I met the perfect guy at work a few months ago. I’m madly in love with him but my best friend hates him. She says that I’m not in love with him and points to my jealousy of him talking to other girls as her proof but I think that’s my proof. If I didn’t love him, why would I be jealous when he talks to other girls then? I know this is true love, so what can I do to prove it to her?
Jealousy is not a sign of true love. It’s a sign that you are immature and insecure! Your insecurity leads to an overwhelming need to be loved but it doesn’t prove you are in love. Jealousy is really possessiveness, not love yet it’s extremely common for people to think that the more intense their jealousy is, the stronger their love is.
This couldn’t be further from the truth. Notice in your letter to me you didn’t tell me anything about the guy, or why he is so great or what is so wonderful about your relationship. All you did was wanted me to prove to your friend that you are right and she is wrong, but in doing so, you proved yourself wrong.
You want love, you want attention … that makes you human, but it doesn’t make you IN love with some guy who you may very well like but you still have a lot of growing up to do emotionally before you even begin to worry about things like true love.
If I had to give you one bit of advice it would be to figure out what makes you so insecure and deal with those issues first and know that when you do really find true love, you won’t care about proving it to your friends.