The Little Green Monster #jealousy

The Little Green Monster #jealousy

I met the perfect guy at work a few months ago. I’m madly in love with him but my best friend hates him. She says that I’m not in love with him and points to my jealousy of him talking to other girls as her proof but I think that’s my proof. If I didn’t love him, why would I be jealous when he talks to other girls then? I know this is true love, so what can I do to prove it to her?

Despite what some romance novels will have you believe, jealousy is not a sign of true love. It’s actually a sign that you are immature and insecure.

Your insecurity probably leads to an overwhelming need to be loved, but it doesn’t prove you are in love.


Jealousy is really possessiveness, not love, yet it’s extremely common for people to think that the more intense their jealousy is, the stronger their love is.

This couldn’t be further from the truth. Notice in your letter to me that you didn’t tell me anything about the guy, why he is so great, or what is so wonderful about your relationship. All you did was want me to prove to your friend that you are right and she is wrong, but in doing so, you proved yourself wrong.

You want love, you want attention … that makes you human, but it doesn’t make you IN love with some guy who you may very well like but you still have a lot of growing up to do emotionally before you even begin to worry about things like true love.

If I had to give you one bit of advice, it would be to take a step back and figure out what makes you so insecure. This self-reflection is crucial because understanding the root of your insecurities is the first step toward overcoming them.

It might involve exploring past experiences, seeking guidance from a therapist, or engaging in personal development activities. Dealing with these issues is essential for your emotional well-being and for building a healthy, loving relationship in the future.

Know that when you do truly find love, it will be a secure, confident feeling that doesn’t need validation from others. True love will bring a sense of peace and contentment, making the need to prove it to your friends irrelevant.


Instead of seeking approval or reassurance from those around you, you will be grounded in the genuine connection and mutual respect you share with your partner. This internal confidence and happiness will be the real indicators that you have found true love.

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Tracy Tegan
Tracy Tegan has spent the last seventeen years as a professional blogger about relationships, dating, and issues pertaining to gender equality at In her spare time, she writes romance novels that are available at Amazon.  You can check out Tracy Tegan's latest romance novel, Crescent Moon at Amazon.

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