For something that is defined by having no labels, a “situationship” has many different names.
From “friends with benefits” to “boy toy,” it seems that this arrangement is becoming more and more of a common practice in the dating community. Typically formed from a friendship, there is a comfortability there unlike any other. Though this may seem like a bad thing, that is not always the case. It can be exciting and sexually freeing, as long as nobody catches feelings and gets hurt in the end.
You should always communicate with the person you’re seeing to ensure that you are both on the same page when entering into a “situationship” with them.
But unfortunately, it should be anticipated that one partner may fall and be met with disappointment. You’re bonding with someone and allowing yourself to be open and vulnerable. How are you supposed to avoid catching feelings? We cannot control these things. However, it is important to communicate with your partner if you find yourself becoming attached.
That being said, committing to one person early on can be hard when the options are literally endless. Being in a situationship can help a person explore their different wants and desires without needing constant approval from a significant other. All of the choices you make are yours to make on your own.
The ability to be in a situationship and also focus on yourself and your growth can end up being one of the most important times of your life! We all crave intimacy, and a situationship offers that with no strings attached. Sometimes we aren’t at a place in our lives where we can commit, and that is okay!
But, just because a situationship is free of expectations and commitments doesn’t mean it will be free of negative emotions. They can be unpredictable and full of doubts due to the vagueness of it all. If you’re in this place, you should really take a step back and decide if you want to continue on. There is nothing wrong with moving forward, or onto new things.
If you do decide that you want to continue seeing this person, you may need to set some boundaries to have some peace of mind. For example, if you are not comfortable with them sleeping with other people, then you should speak up about it. It is a perfectly valid boundary to set! It is crucial that both parties communicate and set boundaries that they need in order for it to be healthy on both ends.
All in all, you should always keep in mind that you are in control! Whether you want more out of the relationship or not, it is up to you to be upfront about your desires.
You more than likely went into this both knowing that it may not last forever. If things are becoming too complicated or you would like to see other people, then sit your partner down and be transparent about those feelings.
Be considerate of how they may react and give them or yourself time to grieve before attempting to be friends again. It is possible!