Follow These Simple Steps to Becom a Better You

Follow These Simple Steps to Become a Better You

Acquiring better habits starts with eliminating detrimental ones. These negative habits can keep you trapped in old patterns, hindering your progress. Achieving positive habits requires self-discipline and commitment. Once you cultivate good habits, you’ll find success and fulfillment more attainable. It’s essential to address and replace negative habits to make way for positive changes.

Negative habits can vary, from poor eating choices to smoking or other behaviors you’d like to improve. To break these habits and establish better ones, you must create a new routine. This process enhances self-control and disrupts the cycle of negative habits. Start by altering your daily routine, making it easier to adopt positive habits. Sticking to the same routine often perpetuates negative habits.

Taking control of your actions and genuinely wanting to replace negative habits is crucial. Cultivate a positive mindset, and don’t get discouraged if things don’t go as planned. Persistence is key. Simplifying the process helps immensely. Make your new habits as effortless as possible so they become second nature over time. This transformation might take a while, depending on the habit, but with consistency, these positive habits will become automatic.

Organization and scheduling play vital roles in establishing better habits. When you’re organized, it’s easier to maintain good habits. For example, if you plan to exercise or complete other productive activities, having a structured day makes it easier to follow through. Without organization, it’s easy to stray from your plans and goals. Plan your days in advance to make these new habits second nature.

Set rules for yourself. This practice is crucial for developing self-discipline, which is essential for cultivating better habits. Establish personal guidelines and allow yourself occasional compromises. Reward yourself for your progress, reinforcing your commitment to better habits.

The Key to Happiness and Success

There’s one fundamental difference between happy, successful individuals and those who are unfortunate and unsuccessful: attitude and personal power. While we cannot always control the circumstances we encounter, we can control how we respond to them. By making conscious choices and taking deliberate actions, we can steer ourselves toward success.


A positive mental attitude is crucial for achieving life success and harnessing personal power. When you maintain an extremely positive attitude, you cultivate a greater expectation of success and enhance your personal power. It often seems that we receive what we expect; when you anticipate success and empowerment, that’s precisely what you’ll find.

To help you develop the mindset that fosters success and personal power, I have written this book to guide you toward better results.

6 Steps to Becoming a Better You

Discover how you can apply six simple habits that will change your life forever!

  1. Successful Mental Picture
    Visualize your success. Create a clear and compelling mental image of what you want to achieve. This mental picture will guide your actions and decisions, making your goals more tangible and attainable.
  2. Cancel The Negative
    Eliminate negative thoughts and influences from your life. Focus on positive outcomes and possibilities. Reframe challenges as opportunities for growth and learning.
  3. Deal With Difficulties
    Face challenges head-on with a problem-solving mindset. Develop resilience and adaptability. Learn from setbacks and use them as stepping stones toward your goals.
  4. Be Yourself
    Embrace your authentic self. Recognize your unique strengths and talents. Be true to your values and beliefs, and let them guide your actions.
  5. Get Counseling
    Seek guidance and support when needed. Professional counseling or coaching can provide valuable insights and strategies for personal growth. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help when you need it.
  6. Develop Self Respect
    Cultivate a strong sense of self-worth. Respect yourself and set boundaries that protect your well-being. Recognize your achievements and celebrate your progress.

By incorporating these six habits into your daily life, you can transform your mindset and unlock your full potential. Embrace these practices and watch as they bring lasting positive changes to your life.

Successful Mental Picture

Forge and emboss indelibly on your brain a picture of yourself as succeeding. Hold this image doggedly and never let it disappear. Your mind will work tirelessly to formulate this image. Never consider yourself as failing; never question the reality of the image. This is crucial, as the mind continually strives to complete what it envisions. Always picture “success” no matter how badly things seem to be going at the moment.

See Your Success

To formulate your personal clarity or purpose, you must do three things. First, define what success means for you. Second, produce an intense mental image of yourself as a winner. Third, clarify your personal values. When defining what success means to you personally, create a well-defined mental picture of yourself achieving that success. Make this picture as vivid and detailed as possible.

When I was twenty, I conjured a picture of myself as a successful speaker, personal coach, business consultant, and writer. I envisioned working from a home office, where I would compose and develop programs to present at client locations. This office had a floor-to-ceiling wall of books for easy reference, a typewriter, and a large, clunky phone. Personal computers and the internet did not exist in the early ’70s.

I also envisioned myself having one-on-one discussions with senior leadership in various organizations, conducting education and team-building sessions in conference rooms at their businesses. Surprisingly, many people in these sessions were smoking cigarettes. I had vivid images of standing before large audiences at sales meetings and delivering talks. I visualized myself signing a book I had written at a bookstore and traveling by plane to my speaking engagements, training, and consulting gigs.


All these vivid images came true. My office now closely resembles what I had envisioned, except it has two personal computers and a cell phone instead of a typewriter and clunky telephone. The shelves are overflowing with books, including 20 that I have written. People no longer smoke in my training and team-building sessions, and I use slides instead of handwritten charts, but the significant aspects are as I had imagined. I have spoken to audiences worldwide and accumulated many frequent flyer miles.

