensible and putting down roots. At this time I met a guy called Peter who was friends with my friend Nicola. Everyone said how lovely Peter was and how sensible he was and how he was looking to meet someone. Looking back I let myself be talked into it. I went on a date with Peter at first I wasn’t sure but everyone around me thought we were a good match after a few dates he asked me to be his girlfriend. I was 26 and he was almost 30. It all happened very quickly. At first he was a gentleman always holding the door open always saying nice things and bringing me flowers. The first year was lovely and I was thinking this is it. I stopped dreaming of travelling again. Peter wasn’t into travelling. I moved to Belfast to be closer to him. loved going out and meeting up with friends but Peter preferred to stay in. Peter also didn’t think much of my friends. Peter then started commenting on my weight telling me how much I had gained and how how unfit I was. He also told me he was never attracted to me. I let him put me down. I let him eat away at my self esteem. I let him tell me how to dress and I even let tell me how I was allowed to behave. Sadly I let him treat me like that for almost ten years. I was so ashamed that I didn’t want anyone to know. I started to visit my family less and less. I stopped meeting up with friends. Despite all of this I still wanted Peter. By that time I had become attached to him to our situation. I really let my spark go. I completely withdrew into myself.
Peter told me that he knew I would never leave him.
I was scared of what he would do if I did leave. I loved him but I was scared of him.
As the years went on i thought I can’t do this anymore. I felt weak but I knew I had to change my life. It didn’t really happened overnight it was a gradual thing I knew that i had to find the strength to leave Peter.
Then
Peter dumped me – yes you heard that right He left me. I couldn’t believe it but if I’m honest in that moment I felt relief. It turns out he had met a girl called Lee-anne. I’m not sure how he met her or how long it was going on for.
I felt so free thankfully my family and friends were there for me. It hasn’t always been easy but I got my wee spark back and feel like my old self. In time I built my strength up and I felt I had a new lease of life. I jumped right into life I went travelling again. I got a new job. I started volunteering at a radio station and present my own show. I have met so many wonderful people at the radio station one man in particular is George and he’s lovely. One day I called into the studio and George was finishing up his show and he saw that I was on the phone. He started laughing. He couldn’t believe how old my phone was. He insisted that I take his smart phone. I was adamant I loved my wee phone that could only text and make calls but he insisted I get with the times. He was getting an upgrade so I gave in and thanked him but I told him he needed to show me how to use it. He sat and went through the phone with me. He even pulled out his laptop and was able to convert all my contacts over.
Later that night I was playing about with my new phone. I scrolled down and there was a contact I hadn’t seen in years. I had Alex’s number. I must have had his number saved from all those years ago. I dared myself to text him literally 2 mins later my phoned pinged with a message it was him. He got me to download WhatsApp and he phoned and we talked all night. Wow it was amazing the next day he phoned me again after work. He phoned everyday. He wanted to know everything all about my life and what had happened after I left israel. At first it was hard opening up to him about the abuse I had suffered from Peter. Alex really listened as the months went on alex and I knew that we still had feelings for each other. We spoke everyday we became best friends. I was still a little guarded after peter I had put a few walls up I hadn’t dated anyone since peter I really felt I never wanted to ever be with a man again but Alex respected me and was patient. After 6 months of chatting on the phone every day. Alex came and visited me in ireland. Meeting him at dublin airport was amazing. He is and always was the man for me. We had a week together then I went and visited him in israel and then he came a second time to Ireland. Last year Alex whisked me off to Cyprus and on easter Sunday he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. He proposed on the roof of the harbour castle in paphos. It was magical.
We then made plans to be together in ireland. We applied for his Visa through the UK embassy and our visa just now got accepted. It was a long wait but worth it. Alex arrives 6pm in Dublin on 10th of April 2020.
I can now plan our wedding.
I’m sorry if this too long I just wanted you to know that alex and I are meant to be together we have been through so much. We both feel we have got a second chance.
Alex has helped me heal he has always been there for me. He has helped me get my strength back. He has completely shown me there are good decent men out there
I’m so happy
Thank you so much for taking the time to read all this.
Shane Thede from Zumbrota/Rochester, MN. Recently released ex-con. Drug addict & serial cheating narcissist. Has all narcissistic traits of love bombing, gaslighting, stringing multiple (15+ at once!) women along to serve his selfish needs. Blames ex-GFs for his cheating and drug addiction. Not taking any accountability for his actions at all. It’s always someone else’s fault not his. Biggest red flag is how he strung along this one ex-GFs for over two decades which is an extremely long time to suffer the emotional abuse of a narcissist. In the end over 100+ women have come forward anonymously on another social platform and shared similar stories of about being love bombed, ghosted out of nowhere and/or gaslighting behavior going back as far as over three decades. Not to mention being screwed over financially also. He also swindles much money as he can from his ongoing s*x entourage to support his drug habit whilst lovebombing which ever woman (or women) w/gifts and false promises to cover up his guilt. He has cheated on every GF since adulthood. He tries to make himself look like the victim of cheating but behind closed doors he’s been caught bragging fairly recently to his friends on how he has set up an even better system to thwart proof of cheating and knows how to throw off the so called snooping GFs or spyware apps thanks to a number of helpful apps he uses to cover up his cheating ways. FYI another is M.O. is the ongoing and ever growing s*x entourage of his. At any given time he will be dating anywhere from 3 (current favorites, always changing in rotation) to 20+ women at a time. Some are lucky enough to be referred as his GF and/or fiancee. Yes he’s had 2-5 so-called fiancees at once! Plus he has even has been brazen enough to have set up several wedding registries w/each fiancee or GF also in the past! If you end up on his shit list then he demotes you from GF status and then you’re referred to as either side piece/chic or plaything. Of course this is all done behind your back and you often don’t find out until afterwards from other sources close to him after the messy AF break up.
