The fact that you’re wondering if he’s cheating on you is your first crucial sign. Something made you worry. You need to trust your gut!
Now think about the rest of the items on this list. If he’s doing a few of them, it could be a coincidence. Maybe he’s taking extra care with his appearance because he’s in a new position at work and needs to dress to impress, which could also explain why he’s working late so much.
But if he’s doing more than 5 of these things … then something is definitely up.
Either he’s losing interest in you and possibly gaining interest in someone new, or he’s already got someone new and started cheating on you.
You can’t have a healthy relationship if you’re paranoid and suspicious, whether your suspicions are justified or not. Trust is essential, and trust is what you need to focus on. Think about the positive things you can do to turn the tide, to increase the trust between you.
When it comes to dealing with the man you love possibly cheating on you, what you need to understand is that you can’t control what he’s doing, you can only control how you choose to respond to it. Unless you know for sure he’s already cheated, then distrusting him, blaming him, or punishing him are not the right way to go.
Instead, what you want to do is consider why he may be thinking of cheating. This is not to say that if he wants to cheat you are the one to blame! It’s to say that relationships take two, and a person totally happy and satisfied in a relationship is generally not going to look elsewhere.
So if his attention seems to be wandering and you’ve noticed some of these signs, start thinking about why he fell in love with you, to begin with, and bring that energy back into the relationship.
Don’t berate him for attending too many happy hours or staying too late at work or going on too many business trips. Instead, try to carve out special time together. Suggest going on some of his trips with him, if possible. Be supportive.
But if you’re bringing positive energy into the relationship and he’s still treating you badly, if the trust feels like it’s completely gone or if you’re pretty sure he’s already cheated, you need to think about walking away.
Remember that you can’t control his behavior, but you can control yours.
If your guy is cheating, my heart goes out to you and I hope you are able to make the right decision in regards to what to do next. Relationships are never easy, and well, I don’t want you to jump to conclusions. Remember that communication is the key to any successful relationship.