I am living my dream largely because I dared to dream it long ago. What is your dream? Can you create a vivid mental image of it? I encourage you to take some time for yourself and ask these three questions:

  1. Where do I want to be ten, twenty, and thirty years from today?
  2. How will it look and feel when I get there? How will my life be?

Additionally, ask and answer any other questions that will help you formulate a clear and intense mental image of your success. This is not daydreaming; it is real work. You are designing your future in your mind. Keep this image with you as you go about your daily business. Periodically ask yourself if what you did that day brought you any closer to your image of success. In this way, you will keep your dream alive and continually move toward your destination.

The key point here is simple: successful individuals define what success means to them. They then create a compelling and clear image of their success and use this mental image to keep their aspirations alive and to keep moving forward toward their goals. Creating an intense mental image of your success is not daydreaming; it is real work—the work of designing your future so you can take the necessary steps to achieve it.

Cancel the Negative

If a negative thought about your personal power arises, intentionally counter it with a positive thought. Many individuals use affirmations, meditation, visualization, or other exercises to eliminate negative thoughts and create new possibilities in their lives, whether that’s more money, success, love, or other aspirations.

Unfortunately, with 95% of our thoughts being negative and most of these residing in our subconscious mind, it can take a long time to bring about change in our lives. You need to identify the blocks that hold you back so you can achieve the success you desire.

Shifting your focus can be challenging, especially when the issue feels crucial or overwhelming.

Weight loss is a good example of this. When you feel overweight, it’s hard to become lean. Why? Because feeling overweight can make you feel sad or depressed, leading you to eat more or sleep more to combat those feelings. If you focus on feeling overweight (the problem), you’ll likely attract more of that feeling and potentially gain even more weight.

Conversely, if you focus on the solution (getting more exercise and eating healthier), you’ll be motivated to take action. You’ll attract the support and tools you need to reach your goal.

By switching your focus from the problem to the solution, you draw into your life what you desire rather than what you don’t.

Deal with Difficulties

Don’t develop obstacles in your imagination. Devalue every alleged obstruction. Downplay them. Troubles must be examined and efficiently dealt with to be eliminated, but they must be seen for only what they are, not amplified by fearful thoughts.

Avoid Problems

Troubles can’t be avoided in day-to-day life. When we don’t have troubles, the human mind has a tendency to produce additional issues. To deal with troubles that arise, we shouldn’t try to quash them. Instead, we should look at them as opportunities to better our nature. By overcoming problems, we can strengthen our will and learn valuable lessons.

Here are a few hints for addressing troubles:

  1. Do not feel unfortunate The existence of a problem doesn’t mean we should feel unfortunate or ashamed. True, the trouble might be the consequence of our past errors, but regretting the past won’t help us deal with the present issue. Often, troubles arise through no fault of our own. Feeling ashamed for issues created by others is a double error.
  2. A Chance, Not a Trouble Often, what we see as a trouble is truly a chance to learn something or overcome a particular weakness. We may not invite issues into our lives, but with the right attitude, we can recognize that by defeating them, we may learn something valuable.
  3. Remain Resolute If the issue stems from others, we must be steadfast in not allowing the problem to affect us. We should attempt to build an invisible barrier to stop negativity from entering. For instance, if others are very stressed, they might subconsciously try to pass their anxieties onto us. If we are not strong, these anxieties will affect us. However, if we can detach ourselves from their concerns and stress, we will remain untouched.
  4. Envision the Resolution If we only focus on the issues facing us, we’ll become dejected, and our focus will be on the magnitude of the problem. In that frame of mind, solving the issue becomes an uphill battle. To overcome a problem, we must focus on the solution. Thus, we should maintain a positive mental attitude and take pragmatic steps to figure out a solution, step by step.
  5. Alter Our Mental Attitude Often, certain issues keep repeating themselves because of our internal and external attitudes. For these recurring problems, we must develop a fresh perspective. It’s insufficient to merely attempt to prevent these issues or react habitually. If helpful, take the advice of others. This can help you step back and view the issue from another angle. The crucial thing is to change our mindset. Issues only disappear when we address the root cause, which is often our own thoughts and attitudes.
  6. Use Humor Humor can be an effective antidote to many mental issues. If you have minor concerns and headaches, try to smile and laugh—it might just be the best solution.

Be Yourself

Don’t be in awe of others or try to imitate them. No one can be you as effectively as you can. Remember that most people, despite their confident appearance and behavior, often feel just as scared and uncertain as you do.

Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.

Being yourself means embracing who you are as an individual—learning to express yourself and be content with who you are. For some, it’s about learning to love yourself. For others, it’s about not hiding who you are or changing yourself to fit in.

Define yourself. You can’t be yourself if you don’t understand and accept who you are first. Make it your primary goal to discover this. Take time for self-reflection and think about your life and choices. Consider what you like and don’t like, and act accordingly. Learning through trial and error is more helpful than you might realize. Personality quizzes can be useful, but remember to only take what you want from them and not let them define you.

