Where do you want to go for dinner tonight honey? I hate that saying. I really do. My biggest pet peeve is when a man isn’t decisive.
Maybe I’m just old fashioned, but nothing to be is sexier than a man who is decisive and in control. No that doesn’t translate to being a rude, insensitive jerk, there is a difference.
Which is funny because here is something a man wrote in —
I hate it when you ask your girl where she wants to go for dinner and she says she doesn’t care so when I pick the place to eat she’s suddenly not hungry. Obviously, because she doesn’t like the food but instead of saying so and just picking the place she wants to go she plays this mind game, bitching move. Why do women do this? It drives me crazy!
My ex-husband used to ask me all the time where I wanted to go to dinner. He wouldn’t make a decision to save his life. It was one of the things I hated most about him. It made me lose a lot of respect for him. I guess I always secretly felt that if he wasn’t man enough to figure out what to do for dinner, how could he ever really take care of me and perhaps our children one day?
To me, there is nothing sexier than a man who takes charge. If only more men were like that!
So back to the guy’s question, who appears to hate that question as much as I do.
As far as what his girlfriend is doing, chances are she is upset with you about something else, not really the place to eat.
It sounds like to me she is upset because she feels you should have known she wouldn’t like that place and you picked it anyway. Most women don’t tend to get that men don’t put that much thought into things. They are hungry, they think about the first food place that comes to mind and that is that. It’s not a test of your love and loyalty. They also can’t read your mind. So ladies if you have a secret desire to have Chinese that day, SAY SOMETHING. He isn’t going to be able to just magically know you secretly wanted one type of food or the other and then to punish him when he doesn’t get it right is really immature.
My suggestion to you is that you both sit down and address the other issues going on behind the scenes. Clarify what you want, clarify what she wants. If you don’t learn to talk now openly and honestly, it will only get worse.