There are warning signs that your relationship is over, but do you know them? Relationships are never easy and even the best ones take a lot of hard work. But sometimes, even if you are willing to put the effort it takes to make a relationship work, things just don’t work out. Some people just aren’t meant to be.
So what are the warning signs that your relationship is doomed? Well if you are asking yourself “Is my relationship over?” then that’s probably the first sign that things aren’t going well. But there is so much more to it than that.
Are you always annoyed at him? I mean be honest, does even the little things he does annoy you?
- The thought of them touching you makes you cringe. …
- You start to hate their habits. …
- Arguments are escalating. …
- It’s not going anywhere.
- Resentment. Resentment grows when someone feels unheard or dismissed. …
- Disrespect. Mutual respect is a cornerstone of all successful relationships. …
- Dishonesty.
- Mistrust. A single betrayal–or an act perceived as a betrayal–can wipe out a lifetime of trust. …
- Distancing. …
- Defensiveness. …
- Contempt.
If you see the things and think, “OMG! This is me”, don’t worry, there are some things you can try to fix the relationship.
Remind yourself why you fell in love with him in the first place. I mean actually sit down and make a list.
- Take a break but don’t say goodbye. …
- Talk about it and be honest with each other. …
- Remember why you love them. …
- Take the good parts and learn from the bad. …
- Don’t let anger do the talking. …
- Stop hurting each other more. …
- Consider spending time apart.
Don’t let other people make the decisions.
In connection to the previous section, you have to remember that it is you and only you who should make the final decision. You should remember that your own feelings and your own thoughts should be the basis for every choice that you make.
Be kind to each other.
Kindness can do a lot especially if you’re trying to revive a dying relationship. Realize that both of you have been hurt and the best way to support each other is to just be kind and be gentle. Let kindness comfort your soul and slowly heal your broken hearts.
Create better memories together.
Create new memories that will remind you of the better days. Travel together, go somewhere, and just have fun. Leave everything that hurts and just live your life to the fullest. Do this together as if it’s your last day on earth.
Show them how much you want this to last.
You have to show them how much this means to you. Be genuinely open about your feelings and sincerely express your love for them. Renew your vows and make new promises – and this time, do your best to keep them.
I know it’s hard to ask yourself the question, how do I know if my relationship is ending. But if you are having trouble, it’s perfectly natural to do just that. Once you finally break up it’s not uncommon to wish you would have broken up much sooner. I get it. I’ve so been there done that. When I look back on my divorce, I can’t help but regret not the breakup but that I didn’t do it sooner. We both knew our relationship was over long before we really pulled the plug. He wasn’t happy and neither was I, but we just feared changed. That was stupid. He was spending all his time with his friends. That was the first sign but I didn’t want to see it. It’s so obvious now. But you know how I knew it was over? It was when I had a big thing happen at work, a landed a huge new client and he wasn’t the first one I thought to tell about it. I was so excited. I should have run to my life partner to tell him the news, but that thought never crossed my mind. Instead, I shared the news with my mom, then my sisters, and then a girlfriend. That was it for us. He wasn’t my #1 anymore and I clearly wasn’t his.
More than that though, we also didn’t do things together anymore. We used to watch our favorite TV shows together, that stopped. We didn’t even make an effort to have a weekly date night anymore. It just wasn’t there.
I did ask myself, is my relationship over? Heck, I probably asked myself that 20 times a week. And that as they say, was the first real sign that it’s over. If you are asking yourself that question, then you probably already know the answer to that question.
But hey if you do decide to end your relationship be sure and check out our best breakup lines. You never know when you might need one or two of them. 🙂