He also tries to claim to be a minimalist but then brags about owning designer this or that. Another M.O. is making promises he never intends on keeping like moving in together, paying back money he has borrowed, expecting GFs to pay for his expensive gifts or vacations. He put several women in severe financial debt and ruin because swindling women is the only way he can support his hobbies of cheating and traveling. Don’t ever let him talk you into paying for his traveling expenses like use your CC for plane tickets or hotel because he will never ever pay you back! He even swindled money from women who were living well below poverty. Then bragged it was their fault for being naive! Or often excuses his bad behavior on being a Gemini. What’s ironic is how he often bad mouths so-called sluts when he’s the biggest one of all. He constantly complains about drama when he brings it on to himself by dating multiple women at once then he wonders why he keeps getting caught! Hey dumdum you only increase your odds of getting caught cheating when you string along a multitude of women! They’re bound to find out about one another sooner or later with a Haram or s*x entourage that freaking large. On occasion he does pretend to dwindle down his Haram temporarily after much duress from whichever GF catches him cheating but don’t let that fool you at all because it’s only a matter of time before he’s back cheating once again. Then to top it all off unless you have solid proof of cheating from a reliable source like spyware or tracking apps he of course freaking denies it and claims you’re imagining things or are crazy! I wouldn’t trust him even if he agreed to install several tracking and/or spyware on his phone or other devices because his most recent ex-GF was an IT savant and taught him how to bypass both spyware and tracking apps. Of course he claimed he needed to learn those coding skills because numerous ex-GFs are harassing or stalking him. More like the other way around! He’s actually the one stalking ex-GFs online and sending them anonymous harassing emails! Then he sets it up for them to bully and harass each other while he sits on the sidelines to watch it all happen while eating popcorn and laughing. A close friend of his has also revealed the true reason why Shane wants to move in with a much younger close relative: because the kid is the ultimate pu**y magnet. It guarantees unlimited access to young dumb pu**y especially the ones who have ‘daddy issues’ or are into tag teaming and other sick twisted stuff. Then went on to bragging how he’ll be soon be drowning in an unlimited supply of young pu**y and he can’t wait to enjoy the daily pu**y jackpot that’ll be always revolving. Especially when he’s influencing and encouraging much younger relatives to mimick his sick and twisted behavior. Not at all a healthy example for younger generation let alone family members. Total lack of healthy boundaries or moral compass!
Another M.O. of his numerous claims is polyamory and *personal intimate interests* is often used to excuse his indiscretions or physical abuse. From what I’ve heard recently from both the local *personal intimate interests* and swinger scene is that he’s been either blacklisted or banned for bad behavior. Which equates to have broken several *personal intimate interests* contracts with outright emotional, se*ual, and physical abuse which definitely isn’t tolerated at all in the *personal intimate interests* scene.
Along with the claims of polyamory one of his most coveted and prized fantasies is both threesomes and swapping partners with other couples. Save yourself from the trouble and stress that always comes after the se*ual encounter. Afterwards since he already acquired his se*ual wants and needs first (as always) he either ghosts the participating GF and/or instigates a huge fight along with verbal and emotional abuse including throwing items like knives at his ex-GF, pushing, shoving and even slapping. He has absolutely no self control when it comes to anger at all. Scary impulsive!
Another thing he does to get away with cheating is owning several burner phones or numbers including additional smart phones. Of which he usually hides in a place his GF doesn’t have access to such as a gym locker, storage unit, post office box or even a more obvious place like a safe or humidor. He’s even been known to keep hidden phones in other women’s homes often without their knowledge. Heard a story from another ex-GF of his who found a bunch of random phones hidden all over after the nasty breakup. She even found phones stashed in the laundry room!
More recently he actually had the audacity to complain about how this GF or that GF and other ex-GFs didn’t have the decency to write to him daily in prison, send pictures, or money to him then proceeded to either ghost the GFs or lashed out with verbal abuse. Then turned around to encourage several of his other ex-GFs to harass the other ex-GFs on his shit list. He doesn’t even bother to do his own dirty work of harassment but often recruits ex-GFs to do it for him by selling the false promise it’ll get them back into good graces with him. Then he uses that against them later on by saying it proves they’re crazy or couldn’t measure up to his unrealistic expectations. He should be grateful for receiving even just one prison correspondence at all let alone any from the women he had basically totally f*cked over both financially and emotionally! That’s some freaking nerve!
A huge clue is how he often blatantly tells on himself by openly expressing both his hatred and outright disrespect towards his own mother.
Most overused expression: too many deal breakers doll, too many.
Want to know the real reason he calls every GF or side piece, Doll? Because he’s so used to dating multiple sets of women at once and can’t ever keep their names straight! The irony of that is how he often gives himself away with his frequent name slip ups. One of many excuses he’ll try is, Oh it was the name of a recent bartender, waitress, friend, co-worker, ex-colleague. Nope! Nope! Nope! And NOPE! More like the name of the most recent f*ck! Don’t freaking buy it at all! So even if he tries to reel you in with lies like oh I only cheated on my last GF. Don’t believe it! It’s been every single GF and fiancee! Not just a few but over 100+ have come forward so far and that’s likely just the tip of the iceberg! Especially since it’s been going on since onset of adulthood and he’s a professional cheating a-hole. To top it all off regarding STDs of course it’s your fault not his! It’s actually the most common reason why he sets up a nasty fight and then blames you for all of it. Even though it’s obvious he’s at fault, he never ever takes any freaking accountability at all. Then uses that to justify creating a really long nasty and messy break up.
