Going through a breakup is something that we all experience at least once in our lifetime. Whether the relationship was ten days or years, there is no denying that it is an emotional and confusing time. There are so many ways we are taught to cope with this in movies, and honestly, crying it out over a tub of ice cream does sound pretty tempting! But I’m here to share some tips that can help you help yourself rebuild and heal from even the worst of breakups.
Let those feelings flow.
First things first, when we experience heartaches of any kind, and that is for you to just cry it out! Do whatever you need to do and just allow yourself to feel all of those negative emotions. Let them out over that bottle of wine and second (or maybe third) replay of Dirty Dancing. There is nothing wrong with taking some time to be a recluse and purge all of the sadness you may be feeling, so long as you pick yourself back up and do your best to hold your head up high.
Self-love is the best love.
Loving yourself, and I mean romancing yourself, is an excellent way to heal a broken heart. In any instance, I encourage everyone to do this. It comes in so many different forms, and yes it includes exactly what you’re thinking (wink). Self-love can also be taking yourself out to lunch, running yourself a nice bubble bath, putting on a face mask, writing in a journal, or going for a walk. Do things with just the simple intention of bringing yourself some peace.
Set some goals for yourself.
Take some time to learn a new hobby, skill, or healthy habits. One of my favorite things for this is a bullet journal! You can make a list of daily habits or even hobbies that interest you and check them off as you go. Bullet journaling is even a hobby within itself as it encourages you to be creative and do some art! Nevertheless, shifting your focus onto something positive and rewarding can do wonders for growth and healing. Not to mention, It’ll make you feel like a boss lady!
Surround yourself with positivity.
You know the saying “You are the company that you keep”? I never fully understood the importance of this until I experienced one of my first heartbreaks. There is no better medicine than having a conversation or spending time with people who are going to be there for you and lift you up. Any hardship you could ever face is made so much easier when you have others to help hold you together. Even if you feel that maybe you have nobody to confide in, there are so many support groups online as well as counseling you could seek out if you need someone to share your feelings with.
Time heals all wounds.
It is such a cliche, but it is so true that time really does heal you. All in all, there are going to be some days that are harder than others. Healing is not linear, and that is something that you will have to remind yourself on those bad days. But with a combination of these things that I have mentioned, I assure you that the time you do spend healing will be spent well. This heartbreak will pass you by so much faster if you take it as an opportunity to focus on yourself, your achievements, and your dreams for the future.