Who Is Texting Your Man?
He’s glued to his phone. Again! Why isn’t he glued to you?
Is he talking to a friend? Is it work? Maybe, but come on – you’ve only seen him this interested in his phone when he was texting you when you first met.
Should you ask him about it? Only if you want him to get defensive. Sure, it might be nothing. But let’s be honest; you wouldn’t be reading this if you weren’t worried.
Here are some sure signs of cheating:
- He never leaves his phone where you can find it
- You see him get messages, but if you managed to check, there’s nothing there
- He has social media accounts you didn’t know about
- He seems really happy when he gets a message – no one wants an after-hours work message
- He asks for more alone time
- He stays late at work
- He doesn’t respond to your text as fast as he used to
- He never has details to share about his day
- He’s become defensive too easily
- He seems to be thinking of something else all of the time
It is easy to see who your guy is texting if you do a reverse phone number lookup. A people search website will let you see who he’s texting but also may reveal hidden social profiles, addresses, and even criminal records.
Maybe it really is work or a friend, or maybe your worst fears are right. Either way, you aren’t going to stop worrying until you know.
But getting ahold of the number can be tricky. If you share a cell plan, browsing your bill is the easiest way to start your investigation. Even if he’s deleted any unsavory messages, the mobile bill will still indicate the other party’s phone number.
How to Bring it Up
This won’t be easy, so prepare yourself. If you’ve got evidence that he’s been cheating, that will put the power in your corner. If you’re just coming up with accusations, prepare to have everything thrown back at you even if you know you’re right.
Also, he could see it as a huge breach of trust. Just be sure you’re right before you bring up cheating.
Why is He Cheating?
So you’ve checked out that strange number with a reverse number search, and he’s cheating! Why?
People cheat for lots of reasons, but the most common is that they’re lonely. How do you know? Ask yourself how you feel – likely, he feels the same way; people usually grow apart in a relationship at the same time.
Have you:
- Been spending more time apart because of work
- Recently made big decisions like moving in together
- Been having boring conversations
- Lost your romance
Hey! This doesn’t mean his cheating is your fault! But it may give you some insight into what went wrong. There’s no online search tool for that, but if he’s cheating, knowing why may help you heal and move on.
What if You’re Wrong?
But maybe you’re wrong. Maybe he does have a job that won’t leave him alone, or maybe his sister is too needy. Don’t feel bad if you’re wrong; it happens. But make sure you know the truth – if you don’t, it is going to gnaw away at you and if there’s nothing going on, you may put your relationship at risk.
People cheat, it is painful, and it can make you feel really bad about yourself, but it’s the cheater’s decision. You will have tough decisions, but make sure you know the truth before taking the next step.