He also blames so called jealous ex-GFs for the reason why he was sent to prison instead of taking accountability for his poor choices. By no means was he an addict just for a few months or years either but well over two decades.
Another thing is he’s cheap as hell such as promising to book a four star hotel and it turns out to be a one or two star. He only pays for the first few dates and then he starts constantly forgetting both his wallet and phone. I guarantee it’s hidden in his car and it’s chocked full of angry messages from various women. Not only that but it guarantees avoidance of anyone checking his phone for evidence of his cheating. Another repeating factor he often pisses off one GF to justify cheating on her with another GF in addition to ghosting one or several other women all at once! He’s lucky any woman on earth would give him the time of day!
We women already own an a_hole…Our own! So why in hell would we want or even need another one? Not to mention a narcissistic entitled one?! He’s extremely superficial also like how he’s extremely judgemental about women’s bodies especially regarding wrinkles, saggy skin, breasts and butt. But he’s well past his expiration date in regards of aging but has the nerve to judge women’s bodies in a very harsh manner when he is himself middle-aged. He thinks he has a body of 25 year old fitness model when in fact he has apron belly like an old man! Like ew gross no one wants to see that! His body leans more towards Santa Claus than fitness model that’s for sure! He’s in total denial that he himself has aged quite a bit. Then talks smack if a woman doesn’t look like they could pass for under 30 when they’re over 45. Then he turns around and demands impossible physical expectations from his current slew of various GFs. Definitely gaining even a freaking pound can become one of his so called deal breakers. At first he implies there’s only a couple of deal breakers. As time goes on the next thing you know he dumps the long list of deal breakers just out of nowhere too! Then will ghost you. Then after a few weeks, months or even years he tries to reel you back in with his lies and false promises. Insert eye roll. Then the love bombing begins. His M.O. every single time.
The real irony is that the cheater doesn’t have the insight to realize that they’re the ones creating their own pain and drama. If they would stop being so incredibly selfish and quit manipulating people they wouldn’t have to endure so much emotional pain. In which they try to avoid at all costs. Instead of taking ownership of their indiscretions and making a change for the better they chose to destroy themselves and bring everyone down with them. For example they not only devalue themselves by making the poor decision of cheating but they also devalue the woman involved in their cheating incident in addition of the unfortunate current GF. It’s a trifecta of nasty stuff on top of stuff! Basically a deep pool of turds! Do you really want to swim in that stinky stuff? Probably not but the narcissist won’t hesitate to push you in it! Then try to drown you in it to top it all off! Which reminds me of his extremely stinky flatulence! Yes he’s definitely gross enough to pull off the dutch oven treatment and is quite proud of how he can clear a building out with his seriously super stinky flatulence and it happens quite often! Seriously it’s worse than an old dog farts and it happens while he sleeps too! His flatulence was so pungently foul that it actually woke me up from REM stage sleep! Then my eyes were watery from the foul odor of continuous flatulence and I actually ended up vomiting all over bed! True story! He’s super gross in reality! Pretends to be a gentleman but in reality he’s really just a narcissist! A super smelly old man! No freaking lie he won’t hesitate to fart in your face! Especially while he’s naked! He pretends to be funny like it’s a joke but really he’s trying to humiliate you and degrade you. Then later on when it suits him he uses it to justify treating you badly. Not worth the effort! In addition to that he has a delusional idea that he’s going to make thousands of dollars doing one of those side gig sites involving *adult content*. Find it hard to believe anyone would pay a subscription to watch him cheating on his GF with much younger women. Sounds like a good way to get caught cheating yeah dumb *idiot*! For real, he’s convinced he’s going to be able to cash in with thousands of dollars doing so called *adult content* side gigs. Eye roll. Gag!
Wouldn’t be surprised if he literally ate farts for lunch because he reeks of *turds*!
Alipate LauLau from Bristol UK. He lives with his long-term girlfriend, yes he has a girlfriend! We dated long distance. He played the loving devoted boyfriend, sending txts and video chatting. the girlfriend is a hard-working manager who works long hours. He has lots of people who will cover for him. he is charming and fun and sweet but once you are caught up in the loving vibe, he will then begin to chip away at your self-esteem. Breaking plans last minute lying about where he is, making you feel like you have done something wrong, he is a first class manipulator. And when you confront him, he will lie and cry and try to turn it around on you. His girlfriend found out about me and him, then messaged me but the poor girl has had her self-esteem worn down by him so she stays with him and blamed herself. She is supporting his VISA to stay in the UK so he wont leave her.
Richard Shebovsky from Tazewell va. He is a conman and narcissist. He began with the love bombing and regressed to treating me like im nothing. I do him favors and he repays me everytime I ask him for something by not doing it. I lost my job because he wouldn’t take me to work a couple times while my car is being worked on. He physically and mentally abuses me everyday.. he insults me as a person and tells im nothing to him. He used me at first for a place to live then he asked me to move in. As soon as he didn’t need me the abuse started. I guess im in discard phase. He wanted me to tell some girl he wanted to go out with that I am just his friend right after he just told me I was so much more.
Sina Taghizadeh from Atlanta, Georgia. Run. a man who convinces a woman he’s all in but still sleeps around—he’s not all in. He’s a pig. This is the worse human being. He is the Master of manipulator, liar, and cheater. His target is good girls from wealthy families. He manipulates them so they believe that he loves them. But he uses them for s*x and fancy gifts. He dates multiple girls at the same time and uses 3 dating apps to find girls also for s*x.
His full name is Sina Jason Taghizadeh. He went to UGA and had MBA at Georgia Tech. Recently he got fired from his job. If you see his name, better to stay away.
Kevin Berry from Cincinnati, OH. Worst kisser in the history of kissing. Constantly talks about girls he’s gone out with, but none of the stories are funny or relevant. Claims to be progressive, but was a typical self-interested straight white man.
