When we break up we go through so much drama — We blame ourselves, we blame others. This is all this bitterness and hatred but truth be told, if you really look deep within ourselves we would have seen the breakup coming long before it did. It’s as if we let ourselves be blindsided because we don’t want to see the obvious.
I was with my husband for 7 years. Although the first few years were rather heated with petty arguments here and there, the last few were nothing like that at all. In fact, the only real dispute we ever had was over money and that wasn’t really all that often. One day he picked up and left and said I don’t love you. I never saw him again.
I was shocked at first, bitter, super angry. But looking back now, the signs were there all along. I just didn’t want to see them.
For the first few years of our marriage every night, he would play with my hair until I fell asleep. The last few years he wouldn’t touch me. In fact, one night I reached over to touch his arm and he punched me. It was very painful, and I was bruised for two weeks from that incident. He wasn’t a violent man and he claims he didn’t know what he was doing but still, that was a very clear sign that something was wrong with our relationship and I just didn’t want to see it. I would rather have just believed the excuses because it was easier to deal with.
We have to stop fooling ourselves and seeing things for how they really are. We may not want to face the truth but we were blessed with a strong intuition so we need to stop pushing it aside and start using it. If you think something may be wrong you might want to take some time to consider why you feel that way.
If you think your husband is cheating on you, he could be or he may not be but there is a reason why you feel that way. You need to investigate those feelings and figure out why you feel the way you do.
The signs are there for us to read, we just need to take the first step and trust ourselves.
