What is a man list and do you need one?

If you’ve ever watched the show Millionaire Matchmaker you’re probably familiar with the concept of a man list.

Basically a man list is a list of every quality you are looking for in a man. How tall is he? Can he cook? What kind of music does he like? Does he want kids? The idea is, you have to know what you want to have a chance to get it. Sounds great, right?

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But the problem is, the man list is a list of what you want, not what you need. It gets you to focus your attention on superficial things like the color of a guy’s hair or how tall he is. Sure it’s fun to sit around with your girlfriends, have a few drinks and dream up the perfect guy, but when it comes right down to it, using a man list can actually work against you.

I’ve always said that instead of focusing on the things you want, instead focus on the things you absolutely won’t compromise on — I call it the NO list.

I for example don’t want a man who is 5 years younger than me or 5 years older. For me, that’s my hard line for age differences.

I don’t want a man who doesn’t live in my same city. I absolutely do not believe in long distance relationships. For some people that might not be a deal breaker, but for me it is.

Your man list needs to consist not on things you want, but on things you absolutely won’t compromise on. Do you want kids? Is it a deal breaker if he doesn’t? Add it to your list.

Think carefully about what you really NEED in a man, not what you dream him to be like.  Doing this you’ll find far more success than with some superficial checklist.

I assure you there is no perfect man out there. But if you are realistic about things you absolutely won’t deal with or don’t want in your life, you are far more likely to find a man that is perfect for you.






What is a man list and do you need one?

4 thoughts on “What is a man list and do you need one?”

  1. Ladies, watch out for Willie Whitehead Jr. of Baltimore,Md.. he is in his 30’s.
    He is a stalker, he is a liar whose drug habits has affected his life. He has a lot of mental issues and he is very dangerous to himself and others. He is charming so beware. He is not a person to lay with because he will become obsessed and try to ruin your life. He is very abusive but yet he is so mentally ill he does not know that he is doing it. He is a ma** manipulative love bomber but once you let your guard down, he bites. He has a mother who is equally uniformed to his personality and maybe that’s where he get it from. He is a habitual compulsive liar on top of everything else. He is not financially able to take care of himself or his child. He is very irresponsible and has overdosed 3 times and got caught. He asks for help, try the help and then go back to using. He loves that he’s mentally ill it’s his excuse for his behavior. But, he’s able otherwise I would have never married him. He is very combative and if you meet him you should run. He’s admitted to having the devil on him and that is not good even if it is not true!
    Hey, I don’t want to find out anymore. I am divorcing him and I am running and never looking back. I married someone I thought I was safe with but he tried to bring me down as well as his child’s mother. Talked about her like a dog, he will slander you to make sure he don’t look bad. He’s very vindictive.
    He will play the courts with you so don’t have children with him. I was afraid that my child could have the genetic mental illnesses that his family suffer with. That’s why I did not have his baby.
    They will hide it until they can’t anymore. I know that I regret losing my singleness for this guy, I was dumb and afraid and probably desperately wanting love. Well, I’m in a worse boat because he tried to set me back. Oh, I will stay away because he don’t even wear his mask correctly. If intellectual relations is what you need he will not be the one. He has a list of domestic violence listed publicly and everything I have mentioned has been either in TV or publicly noted. Be careful and stay blessed up if you run into him.

    1. How do i use this site?! I want to repirt my husband who is apparently pretending to be single and is on dating sites. He broke one girl’s heart already. I want to warn others about him. I will be getting a divorce, but I have to figure this out.

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  5. I can truly say I’ve never heard of a man list but yeah I agree, it’s a must have. I really wished I knew about this site a long time ago. Some great advice. This list maybe one of the best advice I’ve gotten in awhile.

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