Josh from Bozeman MT. 50 something Josh has an issue with his 30 something daughter because she has an affair with his business partner who is in his 60’s. She gets pregnant and he cannot forgive her, then takes up with someone who isn’t old enough to drink. Because the apple never falls far from the tree!! RUN, RUN, RUN the whole family has issues. He hangs out a brewery near campus, so it won’t be hard to find him making a dent in the barstool with his fat lazy ass!! He also tells EVERYONE stories about his exes, half who work on campus and has nothing good to say about any of them. He owns a couple really badly run local businesses, but he will tell you he is successful and has a bunch of money. When you are hungover everyday but Monday, you really don’t get much done. Can usually be found with an equally alcoholic and unmotivated cousin.
Paulino (Paul) Almaguer from Fort Worth, Texas. He is an absolute cheater, cheater cheater. More than that, he is a narcissistic sociopath that uses women, especially professional women for his own gain. Ex navy and and supposed “special forces”- insert eye roll- he is still living the “a woman in every port” fantasy. If you date him you will notice quickly he has a lot of female “friends” or “business” associates that you never get to meet. If they were just friends, that’s great, but guess what? Friends=girlfriends that he is using for something while making each think they are exclusive. He’s on almost every dating sight out there currently. If you ARE dating him, have your friends sign up on the sites like Hinge, FB and bumble- 2 of his favs- and try and find him to prove this yourself. Won’t take long. And don’t let him tell you its an old inactive profile. Just have your friends engage him.
Protective of his phone (red flag!) If his mouth is moving, he is either lying or projecting. Go look up covert narcissists- he’s a solid fit.
Let me start by saying, I have proof, proof, proof and any claims of this being simply malicious can easily be debunked. He will tell you you are “the one.” (As it turns out, the number is more than one, apparently maybe even 3. Definitely at least 2.)
He will come off as charming, attentive and caring. (This is how he lures you in.) He will tell you he has never met anyone like you. He will say he never thought he’d find love again. He will make plans with you for the future, and tell you he adores you….all the while dating other women. He is a true histrionic narcissist that appears at first to be funny and jovial while slowly morphing into an impressive, cruel manipulator. He is a skilled liar, and often appears to lie simply to lie. Good luck getting a straight answer out of him when he doesn’t want to give it.
He is a skillful gaslighter. (If you don’t know what this is- go look it up. It’s a big part of his game.)
His Favorite moves:
He will probably ask you to read the 5 Love Languages. Have no doubt- he’s using that as information to figure out the best ways to tap into your heart and manipulate you.
He likes to say things like “Yeah, Baby” in a deepening voice. Chattering at you in a couple of Spanish phrases about you being gorgeous. Likes to give (hard- the better to dominate you) neck and foot rubs and cream up your legs (don’t think those are just altruistic, either.)
He will look at you with adoring eyes while tilting his head.
He’s super proud of being an ex-Navy Corpsman. He enjoys playing the victim and talks about how his ex wife was the cheater and narcissist and how he has been mistreated by various people or circumstances. (He’s really tattling on his own misdeeds. This is called projecting. Go look it up- it’s a narcissist trick.) Here’s the thing- if you start really paying attention, you will notice that there is *always* something going wrong or someone “dissing” him and he is surrounded by supposedly “crazy” people. His exwife is crazy. His ex girlfriends are “crazy” and “stalkers.” Pay attention ladies! This is to proactively groom you to have prejudice against them if they try and warn you. I suggest you should DO THE OPPOSITE! Find them and talk with them and see how “crazy they really are. You will get the real scoop on Mr Player and also establish some allies in your escape.
He will tailor his answers to make you think you are cosmically joined.
He will constantly find “similarities” between you and him, some of which might actually be true.
He will make you coffee. He will ask you to wear heels, and he loves short skirts while playing pool or darts .
He likes to use the lines of “no one has ever done that for me before..” to make you feel special.
He talks endlessly about his daughter being incredible and gifted. (the poor girl growing up with this guy…) He plays the good father card a lot. In fact, he will hide you by telling you he doesn’t want to introduce anyone into her life until he’s been dating you for awhile…and then suddenly he will introduce you and tell you you are the “first one” he has introduced to her since the divorce. (Hint: You’re not.) This on the surface appears to be a “good father” move, but it’s really to manipulate you, his time, and likely the other lady.
He brags about his 7 bedroom house (which it is not- it’s 5 bedroom and a 2 bedroom guest house both of which , may look ok on the outside but has the serious old house thing going on on the inside.)
His favorite verbal moves are:
Yeah Baby, Yesss, Indeed, you take my breath away, I want to see you, I want to squeeze you, Behave (when you call him out), I cant sleep thinking about you, come to Paul, do you want to come over?, and I deserved it (when pretending sorrow for his misdeeds.)
I can go on and on with tons more details, but you get the picture.
Ladies- don’t think you can fix him. Don’t think HE’S trying to fix himself (despite the constant therapy- just another camouflage to make women think he’s a good man trying to get past some bad stuff.) These type don’t change. Just GET AWAY and stay away. He will bring drama into your life. He will make you think you are the problem (eventually.) He will slowly increase start decreasing the charm, increasing the manipulation, and start becoming verbally and emotionally cruel. He will try and beat you down emotionally and mentally. He will make you confused by his reactions and try and convince you that YOU are the problem. He is only interested in his own needs.
In summary, he WILL manipulate you, use you, abuse you and cheat on you while adroitly lying to you…and honestly…he’s just not that *good* if you know what I mean.