Accept your mistakes and choices; they’re in the past, and there’s no use dwelling on them. Stop worrying about how others perceive you. The truth is, it doesn’t really matter. It’s impossible to be yourself when you’re constantly thinking, “Do they think I’m funny? Does she think I’m fat? Do they think I’m stupid?” To be yourself, you need to let go of these concerns and just let your behavior flow, with only your consideration for others as a filter—not their consideration of you.

Furthermore, if you change yourself for one person or group, another person or group might not like you, leading you into a vicious cycle of trying to please everyone. It’s pointless in the long run and leaves you exhausted. However, if someone you trust and respect critiques aspects of who you are, honestly evaluate whether their feedback is accurate rather than accepting or dismissing it outright.

Be honest and open. What do you have to hide? We’re all fallible, growing, and learning. If you feel ashamed or uncertain about any aspect of yourself—physically or emotionally—you need to come to terms with that and learn to turn your perceived flaws into unique quirks. Be honest with yourself, but don’t be overly critical; apply this principle to others as well.

There’s a difference between being blunt and being truthful; learn to monitor how you communicate with yourself and others when being honest.

Relax. Stop worrying about the worst that could happen, especially in social situations. So what if you make a mistake or get food in your teeth? Learn to laugh at yourself both in the moment and later on. Turn it into a funny story to share with others. This shows that you’re not perfect and makes you feel more at ease. It’s also an attractive quality to be able to laugh at yourself and not take yourself too seriously!

Embrace and express your individuality. Whether it’s your sense of style or your way of speaking, if your preferred way of doing things is different from the mainstream, be proud of it—unless it’s harmful to yourself or others. Trust in who you are. If you’re always trying to be someone you’re not, you’ll never be a happy person. Be yourself and show the world you’re proud of who you are! No one knows you better than you do, and that’s how it should be. You deserve to be your own best admirer, so start figuring out how to do that. If you had to be with yourself for a day, what kind of person would be the most fun to be around while still being true to yourself? What is the best version of you? Trust in this idea and use it as your starting point.

Love and accept yourself as you are today. Follow your own style. Many people copy others’ actions because it seems like the easiest way to fit in, but shouldn’t you stand out? Standing out can be difficult, yes, but you want to avoid conforming to others’ views of you. Even if it’s not something you’d normally do, that’s what being yourself is all about. Maybe you like to sit outside on the deck under an umbrella in the rain; maybe you have different ideas about things compared to others, or maybe you prefer strawberry cake over the usual chocolate cake—whatever it is, embrace it. Being different is absolutely beautiful, and it draws people to you.


Make an honest assessment of your strengths and then increase it by 10%. Avoid becoming narcissistic, but cultivate a healthy self-regard. Trust in your inherent abilities.


Self-respect is crucial for a fulfilling life. Without it, we become insecure and try to be someone we’re not. Developing self-respect means building the confidence to handle whatever life throws at us. Here are some ways to improve your self-regard. Remember, true self-respect comes from inner belief, not an inflated sense of superiority.

  1. Be True to Yourself There is immense social pressure from parents, work, and society to become a certain kind of person and achieve specific things. This pressure can be hard to detach from. However, genuine self-respect comes from being true to your inner calling. It’s important to have faith in your own values and remember what is significant to you. Just because others believe you should act a certain way doesn’t mean they are correct. Everyone needs to follow their own path. Even if others don’t respect your decision, it’s crucial that you do. Ask yourself whether you came into the world to please others or to live your own life.
  2. Learn to Handle Criticism We are sensitive beings. No one likes criticism, and when we are picked apart, either directly or indirectly, it affects our self-esteem—even if the criticism is unwarranted. To maintain self-respect, we need to learn how to handle criticism. Don’t take it personally. View it from a detached perspective. If the criticism is untrue, ignore it. If there is some truth to it, use it as an opportunity to grow. However, it’s important not to take criticism too personally. Just because we are not proficient at a particular task doesn’t mean we should lose our self-respect.
  3. Acknowledge Your Strengths Recognize your abilities and accomplishments. Regularly remind yourself of your achievements and the skills you possess. This acknowledgment helps build a strong foundation of self-respect.
  4. Set Boundaries Establish and maintain healthy boundaries. Know your limits, and don’t be afraid to assert them. Respecting your own boundaries is a key part of self-respect.
  5. Practice Self-Care Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Engage in activities that nourish your body and mind. Self-care is a tangible way to show respect for yourself.
  6. Embrace Your Imperfections Understand that nobody is perfect. Accept your flaws and mistakes as part of being human. Embracing imperfection helps to develop a more compassionate and realistic view of yourself.

Developing self-respect is an ongoing process that involves understanding and valuing your true self, handling criticism constructively, and maintaining a positive and realistic self-view. By doing so, you build a solid foundation for a confident and fulfilling life.

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Tracy Tegan
Tracy Tegan has spent the last seventeen years as a professional blogger about relationships, dating, and issues pertaining to gender equality at In her spare time, she writes romance novels that are available at Amazon.  You can check out Tracy Tegan's latest romance novel, Crescent Moon at Amazon.

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