Kyle Moorefield from Torrance, California. He is a master manipulator. He attempts to work a sober program but will relapse (will use extreme drugs) and cheat, lie and ruin his jobs/finances. Come home and try to talk himself into a victim of his alcoholism/drug addictions. He is not a victim he is making his choice and destroys everything in his path. I spent 5 years sadly with this person.. he took so much from me. He would manipulate me into feeling like i was his reason to use.. He will break your heart and give zero cares about how you are effected.
If you do end up here make sure he is tested for stds when he returns because he has no standards. Best of luck.
Micha Friedman from Israel and NY. Micha is a diagnosed narcissist with antisocial personality disorder. I lived with him for 14 years and sadly fell into the trap of being offered everything I ever wanted (love bombing) them having it taken away. This rollercoaster caused me to lose myself and live with both physical and emotional abuse. I later learned that he had lived a double life with his boss right under my nose for at least 7 years. He left her, we went to therapy and I believed that he loved me and could heal. Even with therapy and all the love in the world, he became brutal after I learned about his affair, treating me like I never existed, giving me the silent treatment, withholding affection then pulling me back in, the whole pallete of narcissistic abuse. He then cheated again and eventually abandoned me and my children without closure and without a goodbye. It took me years to get myself back and now I am just thankful that he finally left so that I could begin the long and painful journey back to myself. He is always looking for older women with families. He is charming but also mean and dangerous. I would wish to warn any woman to run like the wind from this man.
Mariano Longo from Argentina. He is a cheater, serial liar, abuser and a bully. He is now living in Portugal, having produced a few children with this woman from GB. but once a cheater, always a cheater. Beware girls!
Ed Uribe from San Jose California. This guy is on the down low. He pretends to be straight and sleeps with men on the side. He goes to adult clubs and also picks up random men online. He is truly pathological. AVOID AT ALL COSTS. He will destroy your life.
Erwan from Toulouse france. Il m’a quitté quand j’ai appris mon cancer il m’a insulter de grosse merde il est violent verbalement depuis longtemps impulsif agressif égoïste il a jamais écouté mes besoins … il vous prend tout mais ne donne rien et cache très bien son jeu en plus car il est un personnage public donc il donne le change … il a su que j’étais dans le coma et j’ai eu deux arrêt cardiaque il a même pas pris une nouvelle alors qu’on est resté 3 ans ensemble ! Il se fichait que je meure
Aaron Robert Hacker from Adelaide, South Australia. Aaron hacker seems delightful at first, has real charisma. Will cook for you to show that he is a “nice guy” never eat his food. He has bottles of his own dehydrated drug urine in his kitchen which he will put in your meals if you so much as look at your phone or, God forbid, answer it. He also likes to urinate inside you without saying anything first or at all
..until the end when u end it and he r*pes you and says you “f!$cked with the wrong person”
He has given me so many STI’S , STDS and several infections due to this urinating. He also video records you being intimate and puts it on the Internet and gets paid for it! He and his friends all do this and think it’s hilarious. He is violent , manipulate and BROKE. He wants you to pay his rent , bills , food beer, drugs , alcohol. Etc etc etc. He will break you down to the point of suicide , then tell you the world would be better off without you. He makes false allegations to the police about being assaulted. By me who was 48kilos at the time due to stress from him and he weighs well over 100kilos. The police didn’t do anything of course ,because he was the one assaulting me. He will r*pe you in your sleep. Steal your money, items and soul. His birthday is 27th November. He is a bus driver for an all girls school and messages them at 2 in the morning and records them all without their knowledge His friend and work colleague got done for paying one of the girls so that he could send pictures of his genitals to the girl he was paying. I believe Aaron is doing this as well.
Not telling anyone what to do. If you’re down with that kind of thing…
But yea, steer clear. He is evil, a r*pist a peado and violent.
He also hurts animals 🙁
David Robert Hanks / David Evelyn from England. He’s a narcissistic abuser, stole money, physically abused me, cheated on me. Avoid at all costs! He lies and love bombs. He leaves nothing but destruction and terror behind. I’ve spoken with his exes and family they all confirmed this.
Matthew Lennehan from Manchester, UK. CHEATER! Terrible father of 3 that he only sees once every full moon. All 3 children have different mothers.
Foul mouth, abusive and not the brightest tool in the shed.
He is also misogynistic and disgusting, morally and higiene.
Massive ego and his own family can’t stand him.
He is a 40 year old man that only likes to date girls half his age.
Jason Verfaillie from Baudour, Belgium. Jason is unstable and impulsive. It scares and destroys you mentally. He has serious psychological problems that he does not treat. And he has a huge child abuse problem.
Lai from Dour (France). He is a manipulator, a toxic person. He is very into salacious things.
Noriel Gumaca Dela Cruz from Nueva Ecija, Philippines. Manipulative. Cheater. And so many other things!!
Shane Dineen from Houston, TX. Not ex BOYFRIEND but soon to be ex husband. Textbook narcissist and is as covert as he is malignant. I was that girl who thought “well maybe he was like that with them but he won’t be that way with me” BIG mistake. I thought he would change and I thought I could help him. He ab*sed me physically and groomed me into allowing all sorts of emotional and mental ab*se. I was 23 and I didn’t know any better. I never realized what he was doing until it was too late. He would not so much cheat as he would initiate a relationship with another woman then explain to me what she had to offer and every way that I didn’t meet the mark. The last time he did this, it blew up in his face and I escaped. It was all to get me to do something that I didn’t morally agree with in the first place. From his schoolwork and exams, to writing letters of reference for jobs, reporting anyone he deemed an enemy, buying him things that he wanted impulsively while my own needs were being forgotten, the list goes on. Why did I stay for so long? Survival. He had ruined us financially and ruined me mentally and emotionally. I was constantly being coerced into believing that if I didn’t I would be a complete failure. When really I was the only one holding him down. And then there’s the physical abuse, the strangling, breaking things while beating me with them, hitting me on the hairline so it wouldn’t be visible, punching me in the mouth for crying and pleading with him. I should have done a background check on him. I’m not the only one he’s done this to and many have never reported it out of fear for the repercussions. Don’t do what I did. You’re safety, health and well-being are far more important than any empty promise he can make. He’s always gotten away with it and thinks he can get away with it. He lived as a criminal for most of his life. Exploiting young women. Pimping them out. He even kept ties to his criminal life and told me he was going to leave me and go back to it as he couldn’t handle the eviction we were facing. Leaving me in financial ruins that were caused from his substance abuse. He is an addict “in recovery” and I thought I was doing something noble by believing in him. His own father wouldn’t even let him make his amends and patch things up when he knew he was reaching his last days. I kept wanting to believe in him to be a better person. I just didn’t want to give up on him. That’s what gave him so much power over me and he used it until there was nothing left. Now I have been diagnosed with PTSD for the second time since being with him. I’m in therapy and I’ve been very blessed not to lose my job or stability in the process. I survived him.
Jordan Hellings from Hamilton, on. Strings women along but won’t commit. Only wants them around for s*x and company. Narcissist.
Dave Steele from Welland, Ontario. A furry who goes by kitani.. He will lie about having a girlfriend but 90% chance he has one, he did when he flirted with me. You’ll date him until he sleeps with you, and then he will ghost you. He gives every girl the same lines. He’ll ask what your favourite fruit is and he’ll always be a pineapple cause he’s “rough on the outside but sweet on the inside”. But he’s really decaying on the inside. I’ve met four girls who have had the same experiences with him. Total narcissist.
Casey Novian from Kemp, TX. He lied and cheated on me. He then turned around and cheated on the woman he left me for.
David Bishop from Sacramento CA. He lies about everything and does drugs so much so that his p*nis is IMPOTENT AND worthless its literally the same size as a toddler and since he is addicted to dr*gs therefore he is addicted to shriveling his p*nis too.
He is at best around two inches in length and it won’t stay hard for longer than about Four minutes. Hes ridiculous.
Dean Tooley from Brookfield, MA. Cheater. I had been dating Dean on again and off again. When he started working at Cabellas he would tell me about one of his coworker named Bri. Come to find out not only was he dating her, he got engaged to her. All while we were still together. Needless to say he did eventually break if off with me when they started wedding planning but gawd was I blind sided by this.
Brandon Wolfe from DuBois, Pa. Extremely ab*sive, narcissistic and sociopath. He’s into r*pe and b*ating women. Also goes for toddlers. He seems like your dream man at first. Comes off as funny and great with kids but it soon turns violent. He’s tried to kill me on numerous occasions. He’s a hard dr*g addict and alcoholic as well. RUN!!!
Patrick Thomas Swingle from Chattanooga, Tennessee. I dated him for years. He seems like a good guy but most narcissists do. He cheated on me and gaslit me about it, along with everything else. He was very verbally, emotionally, and even physically ab*sive. He often s*xually coerced me and tried to shame me if I was too ill or not in the mood to pleasure him. He told me he was a good partner because he “never hit me” although he often would hold me down and leave bruises on me. I hope this saves someone from him one day!
Jeremy Izzio from New York/Colorado. This man would’ve been a great used car salesman. He’s a pathological liar who will lie about anything and everything. He was on Tinder and talking to other women for years during our relationship. He kept me around, but was emotionally neglectful and was both mentally (and on a few occasions) physically abusive. If “gaslighter” had a photo next to it, his would be a perfect fit. He convinced me I was crazy and blamed me for being irresponsible when my controlled prescription medication kept disappearing. He had me thinking I was losing my mind while he stole them for years before finally admitting it. I have that conversation recorded only because of how he’d make me feel crazy and would later deny he said or did certain things. I feel sorry for whomever he sucks in next.
He will take from you everything you have emotionally and then spit you out when you have nothing left to give. In return, he will give you nothing. He always has a reason or excuse at the ready. He will not want someone who is more accomplished that he believes he is, and he will sabotage you in order to remain “on top”- unless it benefits him financially not to do so. He would always lie about his accomplishments, calling himself a “journalist” when in reality he wrote for a small town newspaper making minimum wage. When his mother gave him her house to take over mortgage payments (which would’ve made him a homeowner in just 7 years) he fucked up and the house was seized by the bank. He moved across country to start over because he burned all bridges back home. He is an opiate addict but will steal and take any controlled medications. He has no care or concern for hurting others and is a narcissist to the core.
Proceed with caution!
Gabriel McKnight from Washington DC. Short background story:
Gabriel and I met when I was 15 and he was 22.
He’s now 30. I’m now 23.
Before we met, I had a s*xual encounter with someone he knew. When he brought this to me, I told him it wasn’t true because the guy lied about his name. So I didn’t think we were talking about the same person.
Instead of cutting me off, he decided to play mind games for a year out of spite. I constantly skipped school to be at his house. In this time, he would love bomb me by telling me that he loved me and wanted to be with me. He would then breadcrumb by pull away. Ignore me for days on end. Go out and sleep with other women while telling me he was sick or with his family.
A year later, I fell pregnant at 16. He immediately said our daughter wasn’t his child because he didn’t trust me. I spent my pregnancy alone. Of course this changed when she was born.
This is where the mental abuse ramped up and the physically ab*se started.
I remember the first time he physically assa*lted me. I had mentioned to him that I saw someone we both knew, so I hugged said person. He immediately grabbed me by the back of my neck and nape of hair, pushed my face into his piano, and told me that I needed to “stop playing with him, or our daughter will be out of a mother”.
I should’ve left. I didn’t for 7 years.
The gaslighting begun and shortly after that, he started to get angry about the smallest things. Belittling me about not toasting my bread for a cheeseburger, calling me stupid for accidentally dragging his blanket on the floor, pointing out my insecurities and then telling me I’m “too sensitive” when I tell him that it hurts me.
Anytime I would disagree with him, I couldn’t be around him, had to leave the house without my daughter, and come back when “I’m ready to act right”. Sometimes I would leave out to clear my head when angry. I hated being angry around my baby girl. He would the not return my phone calls for days, while he kept our daughter.
When he realized that we were to coparent and didn’t have a choice, he continued to abuse me to dominate me. I also remember us arguing, so I went to our daughter’s room to just hold her for comfort, and he didn’t like that. He pushed me to the floor, folded me in half, and sat on me until I was ready “to act right”.
At this point, I had already mentally checked out from life in general. I couldn’t believe I had got wrapped up with such an evil person.
Now, 8 years later and I’m just really leaving this narcissistic relationship last month in September.
I had the last straw when he had been seeing a girl behind my back and constantly accusing me of sleeping around in August of this year. He gave me a STD from her.
Triangulation.
She contacted me, curious as to if me and him had been still seeing each other.
I told her yes.
She then proceeded to threaten me. So I honestly had it out for her. Not because of him, but because she threatened me. I finally ran into her one night when I came to his house. We fought. I really did some damage to her. I got arrested. I had been in the holding cell for 30 hours!! That was the wake up call for me. No trauma bond was stronger than my will to enjoy my child and my freedom.
He was immediately “immensely apologetic” and started talking down on the woman he had been sneaking around with. This didn’t last long tho. The last time we got into an argument, he pointed out that I was crazy, bothered their relationship for no reason, and he pitted me.
I am officially utterly disgusted by such a man child like him. I will no longer care about even looking his direction. We coparent my child. But I’m am thinking about moving out of state and raising her with her godmoms. He only cares about himself so he won’t fight to see her.
I had been constantly going back after he treated me so foul. There’s so many other things he did and said to me, but for the sake of this post, those were just the red flags in the beginning that I ignored.
A grown man that’s willing to sleep with an underage girl and have a baby with her.
A grown man that has zero communication skills.
A man with severe mommy/daddy and anger issues.
A “man” who simply isn’t a good example of a man.
Nothing much has changed. He’s 30. Now swears by being a black Israelite, so basically
black supremacy. He has even higher and darker expeditions for his partner.
He matters more than her because he “leads” as a man.
A women is to not wear pants, disobey God or she will be stricken, speak in church, be gay, etc. The basic rules of being a misogynist basically.
Me being a 23 year old, spiritual, tarot reading, bisexual, slightly dominate woman, I’m sure you can imagine that I definitely don’t fit the bill for him.
I would not deal with this man. He is a lost soul. He is becoming more and more grandiose & ego driven. I have no choice but to deal with him for now because of my daughter, but even then I am finding ways to keep her untainted as much as I can.
There’s so many men out here like him, but please use this story as a list of huge warning signs so you don’t have to get so knee deep in their web of toxicity like I have.
Paul Fuller from Allen, Texas. Ped*phile. Gaslighter. Will manipulate young girls to pay for s*x. Most times he will push payment until after and not pay. Plays dumb and will try to flip you as crazy for confrontation. Uses religion and sin to guilt young girls. He choses girls who are the same age as his son. 16-22. Texts from unknown numbers.
Ed Zagorski from Milwaukee, Wisconsin. Ed was one of those guys who started out sweet but then showed the crazy side. He was lazy too — he’d call in sick to work when he didn’t want to get up. He would criticize me and put me down, and one time he wouldn’t let me leave his place. I also remember trying to run home to my apartment so I could lock myself inside to get away from him, because he was chasing me. He’d get mad and jealous, and I was scared and thought he might kill me, so I got a new job and moved away from him. One day, my boss told me he’d called and was so charming that my boss gave him my new phone number! Every now and then, he tries to send me a message on social media so I block him.
Paul Leslie from Oshkosh, Wisconsin. He and I met online via a dating app. We dated from 2016 to 2021, and I kind of knew something was up because we didn’t spend the holidays together, ever, and a few other things. But he seemed like such a nice guy, I figured if he wanted to break up he’d be honest with me. Then a relative of his died, and the obituary listed a woman’s name as his SO. I found out he’d been dating this woman almost a year before me, yet he’d been on a dating site early in 2016…
Chase Cator from Minocqua, WI. Very distant and doesn’t know how to communicate , doesn’t know what he wants and is a mommas boy. Says that his friend is just a friend and when you officially end it he proposes to her a month later …and then breaks off the engagement.
Louis Henry Coussey from Fountain, Colorado Springs, Co/Ghana. He has been involved seriously with at least 4 women in 6 years. I have talked to 2 of the other 3 and they will say the same things. The odd one, Stacy T, would send him pictures of lingerie and had no problem texting him at all hours or calling him in the middle of the night. It is my belief they got together at one of his enabling friends houses one night. Of course he denied it. I’m not sure if that woman had any pride in herself or diseases, but she obviously didn’t care that he was living with and sleeping with me. Both the exes I have talked to say he was not faithful to them either.
He is an alcoholic who got a DUI 2/7/2021, wrecked his car. To help him as he lost his license and car, I moved him into my home so I could drive his ungrateful self wherever he needed to be.
In the next year and a half, he has stolen cash from me in the form of my tips, my prescription pain killers, and owes me for 4 1/2 months of the rent he agreed to pay.
There was supposed to be no alcohol or dr*gs in my home, so he would do both and more somewhere else and come home messed up.
When he drank too much he would go off on me if I said something he didn’t like. That triggered my PTSD so badly I would not sleep that night.
When asked to pay the rent or be accountable for one thing or another, it was always an argument. He does not like being asked to be responsible or accountable. He will lie through his teeth, so unless you have a picture or recording like I did, he will deny anything.
He has friends he will spend time with rather than his girlfriends. And they provide him with prescription dr*gs, alcohol, and weed.
I have said pictures and videos if you feel you need confirmation. As well as the court petition I turned in to the cost of the just over $5000 I hope to recover from him in past due rent and damages to my appliances and property.
William Christopher Bufis Jr from Lititz Pennsylvania. He’s an ab*sive asshole. Held a knife to my throat for s*x. Stole my virginity at 14, him 18. Popped my shoulder out of place in anger. Ab*sed a minor as an adult for 2 years. Now have been told I’d be dead if I would’ve stayed any longer at this age
Joshua Gregotski from Winnipeg, Mb Canada. Him 33 I answered an ad he had on a dating site that he was looking for fwb nsa. Said his name was Joe at 1st revealed that he was married but leaving his wife. Because she refused to partaken interc*urse with him we hooked up we clicked up weekly I fell for him he left his wife he stayed with me for a little bit and now I find out that none only has he not divorced his wife yet but for the last year that we’ve been dating he had cheated on me with 5 different people aren’t people one of which was a woman who let him have interc*urse with him in the car while she was wearing a diaper and filland filmed it live for her boyfriend to watch. He sent over 50 messages to people and had ads on different sites about hooking up with people Saying that he was hetero flexible and down for anything. Meanwhile crawling into bed with me every single night and holding me and telling me he loved me. Some of the people he did cheat on me with, he went back multiple times and didn’t use any protection with any of them and I was pregnant a few months ago until he basically said I’m going to leave you unless you have an abortion and I did. Now he does nothing but love bomb me. And is refusing to let me go. One of the people he cheated on me with, Who was only 19 got pregnant a week after I had the abortion that he literally abandoned to cheat on me with her. Said he didn’t care about the abortion or what it was doing to my body. I became trauma bonded to him and he continued to try and cheat on me. He has a breeding f*tish but wants nothing to do with you if anything comes of it. And hes still not divorced. I demanded that he go get an STI check as well as myself. But for the last year hes done nothing but lie to me and manipulate me and lie to everybody in his life including his wife. I contacted every single person that he had come in contact with to verify his story. But either way less than a year of being separated from his wife he not only cheated on his wife with me but then he cheated on me with 5 other people Not using any protection with any of us. This man is sick he’s insecure he’s a narcissist he’s very controlling And takes nobody’s well being into account.
Andrew Steven Quinn from Queens, NY and Miami, FL. This man will come off as charming, if you have kids, he will fawn over them and step up and help with homework and projects and even take part in gift-giving and bedtime routines. He will call and text daily… until he stops. COLD TURKEY. Was in a relationship for 10 months to suddenly stop from one day to the next. He has mental health problems and because of his profession, thinks he can self-medicate but doesn’t seek any actual help from a professional. I was with him while he was committed and supported him through it all and that was not appreciated. Will always pick work over everyone and everything else, including himself. His profession is filled with cocky know it alls who look down on people and he is definitely one of these as no one outside of his job has a “real job” and will always again put work first.
Challoub Samir from France. Violent, alcoolique, drogué.
Rohan Tiss from Tucson, Arizona. ABSOLUTE NOOO!!!!! Most manipulative, egotistical, narcissistic person I have EVER met. Extremely ab*sive and lacks real human emotions. Starts off really good and takes the worst turn.
Robert Howman from Melbourne. Ladies… BEWARE of this guy! He is the absolute worst. He is a walking STD, he sleeps around with copious amounts of women and has fathered multiple children to different mothers. He is a classic narcissist and will gaslight you at every given opportunity. He likes to prowl on single mothers and women with self esteem issues. He has a gambling problem and will sponge every last cent from you. He is a huge douche canoe. You are welcome.
Jason Nottle from South Australia Adelaide. When we were together he cheated multiple times. he never had any money, his family were horrible to me. When I fell pregnant the first time and had a miscarriage, he told my family I was lying about being pregnant. after we broke up he dated multiple of my friends. We have a son together when he met his new gf, and they had a baby he now refuses to see his son.
his new horrible girlfriend also tried to attack me out the front of my house. both horrible disgusting people. Stay far far away from him.
Shane Oakley from Richmond VIC, AUS.
– R*ped and s*xually abused me (and admitted to it)
– Physically abused me (held me down, pinched me, pushed me, choked me).
– Mentally and emotionally abused me (name calling, gaslighting, withholding affection then love bombing).
– Controlling (wouldn’t let me wear or eat certain things, wouldn’t let me exercise, wouldn’t let me leave the house without him).
– Isolated me from family/friends (forced me to choose between him and them, would get jealous/angry when I saw/spoke to them).
– Stole $6,000 from me (acknowledged he took the money but never gave it back).
– Cheated on me with a teenager (walked in on them together in my bed on my birthday).
– Stole my cat and gave him away (I never got him back).
Jason Straga from Kelowna/Calgary Canada. Jason also goes by the name Jay. If you’re attached to your sanity, friends, family, job, money and your credibility- this guy isn’t for you. He will give you a sob story about his life and how he can’t ‘trust anyone’. Boo hoo! Don’t fall for it. They’re tears of a clown to pull you in. I lost everything to this ‘person’. Narcissist and sociopath all told into one. He’ll love bomb you at first, call you his soul mate. Then he’ll lost his temper over literally